The Bounce Back Mentality (Part 1)

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Randy Black: Shooting it straight, episode number two for July 8th, 2025, The Bounce Back Mentality, Part 1.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Bam son, this is Shoot It Straight, the podcast where life blessings don’t come sugar-coated and excuses get bitched.

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Randy Black: I’m Randy Black, podcast guy, professional question asker, and apparently the only one here who doesn’t yell.

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Randy Black: Pam son in public.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Well we’re working on that, Randy.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I’m Jim Clayton, coach, mentor, motivator, and the guy who still thinks a whistle may be the best motivational tool known to man.

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Randy Black: Each week we’re taking what Jim’s learned from.

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Randy Black: the court, the drills, the discipline, the drive, and translating it into real-world success.

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Coach Jim Clayton: That’s right.

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Coach Jim Clayton: This ain’t just about basketball.

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Coach Jim Clayton: It’s about showing up when life presses full court.

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Coach Jim Clayton: It’s about pushing through when the clock’s ticking down.

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Randy Black: If you’re looking

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Randy Black: For fluff, well, you might just want to ride the bench.

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Coach Jim Clayton: We’re here to help you believe bigger, chieve louder, and motivate strong.

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Coach Jim Clayton: So buckle up and whatever you do, keep shooting it straight.

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Randy Black: Bam, son

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Randy Black: Welcome to Shooting It Straight, Episode Two.

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Randy Black: I’m Randy Black here with my co host, Jim Clayton.

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Randy Black: Jim, it is great to be with you again today, and I’m I’m glad you came back for episode number two.

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Randy Black: Oh I love hey, you’re not gonna get rid of me that quick.

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Randy Black: Ha ha.

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Randy Black: That’s that’s the goal to not get rid of Jim that quick.

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Randy Black: Uh today we’re diving into what it really means to bounce back.

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Randy Black: You know, life, just like in sports, will throw punches, it’ll deliver losses, and it’ll test your limits.

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Randy Black: But it’s not the fall that defines you.

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Randy Black: It’s how you rise up

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Randy Black: So in this episode, we’re talking about resilience.

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Randy Black: It’s a powerful mindset that helps you push through the pain to stay in the fight and to come out stronger on the other side.

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Randy Black: We’re calling this the bounce back mentality.

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Randy Black: So Jim chose this topic of resilience for a very

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Randy Black: specific reason.

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Randy Black: And before we get in and start defining it, Jim, kinda kinda share what is that reasoning for picking this.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Well a lot of people don’t know this, but this September will be three years.

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Coach Jim Clayton: But I was diagnosed with cancer, colon cancer, stage four.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Most people look at that when you see stage four, that’s a death sentence

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Coach Jim Clayton: So I use my coaching mentality along with some of my coaching friends, specifically a coach that we all know named Greg White.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Greg is a former coach of Marshall University, University of Charleston, motivational speaker all over the country, runs basketball camps.

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Coach Jim Clayton: So I told him that I had cancer.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I didn’t know he had cancer.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And he says, well, here’s what we gotta do.

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Coach Jim Clayton: We got to get the game plan.

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Coach Jim Clayton: We got to get the facts.

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Coach Jim Clayton: We got to determine how we’re going to do it, and we got to execute the plan, just like a basketball game.

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Coach Jim Clayton: So it took me a couple weeks to get all the facts in.

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Coach Jim Clayton: You know, got a plan.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I went to Cleveland Clinic, got a second opinion, put a plan together, and made it work.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Now, I didn’t know all the things that were going to happen along this journey

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Coach Jim Clayton: But he kind of prepared me because he’d been down that journey himself.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Right.

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Coach Jim Clayton: So that was like gold.

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Coach Jim Clayton: You know what I mean?

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Coach Jim Clayton: I’m listening to it.

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Coach Jim Clayton: So funny because everything he told me was exactly what happened.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And, you know, cancer treatments do different things to different people.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Okay?

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Coach Jim Clayton: So for me, you know, it was it it’s not really been, I would say, all that bad.

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Coach Jim Clayton: My body’s been able to accept it.

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Coach Jim Clayton: But there were times where man I hit some low points.

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Randy Black: Right.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I mean I just hit some low points.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I lost 50, 60 pounds.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I never was overweight, but I went from, you know, 185 down to 140

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Coach Jim Clayton: And I look just, it just looked like I look like a skeleton.

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Coach Jim Clayton: You know, and at that time, you know, it’s easy to it’s easy to feel sorry for yourself.

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Coach Jim Clayton: But I couldn’t do that.

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Randy Black: Right.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Because the bottom line was I wasn’t going to let it get me.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And I was going to keep on, keeping on doing what I’m doing.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Don’t stop.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Not going to stop

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Coach Jim Clayton: And I’ve been working ever since.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I come to the gym.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I just got off a chemo treatment today.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I’m in the gym.

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Coach Jim Clayton: We’re right here.

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Coach Jim Clayton: We’re busting this out

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Coach Jim Clayton: You know, so you know, I see the people over in this hospital.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I see it.

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Coach Jim Clayton: If you ever want a 30-second come back to life real quick, don’t feel sorry for yourself, just stop down at Cabal Huntington on the second floor of the cancer center and just walk in there.

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Randy Black: Yeah.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Odds are you’re probably gonna find somebody you might know that you didn’t even know was suffering from this.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Because people don’t really go public with this a lot

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Coach Jim Clayton: Only reason I went public was because I wanted to share with people, you know, tough times don’t last, tough people do.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And you can’t be pitiful and powerful at the same time.

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Coach Jim Clayton: So you can’t feel sorry for yourself.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And we all have those little pity parts.

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Coach Jim Clayton: So when I have a little pity party, I’ll go, okay, you got 30 seconds or 10 seconds or 5 seconds.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I reach up there with my index finger and I flick it off.

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Coach Jim Clayton: You’re done.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Gone

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Coach Jim Clayton: Now it’s time to turn on the on the And that’s how I attack it.

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Coach Jim Clayton: It’s a mental thing.

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Coach Jim Clayton: We talked about the mindset.

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Coach Jim Clayton: You know, that’s achieving the right mindset.

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Coach Jim Clayton: That’s the A in the word, bam.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Okay?

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Coach Jim Clayton: That’s what that’s like.

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Coach Jim Clayton: So

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Coach Jim Clayton: You know, I’ve had to bounce, I’ve had to adjust, I have my days where I feel like I feel good today.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Tomorrow’s Friday.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Well, I know that’s when I get a little tired.

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Randy Black: Yeah.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I can tell you what’s going to happen for that, but I can’t let that happen.

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Randy Black: Right.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Even though I’m that’s the way I feel, I gotta keep pressing.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I gotta keep pressing.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Sometimes I have to sit down and take it easy.

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Coach Jim Clayton: That’s hard for me to do

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Coach Jim Clayton: Oh yeah.

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Coach Jim Clayton: That’s a hard pill for me to swallow.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Sitting down, because I’m up, down, over, under, and through.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And that’s just the way I roll.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And this wasn’t going to stop me.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And you know what?

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Coach Jim Clayton: It had to stop me.

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Randy Black: Good.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And so when I go over there and I see these people that are there, I talk to them, then I get them fired up

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Coach Jim Clayton: You know, I get them feeling good about themselves because some of them they just sit there and you can tell they’ve kind of put in the white flag, they surrender.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And you can’t do that.

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Randy Black: No, no.

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Coach Jim Clayton: You just can’t do that.

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Coach Jim Clayton: You know, I saw a story, and I’ll end on this one, that my daughter sent to me of a gentleman that had stage four pancreatic cancer.

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Coach Jim Clayton: That’s about the worst.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Yeah.

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Coach Jim Clayton: You don’t survive from that.

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Coach Jim Clayton: The guy says, doctor says, we can’t do anything more for you.

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Coach Jim Clayton: He says, you need to go home, but you’ve got about two years.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Enjoy the best you can.

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Coach Jim Clayton: He said, mm-hmm.

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Coach Jim Clayton: So he started looking at some alternative things and he started walking.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Couldn’t walk down the end of the driveway without Started walking.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Then that walk turned into a little run

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Coach Jim Clayton: And that run turned into a little faster run.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Well, let’s fast forward 33 years later.

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Coach Jim Clayton: He now runs marathons, triathlons, Iron Man competition.

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Coach Jim Clayton: was stage four pancreatic cancer.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Now if he didn’t listen to those guys says pack your bags, give up, you know, okay.

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Randy Black: He wouldn’t be here.

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Coach Jim Clayton: He wouldn’t be here.

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Coach Jim Clayton: But he didn’t listen to them.

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Coach Jim Clayton: You know the old saying, Jim Valvano?

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Coach Jim Clayton: Never give up.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Never stop.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Never give up.

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Coach Jim Clayton: You got to keep believing in yourself.

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Coach Jim Clayton: That’s the first word of the letter.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Bam.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Believe in yourself.

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Coach Jim Clayton: So all these principles

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Coach Jim Clayton: In this cancer journey I’m on, you know, and I’m whipping it.

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Coach Jim Clayton: You know, the doctors told me, since we can’t get 100% of it today

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Coach Jim Clayton: But we can get 99.

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Coach Jim Clayton: 9%.

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Coach Jim Clayton: So I thought about that for about one second.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I said, well, what in life is guaranteed 100% of the time anyway?

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Coach Jim Clayton: Nothing.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I said, I’ll take 99.

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Coach Jim Clayton: 9 anytime you want to go.

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Coach Jim Clayton: That’s why I’m on that 99-point journey.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I’ve got it about 99.

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Coach Jim Clayton: 9, and that’s the way I’m going to keep it.

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Coach Jim Clayton: If that’s the way it is

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Coach Jim Clayton: I can still truck on and on and on for a lot of years and go.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Yeah.

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Coach Jim Clayton: You know, but you know, again, that really that resiliency of that, when you get that call, you’ve heard that commercial on the TV.

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Coach Jim Clayton: You know, you got cancer.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Yeah.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And you just pause for a second.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Did I really hear what did that guy just really say that?

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Coach Jim Clayton: Yeah.

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Coach Jim Clayton: It’s a moment that nobody wants to get.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Yeah.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Well, I always believe, and we talked about this on our first episode, things happen for a reason

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Coach Jim Clayton: We don’t always know what they are, and it’s not really our our our judgment to you know to to to try to well why is this happening to me?

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Coach Jim Clayton: How come it’s not happening to somebody else?

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Coach Jim Clayton: There’s a reason

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Coach Jim Clayton: And I know what the reason is now.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I didn’t know when I first started.

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Coach Jim Clayton: But God’s got a plan for me to share this, you know, and uplift others

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Coach Jim Clayton: And it comes back to that teaching, that mentor, that mentality, that positive attitude, that you can take people out of deep, dark depression with the right tone and the right atmosphere.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And bring ’em right up out of that.

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Randy Black: Mm-hmm.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And that’s what I’m gonna try to do.

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Coach Jim Clayton: That’s what I’m trying to do with this.

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Randy Black: I got I you know, I could you know the what you just said there hits home with me.

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Randy Black: You know, my dad, we found out

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Randy Black: You know, last last fall that he had uh prostate cancer.

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Randy Black: And his first reaction was to give up

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Randy Black: It hit him hard.

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Randy Black: He’s like, that’s it.

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Randy Black: He’s like, I’m gonna close the business.

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Randy Black: I’m gonna sell everything.

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Randy Black: I’m just, you know, there and it it took, I don’t want to say it was a it was a uh a metaphorical slap in the face

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Randy Black: from my mom to say, there is no reason for this.

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Randy Black: There’s no reason to react this way.

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Randy Black: This is something that can be treated.

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Randy Black: And it will take time.

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Randy Black: But we will get there.

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Randy Black: So he, you know, it hit him hard.

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Randy Black: And he realized very quickly

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Randy Black: He had to bounce back from the bad news and start doing his start doing things differently.

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Randy Black: And he dove right in.

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Randy Black: He got going.

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Randy Black: Because he didn’t give up.

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Randy Black: So I I completely, completely understand exactly where you’re coming from.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And the crazy part about it is, is everybody who’s listening to this.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Has somebody in their family who has had this, currently has it, just being diagnosed, or is going to get it later in life, just don’t know it.

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Randy Black: Right.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Now it’s not something you worry about, but when it hits you,

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Coach Jim Clayton: Bottom line is, what are you gonna do about it?

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Coach Jim Clayton: That’s what it comes down to.

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Coach Jim Clayton: What are you going to do about it?

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Randy Black: I had to go in in December and have colonoscopy done because I was losing blood and they weren’t sure where.

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Randy Black: I was forty-three at the time they’re spraying forty-three at the time they did the procedure and

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Randy Black: They found seven polyps in there.

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Randy Black: And the doctor was really like, that’s a lot.

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Randy Black: But we’re gonna go back in in three years and check everything again.

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Randy Black: And it hit me hard.

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Randy Black: Like I was really, really concerned.

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Randy Black: And I t when I called my wife to give her the news.

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Randy Black: Her response to me was, we just need to pray.

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Randy Black: Absolutely, 100%.

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Randy Black: And it it was that, you know, like I said, it’s that metaphorical slap in the face.

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Randy Black: It woke me up to say, okay, well then I’m gonna have to do whatever I have to do to make sure that

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Randy Black: We take care of this, that we take this bad news and we work our way through it.

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Randy Black: Um, you know, seven polyps taken out.

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Randy Black: Four of them were precancerous.

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Randy Black: So I know that there’s the possibility sitting there that it it could happen.

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Randy Black: But you know, I’m not gonna let it hold me back.

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Randy Black: I’m not gonna let it beat me down.

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Randy Black: I’m going to keep fighting to, you know, if it if the if it ends up being that that’s what develops, I I I’m going to bounce right off of it and keep working.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And they’ve made so many strides in this stuff now and different things.

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Coach Jim Clayton: You know, I went to Texas, MD Anderson.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And they can come up with a plan.

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Coach Jim Clayton: They’ve got it

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Coach Jim Clayton: You know, but again, well the doctors told me the biggest things while you’re healthy, why you’re handling this, is because you never stop moving.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I walk 8,000 to 10,000 steps a day.

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Coach Jim Clayton: That’s almost five miles.

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Randy Black: Oh, yeah.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Okay?

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Coach Jim Clayton: Not straight like just walking up, down, left, down.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Yeah, you’re all over the place.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I’m all over the place.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I’m bouncing everywhere sway but loose.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And he says, that right there

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Coach Jim Clayton: Helps your body recover more than anything else.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Well, you ain’t got to worry about that, Doc, because I got that part covered.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I’m never gonna stop and walking and moving.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And that’s just kind of how I do it.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And uh

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Coach Jim Clayton: You know, like I said, I I would pass that on to anybody.

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Coach Jim Clayton: But, you know, like I said, it doesn’t matter what happens to you, whether it’s how you’re gonna handle it.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Tough times don’t last, tough people do.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And I’ll tell you one last thing and we’ll move on

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Coach Jim Clayton: That you said something about prayer.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I’m going to tell you something.

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Coach Jim Clayton: You know, all the prayers that I get from all my friends, those are the ones that hit harder than anything.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I mean, I can talk to certain people, but somebody will send me something, and man, it just goes through me like my heart button just pow.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And man, I’m sitting there, tears coming down.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I’m not sad tears, they’re happy tears.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I’m just feeling it.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I’m absorbing it.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And sometimes people just don’t know the power of them just saying one or two little positive things

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Coach Jim Clayton: That might just come right at the perfect time.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And it’s like, I just needed to hear that today.

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Coach Jim Clayton: You know, and that’s what I try to send out to people

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Coach Jim Clayton: So I pass it on, you know, and when you do that, I’m telling you, you’ll feel better, you’ll have a better day, not feel sorry for yourself, you know, you just say, okay, let’s go.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And I don’t care, and I said this earlier, and I’ll say it again, I’ll say it multiple times.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Don’t care what kind of day you had today.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I hope it was a great one.

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Coach Jim Clayton: But if a day wasn’t your best day ever, it ends at 12.

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Coach Jim Clayton: 01.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And it starts a new one.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And you ain’t gonna let tomorrow control the next day.

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Randy Black: Exactly.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And that’s what too many people do.

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Randy Black: Exactly.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And you just gotta learn how to do it.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And that’s something you learn

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Coach Jim Clayton: That ain’t something you’re born with.

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Coach Jim Clayton: You learn it or you don’t learn it.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And if you don’t learn it, life’s gonna be hard.

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Randy Black: So resilience.

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Randy Black: Let’s let’s take a minute, let’s define what resilience is.

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Randy Black: And you wrote a definition out for me.

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Randy Black: What what what did you write out there, Jim, that is your definition of resilience?

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Coach Jim Clayton: I said my definition of res of resilience.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Is the ability to recover or adjust to change some type of misfortune

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Coach Jim Clayton: Or some extreme difficulty in your life.

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Coach Jim Clayton: That’s what it is.

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Coach Jim Clayton: That’s bounce back.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Yeah.

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Coach Jim Clayton: That’s the key to everything.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Not avoiding bad times, because bad times are going to happen.

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Randy Black: Oh yeah.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I don’t care what you do, it ain’t always gonna be perfect.

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Coach Jim Clayton: But the question is, how do you deal with it?

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Coach Jim Clayton: Right.

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Coach Jim Clayton: How do you cope with it

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Coach Jim Clayton: Are you feeling sorry for yourself or you smack it head on and say I’m coming right at you?

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Coach Jim Clayton: If you’re waiting on me, you’re backing up because I’m coming at you.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And you know, the those setbacks, I look at setbacks a different way than most people.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Setbacks are just the greatest chance to make the greatest comeback ever in your life.

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Coach Jim Clayton: So a setback can set up the comeback.

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Coach Jim Clayton: With the right attitude, you know, all those things.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And that’s that’s my definition of resilience.

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Coach Jim Clayton: It’s like a crazy ball.

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Coach Jim Clayton: When you throw it out, bounces off the ball.

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Coach Jim Clayton: That’s how you gotta bounce back.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Mm-hmm

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Coach Jim Clayton: Okay, there’s an old saying says in boxing.

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Coach Jim Clayton: If you get knocked down, if you can look up, you can get up.

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Coach Jim Clayton: When you’re face down, you’re usually not getting up.

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Randy Black: Exactly.

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Randy Black: Exactly.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And that’s kind of how I look at it.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Every day, I look at it every day.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Every day.

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Coach Jim Clayton: So tomorrow, when I know I’m going to be a little tired, because I just tell you I’ve been through this for three years, I know.

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Randy Black: Mm-hmm.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I ain’t gonna let it happen.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I’m bouncing out of that bed and let’s go.

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Coach Jim Clayton: It’s 4th of July.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Fireworks are gonna go off.

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Coach Jim Clayton: You know what I mean?

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Coach Jim Clayton: Hey, great things are happening.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I’m just gonna celebrate life

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Coach Jim Clayton: And that’s how I’m going to take tomorrow.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Those 24 hours, I’m going to bust it out, hang out with my friends, eat some good food, swim.

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Coach Jim Clayton: It’s going to be beautiful weather

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Randy Black: Yeah.

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Randy Black: That’s my attitude.

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Randy Black: You know, one of the one of the one of the key things that I got out of looking at some of the notes and stuff that you had sent me was that it’s the idea that what matters

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Randy Black: Is your ability to cope with the challenges.

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Randy Black: It’s not what the challenge is.

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Randy Black: Nope.

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Randy Black: It’s how you respond.

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Randy Black: It’s how you bounce back.

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Coach Jim Clayton: That’s it.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Respond.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Response and you can watch people and see their response just by looking at them.

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Coach Jim Clayton: They just go like a wilted fly.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Or they go, them eyes light up and say, What I gotta do, let’s do it.

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Randy Black: Yep

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Coach Jim Clayton: Well, see, some people just they don’t they’re not around those type of people.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And it’s it’s a culture.

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Coach Jim Clayton: You know, it just spreads, okay, or it sinks like a rock.

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Randy Black: Oh yeah.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And you know, that’s why I see when I go over, I’ve learned in my teaching career, my coaching career, you know, my speaking career.

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Coach Jim Clayton: You know, if you ever watch his speaking, the speaker usually means most of eye contact with the people in the first, second, or third row.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Mm-hmm.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Because they’re the ones that are paying the closest attention.

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Coach Jim Clayton: They can’t see them way in the back.

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Coach Jim Clayton: So if you watch them, they’ll study that crowd.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And they’ll pick out two or three that their heads are bouncing right with them.

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Randy Black: Right.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And man, they’ll focus in on them.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And that just uplifts them.

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Coach Jim Clayton: A lot of people don’t know that stuff when you watch them.

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Coach Jim Clayton: But you might see that the next time.

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Coach Jim Clayton: But you know, I I I’m just telling you, man, just bounce back, come back.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Attitude, you know, it’s all about all those things.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And it’s never going to change.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Yeah.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Never going to change

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Randy Black: You know, one of the other things that I really found to be

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Randy Black: really interesting with with what you outlined out and then sent over to me as we prepared for this and I read through and read some things my own was you had this concept of the seven

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Randy Black: C’s of resiliency.

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Randy Black: Let me run through those real quick and then we’ll start breaking them down.

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Randy Black: So you got competence, you’ve got confidence, connection.

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Randy Black: character, contribution, coping, and control.

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Randy Black: Those are this what you call the seven C’s of resilience.

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Randy Black: Now, if you came up with those, that’s genius.

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Randy Black: If you found them somewhere else, that person’s a genius too.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Combination of both.

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Randy Black: Awesome.

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Randy Black: So let’s so let’s look at them and kind of break them down.

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Randy Black: So that first one and those seven C’s of resilience, competence.

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Randy Black: I probably should have put two at one

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Coach Jim Clayton: Okay.

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Coach Jim Clayton: So let’s start with two.

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Coach Jim Clayton: So let’s go with confidence first.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Okay.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Confidence.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Confidence is believing you can do it.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Okay.

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00:19:56,400 –> 00:19:58,240
Coach Jim Clayton: And confidence is very important.

410
00:19:58,200 –> 00:20:04,120
Coach Jim Clayton: Oh man, you gotta have, my coach told me one time, you gotta have a lot of confidence and no conscience.

411
00:20:04,120 –> 00:20:05,480
Coach Jim Clayton: Let it go.

412
00:20:05,480 –> 00:20:06,519
Coach Jim Clayton: It’s gone.

413
00:20:06,519 –> 00:20:08,200
Coach Jim Clayton: Just let the go.

414
00:20:08,200 –> 00:20:10,600
Coach Jim Clayton: So confidence is believing

415
00:20:11,340 –> 00:20:14,220
Coach Jim Clayton: Competence is getting it done.

416
00:20:14,220 –> 00:20:19,419
Coach Jim Clayton: See, some people believe they can do things, but competent people actually get it done

417
00:20:19,620 –> 00:20:25,780
Coach Jim Clayton: And I had a little girl one time in my health class, and we were doing a subject, and she says, I was talking about a video.

418
00:20:25,780 –> 00:20:27,540
Coach Jim Clayton: I was gonna go rent this video.

419
00:20:27,540 –> 00:20:30,420
Coach Jim Clayton: And she says, I got that at home, coach.

420
00:20:30,220 –> 00:20:37,820
Coach Jim Clayton: Now this young lady, I’m not going to mention her name, but she’s ultra, ultra successful young lady.

421
00:20:37,820 –> 00:20:38,140
Coach Jim Clayton: Okay

422
00:20:38,840 –> 00:20:43,000
Coach Jim Clayton: The next day I’m ready for it, getting everything, got everything ready to go, and guess what?

423
00:20:43,000 –> 00:20:44,280
Coach Jim Clayton: I’m waiting for it to come in.

424
00:20:44,520 –> 00:20:46,200
Coach Jim Clayton: I’ll have it on your desk by 7.

425
00:20:46,200 –> 00:20:47,000
Coach Jim Clayton: 30

426
00:20:47,220 –> 00:20:47,700
Coach Jim Clayton: 7.

427
00:20:47,700 –> 00:20:48,740
Coach Jim Clayton: 30 came.

428
00:20:48,740 –> 00:20:49,220
Coach Jim Clayton: 7.

429
00:20:49,220 –> 00:20:50,420
Coach Jim Clayton: 45 came.

430
00:20:50,420 –> 00:20:51,940
Coach Jim Clayton: 8 o’clock came.

431
00:20:51,940 –> 00:20:53,700
Coach Jim Clayton: Uh she was nowhere to be found.

432
00:20:53,700 –> 00:20:55,780
Coach Jim Clayton: The tape was nowhere to be seen.

433
00:20:56,960 –> 00:20:58,080
Coach Jim Clayton: But I was ready.

434
00:20:58,080 –> 00:20:59,360
Coach Jim Clayton: I had a backup plan.

435
00:20:59,680 –> 00:21:01,920
Coach Jim Clayton: Next day, here she comes.

436
00:21:01,920 –> 00:21:03,280
Coach Jim Clayton: I said, mm-hmm

437
00:21:03,960 –> 00:21:05,720
Coach Jim Clayton: I thought you told me you was going to have that.

438
00:21:05,720 –> 00:21:07,320
Coach Jim Clayton: Well, I wasn’t, I wasn’t feeling.

439
00:21:07,320 –> 00:21:09,400
Coach Jim Clayton: I said, now let me tell you something.

440
00:21:09,400 –> 00:21:11,240
Coach Jim Clayton: That’s competence.

441
00:21:11,960 –> 00:21:14,280
Coach Jim Clayton: See, you you didn’t get it done

442
00:21:14,240 –> 00:21:18,880
Coach Jim Clayton: And not only did he get it done, you didn’t contact me to let you know it wasn’t going to get done.

443
00:21:18,880 –> 00:21:19,360
Randy Black: Right.

444
00:21:19,360 –> 00:21:23,680
Coach Jim Clayton: So from that point on, every time she sent me something

445
00:21:23,300 –> 00:21:26,100
Coach Jim Clayton: I say, okay, Miss Competence.

446
00:21:26,260 –> 00:21:27,140
Coach Jim Clayton: And she’d laugh.

447
00:21:27,140 –> 00:21:28,660
Coach Jim Clayton: She goes, oh, you’re never going to forget that.

448
00:21:28,740 –> 00:21:30,500
Coach Jim Clayton: I said, I’m never going to let you.

449
00:21:30,660 –> 00:21:33,300
Coach Jim Clayton: I said, I want you to use that as a lesson.

450
00:21:33,300 –> 00:21:34,900
Coach Jim Clayton: Because you’re going to be

451
00:21:35,019 –> 00:21:36,539
Coach Jim Clayton: A leader in this country.

452
00:21:36,539 –> 00:21:37,100
Coach Jim Clayton: And she is.

453
00:21:37,100 –> 00:21:39,820
Coach Jim Clayton: She’s running, she’s one of the top dogs in this company.

454
00:21:39,820 –> 00:21:44,380
Coach Jim Clayton: She’s leading, you know, and I said, you’re going to experience this from the other side.

455
00:21:44,380 –> 00:21:47,260
Coach Jim Clayton: So when somebody tells you they’re going to do something

456
00:21:47,519 –> 00:21:52,639
Coach Jim Clayton: And they do it till that’s confidence and competence working together.

457
00:21:52,639 –> 00:21:53,039
Randy Black: Yeah.

458
00:21:53,039 –> 00:21:58,320
Coach Jim Clayton: And I’ll take confidence over competence because competence is getting it done.

459
00:21:58,320 –> 00:21:58,799
Coach Jim Clayton: Yes.

460
00:21:58,799 –> 00:21:59,279
Coach Jim Clayton: Okay?

461
00:21:59,440 –> 00:22:01,679
Coach Jim Clayton: And that’s the big thing right there.

462
00:22:02,140 –> 00:22:04,700
Coach Jim Clayton: Now, you got connection.

463
00:22:04,700 –> 00:22:09,500
Coach Jim Clayton: Connection is about one thing, and that’s really critical to everything.

464
00:22:09,500 –> 00:22:11,820
Coach Jim Clayton: In coaching, in teaching.

465
00:22:12,140 –> 00:22:15,500
Coach Jim Clayton: In business, it’s all about relationships with people.

466
00:22:16,060 –> 00:22:21,020
Coach Jim Clayton: They can be great, they can be good, and they can be ugly.

467
00:22:21,760 –> 00:22:25,919
Coach Jim Clayton: And when they’re not good, that’s not going to be good.

468
00:22:25,919 –> 00:22:33,039
Coach Jim Clayton: So it’s kind of like if I’m the boss man, right, or however you want to say that, the guy in charge.

469
00:22:33,120 –> 00:22:36,560
Coach Jim Clayton: You don’t work for me, so you work with me.

470
00:22:36,560 –> 00:22:38,560
Coach Jim Clayton: So there’s a difference in those two things.

471
00:22:38,560 –> 00:22:40,240
Coach Jim Clayton: I’m not talking down to you.

472
00:22:41,120 –> 00:22:43,360
Coach Jim Clayton: Your success is gonna make my what?

473
00:22:43,360 –> 00:22:44,160
Coach Jim Clayton: Success.

474
00:22:44,160 –> 00:22:46,320
Coach Jim Clayton: So it’s a two-way street here.

475
00:22:46,300 –> 00:22:50,220
Coach Jim Clayton: And you know, that’s the connection being strong relationships.

476
00:22:50,220 –> 00:22:52,940
Coach Jim Clayton: Those take time to get

477
00:22:53,860 –> 00:22:54,500
Randy Black: Yes.

478
00:22:54,500 –> 00:23:01,700
Coach Jim Clayton: Because, you know, again, it comes into the next one, which is character, integrity, value.

479
00:23:01,700 –> 00:23:04,179
Coach Jim Clayton: You can talk about character all you want.

480
00:23:04,419 –> 00:23:09,460
Coach Jim Clayton: But if you’re not living that every day, you’re just living a false lie.

481
00:23:10,100 –> 00:23:10,580
Coach Jim Clayton: Okay?

482
00:23:10,580 –> 00:23:12,260
Coach Jim Clayton: You’re just faking people out.

483
00:23:12,260 –> 00:23:16,740
Coach Jim Clayton: And people are smart enough to know when you’re an original or a fake.

484
00:23:16,800 –> 00:23:17,680
Coach Jim Clayton: Okay?

485
00:23:17,680 –> 00:23:19,440
Coach Jim Clayton: God made you an original.

486
00:23:19,440 –> 00:23:20,960
Coach Jim Clayton: Don’t die a copy.

487
00:23:20,960 –> 00:23:21,520
Coach Jim Clayton: Okay?

488
00:23:21,520 –> 00:23:23,120
Coach Jim Clayton: That’s what most people do.

489
00:23:23,120 –> 00:23:24,720
Coach Jim Clayton: They die copies.

490
00:23:24,720 –> 00:23:26,960
Coach Jim Clayton: And then the fifth one is big.

491
00:23:26,960 –> 00:23:28,000
Coach Jim Clayton: It’s huge.

492
00:23:28,000 –> 00:23:30,640
Coach Jim Clayton: I wrote about this today to a friend.

493
00:23:30,320 –> 00:23:32,480
Coach Jim Clayton: Purpose beyond yourself.

494
00:23:32,480 –> 00:23:34,160
Coach Jim Clayton: It’s not about me.

495
00:23:34,160 –> 00:23:35,920
Coach Jim Clayton: It’s not about you.

496
00:23:35,920 –> 00:23:40,320
Coach Jim Clayton: It’s really about what you can do to help others.

497
00:23:40,320 –> 00:23:43,840
Coach Jim Clayton: What are you doing to make somebody’s life better today?

498
00:23:44,480 –> 00:23:47,200
Coach Jim Clayton: It is the simplest things.

499
00:23:47,200 –> 00:23:48,559
Coach Jim Clayton: The simplest things.

500
00:23:48,559 –> 00:23:51,120
Coach Jim Clayton: Like you heard me down there talking to those two players.

501
00:23:51,120 –> 00:23:51,600
Coach Jim Clayton: Yep.

502
00:23:51,600 –> 00:23:54,720
Coach Jim Clayton: Okay, I was going over what they did.

503
00:23:54,340 –> 00:23:57,059
Coach Jim Clayton: And I always tell them the good, here’s what I liked.

504
00:23:57,620 –> 00:23:59,380
Coach Jim Clayton: Most people start with the bad.

505
00:23:59,380 –> 00:24:01,299
Coach Jim Clayton: And that just sinks to ship before you start.

506
00:24:01,460 –> 00:24:01,780
Randy Black: Oh yeah.

507
00:24:01,780 –> 00:24:02,419
Randy Black: Oh yeah, definitely.

508
00:24:02,580 –> 00:24:04,580
Coach Jim Clayton: That’s negative, negative, negative.

509
00:24:04,580 –> 00:24:04,980
Coach Jim Clayton: Okay?

510
00:24:04,980 –> 00:24:05,780
Coach Jim Clayton: You know why?

511
00:24:05,780 –> 00:24:08,340
Coach Jim Clayton: Because they’re negative.

512
00:24:07,519 –> 00:24:09,600
Coach Jim Clayton: And negative breeds negative.

513
00:24:09,600 –> 00:24:11,840
Coach Jim Clayton: So much, let me tell you what I liked.

514
00:24:11,840 –> 00:24:13,760
Coach Jim Clayton: Let me tell you what I liked.

515
00:24:13,760 –> 00:24:14,720
Coach Jim Clayton: Okay?

516
00:24:15,279 –> 00:24:18,799
Coach Jim Clayton: When we make these adjustments, we’re gonna have a lot more like.

517
00:24:19,179 –> 00:24:22,460
Coach Jim Clayton: Okay, that’s that’s beyond yourself.

518
00:24:22,460 –> 00:24:23,580
Coach Jim Clayton: Okay.

519
00:24:23,580 –> 00:24:29,740
Coach Jim Clayton: The next one, okay, with that, you can’t have, it ain’t always gonna be perfect.

520
00:24:29,460 –> 00:24:33,700
Coach Jim Clayton: So you gotta learn how to manage stress and emotions effectively.

521
00:24:33,700 –> 00:24:35,700
Randy Black: Yeah, coping, coping with coping with that.

522
00:24:35,700 –> 00:24:36,500
Coach Jim Clayton: Okay.

523
00:24:36,500 –> 00:24:38,340
Coach Jim Clayton: So your reaction

524
00:24:38,440 –> 00:24:42,440
Coach Jim Clayton: Sometimes you gotta be like a like a goldfish.

525
00:24:42,679 –> 00:24:43,639
Coach Jim Clayton: Heard that saying?

526
00:24:43,639 –> 00:24:45,399
Coach Jim Clayton: They got about a 10 seconds.

527
00:24:45,399 –> 00:24:47,000
Coach Jim Clayton: They can remember something for about 10 seconds.

528
00:24:47,240 –> 00:24:47,880
Randy Black: That’s a theory.

529
00:24:47,880 –> 00:24:48,200
Randy Black: Yeah.

530
00:24:48,200 –> 00:24:48,840
Coach Jim Clayton: Let it go.

531
00:24:49,000 –> 00:24:50,519
Coach Jim Clayton: I don’t know if that’s I’ve heard that.

532
00:24:50,519 –> 00:24:51,480
Coach Jim Clayton: I like that

533
00:24:51,740 –> 00:24:54,780
Coach Jim Clayton: Okay, so you can’t respond.

534
00:24:54,780 –> 00:25:01,820
Coach Jim Clayton: Sometimes you gotta just, it’s a word in here, and I see it pop up more and more and more on things I read every day.

535
00:25:01,820 –> 00:25:03,980
Coach Jim Clayton: It’s called patience.

536
00:25:04,500 –> 00:25:07,620
Coach Jim Clayton: Now I’m struggling with that from time to time.

537
00:25:07,620 –> 00:25:07,940
Coach Jim Clayton: Yeah.

538
00:25:07,940 –> 00:25:08,580
Coach Jim Clayton: Just a little bit.

539
00:25:08,580 –> 00:25:09,860
Coach Jim Clayton: So I’m working on it.

540
00:25:09,860 –> 00:25:11,139
Coach Jim Clayton: I’m working on it.

541
00:25:11,139 –> 00:25:12,340
Coach Jim Clayton: Patience.

542
00:25:12,340 –> 00:25:13,539
Coach Jim Clayton: Patience.

543
00:25:13,539 –> 00:25:14,580
Coach Jim Clayton: Patience.

544
00:25:14,640 –> 00:25:18,000
Coach Jim Clayton: Okay, take a couple seconds before you bite.

545
00:25:19,600 –> 00:25:21,040
Coach Jim Clayton: You know what I mean like that?

546
00:25:21,040 –> 00:25:22,640
Coach Jim Clayton: Take a couple seconds

547
00:25:22,800 –> 00:25:26,640
Coach Jim Clayton: And then when you do that, you get to number seven.

548
00:25:26,640 –> 00:25:28,960
Coach Jim Clayton: That’s where you’re in control.

549
00:25:28,960 –> 00:25:34,880
Coach Jim Clayton: And you own your decisions, and you’re going in the direction you want to go.

550
00:25:34,840 –> 00:25:36,360
Coach Jim Clayton: Not what everybody else wants.

551
00:25:37,640 –> 00:25:39,240
Coach Jim Clayton: Because you’re you.

552
00:25:39,240 –> 00:25:42,039
Coach Jim Clayton: God only made one of you.

553
00:25:42,039 –> 00:25:46,280
Coach Jim Clayton: And he knew when he made you, what was going to happen.

554
00:25:46,240 –> 00:25:47,920
Coach Jim Clayton: He knew how things were gonna happen.

555
00:25:48,960 –> 00:25:53,600
Coach Jim Clayton: And you know, as we go on and on into this thing deeper and deeper

556
00:25:53,800 –> 00:26:02,200
Coach Jim Clayton: You’re gonna see how resilient she’s gonna come out in other phases of my life, other phases of my coaching, other phases of my business

557
00:26:02,519 –> 00:26:07,240
Coach Jim Clayton: Other phases of my my motivational speaking, my mentorship.

558
00:26:07,240 –> 00:26:09,159
Coach Jim Clayton: You’ll see it come out.

559
00:26:09,159 –> 00:26:10,440
Coach Jim Clayton: All in different pieces.

560
00:26:10,440 –> 00:26:12,279
Coach Jim Clayton: And it didn’t all come out at once.

561
00:26:12,279 –> 00:26:17,159
Coach Jim Clayton: These have been years in between and sometimes decades.

562
00:26:16,500 –> 00:26:18,500
Coach Jim Clayton: Why did it wait so long to come out?

563
00:26:18,500 –> 00:26:20,260
Coach Jim Clayton: I can’t answer that question.

564
00:26:20,260 –> 00:26:22,420
Coach Jim Clayton: And not in my hands.

565
00:26:22,420 –> 00:26:26,740
Coach Jim Clayton: So when you look at those things, those seas, that confidence.

566
00:26:26,640 –> 00:26:31,120
Coach Jim Clayton: competence, the connection, the relationships, the character, the intrigue.

567
00:26:31,360 –> 00:26:33,600
Coach Jim Clayton: John Wooten said this.

568
00:26:33,600 –> 00:26:37,200
Coach Jim Clayton: Be more concerned with your character than your reputation.

569
00:26:37,600 –> 00:26:41,120
Coach Jim Clayton: Because your character is who you really are.

570
00:26:40,760 –> 00:26:45,000
Coach Jim Clayton: While your reputation is merely what other people think you are.

571
00:26:45,000 –> 00:26:52,280
Coach Jim Clayton: And as long as you know and they think you’re always one step ahead of them.

572
00:26:52,280 –> 00:26:53,160
Coach Jim Clayton: Mm-hmm.

573
00:26:53,320 –> 00:26:55,720
Coach Jim Clayton: Which means they never gonna catch.

574
00:26:55,720 –> 00:26:56,760
Coach Jim Clayton: Yeah.

575
00:26:56,760 –> 00:27:01,000
Coach Jim Clayton: And contribution, be a bigger purpose than yourself.

576
00:27:01,000 –> 00:27:04,840
Coach Jim Clayton: Coping, how you handle that stress and emotions effectively.

577
00:27:05,240 –> 00:27:10,840
Coach Jim Clayton: and control your decisions and the direction you want it to take.

578
00:27:10,840 –> 00:27:13,320
Coach Jim Clayton: Positive, sideways

579
00:27:13,360 –> 00:27:14,240
Coach Jim Clayton: Or negative.

580
00:27:14,240 –> 00:27:15,360
Coach Jim Clayton: It’s all on you.

581
00:27:15,360 –> 00:27:17,039
Coach Jim Clayton: It will always be on you.

582
00:27:17,039 –> 00:27:19,519
Coach Jim Clayton: It’s never your mom, your coach, your teacher.

583
00:27:19,519 –> 00:27:21,519
Coach Jim Clayton: It’s on you to make it happen.

584
00:27:21,519 –> 00:27:23,440
Coach Jim Clayton: So if it doesn’t happen

585
00:27:23,720 –> 00:27:28,920
Coach Jim Clayton: The person you brush your teeth with tonight and you look in that mirror, that would be the problem.

586
00:27:29,320 –> 00:27:30,520
Randy Black: There’s your answer right there.

587
00:27:30,520 –> 00:27:31,720
Randy Black: You didn’t prepare

588
00:27:32,000 –> 00:27:33,200
Randy Black: No preparation.

589
00:27:33,200 –> 00:27:34,559
Randy Black: No preparation.

590
00:27:34,640 –> 00:27:39,520
Randy Black: So would out of those seven, is there is there anyone there that you might

591
00:27:39,840 –> 00:27:47,679
Randy Black: You might emphasize more with, you know, like some of these young kids you work with here at SportsCity U um over over the over another one.

592
00:27:47,679 –> 00:27:54,559
Randy Black: Um or or is it just a whole, you know, look at it as a holistic approach that, you know, these are all equally as important.

593
00:27:53,900 –> 00:27:58,620
Coach Jim Clayton: Well, uh if I was gonna say one, they’re all equally important.

594
00:27:58,620 –> 00:27:59,260
Randy Black: Okay.

595
00:27:59,260 –> 00:28:01,420
Coach Jim Clayton: But one is the competence.

596
00:28:01,420 –> 00:28:01,740
Coach Jim Clayton: Okay.

597
00:28:01,740 –> 00:28:03,260
Coach Jim Clayton: Because here’s what happens.

598
00:28:03,260 –> 00:28:05,340
Coach Jim Clayton: The keyword there is done

599
00:28:06,040 –> 00:28:08,120
Coach Jim Clayton: Get things done.

600
00:28:08,120 –> 00:28:12,680
Coach Jim Clayton: So many people are so close to getting it done.

601
00:28:12,680 –> 00:28:13,800
Coach Jim Clayton: And they quit.

602
00:28:13,800 –> 00:28:14,440
Randy Black: Yeah

603
00:28:14,820 –> 00:28:16,580
Coach Jim Clayton: They quit.

604
00:28:16,580 –> 00:28:21,220
Coach Jim Clayton: And I’m thinking, oh my gosh, you were right there at the finish line.

605
00:28:21,220 –> 00:28:24,500
Coach Jim Clayton: Why would you run 27 miles

606
00:28:24,840 –> 00:28:28,760
Coach Jim Clayton: And get 12 inches from the finish line and not cross.

607
00:28:28,760 –> 00:28:29,480
Randy Black: Yeah.

608
00:28:29,480 –> 00:28:31,880
Coach Jim Clayton: That blows my mind.

609
00:28:31,880 –> 00:28:32,840
Coach Jim Clayton: Okay?

610
00:28:33,160 –> 00:28:37,160
Coach Jim Clayton: And, you know, it’s just like, gosh, how do you do?

611
00:28:37,240 –> 00:28:39,400
Coach Jim Clayton: Because here’s the thing I’ve learned.

612
00:28:39,580 –> 00:28:44,940
Coach Jim Clayton: If they do that at a young age, it’s going to keep multiplying.

613
00:28:44,940 –> 00:28:45,260
Coach Jim Clayton: Yeah.

614
00:28:45,260 –> 00:28:49,820
Coach Jim Clayton: And they’re going to do it at at their, you know, at the high school.

615
00:28:49,820 –> 00:28:51,340
Coach Jim Clayton: This is going to turn to college

616
00:28:51,820 –> 00:28:58,780
Coach Jim Clayton: If you look at kids today, the average 35, 40-year-old, they’ve had 30 jobs.

617
00:28:58,780 –> 00:28:59,660
Randy Black: Oh yeah.

618
00:28:59,660 –> 00:29:01,500
Coach Jim Clayton: Okay, so what’s that tell you?

619
00:29:01,500 –> 00:29:03,900
Coach Jim Clayton: You know, I had one job.

620
00:29:03,900 –> 00:29:06,220
Coach Jim Clayton: I wanted to be a teacher and a coach.

621
00:29:06,380 –> 00:29:07,740
Coach Jim Clayton: They were both the same.

622
00:29:08,620 –> 00:29:09,580
Coach Jim Clayton: Okay, boom.

623
00:29:09,580 –> 00:29:12,460
Coach Jim Clayton: Then I said, well, I want to turn this into another job.

624
00:29:12,620 –> 00:29:14,460
Coach Jim Clayton: I want to start this business.

625
00:29:14,460 –> 00:29:15,820
Coach Jim Clayton: 1992

626
00:29:16,240 –> 00:29:18,640
Coach Jim Clayton: Well now it’s 2025.

627
00:29:18,640 –> 00:29:20,560
Coach Jim Clayton: When I started it, what’d they tell me?

628
00:29:20,560 –> 00:29:22,160
Coach Jim Clayton: It’s not gonna work.

629
00:29:22,160 –> 00:29:26,400
Coach Jim Clayton: Now again, if I believed those people, it would have never worked.

630
00:29:26,400 –> 00:29:26,880
Randy Black: Right

631
00:29:27,300 –> 00:29:28,980
Coach Jim Clayton: But I don’t believe them.

632
00:29:28,980 –> 00:29:32,980
Coach Jim Clayton: 30-some years later, three decades, I’m still standing here.

633
00:29:33,300 –> 00:29:35,620
Coach Jim Clayton: I don’t see those other people.

634
00:29:35,940 –> 00:29:38,420
Coach Jim Clayton: You see, so you can’t listen to those things.

635
00:29:38,420 –> 00:29:38,740
Coach Jim Clayton: But

636
00:29:38,500 –> 00:29:41,940
Coach Jim Clayton: You know, I mean it just comes down to these points.

637
00:29:41,940 –> 00:29:43,940
Coach Jim Clayton: You can’t just keep going.

638
00:29:43,940 –> 00:29:45,780
Coach Jim Clayton: So I’m going to say it’s like this.

639
00:29:45,780 –> 00:29:48,980
Coach Jim Clayton: A coach is like a hand in the back.

640
00:29:48,980 –> 00:29:50,740
Coach Jim Clayton: I’m going to keep pushing.

641
00:29:51,400 –> 00:29:54,360
Coach Jim Clayton: It comes a point in time where that hand ain’t there.

642
00:29:54,360 –> 00:29:56,520
Coach Jim Clayton: You gotta push yourself.

643
00:29:56,520 –> 00:29:59,240
Coach Jim Clayton: And that’s when they hit, I’ll get that tomorrow.

644
00:29:59,240 –> 00:30:01,799
Coach Jim Clayton: Well last time I checked, tomorrow’s not a date.

645
00:30:02,960 –> 00:30:11,920
Coach Jim Clayton: And you know, the longer you put something off, the less likely it’s ever gonna happen.

646
00:30:11,920 –> 00:30:12,640
Randy Black: Exactly.

647
00:30:12,640 –> 00:30:14,560
Coach Jim Clayton: And usually it won’t.

648
00:30:15,360 –> 00:30:16,800
Coach Jim Clayton: So you can’t put it off.

649
00:30:16,800 –> 00:30:17,440
Coach Jim Clayton: Gotta make it.

650
00:30:17,440 –> 00:30:18,080
Coach Jim Clayton: Let’s go.

651
00:30:18,080 –> 00:30:19,200
Coach Jim Clayton: Gotta start tomorrow.

652
00:30:19,200 –> 00:30:20,480
Coach Jim Clayton: Well, I’m not ready.

653
00:30:20,480 –> 00:30:21,200
Coach Jim Clayton: Who cares?

654
00:30:21,200 –> 00:30:22,560
Coach Jim Clayton: Let’s start anyway

655
00:30:23,120 –> 00:30:24,320
Coach Jim Clayton: Well, I’m not prepared.

656
00:30:24,320 –> 00:30:25,040
Coach Jim Clayton: Who cares?

657
00:30:25,040 –> 00:30:26,400
Coach Jim Clayton: Let’s start anyway.

658
00:30:26,400 –> 00:30:28,800
Coach Jim Clayton: You’ll figure these things out along the way.

659
00:30:28,800 –> 00:30:29,280
Randy Black: Right.

660
00:30:29,280 –> 00:30:32,400
Coach Jim Clayton: But if you don’t start, you’ll never finish.

661
00:30:32,400 –> 00:30:33,120
Coach Jim Clayton: You’ll never finish.

662
00:30:34,800 –> 00:30:35,360
Randy Black: Awesome.

663
00:30:35,360 –> 00:30:36,720
Coach Jim Clayton: And that’s how you gotta look at.

664
00:30:36,720 –> 00:30:40,080
Coach Jim Clayton: That’s how I look at those several cities right there.

665
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669
00:30:58,860 –> 00:31:06,779
Randy Black: So another thing that we we I saw on your notes and I thought this is just awesome is this idea that there are these four pillars

670
00:31:07,040 –> 00:31:08,240
Randy Black: of resilience.

671
00:31:08,240 –> 00:31:12,880
Randy Black: Can you kind of tell us what those are, Jim, and break them down a little bit from from the way you see things?

672
00:31:12,880 –> 00:31:13,600
Randy Black: Sure, sure.

673
00:31:13,600 –> 00:31:16,240
Coach Jim Clayton: First thing is I think everything starts with the mental.

674
00:31:16,240 –> 00:31:16,640
Coach Jim Clayton: Okay.

675
00:31:16,640 –> 00:31:17,600
Coach Jim Clayton: The mind.

676
00:31:17,440 –> 00:31:18,639
Coach Jim Clayton: Thinking is a skill.

677
00:31:19,200 –> 00:31:20,159
Coach Jim Clayton: Mental side of things.

678
00:31:20,159 –> 00:31:20,480
Coach Jim Clayton: Okay.

679
00:31:20,480 –> 00:31:22,480
Coach Jim Clayton: We talked about skills, but we never talk about thinking.

680
00:31:22,480 –> 00:31:22,799
Randy Black: Okay.

681
00:31:22,799 –> 00:31:25,679
Coach Jim Clayton: So the mental side of things, positive thinking

682
00:31:25,919 –> 00:31:28,080
Coach Jim Clayton: The grit when things get a little tough.

683
00:31:28,080 –> 00:31:28,640
Coach Jim Clayton: You know what I mean?

684
00:31:28,720 –> 00:31:31,280
Coach Jim Clayton: Are you gonna throw in a towel, you’re gonna suck it up and get through it.

685
00:31:31,280 –> 00:31:31,679
Coach Jim Clayton: Right.

686
00:31:31,679 –> 00:31:33,600
Coach Jim Clayton: And the growth mindset.

687
00:31:33,600 –> 00:31:36,080
Coach Jim Clayton: So it’s all about growth.

688
00:31:36,080 –> 00:31:40,400
Coach Jim Clayton: What are you doing today to make yourself better?

689
00:31:39,800 –> 00:31:42,280
Coach Jim Clayton: Because really that’s all you’re competing against.

690
00:31:42,280 –> 00:31:45,720
Coach Jim Clayton: All I want to do today is have a better day than I did yesterday.

691
00:31:45,720 –> 00:31:49,480
Coach Jim Clayton: All I want to do tomorrow is have a better day than I did today

692
00:31:49,720 –> 00:31:51,800
Coach Jim Clayton: So not compete with the world.

693
00:31:51,800 –> 00:31:53,320
Coach Jim Clayton: I compete with myself.

694
00:31:53,320 –> 00:31:55,320
Coach Jim Clayton: And you all know to say it.

695
00:31:55,320 –> 00:31:57,640
Coach Jim Clayton: Who is your worst enemy?

696
00:31:58,040 –> 00:31:58,920
Coach Jim Clayton: Yourself.

697
00:31:58,920 –> 00:31:59,560
Coach Jim Clayton: Yeah.

698
00:31:59,460 –> 00:32:00,260
Randy Black: Well still.

699
00:32:00,260 –> 00:32:04,820
Randy Black: It’s it’s it’s it’s looking at it in and you with with mental is having that discipline.

700
00:32:04,820 –> 00:32:05,300
Randy Black: Yes.

701
00:32:05,300 –> 00:32:08,020
Randy Black: Having that that even having the clarity

702
00:32:08,340 –> 00:32:14,660
Randy Black: to see what that to to to develop that growth mindset, to build that discipline, to be able to go through and do these things.

703
00:32:14,660 –> 00:32:15,860
Coach Jim Clayton: Absolutely, 100%.

704
00:32:15,860 –> 00:32:17,860
Randy Black: And most people don’t have the discipline.

705
00:32:17,860 –> 00:32:18,740
Coach Jim Clayton: Mm-hmm.

706
00:32:18,540 –> 00:32:20,700
Coach Jim Clayton: Okay, that’s why they might need to whistle.

707
00:32:20,700 –> 00:32:21,100
Randy Black: Right.

708
00:32:21,100 –> 00:32:21,740
Coach Jim Clayton: Okay.

709
00:32:21,740 –> 00:32:23,340
Coach Jim Clayton: They don’t have the mindset.

710
00:32:23,340 –> 00:32:23,900
Coach Jim Clayton: Uh-huh.

711
00:32:23,900 –> 00:32:25,900
Coach Jim Clayton: So you’re already 0 for two.

712
00:32:25,900 –> 00:32:26,140
Coach Jim Clayton: Yeah.

713
00:32:26,300 –> 00:32:26,940
Randy Black: Not good.

714
00:32:26,940 –> 00:32:27,900
Coach Jim Clayton: Not good start.

715
00:32:27,900 –> 00:32:28,220
Coach Jim Clayton: Okay.

716
00:32:28,220 –> 00:32:29,500
Coach Jim Clayton: Then you get to physical.

717
00:32:29,500 –> 00:32:29,980
Coach Jim Clayton: Right.

718
00:32:29,980 –> 00:32:30,460
Coach Jim Clayton: Okay.

719
00:32:30,460 –> 00:32:31,580
Coach Jim Clayton: Your health

720
00:32:31,400 –> 00:32:32,360
Coach Jim Clayton: I taught health.

721
00:32:32,360 –> 00:32:35,480
Coach Jim Clayton: All you said is, if you if if you ain’t healthy, you ain’t happy.

722
00:32:35,480 –> 00:32:35,880
Randy Black: Right.

723
00:32:35,880 –> 00:32:37,720
Coach Jim Clayton: I don’t care what you got in life.

724
00:32:37,720 –> 00:32:39,400
Coach Jim Clayton: It all comes down to your health.

725
00:32:39,400 –> 00:32:40,280
Randy Black: Oh, trust me.

726
00:32:40,280 –> 00:32:40,600
Randy Black: Trust me.

727
00:32:40,840 –> 00:32:41,240
Randy Black: Oh, we know.

728
00:32:42,200 –> 00:32:44,040
Randy Black: Let me tell you, let me tell you, I have lost

729
00:32:44,320 –> 00:32:45,520
Randy Black: Since September.

730
00:32:45,520 –> 00:32:47,520
Randy Black: I’m down about 30 pounds.

731
00:32:47,520 –> 00:32:48,240
Randy Black: That’s awesome.

732
00:32:48,240 –> 00:32:50,160
Randy Black: And I feel I just feel so much better.

733
00:32:50,160 –> 00:32:53,520
Randy Black: You’re going to because I’m trying to get myself in a better place

734
00:32:53,560 –> 00:32:54,520
Randy Black: with my health.

735
00:32:54,520 –> 00:33:01,400
Randy Black: You know, I got the type two diabetic diabetes diagnosis and I’ve got some the high blood pressure and some cholesterol stuff and I’m trying to combat it.

736
00:33:01,640 –> 00:33:03,160
Randy Black: And that will that can be fixed.

737
00:33:03,160 –> 00:33:03,960
Coach Jim Clayton: That can be fixed.

738
00:33:04,280 –> 00:33:05,480
Coach Jim Clayton: Exactly.

739
00:33:04,960 –> 00:33:08,640
Coach Jim Clayton: But it didn’t happen overnight, and it’s not going to be fixed overnight.

740
00:33:08,640 –> 00:33:08,800
Coach Jim Clayton: Right.

741
00:33:08,960 –> 00:33:10,640
Coach Jim Clayton: And see, that’s the thing about today’s world.

742
00:33:10,640 –> 00:33:11,520
Coach Jim Clayton: Everybody wants a quick fix.

743
00:33:11,600 –> 00:33:12,160
Coach Jim Clayton: Instant gratification.

744
00:33:12,240 –> 00:33:13,680
Coach Jim Clayton: It’s about instant gratification.

745
00:33:13,920 –> 00:33:14,640
Coach Jim Clayton: We ain’t got

746
00:33:15,160 –> 00:33:16,520
Randy Black: That’s the social media world we have.

747
00:33:16,600 –> 00:33:17,400
Randy Black: I hate that word.

748
00:33:17,400 –> 00:33:17,960
Coach Jim Clayton: I hate that.

749
00:33:17,960 –> 00:33:18,760
Coach Jim Clayton: I hate that.

750
00:33:18,760 –> 00:33:20,440
Coach Jim Clayton: So health, physical.

751
00:33:20,440 –> 00:33:22,520
Coach Jim Clayton: When you have good health, you have energy.

752
00:33:22,520 –> 00:33:23,480
Randy Black: Yes.

753
00:33:23,480 –> 00:33:24,440
Coach Jim Clayton: Okay?

754
00:33:24,640 –> 00:33:25,840
Coach Jim Clayton: But you gotta rest.

755
00:33:26,480 –> 00:33:28,560
Coach Jim Clayton: When it’s time to lay it down, you gotta lay it down.

756
00:33:28,560 –> 00:33:30,240
Coach Jim Clayton: See these kids won’t turn their brain off.

757
00:33:30,240 –> 00:33:32,400
Coach Jim Clayton: Oh they’re laying in the bed with the phone.

758
00:33:32,720 –> 00:33:33,520
Randy Black: Turn it off.

759
00:33:33,520 –> 00:33:38,480
Randy Black: Before before we came up here and recorded, I was I was downstairs and I was speaking with your wife

760
00:33:38,240 –> 00:33:38,880
Randy Black: Great lady.

761
00:33:38,880 –> 00:33:41,280
Randy Black: Love talking to her every time when I’m over here.

762
00:33:41,280 –> 00:33:46,320
Randy Black: And we were talking and one of the things we talked about was, you know, I have sleep apnea

763
00:33:45,900 –> 00:33:50,300
Randy Black: So I have a sleep disorder and I have a CPAP machine and I wear a mask every night.

764
00:33:50,300 –> 00:33:55,260
Randy Black: And I told her, I said, before I got the treatment I needed.

765
00:33:55,040 –> 00:33:58,240
Randy Black: to help with that situation, said I would drive home from work.

766
00:33:58,240 –> 00:34:00,000
Randy Black: And this is what I was teaching at Cabal Midland.

767
00:34:00,000 –> 00:34:02,240
Randy Black: And I lived in the Westmoreland neighborhood of Huntington.

768
00:34:02,240 –> 00:34:04,880
Randy Black: So I, you know, 25, 30 minute drive.

769
00:34:05,200 –> 00:34:11,040
Randy Black: By the time when I would leave work and then get home, I would not remember my drive most days.

770
00:34:12,320 –> 00:34:12,640
Randy Black: And

771
00:34:12,800 –> 00:34:14,480
Randy Black: It’s because I was so tired.

772
00:34:14,480 –> 00:34:22,400
Randy Black: And I told her, I said, I’d get home and I’d walk in the house, I’d set my bag down by the door, put my keys in my wallet there in the little basket by the door.

773
00:34:22,400 –> 00:34:27,200
Randy Black: And before I could set down on the couch, I was asleep.

774
00:34:26,440 –> 00:34:29,320
Randy Black: Because I was never getting the rest I needed.

775
00:34:29,320 –> 00:34:34,359
Randy Black: And this, you know, it’s it’s it was it was making me a very miserable person.

776
00:34:34,359 –> 00:34:37,320
Randy Black: And I couldn’t get things done because I couldn’t stay focused.

777
00:34:37,320 –> 00:34:41,159
Randy Black: I couldn’t, I didn’t have the energy because I wasn’t getting the rest.

778
00:34:40,840 –> 00:34:42,360
Randy Black: My health was horrible.

779
00:34:42,360 –> 00:34:46,040
Coach Jim Clayton: Hey, all my friends, they’re my age, guess what?

780
00:34:46,040 –> 00:34:47,800
Coach Jim Clayton: They all got C pipe machines.

781
00:34:48,120 –> 00:34:48,760
Coach Jim Clayton: Except me.

782
00:34:48,760 –> 00:34:51,560
Coach Jim Clayton: I’ve been blessed to where when I put my head down

783
00:34:52,660 –> 00:34:54,260
Coach Jim Clayton: I’m gone.

784
00:34:54,260 –> 00:34:58,820
Coach Jim Clayton: Because you know, when I put my head down, I always have a sense of satisfaction.

785
00:34:58,820 –> 00:34:59,460
Randy Black: Mm-hmm.

786
00:34:59,460 –> 00:35:00,980
Coach Jim Clayton: Because of what I did that day.

787
00:35:01,300 –> 00:35:02,660
Coach Jim Clayton: Added value to people

788
00:35:02,740 –> 00:35:03,540
Coach Jim Clayton: Ain’t about me.

789
00:35:03,540 –> 00:35:04,820
Coach Jim Clayton: I’m not thinking about me.

790
00:35:04,820 –> 00:35:07,460
Coach Jim Clayton: Remember we talked about the me versus we mentality?

791
00:35:07,940 –> 00:35:09,300
Coach Jim Clayton: It ain’t about us.

792
00:35:09,300 –> 00:35:13,220
Coach Jim Clayton: So, and then that rests, man, that controls your movement

793
00:35:13,440 –> 00:35:16,560
Coach Jim Clayton: Okay, you’re here, here, here, you’re over here, all that stuff comes down.

794
00:35:16,560 –> 00:35:22,000
Coach Jim Clayton: So you got the mental thinking part, the physical things that go with it, then you got the social.

795
00:35:22,000 –> 00:35:24,320
Coach Jim Clayton: Now that’s where people get in trouble.

796
00:35:24,400 –> 00:35:26,880
Coach Jim Clayton: That’s the connection with people.

797
00:35:26,880 –> 00:35:31,520
Coach Jim Clayton: Now, most of the time when they get in trouble, they’re with non-supportive people.

798
00:35:31,520 –> 00:35:32,160
Randy Black: Right.

799
00:35:32,160 –> 00:35:35,040
Coach Jim Clayton: You gotta connect with people that connect with you.

800
00:35:35,840 –> 00:35:37,760
Coach Jim Clayton: They might not always agree with you.

801
00:35:37,760 –> 00:35:40,080
Coach Jim Clayton: And see, here’s the thing.

802
00:35:40,080 –> 00:35:44,960
Coach Jim Clayton: People like me, they drive certain people crazy.

803
00:35:45,280 –> 00:35:48,000
Coach Jim Clayton: See, because I’m an open mindset, they’re a closed mindset.

804
00:35:48,000 –> 00:35:48,480
Coach Jim Clayton: Right.

805
00:35:48,480 –> 00:35:50,560
Coach Jim Clayton: And people like them.

806
00:35:50,420 –> 00:35:53,460
Coach Jim Clayton: They drive me even more crazy.

807
00:35:53,460 –> 00:35:54,340
Coach Jim Clayton: Yeah.

808
00:35:54,340 –> 00:35:58,020
Coach Jim Clayton: So, you know, again, you just got to stay with the supportive people.

809
00:35:58,020 –> 00:36:02,100
Coach Jim Clayton: I want to stay around people that are on the same path with me

810
00:36:02,240 –> 00:36:05,440
Coach Jim Clayton: I’m not interested in trying to go over here and save the world.

811
00:36:05,440 –> 00:36:07,520
Coach Jim Clayton: I’m not trying, because you can’t.

812
00:36:07,520 –> 00:36:08,800
Coach Jim Clayton: Can’t fix people.

813
00:36:08,800 –> 00:36:10,480
Coach Jim Clayton: Only people can fix people

814
00:36:10,460 –> 00:36:11,900
Coach Jim Clayton: I can’t change you.

815
00:36:11,900 –> 00:36:13,260
Coach Jim Clayton: Only you can change it.

816
00:36:13,820 –> 00:36:17,820
Coach Jim Clayton: I can give you some subtle tips.

817
00:36:17,820 –> 00:36:19,340
Coach Jim Clayton: But if you don’t listen.

818
00:36:19,520 –> 00:36:20,160
Randy Black: Right.

819
00:36:20,160 –> 00:36:21,200
Coach Jim Clayton: Can’t learn.

820
00:36:21,200 –> 00:36:22,160
Randy Black: Exactly.

821
00:36:22,160 –> 00:36:22,720
Randy Black: Okay.

822
00:36:22,720 –> 00:36:26,800
Randy Black: Then the last one is it kind of goes back to the mental thing.

823
00:36:26,800 –> 00:36:28,000
Randy Black: You’ve got to have that open mind.

824
00:36:28,000 –> 00:36:30,320
Randy Black: You’ve got to be ready to to to

825
00:36:30,660 –> 00:36:37,380
Randy Black: to to listen to those people who have your back because if you don’t you’re I mean I hate to say it this way but you’re screwed.

826
00:36:37,380 –> 00:36:38,020
Randy Black: You’re right.

827
00:36:38,020 –> 00:36:38,660
Coach Jim Clayton: 100%.

828
00:36:38,660 –> 00:36:40,020
Coach Jim Clayton: And people do it to themselves.

829
00:36:40,020 –> 00:36:40,420
Coach Jim Clayton: Mm-hmm.

830
00:36:40,420 –> 00:36:42,420
Coach Jim Clayton: And they like your way but some people do it to you.

831
00:36:42,420 –> 00:36:43,860
Coach Jim Clayton: You do it to yourself

832
00:36:44,040 –> 00:36:51,880
Coach Jim Clayton: So, you know, then you get to the last part, which really, you know, I you know, I’m I’ve never been a big church goer

833
00:36:52,619 –> 00:36:54,220
Coach Jim Clayton: But I’m a spiritual guy.

834
00:36:54,220 –> 00:36:58,940
Coach Jim Clayton: I don’t know all the things about all the stuff like some people can rip scriptures out.

835
00:36:58,940 –> 00:37:01,180
Coach Jim Clayton: I I really don’t have that for me

836
00:37:01,200 –> 00:37:03,920
Coach Jim Clayton: It’s about my personal relationship with God.

837
00:37:03,920 –> 00:37:06,720
Coach Jim Clayton: I talked to him a hundred thousand times today.

838
00:37:07,200 –> 00:37:09,280
Coach Jim Clayton: I talked to him at night before I go to sleep.

839
00:37:09,280 –> 00:37:13,280
Coach Jim Clayton: First thing I say in the morning when I get my two presents every morning

840
00:37:12,960 –> 00:37:14,000
Coach Jim Clayton: My eyeballs open.

841
00:37:14,000 –> 00:37:16,480
Coach Jim Clayton: Those are the two best gifts a person can get in a morning.

842
00:37:16,880 –> 00:37:21,280
Coach Jim Clayton: You know, and but but it’s my you know I have a purpose now.

843
00:37:21,280 –> 00:37:23,680
Coach Jim Clayton: I know I’m driven to help people.

844
00:37:23,680 –> 00:37:27,360
Coach Jim Clayton: My faith is stronger probably now than it’s ever been.

845
00:37:27,120 –> 00:37:28,640
Coach Jim Clayton: Faith versus fear.

846
00:37:28,960 –> 00:37:31,200
Coach Jim Clayton: Okay, I’d rather have faith than fear.

847
00:37:31,200 –> 00:37:33,200
Coach Jim Clayton: Now we all have certain types of fears.

848
00:37:33,200 –> 00:37:33,680
Coach Jim Clayton: We do.

849
00:37:33,680 –> 00:37:34,000
Coach Jim Clayton: We do.

850
00:37:34,000 –> 00:37:35,680
Coach Jim Clayton: I mean I can’t stand snake

851
00:37:36,000 –> 00:37:36,960
Coach Jim Clayton: I don’t care what you do.

852
00:37:37,440 –> 00:37:38,640
Coach Jim Clayton: I’m running otherwise.

853
00:37:39,120 –> 00:37:40,320
Coach Jim Clayton: Mice don’t bother me.

854
00:37:40,320 –> 00:37:42,320
Coach Jim Clayton: Snakes I’m gone.

855
00:37:42,320 –> 00:37:45,440
Coach Jim Clayton: Okay, so I’m never I’m never gonna go handle snakes.

856
00:37:45,440 –> 00:37:46,960
Coach Jim Clayton: It’s not gonna happen

857
00:37:46,920 –> 00:37:51,240
Coach Jim Clayton: But again, that purpose, that faith, that guides you.

858
00:37:51,240 –> 00:37:52,120
Coach Jim Clayton: That steers you.

859
00:37:52,120 –> 00:37:56,280
Coach Jim Clayton: That’s like the steering wheel of your life right to the values.

860
00:37:56,280 –> 00:38:00,680
Coach Jim Clayton: And then it comes back to your character and your values, which we’ve already talked about.

861
00:38:00,440 –> 00:38:02,839
Coach Jim Clayton: You gotta live what you say.

862
00:38:02,839 –> 00:38:03,400
Randy Black: Yeah.

863
00:38:03,400 –> 00:38:07,079
Coach Jim Clayton: And some people say one thing and do the what?

864
00:38:07,079 –> 00:38:07,720
Coach Jim Clayton: Opposite.

865
00:38:07,720 –> 00:38:08,920
Coach Jim Clayton: And they’re fake.

866
00:38:09,000 –> 00:38:13,640
Coach Jim Clayton: And really good people can tell a fake a mile away.

867
00:38:13,640 –> 00:38:14,839
Randy Black: Oh yeah.

868
00:38:14,559 –> 00:38:16,480
Coach Jim Clayton: And you can’t fake a faker.

869
00:38:17,039 –> 00:38:25,359
Coach Jim Clayton: You know, so I mean, those are the four things, the mental, the physical, the social, the connection with the right people, and staying spiritually strong.

870
00:38:25,359 –> 00:38:26,319
Coach Jim Clayton: You gotta believe.

871
00:38:26,319 –> 00:38:26,880
Randy Black: Right.

872
00:38:26,880 –> 00:38:29,119
Coach Jim Clayton: You gotta believe in the unseen.

873
00:38:29,140 –> 00:38:32,500
Coach Jim Clayton: Just because you don’t see it doesn’t mean it ain’t happening.

874
00:38:32,500 –> 00:38:32,900
Randy Black: Oh yeah.

875
00:38:33,140 –> 00:38:35,220
Randy Black: And that’s that is the definition of faith.

876
00:38:35,220 –> 00:38:36,819
Randy Black: It’s the belief in things unseen.

877
00:38:36,819 –> 00:38:37,940
Coach Jim Clayton: And I love it.

878
00:38:37,940 –> 00:38:40,020
Coach Jim Clayton: And I, you know, I can see it

879
00:38:40,059 –> 00:38:41,579
Coach Jim Clayton: I can see it in my head.

880
00:38:41,579 –> 00:38:42,619
Coach Jim Clayton: I’m just one of these people.

881
00:38:42,619 –> 00:38:44,779
Coach Jim Clayton: I’m a visionary person.

882
00:38:44,779 –> 00:38:45,660
Coach Jim Clayton: I can see it.

883
00:38:45,660 –> 00:38:47,099
Coach Jim Clayton: It’s hard to explain to people.

884
00:38:47,099 –> 00:38:47,579
Randy Black: Right.

885
00:38:47,579 –> 00:38:49,579
Coach Jim Clayton: I mean, we’re talking right now.

886
00:38:49,579 –> 00:38:52,059
Coach Jim Clayton: My brain might be a month down the road.

887
00:38:52,059 –> 00:38:54,380
Coach Jim Clayton: That’s just how I roll.

888
00:38:53,940 –> 00:38:54,900
Coach Jim Clayton: I’m a bouncer.

889
00:38:54,900 –> 00:38:56,260
Coach Jim Clayton: Now you talk about bouncing?

890
00:38:56,260 –> 00:38:56,980
Coach Jim Clayton: Mm-hmm.

891
00:38:56,980 –> 00:38:58,260
Coach Jim Clayton: Oh yeah.

892
00:38:58,260 –> 00:39:02,020
Coach Jim Clayton: But you know, this is keeping me, you know, right.

893
00:39:02,020 –> 00:39:06,500
Coach Jim Clayton: You know, we’re bouncing, but it’s all on, it’s all we we know what we’re doing.

894
00:39:06,500 –> 00:39:07,300
Randy Black: Right.

895
00:39:07,160 –> 00:39:10,040
Coach Jim Clayton: I’m not just throwing stuff out randomly at you.

896
00:39:10,040 –> 00:39:13,160
Coach Jim Clayton: I mean that that’s I mean that happens sometimes too.

897
00:39:13,160 –> 00:39:13,960
Coach Jim Clayton: It does.

898
00:39:13,960 –> 00:39:16,760
Coach Jim Clayton: And sometimes in just conversations

899
00:39:17,340 –> 00:39:21,260
Coach Jim Clayton: You know, somebody will say something like this is the wildest stuff.

900
00:39:21,260 –> 00:39:26,460
Coach Jim Clayton: I’ll be watching television and I might be watching a Ford truck commercial

901
00:39:27,180 –> 00:39:32,940
Coach Jim Clayton: And they’ll say two or three things that went right over most people’s heads.

902
00:39:33,420 –> 00:39:35,740
Coach Jim Clayton: And I’ll take those two or three things.

903
00:39:35,559 –> 00:39:37,160
Coach Jim Clayton: And I’ll flip it to basketball.

904
00:39:37,160 –> 00:39:38,200
Coach Jim Clayton: I’ll flip it to life.

905
00:39:38,440 –> 00:39:43,079
Coach Jim Clayton: I’ll flip it to this and I get my phone, go to my nose, write her down.

906
00:39:43,079 –> 00:39:43,720
Coach Jim Clayton: Yeah.

907
00:39:43,660 –> 00:39:46,060
Coach Jim Clayton: And that’s a topic for another conversation.

908
00:39:46,060 –> 00:39:46,700
Coach Jim Clayton: Mm-hmm.

909
00:39:46,700 –> 00:39:48,700
Coach Jim Clayton: And that’s how I learned stuff, man.

910
00:39:48,700 –> 00:39:50,780
Coach Jim Clayton: They said, did you hear what they said?

911
00:39:50,780 –> 00:39:52,140
Coach Jim Clayton: What about the truck?

912
00:39:52,140 –> 00:39:54,300
Coach Jim Clayton: I said, no, did you hear what they said in between?

913
00:39:54,300 –> 00:39:55,900
Coach Jim Clayton: No, I wasn’t paying attention.

914
00:39:55,900 –> 00:39:58,460
Coach Jim Clayton: See, that’s how my brain works.

915
00:39:58,040 –> 00:40:01,560
Coach Jim Clayton: People say stuff you don’t even think is valuable.

916
00:40:01,560 –> 00:40:06,520
Coach Jim Clayton: And I’ll pick two or three things out of what you said, put it in my notes.

917
00:40:07,240 –> 00:40:09,080
Coach Jim Clayton: It’s always three things.

918
00:40:08,680 –> 00:40:11,800
Coach Jim Clayton: It’s never like big long drawn out stuff.

919
00:40:11,800 –> 00:40:13,080
Coach Jim Clayton: Quick hitters, man.

920
00:40:13,080 –> 00:40:14,520
Coach Jim Clayton: Quick hitters.

921
00:40:14,520 –> 00:40:18,920
Coach Jim Clayton: And that’s how my brain works, and that’s how I come up with all this stuff.

922
00:40:19,240 –> 00:40:20,200
Randy Black: Yeah.

923
00:40:20,420 –> 00:40:28,740
Randy Black: So we’re we’re kind of in the middle of our con our of what we’ve looked at and talked about, you know, behind the scenes and the notes and stuff we’ve had put together.

924
00:40:28,740 –> 00:40:33,300
Randy Black: So we’re gonna actually split this idea of resilience up into two episodes

925
00:40:32,859 –> 00:40:36,619
Randy Black: Uh before we finish up though, real quick, I just want to throw this out there.

926
00:40:36,619 –> 00:40:38,700
Randy Black: You know, we do have a website that is available.

927
00:40:38,700 –> 00:40:41,099
Randy Black: It is at uh shooting it straight podcast.

928
00:40:41,099 –> 00:40:41,500
Randy Black: com.

929
00:40:41,500 –> 00:40:45,579
Randy Black: And if you go there and you go to the pet the the post for this episode

930
00:40:45,720 –> 00:40:49,640
Randy Black: You have the ability as an end user to leave a comment there.

931
00:40:49,640 –> 00:40:51,319
Randy Black: So I’m going to throw this out there.

932
00:40:51,640 –> 00:40:56,520
Randy Black: If you have a personal anecdote, maybe some advice, something that

933
00:40:57,120 –> 00:41:04,720
Randy Black: has sparked in your brain as a listener here on the podcast to what we’ve talked about so far, go up there and post a comment.

934
00:41:04,720 –> 00:41:05,600
Randy Black: Mention something.

935
00:41:05,600 –> 00:41:06,560
Randy Black: You know, put it there.

936
00:41:06,800 –> 00:41:08,160
Randy Black: It might even be, you know.

937
00:41:08,240 –> 00:41:08,320
Randy Black: .

938
00:41:08,359 –> 00:41:13,800
Randy Black: Like, for example, let’s look at the question I asked Jim about these seven C’s of resilience.

939
00:41:13,800 –> 00:41:16,920
Randy Black: Like, is there one of those that you think is more important than the other?

940
00:41:16,920 –> 00:41:17,960
Randy Black: And why is that?

941
00:41:17,960 –> 00:41:19,000
Randy Black: Share that with us.

942
00:41:19,000 –> 00:41:20,599
Randy Black: Um, and you know, like what

943
00:41:20,760 –> 00:41:30,040
Randy Black: What of these pillars we just talked about, the mental, the physical, the social, the spiritual, which of those do you turn to when times get tough

944
00:41:30,040 –> 00:41:32,040
Randy Black: as as your your way to go.

945
00:41:32,040 –> 00:41:36,200
Randy Black: So kind of go to the website and uh hit up the the the post for this episode.

946
00:41:36,200 –> 00:41:37,080
Randy Black: You’ll see it there.

947
00:41:37,080 –> 00:41:40,280
Randy Black: The latest episode is always across the top of the page right there.

948
00:41:40,280 –> 00:41:43,080
Randy Black: You can just click on it, go down to the bottom of the page

949
00:41:42,600 –> 00:41:46,760
Randy Black: Put in your name, your email address, and start typing your comment, post it up there.

950
00:41:46,760 –> 00:41:50,280
Randy Black: Uh, and if if you do that, then we’ll we’ll bring them back, Nick, on the next episode.

951
00:41:50,280 –> 00:41:53,480
Randy Black: We’ll talk about those and what people in the community have had to share.

952
00:41:53,820 –> 00:42:02,540
Randy Black: But as we do each week, we’re going to close out our show with my personal

953
00:42:03,020 –> 00:42:11,420
Randy Black: favorite segment that I’ve ever come up with uh for a podcast just because Jim means that much to me.

954
00:42:11,420 –> 00:42:13,820
Randy Black: He’s he’s he has these pearls of wisdom.

955
00:42:13,820 –> 00:42:17,660
Randy Black: So let’s listen, or let’s get ready for Jimmy’s.

956
00:42:17,620 –> 00:42:19,140
Randy Black: Wisdom of the week.

957
00:42:19,140 –> 00:42:22,500
Cheesy Announcer Guy: Now it’s time for Jimmy’s Wisdom of the Week.

958
00:42:22,500 –> 00:42:27,860
Cheesy Announcer Guy: This is where Jimmy shares one of his famous Jimmyisms to inspire the listeners.

959
00:42:27,860 –> 00:42:32,020
Randy Black: So the one you sent me this week, I’ve got it here on the notes.

960
00:42:30,800 –> 00:42:34,800
Randy Black: I’m going to read it off and then I’m going to let you take off and explain it to us.

961
00:42:34,800 –> 00:42:39,040
Randy Black: You said to me, all adversity leads to opportunity.

962
00:42:39,040 –> 00:42:43,120
Randy Black: Be ready and grab it and take it to a new level.

963
00:42:43,320 –> 00:42:44,840
Coach Jim Clayton: Absolutely, 100%.

964
00:42:44,840 –> 00:42:50,600
Coach Jim Clayton: Okay, so sometimes when you had adversity, the biggest problem is you feel sorry for yourself.

965
00:42:50,600 –> 00:42:53,640
Coach Jim Clayton: Every time something has a setback, remember it

966
00:42:53,920 –> 00:42:58,240
Coach Jim Clayton: is going to possibly be a bigger comeback.

967
00:42:58,240 –> 00:43:00,160
Coach Jim Clayton: It all leads to opportunity.

968
00:43:00,160 –> 00:43:01,520
Coach Jim Clayton: Because you know why?

969
00:43:01,520 –> 00:43:03,040
Coach Jim Clayton: Because you learn from it

970
00:43:03,420 –> 00:43:04,460
Coach Jim Clayton: You learn from it.

971
00:43:04,460 –> 00:43:06,300
Coach Jim Clayton: And when you learn from it, what are you doing?

972
00:43:06,300 –> 00:43:07,500
Coach Jim Clayton: We’ve already talked about that.

973
00:43:07,500 –> 00:43:08,780
Coach Jim Clayton: You’re growing.

974
00:43:08,780 –> 00:43:09,740
Coach Jim Clayton: You’re growing.

975
00:43:09,740 –> 00:43:11,180
Coach Jim Clayton: So it’s like a plant.

976
00:43:11,180 –> 00:43:16,060
Coach Jim Clayton: You put a seed in the ground, everything grows down

977
00:43:16,440 –> 00:43:19,160
Coach Jim Clayton: Before that little seed pops through the earth.

978
00:43:19,160 –> 00:43:25,560
Coach Jim Clayton: And when that little seed pops through that earth, there’s way more going on beyond below it.

979
00:43:25,000 –> 00:43:26,760
Coach Jim Clayton: Then you see kind of like a glacier.

980
00:43:26,760 –> 00:43:27,080
Randy Black: Yeah.

981
00:43:27,080 –> 00:43:30,760
Coach Jim Clayton: You see the little top of it, but it’s what’s underneath that’s building.

982
00:43:31,240 –> 00:43:36,680
Coach Jim Clayton: And okay, that adversity, you know, again, we’re gonna have those things every day

983
00:43:36,700 –> 00:43:39,900
Coach Jim Clayton: Some some way of some way means shape or form.

984
00:43:39,900 –> 00:43:41,260
Coach Jim Clayton: Some bigger than others.

985
00:43:41,260 –> 00:43:43,260
Coach Jim Clayton: But again, it doesn’t matter what happens to you.

986
00:43:43,260 –> 00:43:44,860
Coach Jim Clayton: It just matters where you’re going to do it.

987
00:43:44,860 –> 00:43:47,100
Coach Jim Clayton: Well, what’s the opportunity out of it?

988
00:43:47,140 –> 00:43:47,940
Coach Jim Clayton: What didn’t I get?

989
00:43:48,100 –> 00:43:49,780
Coach Jim Clayton: See, no people’s looking for the opportunity.

990
00:43:49,780 –> 00:43:50,100
Right.

991
00:43:50,100 –> 00:43:52,900
Coach Jim Clayton: They’re feeling sorry for themselves because of the adversity.

992
00:43:52,900 –> 00:44:01,380
Coach Jim Clayton: Well, if you just hold on a second, patience, patience, goldfish, patience, okay, you’ll see the opportunity.

993
00:44:01,140 –> 00:44:03,460
Coach Jim Clayton: You’ll see the opportunity.

994
00:44:03,460 –> 00:44:04,260
Coach Jim Clayton: Okay?

995
00:44:04,260 –> 00:44:06,980
Coach Jim Clayton: And sometimes it comes quick.

996
00:44:06,980 –> 00:44:09,539
Coach Jim Clayton: Sometimes it doesn’t come quick.

997
00:44:09,539 –> 00:44:10,339
Coach Jim Clayton: Okay?

998
00:44:10,339 –> 00:44:15,539
Coach Jim Clayton: But when you think of things, you know, I know on my cancer journey.

999
00:44:15,060 –> 00:44:25,860
Coach Jim Clayton: I have learned and grown in areas because of that adversity that I’m suffering suffered from when I first heard it

1000
00:44:25,940 –> 00:44:27,780
Coach Jim Clayton: That I never would have grown.

1001
00:44:27,780 –> 00:44:29,220
Coach Jim Clayton: I’m a better person.

1002
00:44:29,220 –> 00:44:31,700
Coach Jim Clayton: Now, do I wish I didn’t have cancer?

1003
00:44:31,700 –> 00:44:32,660
Coach Jim Clayton: 100%.

1004
00:44:32,660 –> 00:44:33,380
Randy Black: Yeah.

1005
00:44:33,380 –> 00:44:35,220
Coach Jim Clayton: But it doesn’t matter what happens to you.

1006
00:44:35,220 –> 00:44:37,140
Coach Jim Clayton: It just matters what are you gonna do about it.

1007
00:44:37,540 –> 00:44:40,660
Coach Jim Clayton: And all the things we talked about tonight.

1008
00:44:41,180 –> 00:44:44,300
Coach Jim Clayton: All play into that right there.

1009
00:44:44,300 –> 00:44:44,780
Randy Black: Yeah.

1010
00:44:44,780 –> 00:44:45,980
Coach Jim Clayton: End of story.

1011
00:44:45,980 –> 00:44:47,260
Coach Jim Clayton: End of game.

1012
00:44:47,260 –> 00:44:48,380
Coach Jim Clayton: Game over.

1013
00:44:48,380 –> 00:44:49,180
Coach Jim Clayton: Victory.

1014
00:44:49,180 –> 00:44:50,220
Coach Jim Clayton: You got it?

1015
00:44:50,220 –> 00:44:51,100
Coach Jim Clayton: Nice game.

1016
00:44:51,100 –> 00:44:51,820
Coach Jim Clayton: Nice game.

1017
00:44:51,820 –> 00:44:53,100
Coach Jim Clayton: Nice game.

1018
00:44:52,840 –> 00:44:54,440
Coach Jim Clayton: I love the victories.

1019
00:44:54,440 –> 00:45:00,840
Coach Jim Clayton: And the last thing I’m going to tell you is, and I don’t know if I mentioned this or not, because sometimes my brain bounces.

1020
00:45:00,840 –> 00:45:04,040
Coach Jim Clayton: But in the world today, 24 out.

1021
00:45:04,040 –> 00:45:06,600
Coach Jim Clayton: Here’s what I know, 100%.

1022
00:45:06,700 –> 00:45:11,980
Coach Jim Clayton: You’re going to have more little victories today than you did today.

1023
00:45:12,620 –> 00:45:16,780
Coach Jim Clayton: And if you don’t pay attention to the little victories,

1024
00:45:17,580 –> 00:45:19,740
Coach Jim Clayton: Don’t worry about the big victory.

1025
00:45:19,740 –> 00:45:20,540
Randy Black: Yep.

1026
00:45:20,860 –> 00:45:23,740
Coach Jim Clayton: Adversity, opportunity.

1027
00:45:23,740 –> 00:45:25,980
Coach Jim Clayton: Little victories, big victories.

1028
00:45:26,300 –> 00:45:27,900
Coach Jim Clayton: And they all work what?

1029
00:45:27,920 –> 00:45:28,800
Coach Jim Clayton: Hand in hand.

1030
00:45:28,800 –> 00:45:29,200
Randy Black: Exactly.

1031
00:45:29,200 –> 00:45:33,440
Coach Jim Clayton: And they will forever if you know how to handle.

1032
00:45:33,440 –> 00:45:34,640
Randy Black: Awesome.

1033
00:45:34,640 –> 00:45:42,560
Randy Black: So real quick, let’s wrap up what we’ve talked about t on this episode and uh then we’ll uh head in uh for closing it up.

1034
00:45:42,300 –> 00:45:45,260
Randy Black: uh and preview a little bit what we might be talking about on the next one.

1035
00:45:45,260 –> 00:45:46,780
Randy Black: So real quick, let’s talk about it.

1036
00:45:46,780 –> 00:45:51,100
Randy Black: Resilience is how you bounce, not whether you fall.

1037
00:45:51,100 –> 00:45:54,140
Randy Black: It’s how you bounce back from the setback that has happened.

1038
00:45:54,140 –> 00:45:57,020
Randy Black: And everybody faces setbacks.

1039
00:45:56,420 –> 00:46:01,860
Randy Black: It’s what you do next that defines you and sets you on the right path.

1040
00:46:01,860 –> 00:46:02,420
Randy Black: 100%.

1041
00:46:02,420 –> 00:46:04,500
Randy Black: We talked about the seven C’s of resilience.

1042
00:46:04,500 –> 00:46:05,940
Randy Black: Jimmy went through those.

1043
00:46:05,600 –> 00:46:08,880
Randy Black: And we also talked about those four pillars of resilience.

1044
00:46:08,880 –> 00:46:14,000
Randy Black: So some great things we’ve we’ve covered on this episode here of Shooting It Straight.

1045
00:46:14,000 –> 00:46:16,560
Randy Black: Next week we’re going to go and look at resilience a bit more.

1046
00:46:16,560 –> 00:46:18,160
Randy Black: We’re going to talk about the idea of

1047
00:46:18,320 –> 00:46:20,000
Randy Black: Can you teach resilience?

1048
00:46:20,000 –> 00:46:25,360
Randy Black: Is that something that a person can can can show someone else how to do and what to do?

1049
00:46:25,360 –> 00:46:27,920
Randy Black: We’re going to talk about things that might get in the way

1050
00:46:27,960 –> 00:46:30,360
Randy Black: of an individual being able to be resilient.

1051
00:46:30,360 –> 00:46:37,160
Randy Black: And then we’re going to kind of close out and talk about what mentally strong people do that’s different from others.

1052
00:46:37,160 –> 00:46:40,600
Randy Black: So there’s a preview of what we’re going to talk about on the next episode.

1053
00:46:41,180 –> 00:46:43,020
Randy Black: Shooting it straight.

1054
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Randy Black: I’m Randy Black, my co-host, Jim Glyden.

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Randy Black: And we’re going to sign off.

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Randy Black: So have a great week, everybody.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Spotlight don’t make you, it reveals you.

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Coach Jim Clayton: So when light turns up the heat, don’t flink.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And remember, keep shooting straight.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Bam son