Keep Going: Voices That Remind Us Why We Don’t Quit (Part 2)

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Coach Jim Clayton: Bam son!

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Coach Jim Clayton: This is Shoot It Straight, the podcast where life blessings don’t come sugar-coated and excuses get bitched.

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Randy Black: I’m Randy Black, podcast guy, professional question asker, and apparently the only one here who doesn’t yell bam!

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Coach Jim Clayton: Well we’re working on that Randy.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I’m Jim Clayton, coach, mentor, motivator, and the guy who still thinks a whistle may be the best motivational tool known to man.

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Randy Black: Each week we’re taking what Jim’s learned from the court.

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Randy Black: The drills, the discipline, the drive, and translating it into real-world success.

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Coach Jim Clayton: That’s right.

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Coach Jim Clayton: This ain’t just about basketball.

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Coach Jim Clayton: It’s about showing up when life presses full court.

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Coach Jim Clayton: It’s about pushing through when the clock’s ticking down.

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Randy Black: If you’re looking for flood,

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Randy Black: Well, you might just want to ride the bench.

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Coach Jim Clayton: We’re here to help you believe bigger, achieve louder, and motivate strong.

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Coach Jim Clayton: So buckle up and whatever you do, keep shooting it straight.

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Randy Black: Bam, son

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Randy Black: Welcome back to Shooting It Straight.

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Randy Black: I am Randy Black, joined by my co-host, Ghost Jill Clayton, and we are coming to you once again.

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Randy Black: From the Sports City U Studio in Hurricane, West Virginia.

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Randy Black: And when we would go and record live, you can listen to it right there.

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Randy Black: In our last episode, we started unpacking what resilience really looks like through powerful quotes from some truly inspiring people.

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Randy Black: And today, we’re picking up right where we left off.

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Randy Black: We’ve got five more quotes that go deep into what it takes to keep going when things get hard.

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Randy Black: These aren’t just words.

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Randy Black: They’re hard-won truths from people who’ve been through the fire

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Randy Black: You’ll hear everything from ancient wisdom to modern grit, all reminding us that real strength comes from within.

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Randy Black: And sometimes from those moments when we feel like we’ve got nothing left.

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Randy Black: So Jim, let’s jump back in and keep going on this conversation about grit and look at our next quote.

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Randy Black: The next quote is a Japanese proverb that I came across.

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Randy Black: And this is a traditional Japanese proverb.

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Randy Black: It reflects a a cultural value deeply rooted in the samurai and the martial arts teachings of the people.

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Randy Black: It emphasizes persist persistence and emotional endurance.

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Randy Black: And it’s rooted in those those beliefs about those martial arts and about persistence uh or a persistent effort in the face of repeated failure.

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Randy Black: And that proverb says this.

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Randy Black: Fall seven times, stand up eight.

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Randy Black: Why is perseverance

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Randy Black: Resilience, getting back up.

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Randy Black: Why is that a habit and not just a moment that occurs?

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Randy Black: What do you think?

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Coach Jim Clayton: Well, because perseverance is, you know, believing in yourself.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Okay.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Okay, and if you don’t believe in yourself, don’t expect anybody else to either.

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Coach Jim Clayton: So when things happen, whatever that is

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Coach Jim Clayton: There’s always a better way to do it again.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Not give up.

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Randy Black: Right.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Remember, the greatest the biggest room most people want to be in is the room of success, not of failure.

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Coach Jim Clayton: All right, but see, the majority of people think, if you ask them, that success and failure are are opposites.

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Coach Jim Clayton: They’re not.

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Coach Jim Clayton: They run side by side down the highway of life.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And you can’t really have one without the other.

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Randy Black: Right.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And see people go, well I never thought about like that.

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Randy Black: The people who are the most successful have failed more than anybody else.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Oh my are you kidding me?

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Coach Jim Clayton: I mean over and over and over and over and they just what?

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Coach Jim Clayton: They don’t give up

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Coach Jim Clayton: They go, what happened?

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Coach Jim Clayton: What what caused this problem?

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Coach Jim Clayton: How am I gonna fix it?

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Coach Jim Clayton: You know what I mean?

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Coach Jim Clayton: And how am I gonna get it right back right now?

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Coach Jim Clayton: What are we gonna do?

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Coach Jim Clayton: We’re not gonna wait a week, a month, a year to get, we’re gonna put it back on track right now.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And, you know, it comes also back to people’s mentality where you they say, well, I’m not ready.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Well, if you’re who’s ready?

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Randy Black: You’ll never be ready.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Yeah, you’re never gonna be ready.

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Coach Jim Clayton: So

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Coach Jim Clayton: A year later go, I’m still not ready.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Well that means it’s called the law of diminishing intent.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Diminish means go down and intent means you were going to do it.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And what that says is this

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Coach Jim Clayton: The longer you wait to do what you’re supposed to do, the less likely it’s ever going to happen.

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Randy Black: Yes, very much so.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And we’ve all gone down that road at some time in our life.

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Coach Jim Clayton: But you know, it’s like measure twice, cut once.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Mm-hmm.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Okay, so those types of things.

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Coach Jim Clayton: So I always said when you f get knocked down, you know, if you can look up, you can get up.

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Randy Black: Yeah

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Coach Jim Clayton: And the question is, how bad do you really want to get up?

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Randy Black: Well, it’s it’s kind of like you you you have to train yourself to keep going

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Randy Black: You can’t just let things happen.

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Randy Black: You’ve got to train yourself to keep pushing forward, to keep moving forward, to keep trying to bounce back from what life has put at you that may be a stumbling block

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Randy Black: Well, perseverance is not an automatic response.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I mean it’s something that you got to develop over time.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And that takes repetition.

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Coach Jim Clayton: That takes you know reps, reps, reps.

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Coach Jim Clayton: It doesn’t matter what it is, and then it becomes a habit.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Now what’s a habit?

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Coach Jim Clayton: A habit is something that you do without thinking.

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Randy Black: And it’s it’s those small habits as you work them and build them

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Randy Black: They compound to become the giant habits that lead your life.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Oh, you are so right.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I call those little victories.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And every day

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Coach Jim Clayton: We can get a bunch of those little victories.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And that helps build your confidence.

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Coach Jim Clayton: That helps build everything that you want around that, your culture, you know, all that stuff.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And then them little victories, guess what?

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Coach Jim Clayton: One day.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Oh man, you’re gonna knock it out apart.

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Randy Black: Oh yeah.

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Coach Jim Clayton: It’s gonna be the biggest victory you’ve ever seen in your life.

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Coach Jim Clayton: But see everybody thinks that stuff happens overnight.

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Randy Black: No, no, no.

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Coach Jim Clayton: It does not happen overnight.

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Coach Jim Clayton: You have to have you have to have the repetition.

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Randy Black: You have to have the practice.

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Randy Black: You have to

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Randy Black: to to to to build all those up to be able to be able to do that daily.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Oh there’s no question about it.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And you know, in our world everybody wants to I want to be where you are today.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Mm-hmm.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Well my question is are you willing to do what I did to get where I am?

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Coach Jim Clayton: Well, 90% of the time, guess what the answer is?

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Coach Jim Clayton: No.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I just want what you ain’t gonna happen.

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Coach Jim Clayton: There’s just certain things in life that you can’t buy and you can’t put yourself in.

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Coach Jim Clayton: You have to go through it to make it happen

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Coach Jim Clayton: You have to pay the price and you gotta go through the process.

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Randy Black: Right.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And everybody in the world that is successful

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Coach Jim Clayton: They’ve been through the process, which takes what you just said, time, and they paid the price.

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Coach Jim Clayton: So the bottom line here is this.

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Coach Jim Clayton: If you’re not willing to reinvest in yourself,

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Coach Jim Clayton: Well, you filled in the blank.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Neither is anybody else.

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Randy Black: Right.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And that’s the thing.

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Coach Jim Clayton: What are you doing to grow?

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Coach Jim Clayton: What are you doing to get better?

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Coach Jim Clayton: Because remember, success, which is what we all want.

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Coach Jim Clayton: It’s a complacency disease.

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Randy Black: Yes.

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Coach Jim Clayton: It’s comfort zone style.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I just stay where I am because everything’s going so good.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Well, that’s when you better start paying attention.

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Coach Jim Clayton: When things are going well.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Okay, well most people don’t.

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Coach Jim Clayton: They only pay attention when things are going bad.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Yeah.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Okay, you can see things start to happen

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Coach Jim Clayton: You can see shifts starting to develop.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And then all of a sudden, bam.

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Coach Jim Clayton: You know, it happens.

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Coach Jim Clayton: You go, what the heck happened here?

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Randy Black: Here’s an interesting way I think we can look at it.

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Randy Black: You know, you and I both were educators.

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Randy Black: And there’s been a big shift in education over the last decade, 15 years to move more toward mastery rather than that classic A through F grading scale.

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Randy Black: And mastery isn’t something that happens overnight.

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Randy Black: The same, you know, when you look at not just students and and and learning, but look at athletes

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Randy Black: They have to practice.

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Randy Black: Musicians have to practice.

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Randy Black: Professionals have to hone their skills at whatever it is they’re doing.

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Randy Black: I can’t just walk in and look at a computer in my job now that I’ve never seen before and go, oh yeah, we just take this off and it fixes it.

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Randy Black: I’ve got to take the time to learn what’s there, what parts, what components.

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Randy Black: And that’s me taking the time to master my skill set.

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Randy Black: for that specific moment.

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Randy Black: And it’s no different.

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Randy Black: We all have to do that for whatever we’re doing in life if we want to be able to be able to to reach that level of mastery.

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Randy Black: to reach that level of being able to persevere, to be able to be resilient, um, even after setback after setback after setback.

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Coach Jim Clayton: It doesn’t matter what happens to you.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Mm-hmm.

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Coach Jim Clayton: It just matters what you gonna do about it.

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Randy Black: Yes.

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Coach Jim Clayton: That’s the bottom line.

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Coach Jim Clayton: What you gonna do about it?

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Coach Jim Clayton: Mm-hmm

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Coach Jim Clayton: Well, some people are gonna tuck their tail and run in opposite direction.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And some people are gonna they’re they’re gonna stand there knee deep in the crap and they’re gonna fight the fire.

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Randy Black: Yes.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And that’s what good true leaders do.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Leadership is an action, not a position.

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Coach Jim Clayton: So they’re gonna step up.

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Coach Jim Clayton: They’re gonna step out.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Okay?

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Coach Jim Clayton: They’re gonna step into the problem.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Well, see, everybody’s not willing to do that, but everybody wants that.

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Coach Jim Clayton: It’s like you think about in the army, a master sergeant.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Mm-hmm.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Woo

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Coach Jim Clayton: You know, you’ve seen the movie, you’ve seen those movies where those master sergeants are busting.

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Coach Jim Clayton: They’re busting those guys, you know, because what?

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Coach Jim Clayton: They’re trying to bring out the best.

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Randy Black: Yes.

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Coach Jim Clayton: So, you know, it it’s everybody does when you first start out, you’re not gonna be your best.

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Coach Jim Clayton: If you’re still doing the same thing

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Coach Jim Clayton: Now you’ve been doing 10 years ago and you haven’t developed anything new.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I can tell you what you’re in.

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Coach Jim Clayton: It’s called a rut.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Same old, same old.

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Randy Black: You are wasting your time.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Oh my gosh

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Randy Black: You are probably digging that rut deeper.

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Randy Black: It might even be past the point of being a rut to be in a ditch.

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Randy Black: It might even be the point of being a hole.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And you know, sometimes when in that rut, we just talked about this earlier, is in those rut times for me, that’s where my creative juices flow the most.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Not when times are going good, I’m thinking like, okay, what’s the next step?

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Randy Black: Yes.

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Coach Jim Clayton: What is I and sometimes I can’t think of that

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Coach Jim Clayton: And then all of a sudden I get into something, and then here them ideas start flowing.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Woo!

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Coach Jim Clayton: I mean there’s so many of them.

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Coach Jim Clayton: If I don’t write them down, I’ve forgotten.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Mm-hmm.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And that’s what happens to people.

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Coach Jim Clayton: You know, sometimes you gotta get in that, but to get out of it, you gotta get in it.

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Randy Black: Yeah.

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Coach Jim Clayton: But you gotta know how to get out of it and you can’t quit.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Can’t have that, oh I feel sorry, but myself

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Coach Jim Clayton: Well, you know, you can’t be pitiful and powerful at the same time.

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Coach Jim Clayton: All of us in this world have our little pity moments.

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Coach Jim Clayton: But they can’t be 24 hours.

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Randy Black: No.

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Coach Jim Clayton: They might be 24 seconds.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Then you reach up there and go, flick, okay, end of conversation.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Let’s go.

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Coach Jim Clayton: We’re moving.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Okay, I had my moment.

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Coach Jim Clayton: That’s done.

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Coach Jim Clayton: You have to be strong.

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Coach Jim Clayton: You got to be.

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Coach Jim Clayton: You have to be

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Coach Jim Clayton: And you gotta have a backbone instead of a wristbone.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Yeah.

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Coach Jim Clayton: See, there’s a big difference.

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Randy Black: And that that idea of being strong kind of takes us into our next quote on our list here.

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Randy Black: Uh Bob Marley.

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Randy Black: Bob Marley was a Jamaican singer and songwriter.

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Randy Black: He helped bring reggae and the message of peace and resistance to international audiences.

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Randy Black: And he continued touring and recording despite receiving a terminal cancer diagnosis.

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Randy Black: And cancer, I know, Jim, you hate that word.

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Randy Black: I hate it.

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Randy Black: And well what this quote is, there’s there’s nowhere I can find that this quote is actually shown to be from, Marley, but it’s often attributed to it.

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Randy Black: And the idea here is it’s it’s tied to his choice to continue performing through that illness, and it speaks to discovering strength.

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Randy Black: What we just talked about there.

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Randy Black: through necessity.

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Randy Black: And that quote is, you never know how strong you are until being strong is your only choice.

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Randy Black: Strength by necessity.

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Randy Black: That’s that’s you know that’s that’s what’s sticking out to me here.

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Randy Black: What’s that look like in daily life for people?

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Coach Jim Clayton: What do you think, Jim?

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Coach Jim Clayton: Well, that quote right there is exactly pretty much what I live by daily.

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Coach Jim Clayton: You know, I’ve been diagnosed with stage four cancer and you know a lot of people they just think that’s a death notice, you’re just wasting, you know, you got time left, that’s it

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Coach Jim Clayton: Uh-uh.

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Coach Jim Clayton: That ain’t working for me.

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Coach Jim Clayton: That’s not going to define me.

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Coach Jim Clayton: But so what happens is when I come to the gym every day, we’re in the gym.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And I’ve been here working people out, motivating them, getting them fired up, sharing stories with them.

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Coach Jim Clayton: All my problems, I still got them, but they’re in the parking lot.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Yeah

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Coach Jim Clayton: I left them in here.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Don’t carry them in through the door.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I’m not carrying them in.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And I’m moving and shaking.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Maybe not as fast as I used to, but hell, I’m 70 years old.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Nobody moves and shakes at 70 like you did when you were 20.

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Coach Jim Clayton: But I’m moving and I’m putting one foot in front of the other and I’m not even thinking about that.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Now my doctors have told me they said hey coach

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Coach Jim Clayton: That has helped more than anything that you’re moving, that you’re shaking, that you’re active, that you’re not sitting around, you know what I mean, feeling sorry for yourself.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Well, it’s the same thing.

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Coach Jim Clayton: You know, it’s the same thing.

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Coach Jim Clayton: You gotta keep on going.

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Randy Black: Right

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Coach Jim Clayton: You know, I got things to do, you know, and I ain’t got time to be waiting around.

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Coach Jim Clayton: So, you know what I’m doing?

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Coach Jim Clayton: I’m doing everything I can to fix this issue

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Coach Jim Clayton: Yes.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And it lot you know a lot of it, like I said, right there, mentally.

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Coach Jim Clayton: It’s a mindset.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Being strong is a mindset

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Coach Jim Clayton: You know, and you look at these guys like look at a bodybuilder.

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Coach Jim Clayton: At one time he was a scrawny little skinny kid.

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Randy Black: Yeah.

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Coach Jim Clayton: How do you get like that?

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Coach Jim Clayton: Because he started working out.

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Coach Jim Clayton: He started to understand the m muscular system, how building muscles developed.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And he kept doing it.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And he kept doing it.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Well she kept doing it.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And now you look at him and go, woo

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Coach Jim Clayton: Well, that didn’t happen overnight.

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Coach Jim Clayton: You can’t buy.

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Coach Jim Clayton: That’s a product of repetition.

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Coach Jim Clayton: That’s a product of discipline.

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Coach Jim Clayton: That’s a product of desire.

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Coach Jim Clayton: That’s a product that I’m not giving up.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And you see, that’s the thing.

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Coach Jim Clayton: That’s when the strong just keep getting stronger.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And the flip side of that is the same thing.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And the weak sometimes, guess what?

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Coach Jim Clayton: They keep getting weaker.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Yeah.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And and that’s how I do it.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I mean it’s that that’s just gotta be your it’s and that’s a mindset.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And that’s not something that’s gonna show up every day because

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Coach Jim Clayton: I see I got that mindset.

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Coach Jim Clayton: It’s gonna be there automatically.

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Randy Black: No, it’s not there automatically.

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Randy Black: It’s not.

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Randy Black: We talked about it.

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Randy Black: We talked about how that resilience isn’t an innate skill.

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Randy Black: You have to learn it.

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Randy Black: You have to teach it.

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Randy Black: It’s it, you know, what what some people may view as resilience being instinctive, it may come across that way

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Randy Black: But the experience and how you move with it and from it is going to take that and cultivate it and make it stronger.

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Randy Black: It’s going to make that so that you are using the experience, you’re reflecting on it, and you’re using the support around you to learn from it to make your situation better.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Well, there’s no question.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And I like for me, I’ve been stuck on these I’ve been watching these reels.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And I’ve been watching these reels about people

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Coach Jim Clayton: Just normal people in life that are not willing to accept things.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I watched one yesterday about a little girl named Sarah, and she ran a little restaurant.

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Coach Jim Clayton: on an army base.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And all she wanted was to create a little atmosphere where the soldiers could come in, whether they were active or veters

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Coach Jim Clayton: They had a place, you know what I mean, where they can sit down comfortably, relax, talk to people, do whatever, not a pressure situation.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Well, all of a sudden one day she’s in there and the health inspector showed up

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Coach Jim Clayton: And one gentleman was a vet and he had a service dog with him.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And lady the guy comes in there with his clipboards.

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Coach Jim Clayton: You know how I know what that’s like.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And he goes, well, you know, uh, you can’t have a dog in here.

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Coach Jim Clayton: She said, that’s a service though.

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Coach Jim Clayton: She says, well you got to tell him to leave.

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Coach Jim Clayton: We’re going to shut you down.

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Coach Jim Clayton: She says, that dog’s not leaving.

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Coach Jim Clayton: You are.

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Coach Jim Clayton: About that time the supervisor comes in.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Okay?

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Coach Jim Clayton: And he said, that’s a veteran.

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Coach Jim Clayton: That guy’s fought for your.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Freedom.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And that’s his service dog.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I don’t care if it’s a service dog or no.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I’m thinking to myself, oh, how’s this gonna play out?

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Coach Jim Clayton: Well, all of a sudden, somebody was there filming that

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Coach Jim Clayton: They sent it to the general.

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Coach Jim Clayton: All of a sudden, man, because it was right there at the base, on the outside of the base, five seconds

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Coach Jim Clayton: Here comes about five or six hum bees.

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Coach Jim Clayton: They make a noise when they’re coming down the road.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Everybody’s looking like, what’s that noise

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Coach Jim Clayton: Here he comes in dressed in his, I mean, to the tip.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And I mean, I’m thinking, oh, this is gonna be good.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And

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Coach Jim Clayton: You know, so anyway, then the boss comes in and he’s talking to them and everything.

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Coach Jim Clayton: The boss comes in and says, Sarah, I hate to say, but you’re gonna be fired.

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Coach Jim Clayton: She just looks at it, walks out.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Now she’s fired for doing the right thing.

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Coach Jim Clayton: That’s what I’m watching.

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Coach Jim Clayton: How is this going to play out?

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Coach Jim Clayton: Because some people need to do the right thing.

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Coach Jim Clayton: They don’t have guts and courage or strength to do the right thing.

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Coach Jim Clayton: They fall victim to the prut.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And so he comes in, he says, gives her a letter, says, you might as well sit down when you read this.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And

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Coach Jim Clayton: She owes a letter.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And it’s an invitation, which don’t come very often from the Army, for an outside person to come in and take over a program that they’re looking to.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Developed.

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Coach Jim Clayton: They weren’t looking at her because of their status or whatever.

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Coach Jim Clayton: They’re looking at her what she had done.

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Coach Jim Clayton: What she had created created an atmosphere, right?

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Coach Jim Clayton: Mm-hmm.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Where

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Coach Jim Clayton: The veterans, the service that could come where they felt comfortable because a lot of their scars don’t always show up when they come back.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Yes.

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Coach Jim Clayton: They’re years later where they come out.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And they don’t have anybody to talk to.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And I watch that thing.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And every time I watch these things, every night, I watch them every night, one before I go to bed.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Man, it just brings me to tears.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I mean, I know not tears of sadness.

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Coach Jim Clayton: But tears of joy.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Because she did the right thing.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And you know what?

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Coach Jim Clayton: They made that space and guess what?

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Coach Jim Clayton: That that veteran with that service dog

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Coach Jim Clayton: He still comes.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Nice.

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Coach Jim Clayton: To this.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And he sits in the corner.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And the dog lays down.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Now there’s other service dogs that have come in.

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Coach Jim Clayton: More, and it’s packed.

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Coach Jim Clayton: The place is packed.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Now they’re looking to put that type of situation all over the country where

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Coach Jim Clayton: Military bases aren’t stuck.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Right.

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Coach Jim Clayton: All because of one little young lady named Sarah who had the guts and the courage to do the right thing.

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Randy Black: Nice.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And I watch that kind of stuff.

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Coach Jim Clayton: See, that motivates me, not negative, negative, negative, negative.

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Coach Jim Clayton: So I want to see what people do when their box gets walked.

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Coach Jim Clayton: She says, you’re fired.

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Coach Jim Clayton: She didn’t try to argue.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Okay, no, no, no, no.

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Coach Jim Clayton: She just walked right out the door.

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Randy Black: Yeah.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And great things were about to happen that she didn’t know was going to happen.

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Coach Jim Clayton: That happens to a lot of people.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Great things are going to happen to you that you don’t know is going to happen if you got the guts and the courage to what?

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Coach Jim Clayton: Keep on going.

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Randy Black: Stay strong.

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Randy Black: One one last thing with that, with this idea of of you know, being strong when it’s your only choice is that, you know, for a lot of people, when they think of being strong

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Randy Black: They think that’s just themselves, that it’s internal only, that it’s not something they can rely on other people, but that’s just simply not the case.

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Randy Black: Strength doesn’t mean isolation

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Randy Black: No.

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Randy Black: Strength is sometimes having the courage to admit I can’t do this on my own and asking someone else for help.

414
00:20:22,940 –> 00:20:24,299
Randy Black: That’s a huge thing.

415
00:20:24,299 –> 00:20:29,260
Randy Black: That’s a huge sign of strength being able to reach out and ask someone, please help me.

416
00:20:29,260 –> 00:20:30,700
Coach Jim Clayton: And people struggle with that.

417
00:20:31,740 –> 00:20:34,620
Coach Jim Clayton: Especially people, sometimes I struggle with that.

418
00:20:34,960 –> 00:20:38,320
Coach Jim Clayton: Because in my life, I’m used to being the opposite.

419
00:20:38,320 –> 00:20:38,720
Coach Jim Clayton: Right.

420
00:20:38,720 –> 00:20:40,960
Coach Jim Clayton: I’m used to giving the help.

421
00:20:40,960 –> 00:20:42,400
Coach Jim Clayton: So I’ve given the help.

422
00:20:42,400 –> 00:20:45,440
Coach Jim Clayton: I mean, that’s what we’re all here for, to add value to others.

423
00:20:45,140 –> 00:20:45,700
Coach Jim Clayton: Every day.

424
00:20:45,700 –> 00:20:46,740
Coach Jim Clayton: It’s not about us.

425
00:20:46,740 –> 00:20:47,380
Randy Black: Mm-hmm.

426
00:20:47,380 –> 00:20:51,540
Coach Jim Clayton: So when you add value to people every day, you had a great day.

427
00:20:51,540 –> 00:20:51,940
Coach Jim Clayton: Mm-hmm.

428
00:20:52,100 –> 00:20:53,940
Coach Jim Clayton: Then there comes a point in time where

429
00:20:54,700 –> 00:20:56,460
Coach Jim Clayton: You know, you need some help.

430
00:20:57,020 –> 00:20:58,220
Coach Jim Clayton: So I’ve noticed this.

431
00:20:58,220 –> 00:21:02,060
Coach Jim Clayton: You know, when people say, hey, if you need anything, call me.

432
00:21:02,060 –> 00:21:04,460
Coach Jim Clayton: That means they’re not going to do anything.

433
00:21:04,460 –> 00:21:05,900
Coach Jim Clayton: Got good intentions.

434
00:21:06,540 –> 00:21:08,700
Coach Jim Clayton: Now, the guy that doesn’t call you,

435
00:21:09,019 –> 00:21:10,940
Coach Jim Clayton: Like my house has been flooded.

436
00:21:10,940 –> 00:21:11,260
Coach Jim Clayton: Right.

437
00:21:11,260 –> 00:21:12,539
Coach Jim Clayton: And you know how bad that is.

438
00:21:12,539 –> 00:21:13,260
Coach Jim Clayton: Oh yeah.

439
00:21:13,260 –> 00:21:17,580
Coach Jim Clayton: Mud, nasty, funk, stink, bacteria.

440
00:21:17,720 –> 00:21:24,920
Coach Jim Clayton: The guy that doesn’t say nothing and he knocks at your door with his boots and his gloves and his shovel because what do you need?

441
00:21:24,920 –> 00:21:26,200
Coach Jim Clayton: What can I do to help?

442
00:21:26,600 –> 00:21:28,440
Coach Jim Clayton: Oh, that’s a different guy

443
00:21:29,240 –> 00:21:30,679
Coach Jim Clayton: So don’t tell me what you’re gonna do.

444
00:21:30,679 –> 00:21:32,679
Coach Jim Clayton: If somebody needs help, get in the car and go help them.

445
00:21:33,400 –> 00:21:35,320
Coach Jim Clayton: Go help them.

446
00:21:35,320 –> 00:21:37,400
Coach Jim Clayton: You know, and don’t tell me what you’re gonna do.

447
00:21:37,400 –> 00:21:38,840
Coach Jim Clayton: That means you ain’t gonna do nothing.

448
00:21:38,840 –> 00:21:39,480
Randy Black: Right.

449
00:21:39,480 –> 00:21:40,200
Randy Black: I agree.

450
00:21:40,200 –> 00:21:43,559
Coach Jim Clayton: But then you go, well, I I I I offered.

451
00:21:43,240 –> 00:21:47,080
Coach Jim Clayton: Well see some people are gonna say, hey, I need you to come over here and do this.

452
00:21:47,080 –> 00:21:50,440
Coach Jim Clayton: So they show up.

453
00:21:50,440 –> 00:21:55,480
Coach Jim Clayton: You know, I had one of my buddies, my best friend, shows up the other day with a piece of strawberry pie.

454
00:21:55,480 –> 00:21:56,840
Coach Jim Clayton: I like strawberry pie.

455
00:21:56,840 –> 00:21:57,960
Randy Black: Yeah.

456
00:21:57,460 –> 00:22:00,820
Coach Jim Clayton: And now strawberries are out season, so you can’t buy them strawberry pie.

457
00:22:00,820 –> 00:22:03,380
Coach Jim Clayton: Like at Bob Adams, Jim’s head, you know what I mean?

458
00:22:03,620 –> 00:22:05,860
Coach Jim Clayton: I’m going, man, what’d you do this for?

459
00:22:05,860 –> 00:22:08,420
Coach Jim Clayton: I’m just sitting at the table, totally unexpected.

460
00:22:08,980 –> 00:22:12,260
Coach Jim Clayton: Because man, I s I I went and got one of these.

461
00:22:12,120 –> 00:22:15,240
Coach Jim Clayton: And I know you love strawberry pie.

462
00:22:15,240 –> 00:22:19,960
Coach Jim Clayton: And I knew as soon as I brought it here, he was going to go right to the get to get to four.

463
00:22:19,960 –> 00:22:21,320
Coach Jim Clayton: And by God, he did.

464
00:22:21,320 –> 00:22:22,600
Coach Jim Clayton: And guess what?

465
00:22:22,460 –> 00:22:25,900
Coach Jim Clayton: And I mean I defired that thing like it was gone.

466
00:22:25,900 –> 00:22:26,460
Randy Black: Oh, I’m sure.

467
00:22:26,620 –> 00:22:28,300
Coach Jim Clayton: He goes, Oh, I guess you like that.

468
00:22:28,300 –> 00:22:30,220
Coach Jim Clayton: I said, Well, can you tell?

469
00:22:30,620 –> 00:22:31,260
Coach Jim Clayton: Nothing left.

470
00:22:31,260 –> 00:22:32,380
Coach Jim Clayton: But I mean stuff like that.

471
00:22:32,380 –> 00:22:35,020
Coach Jim Clayton: You do things unexpected and you don’t announce it.

472
00:22:36,360 –> 00:22:40,360
Coach Jim Clayton: And see that’s what that’s that’s when I’m saying about somebody help.

473
00:22:40,360 –> 00:22:43,400
Coach Jim Clayton: Some people just don’t go, hey, hey, hey, I need you, can you do this for me?

474
00:22:43,400 –> 00:22:44,200
Coach Jim Clayton: Can you do that for me?

475
00:22:44,680 –> 00:22:46,360
Coach Jim Clayton: I’m still I’ll still struggle with that.

476
00:22:46,360 –> 00:22:48,360
Randy Black: Like it’s you know, as

477
00:22:49,019 –> 00:22:52,139
Randy Black: And it’s it’s gonna I’ll get I’ll get her back around to it here.

478
00:22:52,139 –> 00:22:58,220
Randy Black: As a as myself, as a Christian, you know, people will ask, you know, pray for me, pray for me.

479
00:22:58,220 –> 00:22:59,019
Randy Black: And I’ll pray for anybody.

480
00:22:59,019 –> 00:22:59,659
Randy Black: That’s not a problem.

481
00:23:00,460 –> 00:23:02,380
Randy Black: But it is so hard for me

482
00:23:02,640 –> 00:23:04,640
Randy Black: To ask somebody to pray for me.

483
00:23:04,640 –> 00:23:08,160
Randy Black: Like it’s it’s it’s one of those it’s a hurdle that I’ve got to get over.

484
00:23:08,160 –> 00:23:10,640
Randy Black: And it’s the same the same idea, you know?

485
00:23:10,660 –> 00:23:13,300
Randy Black: For me to say, hey, I have this going on.

486
00:23:13,300 –> 00:23:14,660
Randy Black: Can you pray for me?

487
00:23:14,660 –> 00:23:15,940
Randy Black: That’s that’s tough.

488
00:23:15,940 –> 00:23:17,620
Randy Black: Because it’s not who I’ve ever been.

489
00:23:17,620 –> 00:23:21,540
Randy Black: I’ve always been so, I gotta be strong, I gotta be able to handle this on my own.

490
00:23:21,540 –> 00:23:22,980
Randy Black: And I see now that

491
00:23:23,240 –> 00:23:24,520
Randy Black: It just doesn’t work.

492
00:23:24,920 –> 00:23:31,880
Randy Black: And it’s it’s it’s helping me to to come out of that shell a little bit, to be able to ask for the help, to be able to say, Hey, can you pray for me?

493
00:23:31,880 –> 00:23:32,360
Coach Jim Clayton: Oh yeah.

494
00:23:32,360 –> 00:23:36,680
Coach Jim Clayton: And so you know when I see stuff, I see people that need prayer automatically, boom, I’m in.

495
00:23:36,680 –> 00:23:37,720
Coach Jim Clayton: Mm-hmm.

496
00:23:37,179 –> 00:23:39,660
Coach Jim Clayton: They didn’t invite they say, oh would you please do this for me?

497
00:23:39,660 –> 00:23:40,460
Coach Jim Clayton: They didn’t ask me.

498
00:23:40,780 –> 00:23:42,380
Coach Jim Clayton: It’s an automatic response for me.

499
00:23:42,780 –> 00:23:44,700
Coach Jim Clayton: Lord, please put your your your

500
00:23:45,240 –> 00:23:52,280
Coach Jim Clayton: Blanket of health over these people, look after ’em, care for ’em, know that they’re in good, great hands, the best hands ever.

501
00:23:52,280 –> 00:23:54,440
Coach Jim Clayton: I mean, whatever it is that you say

502
00:23:55,560 –> 00:23:59,640
Coach Jim Clayton: You know, but I’m the same way you are about that.

503
00:23:59,640 –> 00:24:03,240
Coach Jim Clayton: I’m not asking you to do it, but people will do it

504
00:24:03,260 –> 00:24:04,780
Coach Jim Clayton: Subconsciously you don’t even know.

505
00:24:05,020 –> 00:24:05,660
Randy Black: Yes.

506
00:24:05,660 –> 00:24:06,700
Coach Jim Clayton: You don’t even know.

507
00:24:06,700 –> 00:24:07,580
Randy Black: Mm-hmm.

508
00:24:07,580 –> 00:24:12,780
Coach Jim Clayton: And you know, it’s just it’s just I and that that never ceases to amaze me today.

509
00:24:12,780 –> 00:24:13,260
Randy Black: Right.

510
00:24:13,260 –> 00:24:18,059
Coach Jim Clayton: How many people are behind the scenes and stuff that you have no idea that are pulling for you.

511
00:24:17,960 –> 00:24:18,360
Coach Jim Clayton: Yeah.

512
00:24:18,360 –> 00:24:19,560
Coach Jim Clayton: That are pulling for it.

513
00:24:19,560 –> 00:24:22,760
Coach Jim Clayton: And I mean that’s the great thing about being an educator.

514
00:24:22,760 –> 00:24:30,200
Coach Jim Clayton: Over the years, you know, the tens of thousands of people that we’ve educated, you don’t know what they’re thinking about, say.

515
00:24:30,200 –> 00:24:31,000
Randy Black: Nope

516
00:24:31,019 –> 00:24:35,260
Coach Jim Clayton: And then all of a sudden they’ll they’ll send something to you and you go, Well thanks so much for thinking of me.

517
00:24:35,740 –> 00:24:39,179
Coach Jim Clayton: They’ll send you something back and say, I think about you every day, coach.

518
00:24:39,179 –> 00:24:40,380
Randy Black: Mm-hmm.

519
00:24:41,920 –> 00:24:49,440
Randy Black: Every once in a while I’ll get one of those Fred requests on Facebook and it’s from somebody that I had and when they were in my class as a student.

520
00:24:49,600 –> 00:24:59,760
Randy Black: And, you know, like the the best one I ever got from a message from one of them was, you know, when I was in your class, I didn’t like you.

521
00:25:00,280 –> 00:25:01,880
Randy Black: And I said, okay.

522
00:25:01,880 –> 00:25:04,760
Randy Black: And they said, but I get it now.

523
00:25:04,760 –> 00:25:06,760
Randy Black: I understand what you were doing.

524
00:25:06,760 –> 00:25:09,400
Randy Black: You were trying to help us be ready for the future.

525
00:25:09,620 –> 00:25:10,660
Randy Black: I said, okay.

526
00:25:10,660 –> 00:25:12,180
Randy Black: I said, I appreciate that.

527
00:25:12,180 –> 00:25:17,860
Randy Black: And it’s it’s it’s a powerful thing when when somebody comes back to you and says, you changed something in me.

528
00:25:17,860 –> 00:25:23,460
Randy Black: It’s it it feels so good that you you helped guide them in a way that helped them in their life.

529
00:25:22,760 –> 00:25:26,679
Coach Jim Clayton: Oh yeah, and you’ve got so m so many of those that you don’t even know about.

530
00:25:26,679 –> 00:25:27,960
Randy Black: Yeah.

531
00:25:27,960 –> 00:25:30,840
Coach Jim Clayton: But you look at some of them and you go, Oh, I can see that.

532
00:25:31,320 –> 00:25:32,120
Coach Jim Clayton: I can see it.

533
00:25:32,120 –> 00:25:35,880
Coach Jim Clayton: Because, you know, for me, you know, when I look at people

534
00:25:36,320 –> 00:25:45,920
Coach Jim Clayton: And I look at players or I look at students and I coach or whatever a train or wherever I’m speaking to a group, I don’t look at you the way you want.

535
00:25:47,120 –> 00:25:48,800
Coach Jim Clayton: Everybody sees that.

536
00:25:48,800 –> 00:25:50,880
Coach Jim Clayton: I look at you the way you could be.

537
00:25:51,040 –> 00:25:56,880
Coach Jim Clayton: And then it’s my job to help you get on the right path where you can see the same vision I do.

538
00:25:57,019 –> 00:26:02,860
Coach Jim Clayton: And once you see that vision and you see a little light at the end of that tunnel, woo!

539
00:26:02,860 –> 00:26:03,260
Randy Black: Oh yeah.

540
00:26:03,260 –> 00:26:07,899
Coach Jim Clayton: You know, you get that little crack in that door, and you’re gonna kick it down.

541
00:26:07,899 –> 00:26:08,380
Randy Black: Mm-hmm

542
00:26:09,220 –> 00:26:14,420
Coach Jim Clayton: You’re gonna kick it down because you know what’s on the other side and you want to get there.

543
00:26:14,420 –> 00:26:17,220
Coach Jim Clayton: It’s like somebody running a marathon, they’re not crossing the finish line.

544
00:26:17,220 –> 00:26:17,620
Coach Jim Clayton: Yeah.

545
00:26:17,620 –> 00:26:18,980
Coach Jim Clayton: What’s the point?

546
00:26:19,019 –> 00:26:21,019
Coach Jim Clayton: Or oh, you gotta be kidding me.

547
00:26:21,019 –> 00:26:23,820
Coach Jim Clayton: I don’t care about a crawl, you had to carry me, I’m crossing.

548
00:26:25,580 –> 00:26:26,860
Coach Jim Clayton: I ain’t running no marathons.

549
00:26:26,860 –> 00:26:28,460
Coach Jim Clayton: I’m just sitting there.

550
00:26:28,300 –> 00:26:30,620
Coach Jim Clayton: I might ride my electric bike marathon.

551
00:26:30,620 –> 00:26:31,020
Coach Jim Clayton: Yeah.

552
00:26:31,020 –> 00:26:31,900
Coach Jim Clayton: I could cross that.

553
00:26:31,900 –> 00:26:33,340
Coach Jim Clayton: I can act like I’m running.

554
00:26:33,900 –> 00:26:36,300
Coach Jim Clayton: But uh, you know, I I got you, man.

555
00:26:37,040 –> 00:26:38,400
Randy Black: You’re right on it.

556
00:26:38,400 –> 00:26:47,440
Randy Black: So these first two quotes we’ve talked about this evening here kind of, you know, build us as this idea of resilience or grip from the ground up, you know, being able to

557
00:26:47,400 –> 00:26:49,640
Randy Black: You know, you fall seven times, you stand up eight.

558
00:26:49,640 –> 00:26:51,960
Randy Black: You don’t know how strong you are until it’s your only choice.

559
00:26:51,960 –> 00:26:57,960
Randy Black: The the idea that you’re you’re being able to pick yourself up and move on from those things.

560
00:26:57,760 –> 00:27:02,559
Randy Black: What we’re going to move toward now is more about mindset in a lot of ways.

561
00:27:02,559 –> 00:27:06,000
Randy Black: So our next quote is from Victor Frankel.

562
00:27:06,000 –> 00:27:12,559
Randy Black: He was an Austrian neurologist, psychologist, sorry, psychiatrist, and a Holocaust survivor.

563
00:27:12,540 –> 00:27:17,100
Randy Black: His main work, his big work was called Man’s Search for Meaning.

564
00:27:17,100 –> 00:27:22,700
Randy Black: And it remains a very powerful study of finding purpose in suffering.

565
00:27:22,919 –> 00:27:32,760
Randy Black: And from that, Frankel believed that even in the worst suffering, people could find purpose by choosing how they responded.

566
00:27:32,760 –> 00:27:34,200
Randy Black: And here’s the quote.

567
00:27:34,419 –> 00:27:42,020
Randy Black: When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves.

568
00:27:42,580 –> 00:27:42,820
Randy Black: Wow.

569
00:27:43,860 –> 00:27:44,179
Randy Black: So

570
00:27:45,000 –> 00:27:50,120
Randy Black: The idea here would be kind of like we can reframe the circumstance because it’s out of our control.

571
00:27:50,120 –> 00:27:50,760
Randy Black: Would you agree?

572
00:27:50,760 –> 00:27:51,640
Coach Jim Clayton: Oh, 100%.

573
00:27:51,640 –> 00:27:53,400
Coach Jim Clayton: There are things that are out of your control.

574
00:27:53,880 –> 00:27:55,240
Coach Jim Clayton: Can’t do a thing about it.

575
00:27:55,140 –> 00:27:57,700
Coach Jim Clayton: But we spend all the time doing stuff we can’t do anything about.

576
00:27:57,700 –> 00:27:58,100
Randy Black: Yeah.

577
00:27:58,100 –> 00:28:04,820
Coach Jim Clayton: So I always had one of my favorite lines is everybody wants to change their circumstances, but nobody wants to change themselves.

578
00:28:04,820 –> 00:28:05,380
Coach Jim Clayton: Yeah.

579
00:28:05,380 –> 00:28:07,780
Coach Jim Clayton: So one day I’m gonna do a t-shirt

580
00:28:07,740 –> 00:28:10,700
Coach Jim Clayton: I’ve been wanting to do this t-shirt for 20 years.

581
00:28:11,100 –> 00:28:15,660
Coach Jim Clayton: And it says on the shirt, no change, no change.

582
00:28:15,660 –> 00:28:16,620
Coach Jim Clayton: Mm-hmm.

583
00:28:16,940 –> 00:28:18,060
Coach Jim Clayton: Everybody gets that.

584
00:28:18,460 –> 00:28:19,900
Coach Jim Clayton: It’s so simple.

585
00:28:20,179 –> 00:28:21,139
Coach Jim Clayton: No change.

586
00:28:21,139 –> 00:28:25,139
Coach Jim Clayton: You gotta be willing to change yourself because I can I can’t change you.

587
00:28:25,940 –> 00:28:27,700
Coach Jim Clayton: You know, kid has got discipline.

588
00:28:27,700 –> 00:28:28,899
Coach Jim Clayton: I can’t change them

589
00:28:29,840 –> 00:28:32,480
Coach Jim Clayton: Only you can change you.

590
00:28:32,480 –> 00:28:33,919
Coach Jim Clayton: You can’t change nobody else.

591
00:28:33,919 –> 00:28:42,880
Coach Jim Clayton: Now you can give them things, plant seeds, give them opportunities, put them in an environment, but still ultimately it comes down to them making the decision.

592
00:28:42,880 –> 00:28:43,840
Randy Black: Yeah.

593
00:28:43,740 –> 00:28:47,020
Coach Jim Clayton: But see the problem is how many people are living in the past?

594
00:28:47,260 –> 00:28:51,580
Coach Jim Clayton: How many people are worried about and what is it 99% of things you worry about never happened anyway?

595
00:28:51,580 –> 00:28:52,540
Randy Black: Exactly.

596
00:28:52,980 –> 00:28:55,780
Coach Jim Clayton: So we’re in this past, you know.

597
00:28:55,780 –> 00:28:59,060
Coach Jim Clayton: Uh it’s we know what we should do.

598
00:28:59,060 –> 00:29:00,500
Coach Jim Clayton: It’s all about your perspective.

599
00:29:00,500 –> 00:29:05,220
Coach Jim Clayton: I put a quote out on my my story the other day that says, you know, we’re addicted to tomorrow

600
00:29:06,520 –> 00:29:07,880
Coach Jim Clayton: I’ll get that tomorrow.

601
00:29:08,360 –> 00:29:10,360
Coach Jim Clayton: I’ll start that program tomorrow.

602
00:29:10,840 –> 00:29:12,760
Coach Jim Clayton: I’ll work out tomorrow.

603
00:29:12,760 –> 00:29:15,080
Coach Jim Clayton: I’ll start eating healthy tomorrow.

604
00:29:15,080 –> 00:29:15,800
Coach Jim Clayton: Okay?

605
00:29:15,800 –> 00:29:20,120
Coach Jim Clayton: Well the last time I checked, tomorrow’s not a day.

606
00:29:20,080 –> 00:29:21,280
Randy Black: Right.

607
00:29:21,280 –> 00:29:23,760
Coach Jim Clayton: And we’re hooked on that tomorrow thing.

608
00:29:23,760 –> 00:29:24,240
Coach Jim Clayton: Mm-hmm.

609
00:29:24,240 –> 00:29:25,919
Coach Jim Clayton: I’m not interested in tomorrow.

610
00:29:25,919 –> 00:29:27,600
Coach Jim Clayton: I’m interested about today.

611
00:29:27,600 –> 00:29:29,679
Coach Jim Clayton: Tomorrow’s not gonna come for some people.

612
00:29:29,679 –> 00:29:30,640
Randy Black: Oh, it’s true.

613
00:29:30,640 –> 00:29:31,760
Coach Jim Clayton: Hate to say that.

614
00:29:31,760 –> 00:29:32,480
Randy Black: Mm-hmm.

615
00:29:32,480 –> 00:29:34,320
Coach Jim Clayton: Today’s the day.

616
00:29:34,660 –> 00:29:35,860
Coach Jim Clayton: That’s my motto.

617
00:29:36,179 –> 00:29:38,340
Coach Jim Clayton: Today’s the next one we got.

618
00:29:38,340 –> 00:29:39,539
Coach Jim Clayton: Exactly.

619
00:29:39,539 –> 00:29:43,860
Coach Jim Clayton: And you know, it’s I I love that because that change

620
00:29:45,160 –> 00:29:49,880
Coach Jim Clayton: That word change is a really hard pill for people to swallow.

621
00:29:49,880 –> 00:29:50,360
Randy Black: Yeah.

622
00:29:50,360 –> 00:29:52,200
Coach Jim Clayton: Woo, it’s tough.

623
00:29:52,200 –> 00:29:55,480
Coach Jim Clayton: But you know, I you know, I got I taught at Huntington East.

624
00:29:55,480 –> 00:29:56,120
Coach Jim Clayton: Mm-hmm.

625
00:29:56,120 –> 00:29:59,480
Coach Jim Clayton: And they shut that school down.

626
00:29:59,040 –> 00:30:05,280
Coach Jim Clayton: And they combined Huntington, Pony Express, and Huntington or Huntington East Highland.

627
00:30:05,680 –> 00:30:07,520
Coach Jim Clayton: So it was called the Huntington High Highlanders.

628
00:30:07,840 –> 00:30:10,320
Coach Jim Clayton: So when I went over there, when I shut that down

629
00:30:10,640 –> 00:30:13,440
Coach Jim Clayton: At that moment I kind of had the best of both worlds.

630
00:30:13,440 –> 00:30:16,480
Coach Jim Clayton: And I honestly thought I was going to retire there.

631
00:30:17,360 –> 00:30:21,440
Coach Jim Clayton: Then all of a sudden out of the blue, I get a transfer of notes.

632
00:30:21,440 –> 00:30:21,920
Randy Black: Yeah.

633
00:30:21,920 –> 00:30:25,120
Coach Jim Clayton: And they said, well, you got two choices.

634
00:30:24,519 –> 00:30:26,440
Coach Jim Clayton: You can go to middle school or high school.

635
00:30:26,440 –> 00:30:27,799
Coach Jim Clayton: I said, I’m not going to middle school.

636
00:30:27,799 –> 00:30:30,519
Coach Jim Clayton: So I went to Cabal Middle.

637
00:30:30,519 –> 00:30:33,080
Coach Jim Clayton: Best thing that ever happened to me.

638
00:30:33,399 –> 00:30:36,120
Coach Jim Clayton: Now when it was happening, I didn’t really like it.

639
00:30:36,120 –> 00:30:36,440
Randy Black: No

640
00:30:36,840 –> 00:30:39,960
Coach Jim Clayton: But when I got up there, they said, man, you’re gonna love it.

641
00:30:39,960 –> 00:30:40,919
Coach Jim Clayton: So quiet.

642
00:30:41,240 –> 00:30:42,440
Coach Jim Clayton: I said, ah yeah, right.

643
00:30:42,520 –> 00:30:45,240
Coach Jim Clayton: Bunch of high school kids, 2,500 students.

644
00:30:45,240 –> 00:30:46,440
Coach Jim Clayton: Okay, at that time.

645
00:30:47,160 –> 00:30:48,600
Coach Jim Clayton: And I got up there

646
00:30:50,880 –> 00:30:53,520
Coach Jim Clayton: So I believe.

647
00:30:53,520 –> 00:30:55,440
Coach Jim Clayton: Now those are a lot of country kids.

648
00:30:56,160 –> 00:31:01,280
Coach Jim Clayton: You know, FDA, you know the man, future farmers of America, all that stuff.

649
00:31:01,280 –> 00:31:02,640
Coach Jim Clayton: I’m a city guy

650
00:31:03,460 –> 00:31:06,020
Coach Jim Clayton: I told him, I said, man, the guy’s wearing their boots.

651
00:31:06,020 –> 00:31:07,700
Coach Jim Clayton: They come to fit his head class and boots.

652
00:31:07,700 –> 00:31:09,060
Coach Jim Clayton: He goes, that’s only 10 shoes I got.

653
00:31:09,060 –> 00:31:11,220
Coach Jim Clayton: I said, well, that’s working for you, big daddy.

654
00:31:11,220 –> 00:31:12,180
Coach Jim Clayton: That’s working for me.

655
00:31:12,180 –> 00:31:13,140
Coach Jim Clayton: Yep.

656
00:31:12,940 –> 00:31:15,820
Coach Jim Clayton: Okay, then when I got a chance I said what size shoes you wear?

657
00:31:15,820 –> 00:31:19,100
Coach Jim Clayton: I found out I get them some shoes because that time I was working for Nike.

658
00:31:19,100 –> 00:31:19,260
Coach Jim Clayton: Right.

659
00:31:19,419 –> 00:31:19,980
Coach Jim Clayton: Get them some shoes.

660
00:31:20,059 –> 00:31:21,179
Coach Jim Clayton: Oh, they thought that was a great sh.

661
00:31:21,419 –> 00:31:23,340
Coach Jim Clayton: I never owned a pair of cats.

662
00:31:22,919 –> 00:31:24,200
Coach Jim Clayton: I said what?

663
00:31:24,200 –> 00:31:28,440
Coach Jim Clayton: Yes, I’m a So it was an it was an opening experience for me.

664
00:31:28,440 –> 00:31:30,600
Randy Black: It was a very different population than what you have.

665
00:31:30,840 –> 00:31:31,400
Coach Jim Clayton: Oh Lord.

666
00:31:31,400 –> 00:31:31,880
Coach Jim Clayton: But you know what I mean?

667
00:31:35,000 –> 00:31:43,640
Randy Black: You know, I yeah, I’d I had actually been at Cabble Midland uh as a long-term substitute and then went to Enslow.

668
00:31:43,740 –> 00:31:44,780
Randy Black: As a long-term substitute.

669
00:31:45,020 –> 00:31:45,580
Randy Black: Big difference.

670
00:31:45,580 –> 00:31:46,380
Randy Black: Very big difference.

671
00:31:46,380 –> 00:31:51,340
Randy Black: And then I ended up teaching at Enslow for two years before I went back to Capil Midland.

672
00:31:51,919 –> 00:31:57,760
Randy Black: They’re different, completely different worlds with the populations that we had.

673
00:31:58,400 –> 00:32:02,080
Randy Black: And it wasn’t even like it wasn’t even like a socioeconomic thing.

674
00:32:02,080 –> 00:32:03,200
Randy Black: It wasn’t, it wasn’t

675
00:32:03,360 –> 00:32:06,799
Randy Black: These are the poor kids, these are the better kid uh the the the wealthy kids.

676
00:32:06,799 –> 00:32:08,240
Randy Black: It wasn’t like that at all.

677
00:32:08,399 –> 00:32:14,799
Randy Black: At Capitol Midland, we we had kids who were from that lower level of the socioeconomic scale.

678
00:32:14,640 –> 00:32:19,120
Randy Black: It’s just different than what we saw in in the kids who lived in Huntington.

679
00:32:19,120 –> 00:32:20,880
Coach Jim Clayton: Total different very different populations.

680
00:32:20,880 –> 00:32:22,000
Randy Black: But no don’t be wrong.

681
00:32:22,000 –> 00:32:23,360
Randy Black: I loved working in both places.

682
00:32:23,360 –> 00:32:24,720
Randy Black: I loved the kids at both places.

683
00:32:24,720 –> 00:32:25,520
Coach Jim Clayton: Oh I did too.

684
00:32:25,520 –> 00:32:26,240
Coach Jim Clayton: I did too.

685
00:32:26,240 –> 00:32:29,360
Coach Jim Clayton: But I I’ll give you a great great story.

686
00:32:28,740 –> 00:32:32,340
Coach Jim Clayton: One of my managers on my basketball team’s name is Michael Young.

687
00:32:32,740 –> 00:32:34,500
Coach Jim Clayton: He had a nickname called Crash.

688
00:32:34,500 –> 00:32:38,180
Coach Jim Clayton: He looked like Crash Hawley that Well Crash looks just like this guy.

689
00:32:38,180 –> 00:32:40,180
Coach Jim Clayton: And he was a wrestl wrestling guy

690
00:32:39,779 –> 00:32:43,380
Coach Jim Clayton: So all of a sudden, I said, Crash, you’re not going to believe this, buddy, but I got a transfer.

691
00:32:43,380 –> 00:32:44,580
Coach Jim Clayton: I’m going to Cal Middle.

692
00:32:44,580 –> 00:32:48,100
Coach Jim Clayton: Now he’s a hunting high, true blue, all the way down the trail.

693
00:32:48,100 –> 00:32:51,139
Coach Jim Clayton: He goes, Oh live.

694
00:32:51,139 –> 00:32:53,380
Coach Jim Clayton: I said, I need a favor.

695
00:32:53,419 –> 00:32:56,460
Coach Jim Clayton: I say, I got my stuff in my office up there.

696
00:32:56,460 –> 00:32:58,620
Coach Jim Clayton: I need you to help me move.

697
00:32:58,620 –> 00:33:02,780
Coach Jim Clayton: I’ll be down to the speedway, pick you up, 8 o’clock in the morning.

698
00:33:02,840 –> 00:33:04,760
Coach Jim Clayton: So I drive down there, pick him up.

699
00:33:04,760 –> 00:33:06,039
Coach Jim Clayton: He walks out of the speed.

700
00:33:06,039 –> 00:33:08,120
Coach Jim Clayton: Well, I about fell out.

701
00:33:08,120 –> 00:33:09,080
Coach Jim Clayton: I couldn’t believe it.

702
00:33:09,080 –> 00:33:10,120
Coach Jim Clayton: I looked at him.

703
00:33:10,120 –> 00:33:11,080
Coach Jim Clayton: Here he was.

704
00:33:11,080 –> 00:33:12,039
Coach Jim Clayton: He had red

705
00:33:12,460 –> 00:33:13,580
Coach Jim Clayton: He had black.

706
00:33:13,580 –> 00:33:14,460
Coach Jim Clayton: He had gray.

707
00:33:14,460 –> 00:33:15,420
Coach Jim Clayton: I said, look at you.

708
00:33:15,420 –> 00:33:16,620
Coach Jim Clayton: I said, what are you doing?

709
00:33:16,940 –> 00:33:22,300
Coach Jim Clayton: He goes, well, coach, if you’re going to be a cabal man tonight, I’m going to be one too.

710
00:33:21,800 –> 00:33:24,200
Coach Jim Clayton: And he’d already dressed up and everything.

711
00:33:24,200 –> 00:33:26,760
Coach Jim Clayton: I mean, he’d already made the change in his mind.

712
00:33:26,760 –> 00:33:27,800
Coach Jim Clayton: Mm-hmm.

713
00:33:27,800 –> 00:33:32,280
Coach Jim Clayton: And I’ll never forget that long as I live, man.

714
00:33:32,320 –> 00:33:36,000
Coach Jim Clayton: And it’s it’s just I mean he’d already made the change.

715
00:33:36,000 –> 00:33:36,640
Randy Black: Yeah.

716
00:33:36,640 –> 00:33:38,000
Coach Jim Clayton: Because I’d made the change.

717
00:33:38,000 –> 00:33:38,960
Coach Jim Clayton: Mm-hmm.

718
00:33:38,960 –> 00:33:43,600
Coach Jim Clayton: And it ended up being it ended up being one of the greatest

719
00:33:44,300 –> 00:33:45,980
Coach Jim Clayton: Years of my life teaching.

720
00:33:46,940 –> 00:33:54,540
Coach Jim Clayton: And I would have never thought in a million years at that time that I would have been hooked on country music.

721
00:33:54,519 –> 00:33:55,320
Randy Black: Yeah.

722
00:33:55,320 –> 00:33:59,960
Coach Jim Clayton: And I had a little boy in my car, driver’s in a car, and he says, Coach, can we turn that channel over to country?

723
00:33:59,960 –> 00:34:01,720
Coach Jim Clayton: I said, you know, I’m not really a big coach.

724
00:34:01,799 –> 00:34:04,039
Coach Jim Clayton: He said, Well just let’s just listen to one song.

725
00:34:04,039 –> 00:34:05,080
Coach Jim Clayton: I said, okay.

726
00:34:05,080 –> 00:34:08,359
Coach Jim Clayton: I turned it over and man I really like that song.

727
00:34:08,359 –> 00:34:09,159
Randy Black: Yeah.

728
00:34:08,800 –> 00:34:10,320
Coach Jim Clayton: And I said, man, I like that song.

729
00:34:10,880 –> 00:34:12,640
Coach Jim Clayton: That’s full of these songs.

730
00:34:12,640 –> 00:34:14,400
Coach Jim Clayton: So I started listening to the next song.

731
00:34:14,720 –> 00:34:16,080
Coach Jim Clayton: And then guess what?

732
00:34:16,080 –> 00:34:18,160
Coach Jim Clayton: That’s the only that’s the only channel I put on.

733
00:34:18,160 –> 00:34:18,960
Coach Jim Clayton: Yep.

734
00:34:18,559 –> 00:34:25,200
Coach Jim Clayton: And I’m going, that boy by asking me to do that, that young man, I did it.

735
00:34:25,200 –> 00:34:27,039
Coach Jim Clayton: And I was willing to what?

736
00:34:27,320 –> 00:34:31,639
Coach Jim Clayton: Compromise I say, okay, let’s now I go to Kenny Chesley Concerts.

737
00:34:31,800 –> 00:34:33,399
Coach Jim Clayton: I do all I’m I listen.

738
00:34:33,879 –> 00:34:37,879
Randy Black: It’s kind of i it’s the idea of growth.

739
00:34:38,000 –> 00:34:39,120
Randy Black: Not suppression.

740
00:34:39,200 –> 00:34:40,240
Randy Black: I’m not holding things back.

741
00:34:40,240 –> 00:34:41,840
Randy Black: We’re we’re allowing ourselves to grow.

742
00:34:41,840 –> 00:34:46,320
Randy Black: We’re allowing ourselves to to change by, you know.

743
00:34:46,100 –> 00:34:52,900
Randy Black: And it doesn’t even have to be, like, you know, with with with the quote here from from Frankel, it’s about the pain and that what you’re experiencing.

744
00:34:52,900 –> 00:34:55,300
Randy Black: But you can still find purpose.

745
00:34:55,520 –> 00:35:02,240
Randy Black: Through whatever that is, it could be pain, it could be just some form of adversity that’s hit you, a change that’s happening in life.

746
00:35:02,240 –> 00:35:03,119
Randy Black: Rather

747
00:35:03,240 –> 00:35:04,200
Randy Black: than avoiding it.

748
00:35:04,200 –> 00:35:09,160
Randy Black: Because if you avoid it, you don’t have the opportunity for the growth to occur.

749
00:35:09,160 –> 00:35:10,840
Randy Black: You don’t have the opportunity.

750
00:35:10,840 –> 00:35:15,720
Randy Black: You are, you know, by avoiding it, you are you are in a way making a change.

751
00:35:15,820 –> 00:35:17,260
Randy Black: But what are you learning from it?

752
00:35:17,260 –> 00:35:18,940
Randy Black: What are you gaining from it?

753
00:35:18,940 –> 00:35:22,620
Coach Jim Clayton: Well, the thing about it is it comes down to two things.

754
00:35:22,620 –> 00:35:23,340
Coach Jim Clayton: Okay.

755
00:35:23,340 –> 00:35:24,220
Coach Jim Clayton: Mm-hmm.

756
00:35:24,520 –> 00:35:28,440
Coach Jim Clayton: Are you going you gonna accidentally become good at something?

757
00:35:28,920 –> 00:35:33,400
Coach Jim Clayton: Heard a guy get one time in an education seminar, say this.

758
00:35:33,100 –> 00:35:35,740
Coach Jim Clayton: Can’t remember anything else he said, but I heard him say this.

759
00:35:35,740 –> 00:35:41,820
Coach Jim Clayton: And I use it all the time: success by chance, or success by choice.

760
00:35:41,820 –> 00:35:42,700
Randy Black: Yes.

761
00:35:42,700 –> 00:35:46,140
Coach Jim Clayton: And so I said to myself, I said, ooh, I like that.

762
00:35:46,140 –> 00:35:47,660
Coach Jim Clayton: So guess what?

763
00:35:47,780 –> 00:35:56,980
Coach Jim Clayton: Anybody who goes through adverse times on the journey, on the process road

764
00:35:57,660 –> 00:35:59,660
Coach Jim Clayton: To get to the top.

765
00:35:59,660 –> 00:36:01,900
Coach Jim Clayton: They didn’t get to the top accidentally.

766
00:36:01,900 –> 00:36:02,460
Randy Black: No.

767
00:36:02,460 –> 00:36:05,660
Coach Jim Clayton: It was, big word here, intentional.

768
00:36:05,660 –> 00:36:06,300
Randy Black: Yes.

769
00:36:06,300 –> 00:36:11,820
Coach Jim Clayton: You have to intentionally do it every day, no matter what.

770
00:36:12,099 –> 00:36:16,099
Coach Jim Clayton: Whether you want to or not, you gotta get it done.

771
00:36:16,980 –> 00:36:19,300
Coach Jim Clayton: So you can’t become great accidentally.

772
00:36:19,300 –> 00:36:19,859
Randy Black: Yes.

773
00:36:19,859 –> 00:36:21,220
Coach Jim Clayton: You have to be intentional.

774
00:36:21,220 –> 00:36:22,980
Coach Jim Clayton: And that takes time.

775
00:36:22,940 –> 00:36:24,300
Coach Jim Clayton: Again, we’re talking about this.

776
00:36:24,380 –> 00:36:25,579
Coach Jim Clayton: Doesn’t happen overnight.

777
00:36:25,579 –> 00:36:33,180
Coach Jim Clayton: Effort, attitude, grit, grind, perseverance, discipline, all those intangibles, right?

778
00:36:33,180 –> 00:36:33,579
Coach Jim Clayton: Mm-hmm.

779
00:36:33,579 –> 00:36:34,380
Coach Jim Clayton: To get there.

780
00:36:34,380 –> 00:36:37,500
Coach Jim Clayton: And you can’t leave any of them out.

781
00:36:37,100 –> 00:36:39,580
Coach Jim Clayton: And everybody’s got there, guess what?

782
00:36:39,820 –> 00:36:42,700
Coach Jim Clayton: So now when you get there, guess what?

783
00:36:42,700 –> 00:36:44,940
Coach Jim Clayton: You are in control.

784
00:36:44,920 –> 00:36:45,880
Randy Black: Yes.

785
00:36:47,720 –> 00:36:49,800
Coach Jim Clayton: Not out of control.

786
00:36:49,800 –> 00:36:50,200
Randy Black: Yes.

787
00:36:50,200 –> 00:36:53,960
Coach Jim Clayton: I don’t want to be WWOC way way out of control.

788
00:36:54,120 –> 00:36:55,880
Coach Jim Clayton: I want to be in control.

789
00:36:55,880 –> 00:36:56,760
Coach Jim Clayton: And guess what?

790
00:36:56,760 –> 00:36:59,000
Coach Jim Clayton: You can be in control.

791
00:36:58,520 –> 00:36:59,720
Coach Jim Clayton: Or you can be what?

792
00:36:59,720 –> 00:37:00,359
Coach Jim Clayton: The opposite.

793
00:37:01,160 –> 00:37:01,880
Coach Jim Clayton: It’s a choice.

794
00:37:01,880 –> 00:37:02,520
Coach Jim Clayton: There it is.

795
00:37:02,520 –> 00:37:03,480
Coach Jim Clayton: No change.

796
00:37:03,640 –> 00:37:04,119
Coach Jim Clayton: No change.

797
00:37:04,680 –> 00:37:05,960
Coach Jim Clayton: And that’s what it comes down to.

798
00:37:07,080 –> 00:37:11,240
Randy Black: So next on our list, we get to Ralph Waldo Emerson.

799
00:37:11,240 –> 00:37:15,080
Randy Black: He was an American essayist, lecturer, and philosopher.

800
00:37:14,859 –> 00:37:22,380
Randy Black: uh in the night mid-19th century, and he was pretty much the leader of the transcendentalist movement that was taking place in the United States.

801
00:37:22,380 –> 00:37:27,980
Randy Black: And his writings emphasize self-reliance and the power of the individual

802
00:37:28,059 –> 00:37:37,819
Randy Black: And this quote’s often paraphrased, but the message captures what Emerson’s transcendentalist belief in the inner strength and self-reliance was.

803
00:37:37,600 –> 00:37:45,280
Randy Black: And the quote from Ralph Waldo Emerson here is that what lies behind us and what lies before us

804
00:37:45,920 –> 00:37:52,080
Randy Black: are tiny matters compared to what lies within us.

805
00:37:52,080 –> 00:37:52,960
Randy Black: Woo!

806
00:37:52,960 –> 00:37:54,720
Randy Black: That’s that’s deep.

807
00:37:54,720 –> 00:37:57,760
Randy Black: So, you know, we look at it as inner strength.

808
00:37:57,760 –> 00:37:59,200
Randy Black: The idea of inner strength

809
00:37:59,720 –> 00:38:03,160
Randy Black: Where in the world does that come from?

810
00:38:03,160 –> 00:38:05,960
Randy Black: Where do we build that inner strength from?

811
00:38:06,279 –> 00:38:09,559
Coach Jim Clayton: Personally, I think you build that from small victory.

812
00:38:09,559 –> 00:38:09,960
Coach Jim Clayton: Okay.

813
00:38:09,960 –> 00:38:10,920
Coach Jim Clayton: Successes.

814
00:38:11,319 –> 00:38:12,440
Coach Jim Clayton: The heart.

815
00:38:12,440 –> 00:38:15,160
Coach Jim Clayton: Okay, people love it when you speak from your heart.

816
00:38:15,160 –> 00:38:17,000
Randy Black: Can your heart is in it?

817
00:38:17,000 –> 00:38:20,680
Randy Black: Can can you build that inner strength without being tested?

818
00:38:21,180 –> 00:38:21,820
Randy Black: No.

819
00:38:21,820 –> 00:38:22,940
Randy Black: I don’t think so either.

820
00:38:22,940 –> 00:38:23,339
Randy Black: Nope.

821
00:38:23,339 –> 00:38:25,099
Randy Black: I think you you have to be tested.

822
00:38:25,099 –> 00:38:26,619
Randy Black: You have to have the struggle.

823
00:38:26,619 –> 00:38:28,540
Randy Black: You have to be able to reflect on it.

824
00:38:28,540 –> 00:38:33,500
Randy Black: You have to have something in you personally that makes you realize

825
00:38:34,020 –> 00:38:38,099
Randy Black: I’ve been pushed this way a little bit and I gotta find out if this is the way I really want to go.

826
00:38:38,099 –> 00:38:38,740
Coach Jim Clayton: No question.

827
00:38:38,740 –> 00:38:42,660
Coach Jim Clayton: And I tell my players this all the time, you know, smessy smaller players.

828
00:38:42,980 –> 00:38:44,740
Coach Jim Clayton: It’s not how big how big you are, bud.

829
00:38:44,980 –> 00:38:46,260
Coach Jim Clayton: It’s how big you play.

830
00:38:46,260 –> 00:38:46,900
Randy Black: Yes

831
00:38:47,140 –> 00:38:50,660
Coach Jim Clayton: And they look at me like, ah, get out of my way.

832
00:38:50,980 –> 00:38:52,660
Coach Jim Clayton: Because see, that’s that’s the thing.

833
00:38:52,660 –> 00:38:56,819
Coach Jim Clayton: You don’t look at, I mean, you know, you’ve heard this, can’t judge a book by its cover.

834
00:38:56,819 –> 00:38:57,700
Coach Jim Clayton: Right.

835
00:38:58,099 –> 00:38:59,940
Coach Jim Clayton: You know, I mean, yeah, you can’t judge.

836
00:38:59,940 –> 00:39:03,220
Coach Jim Clayton: See, that’s why I like those, I was telling you about those reels.

837
00:39:03,220 –> 00:39:08,180
Coach Jim Clayton: You know, I like it because people judge people all the time.

838
00:39:08,900 –> 00:39:11,619
Coach Jim Clayton: They judge you by looking at you.

839
00:39:12,020 –> 00:39:14,820
Coach Jim Clayton: Know anything about me.

840
00:39:15,780 –> 00:39:17,380
Coach Jim Clayton: You know, have I ever done that before?

841
00:39:17,380 –> 00:39:19,300
Coach Jim Clayton: I think everybody’s been guilty of that before.

842
00:39:19,300 –> 00:39:19,700
Coach Jim Clayton: Mm-hmm

843
00:39:20,400 –> 00:39:21,520
Coach Jim Clayton: I agree.

844
00:39:21,520 –> 00:39:24,800
Coach Jim Clayton: But, you know, that’s because I didn’t know any better.

845
00:39:24,800 –> 00:39:27,200
Coach Jim Clayton: I didn’t know I was just a young little turkey.

846
00:39:27,200 –> 00:39:27,760
Coach Jim Clayton: Mm-hmm.

847
00:39:27,760 –> 00:39:32,240
Coach Jim Clayton: You know, thought I knew everything in the world, you know, wish I didn’t know anything

848
00:39:32,660 –> 00:39:36,260
Coach Jim Clayton: And that’s just just a normal thing.

849
00:39:36,260 –> 00:39:40,580
Coach Jim Clayton: But when you watch people, you know, and you watch these people that.

850
00:39:40,920 –> 00:39:44,600
Coach Jim Clayton: Take up for people, you know that somebody’s done that too.

851
00:39:44,600 –> 00:39:45,240
Randy Black: Mm-hmm.

852
00:39:45,240 –> 00:39:47,560
Coach Jim Clayton: Ooh, I like it because guess what?

853
00:39:47,560 –> 00:39:49,000
Coach Jim Clayton: That’s what he’s talking about.

854
00:39:49,000 –> 00:39:50,920
Coach Jim Clayton: It’s what’s inside of you.

855
00:39:50,920 –> 00:39:51,800
Randy Black: Yes.

856
00:39:51,559 –> 00:39:56,920
Coach Jim Clayton: And then boy, you might be cool, calm, quiet, silent type, never says anything.

857
00:39:56,920 –> 00:39:59,480
Coach Jim Clayton: And then this line comes out.

858
00:40:00,440 –> 00:40:00,760
Coach Jim Clayton: Woo!

859
00:40:00,760 –> 00:40:02,279
Coach Jim Clayton: I never saw that one coming.

860
00:40:02,279 –> 00:40:02,920
Randy Black: Yeah

861
00:40:03,420 –> 00:40:04,460
Coach Jim Clayton: Well, guess what?

862
00:40:04,540 –> 00:40:06,940
Coach Jim Clayton: Didn’t need to play that card till now.

863
00:40:08,140 –> 00:40:13,980
Coach Jim Clayton: And you see, what’s in you, all of us are stronger inside of us than we ever know.

864
00:40:14,480 –> 00:40:18,720
Coach Jim Clayton: And you never really know that sometimes until you have to.

865
00:40:20,640 –> 00:40:23,200
Randy Black: So how do we how do we help others

866
00:40:23,520 –> 00:40:29,599
Randy Black: kind of discover the idea of resilience and that inner that inner strength they have.

867
00:40:29,599 –> 00:40:33,520
Randy Black: You know, what how how can we go about trying to help them to see you can do this.

868
00:40:33,520 –> 00:40:34,800
Randy Black: You have this in you.

869
00:40:34,800 –> 00:40:35,359
Coach Jim Clayton: Oh yeah.

870
00:40:35,359 –> 00:40:38,160
Coach Jim Clayton: Well I always say I’ll work backwards.

871
00:40:37,920 –> 00:40:39,520
Coach Jim Clayton: I work backwards on.

872
00:40:39,520 –> 00:40:40,000
Coach Jim Clayton: Okay?

873
00:40:40,000 –> 00:40:42,320
Coach Jim Clayton: Why are you in this situation?

874
00:40:42,320 –> 00:40:43,840
Coach Jim Clayton: How’d you get in this situation?

875
00:40:44,560 –> 00:40:45,440
Coach Jim Clayton: Okay?

876
00:40:46,280 –> 00:40:47,560
Coach Jim Clayton: What caused it?

877
00:40:47,560 –> 00:40:48,040
Randy Black: Yeah.

878
00:40:48,040 –> 00:40:48,280
Randy Black: Okay.

879
00:40:48,440 –> 00:40:49,720
Randy Black: It’s a idea of self-reflection.

880
00:40:49,720 –> 00:40:52,040
Coach Jim Clayton: Yeah, they don’t ever nobody ever self-reflects.

881
00:40:52,520 –> 00:40:54,040
Coach Jim Clayton: They don’t go back and look

882
00:40:53,900 –> 00:40:59,020
Coach Jim Clayton: Okay, and that’s you know that’s how I did and that’s how I learned I go backwards and try to figure out the root cause.

883
00:40:59,500 –> 00:41:01,740
Coach Jim Clayton: Okay, here’s how you got in this situation.

884
00:41:01,740 –> 00:41:03,020
Coach Jim Clayton: Here’s what’s causing the problem.

885
00:41:03,020 –> 00:41:04,539
Coach Jim Clayton: Now let me show you the fix

886
00:41:04,460 –> 00:41:05,580
Coach Jim Clayton: It’s not hard to do.

887
00:41:05,980 –> 00:41:08,140
Coach Jim Clayton: But you’re not gonna be great at it the first time you do it.

888
00:41:08,140 –> 00:41:09,020
Coach Jim Clayton: Nobody is.

889
00:41:09,420 –> 00:41:14,300
Coach Jim Clayton: Nobody who’s a perfection who’s a master of anything was great the first time they did it.

890
00:41:13,660 –> 00:41:13,980
Randy Black: Right.

891
00:41:13,980 –> 00:41:15,420
Randy Black: Oh, you should hear my first podcast.

892
00:41:15,420 –> 00:41:16,060
Randy Black: It was horrible.

893
00:41:16,060 –> 00:41:18,700
Randy Black: Well no, I’m sure it wasn’t, but it was pretty bad.

894
00:41:18,860 –> 00:41:20,140
Coach Jim Clayton: I don’t care what you do.

895
00:41:20,140 –> 00:41:22,220
Coach Jim Clayton: It’s never great the first time you do it.

896
00:41:22,220 –> 00:41:22,940
Randy Black: Right.

897
00:41:23,120 –> 00:41:30,400
Coach Jim Clayton: You know, and you know again, unfortunately, you know, like for me, I d I about didn’t graduate from college.

898
00:41:30,400 –> 00:41:31,680
Coach Jim Clayton: Had to take one class.

899
00:41:32,080 –> 00:41:34,240
Coach Jim Clayton: Oh, number one phobia in America.

900
00:41:34,240 –> 00:41:37,760
Coach Jim Clayton: Now you’re gonna find this hard to believe right now as you listen to me.

901
00:41:37,720 –> 00:41:39,559
Coach Jim Clayton: But public speaking.

902
00:41:39,559 –> 00:41:40,200
Randy Black: Uh-huh.

903
00:41:40,200 –> 00:41:42,279
Coach Jim Clayton: Oh God, I put that on, put that on.

904
00:41:42,279 –> 00:41:44,920
Coach Jim Clayton: If I didn’t get to take this class, I was gonna flunk.

905
00:41:44,920 –> 00:41:47,240
Coach Jim Clayton: Had to get up in front of people and you don’t watch students.

906
00:41:47,240 –> 00:41:48,440
Coach Jim Clayton: You watch students in high school.

907
00:41:48,440 –> 00:41:50,119
Coach Jim Clayton: If you put them in front of the class

908
00:41:49,859 –> 00:41:55,220
Coach Jim Clayton: Man, that that they’re just like they’re glued to if they’ve got a paper in front of them, they’re glued to it.

909
00:41:55,220 –> 00:41:57,220
Randy Black: If they’ve got a screen in front of them, they’re glued to it.

910
00:41:57,220 –> 00:41:57,700
Randy Black: Yep.

911
00:41:57,780 –> 00:42:04,099
Randy Black: Um they try to put every bit of information they can on the screen if it’s up that or do it digitally and just read it

912
00:42:03,760 –> 00:42:07,680
Randy Black: They can’t they they don’t know how to just to speak.

913
00:42:08,560 –> 00:42:09,120
Coach Jim Clayton: They just don’t know how.

914
00:42:09,280 –> 00:42:09,840
Randy Black: They don’t know how.

915
00:42:09,840 –> 00:42:10,560
Randy Black: We haven’t taught ’em.

916
00:42:10,560 –> 00:42:12,480
Coach Jim Clayton: Well I did that class.

917
00:42:12,960 –> 00:42:21,200
Coach Jim Clayton: And when that class was over, I could have kicked myself a million times in the b Yeah

918
00:42:21,620 –> 00:42:26,340
Coach Jim Clayton: Why did I place that on me that I couldn’t do it?

919
00:42:27,700 –> 00:42:29,780
Coach Jim Clayton: I had the most fun ever.

920
00:42:29,780 –> 00:42:30,740
Coach Jim Clayton: Oh yeah.

921
00:42:30,400 –> 00:42:30,880
Coach Jim Clayton: I remember that.

922
00:42:31,039 –> 00:42:34,960
Coach Jim Clayton: Now does that mean does that mean that my heart don’t pound a little bit when I get ready to do a speaker?

923
00:42:35,119 –> 00:42:35,680
Coach Jim Clayton: Oh it does.

924
00:42:35,680 –> 00:42:36,160
Coach Jim Clayton: I’m sure.

925
00:42:36,160 –> 00:42:38,240
Coach Jim Clayton: Oh I’m excited.

926
00:42:38,240 –> 00:42:39,680
Coach Jim Clayton: I’m excited

927
00:42:40,140 –> 00:42:46,860
Coach Jim Clayton: And you know, when you’re when you’re when you’re trying to get people through this, you know, excitement goes a long way.

928
00:42:47,260 –> 00:42:50,540
Coach Jim Clayton: Oh, I say enthusiasm is caught, it’s not taught.

929
00:42:50,540 –> 00:42:51,500
Randy Black: Yeah.

930
00:42:51,640 –> 00:42:54,599
Coach Jim Clayton: So that’s kind of enthusiasm like culture.

931
00:42:54,599 –> 00:42:59,559
Coach Jim Clayton: So when you look at that, I mean how do you get them to do it?

932
00:42:59,559 –> 00:43:02,599
Coach Jim Clayton: You put them in an environment where they can see success.

933
00:43:03,540 –> 00:43:06,420
Coach Jim Clayton: And it’s okay if they mess up.

934
00:43:06,740 –> 00:43:15,060
Coach Jim Clayton: But remember, and I said this the other day to the group of teachers, people live in two cultures every day in their world.

935
00:43:15,780 –> 00:43:21,300
Coach Jim Clayton: I don’t care whether you work for a job, whether you’re a teacher, whether you’re a coach, I don’t care whatever it is.

936
00:43:21,300 –> 00:43:23,140
Coach Jim Clayton: You live in two cultures.

937
00:43:23,140 –> 00:43:25,780
Coach Jim Clayton: You live in a gross culture.

938
00:43:26,120 –> 00:43:28,840
Coach Jim Clayton: Well, it’s okay to learn, grow.

939
00:43:28,840 –> 00:43:32,360
Coach Jim Clayton: You might make some mistakes, but you don’t make the same mistake twice.

940
00:43:32,360 –> 00:43:32,840
Randy Black: Right.

941
00:43:32,840 –> 00:43:34,360
Coach Jim Clayton: That’s a choice.

942
00:43:34,360 –> 00:43:36,520
Coach Jim Clayton: Or you live in a punishment

943
00:43:37,420 –> 00:43:41,580
Coach Jim Clayton: Where every time you mess up, player messes up, sit down, come out of the game.

944
00:43:42,220 –> 00:43:43,740
Coach Jim Clayton: That ain’t gonna build confidence.

945
00:43:43,740 –> 00:43:44,940
Coach Jim Clayton: It’s not gonna teach him anything.

946
00:43:44,940 –> 00:43:45,500
Coach Jim Clayton: Nothing.

947
00:43:45,500 –> 00:43:48,620
Coach Jim Clayton: Every time and school’s worst because if you flunk

948
00:43:49,760 –> 00:43:51,040
Coach Jim Clayton: Man, you’re terrible.

949
00:43:52,800 –> 00:43:57,760
Coach Jim Clayton: Well, you know, last time I checked, when you go to get your job interview

950
00:43:57,920 –> 00:43:59,680
Coach Jim Clayton: And successful people have done this.

951
00:43:59,680 –> 00:44:00,240
Coach Jim Clayton: Mm-hmm.

952
00:44:00,240 –> 00:44:02,480
Coach Jim Clayton: They don’t ask you what you made on your F C T.

953
00:44:02,480 –> 00:44:03,120
Coach Jim Clayton: Not usually.

954
00:44:03,120 –> 00:44:05,840
Coach Jim Clayton: They don’t ask what you made in English class in tenth grade

955
00:44:05,800 –> 00:44:07,320
Coach Jim Clayton: They don’t ask those questions.

956
00:44:07,320 –> 00:44:09,240
Coach Jim Clayton: They’re interested in who?

957
00:44:09,240 –> 00:44:09,880
Coach Jim Clayton: You.

958
00:44:10,680 –> 00:44:12,120
Coach Jim Clayton: That’s the key.

959
00:44:12,120 –> 00:44:14,520
Coach Jim Clayton: But we put all this emphasis.

960
00:44:15,200 –> 00:44:21,040
Coach Jim Clayton: You know, it’s like it’s like for example, I heard this the other day, and I don’t know if it’s true, but you’ll be the one to tell me.

961
00:44:21,040 –> 00:44:23,200
Coach Jim Clayton: They don’t let kids flunk anymore.

962
00:44:24,100 –> 00:44:26,020
Randy Black: Well, they will.

963
00:44:26,020 –> 00:44:28,820
Randy Black: They just make it really easy for them to recover their credit.

964
00:44:29,860 –> 00:44:32,180
Coach Jim Clayton: So I flogged geometry one time.

965
00:44:32,340 –> 00:44:33,780
Randy Black: Yeah, you told us about it.

966
00:44:33,780 –> 00:44:34,100
Coach Jim Clayton: And

967
00:44:34,559 –> 00:44:36,400
Coach Jim Clayton: I had to go to summer school.

968
00:44:36,400 –> 00:44:37,200
Coach Jim Clayton: Which guess what?

969
00:44:37,200 –> 00:44:38,079
Coach Jim Clayton: That wasn’t really working.

970
00:44:38,640 –> 00:44:40,079
Randy Black: I’m sure it was not enjoyable.

971
00:44:40,079 –> 00:44:42,240
Coach Jim Clayton: To take the subject that I hated the most.

972
00:44:42,240 –> 00:44:43,359
Coach Jim Clayton: And you know what happened?

973
00:44:43,359 –> 00:44:46,400
Coach Jim Clayton: Long story short, I passed the class.

974
00:44:46,320 –> 00:44:50,400
Coach Jim Clayton: And that teacher that I had became my favorite teacher ever.

975
00:44:50,400 –> 00:44:54,480
Coach Jim Clayton: And she’s the number one reason why I went into teaching

976
00:44:54,640 –> 00:44:55,279
Coach Jim Clayton: Awesome.

977
00:44:55,279 –> 00:44:57,279
Coach Jim Clayton: Now how do you go I’m flunking something?

978
00:44:57,359 –> 00:44:59,119
Coach Jim Clayton: But you know what I did when I left out there?

979
00:44:59,119 –> 00:45:00,640
Coach Jim Clayton: She goes, I’m so proud of you.

980
00:45:00,640 –> 00:45:02,319
Coach Jim Clayton: I said, thank you very much

981
00:45:02,460 –> 00:45:03,740
Coach Jim Clayton: I said, but you know what?

982
00:45:03,740 –> 00:45:04,700
Coach Jim Clayton: She said, what?

983
00:45:04,780 –> 00:45:06,780
Coach Jim Clayton: So I still hate this girl.

984
00:45:06,780 –> 00:45:07,740
Coach Jim Clayton: And she laughed.

985
00:45:07,740 –> 00:45:09,980
Coach Jim Clayton: She goes, I don’t care if you hated it.

986
00:45:09,980 –> 00:45:14,300
Coach Jim Clayton: You know, but the way she, I mean, just she is one special

987
00:45:14,720 –> 00:45:19,680
Coach Jim Clayton: unique young lady who was about total opposite of me.

988
00:45:19,680 –> 00:45:26,880
Coach Jim Clayton: And, you know, you know, back back in the day, you think about this, you know, I was an athlete.

989
00:45:27,420 –> 00:45:30,940
Coach Jim Clayton: And then we always thought guys that played in the bands, you know, stuff like that.

990
00:45:32,380 –> 00:45:34,780
Coach Jim Clayton: Man, I was the dumbest person ever in the world.

991
00:45:34,780 –> 00:45:35,820
Coach Jim Clayton: Thank God.

992
00:45:35,760 –> 00:45:45,760
Coach Jim Clayton: I told a band director down in Kentucky Tuesday, I said, man, the one thing I regret in a lot is I didn’t learn how to play a musical instrument.

993
00:45:47,160 –> 00:45:53,160
Coach Jim Clayton: Yeah and I told him the story about the you know they used to have that thing called drums across the tribe state.

994
00:45:53,160 –> 00:45:57,320
Coach Jim Clayton: I don’t know if they still do it at the at at the time they do it much smaller much small back birth.

995
00:45:57,800 –> 00:45:58,359
Randy Black: Yeah, it was huge.

996
00:45:58,520 –> 00:46:00,599
Coach Jim Clayton: So I was in my facility in Huntington

997
00:46:00,600 –> 00:46:02,200
Coach Jim Clayton: And it was clo we were closing up.

998
00:46:02,200 –> 00:46:03,160
Coach Jim Clayton: It was hot as crap.

999
00:46:03,160 –> 00:46:05,960
Coach Jim Clayton: Five o’clock sun was cooking on that out there.

1000
00:46:05,960 –> 00:46:07,080
Coach Jim Clayton: And I heard this.

1001
00:46:10,520 –> 00:46:12,920
Coach Jim Clayton: I’m going, what the world is that?

1002
00:46:12,760 –> 00:46:15,320
Coach Jim Clayton: And I walked out and looked out my door.

1003
00:46:15,320 –> 00:46:20,040
Coach Jim Clayton: There was ten drummers standing on a curb.

1004
00:46:20,360 –> 00:46:23,160
Coach Jim Clayton: The heat was smoking on them.

1005
00:46:23,120 –> 00:46:25,120
Coach Jim Clayton: They’re going pop pop.

1006
00:46:25,120 –> 00:46:27,600
Coach Jim Clayton: They were all in sync, all ten of them.

1007
00:46:27,760 –> 00:46:31,760
Coach Jim Clayton: And the coach was across the street sitting like this, watching.

1008
00:46:31,660 –> 00:46:33,740
Coach Jim Clayton: So finally, you know I had to go ask the coach.

1009
00:46:33,900 –> 00:46:35,740
Coach Jim Clayton: Coach, what’s going on?

1010
00:46:35,740 –> 00:46:40,620
Coach Jim Clayton: Well, we’re rehearsing our part of the for drums across the tri state.

1011
00:46:40,300 –> 00:46:41,900
Coach Jim Clayton: I said, man, it’s awful hot out here.

1012
00:46:41,900 –> 00:46:43,660
Coach Jim Clayton: Man, these guys are out here just sweating.

1013
00:46:43,660 –> 00:46:45,980
Coach Jim Clayton: I mean, just standing straight up carrying that.

1014
00:46:45,980 –> 00:46:47,340
Coach Jim Clayton: I’m going, oh my God.

1015
00:46:47,340 –> 00:46:48,940
Coach Jim Clayton: She goes, well.

1016
00:46:49,200 –> 00:46:52,800
Coach Jim Clayton: If you’re going to be the number one band in the country, this is what it takes.

1017
00:46:52,800 –> 00:46:53,200
Randy Black: Yes.

1018
00:46:53,200 –> 00:46:54,480
Coach Jim Clayton: And I said, amen, ma’am.

1019
00:46:54,480 –> 00:46:57,360
Coach Jim Clayton: I’m telling you, hey, the conversation, pow.

1020
00:46:57,760 –> 00:46:58,560
Coach Jim Clayton: You know what I mean?

1021
00:46:58,560 –> 00:47:00,160
Coach Jim Clayton: But that wasn’t basketball.

1022
00:47:00,160 –> 00:47:01,120
Randy Black: Right.

1023
00:47:01,480 –> 00:47:02,440
Coach Jim Clayton: But you know what?

1024
00:47:02,440 –> 00:47:06,120
Coach Jim Clayton: I knew exactly what she’s talking about.

1025
00:47:06,120 –> 00:47:08,760
Coach Jim Clayton: And so I’d go down to when I was in high school, Mr.

1026
00:47:08,760 –> 00:47:11,080
Coach Jim Clayton: Tweel used to be the band director in the 1980s.

1027
00:47:10,900 –> 00:47:14,099
Coach Jim Clayton: I go down there, he’d let me sit in, play the drums a little bit.

1028
00:47:14,099 –> 00:47:18,980
Coach Jim Clayton: I go to a football game, I’d go over into the band where they be at the end of the stadium, you know.

1029
00:47:18,980 –> 00:47:20,579
Coach Jim Clayton: I’m thinking to myself

1030
00:47:21,000 –> 00:47:25,720
Coach Jim Clayton: If when I was in high school, there ain’t no way in America you’d get me to do that, but you know what?

1031
00:47:25,720 –> 00:47:26,920
Coach Jim Clayton: I got smarter.

1032
00:47:26,920 –> 00:47:28,600
Coach Jim Clayton: Because I was stupid

1033
00:47:28,460 –> 00:47:29,420
Coach Jim Clayton: You know what I mean?

1034
00:47:29,420 –> 00:47:32,780
Coach Jim Clayton: I didn’t I had the wrong mindset because that’s just the way it was back then.

1035
00:47:33,180 –> 00:47:37,100
Coach Jim Clayton: Now, man, if I was going back to school, I’d learn how to play.

1036
00:47:36,760 –> 00:47:37,160
Randy Black: Yeah.

1037
00:47:37,160 –> 00:47:40,120
Coach Jim Clayton: I still do my sports, but I gotta learn how to play.

1038
00:47:40,120 –> 00:47:40,360
Randy Black: Yeah.

1039
00:47:40,360 –> 00:47:47,000
Randy Black: I remember I remember my my senior year at Spring Valley, the first year the school was open, we had um

1040
00:47:48,880 –> 00:47:57,200
Randy Black: We had one, two football players who would come out and march with uh with us at halftime in their football gear.

1041
00:47:57,680 –> 00:47:59,599
Randy Black: Because they still wanted to be a part of the band.

1042
00:47:59,599 –> 00:48:00,000
Randy Black: I loved it.

1043
00:48:00,000 –> 00:48:00,480
Randy Black: I love it.

1044
00:48:00,560 –> 00:48:01,280
Coach Jim Clayton: It was great.

1045
00:48:01,280 –> 00:48:01,760
Coach Jim Clayton: I love it.

1046
00:48:01,760 –> 00:48:03,599
Coach Jim Clayton: But I mean it’s just stupidity.

1047
00:48:03,599 –> 00:48:06,240
Coach Jim Clayton: And we’ve all done these stupid things.

1048
00:48:05,960 –> 00:48:07,080
Coach Jim Clayton: Because we didn’t know.

1049
00:48:07,560 –> 00:48:09,240
Coach Jim Clayton: I’ll be the first one to admit it.

1050
00:48:09,240 –> 00:48:11,000
Coach Jim Clayton: I’m just gonna tell you, I admit what I did.

1051
00:48:11,400 –> 00:48:18,840
Randy Black: The flip side of that though, and it kind of goes with this, you know, you know, for for years everybody referred to him as as the band geeks

1052
00:48:18,960 –> 00:48:19,920
Randy Black: We owned it.

1053
00:48:19,920 –> 00:48:21,840
Randy Black: We’re like, heck yeah, I’m a band geek.

1054
00:48:21,840 –> 00:48:22,480
Randy Black: I don’t care.

1055
00:48:22,480 –> 00:48:24,960
Randy Black: And my son, my son is a C will be a senior.

1056
00:48:24,960 –> 00:48:26,880
Randy Black: He starts school in a couple weeks.

1057
00:48:26,880 –> 00:48:27,200
Randy Black: And

1058
00:48:27,920 –> 00:48:30,800
Randy Black: He stopped band when he was in seventh grade.

1059
00:48:30,800 –> 00:48:38,160
Randy Black: And he’s now, as a senior, back in doing marching band, playing saxophone that he hasn’t played since seventh grade and loves it.

1060
00:48:37,800 –> 00:48:44,680
Randy Black: And I looked at his band director, Wes, who I’ve known now for twenty-six years, and I said, Wes, you did something I never could do.

1061
00:48:44,680 –> 00:48:45,640
Randy Black: He’s like, What’s that?

1062
00:48:45,640 –> 00:48:48,200
Randy Black: I said, You turned my son into a band geek.

1063
00:48:47,960 –> 00:48:50,360
Randy Black: And he said, yes I did, and I’m proud of it.

1064
00:48:50,360 –> 00:48:51,720
Randy Black: And my son owns it.

1065
00:48:51,720 –> 00:48:52,760
Randy Black: He loves it.

1066
00:48:52,760 –> 00:48:54,680
Randy Black: You know, and I I loved it when I was back in the day.

1067
00:48:54,920 –> 00:48:57,000
Coach Jim Clayton: Well I’m gonna tell you something about the bands.

1068
00:48:57,280 –> 00:49:02,400
Coach Jim Clayton: The bands put more time in than a lot of athletic teams.

1069
00:49:02,400 –> 00:49:06,160
Coach Jim Clayton: And they’re out there on that asphalt pavement marching.

1070
00:49:06,240 –> 00:49:07,840
Randy Black: My son got sick last week doing it.

1071
00:49:09,260 –> 00:49:11,660
Coach Jim Clayton: And how could you not have respect for that?

1072
00:49:11,660 –> 00:49:12,300
Randy Black: Mm-hmm.

1073
00:49:12,300 –> 00:49:13,420
Coach Jim Clayton: I loved it.

1074
00:49:13,420 –> 00:49:16,540
Coach Jim Clayton: I look at that and I go, man, I’m clapping.

1075
00:49:16,540 –> 00:49:20,940
Randy Black: I mean they if now if a if a student does four years of marching band

1076
00:49:21,260 –> 00:49:22,860
Randy Black: They give them a PE credit.

1077
00:49:22,860 –> 00:49:23,820
Randy Black: I don’t blame ’em.

1078
00:49:23,820 –> 00:49:24,460
Randy Black: And they should.

1079
00:49:24,460 –> 00:49:26,460
Randy Black: They they’ve earned it with everything they do.

1080
00:49:26,460 –> 00:49:28,940
Coach Jim Clayton: So especially how they teach phys ed to dut.

1081
00:49:29,020 –> 00:49:29,580
Randy Black: Yeah.

1082
00:49:30,140 –> 00:49:30,940
Coach Jim Clayton: Here’s a ball.

1083
00:49:30,940 –> 00:49:32,220
Coach Jim Clayton: No, no, I taught it.

1084
00:49:32,220 –> 00:49:33,020
Coach Jim Clayton: Mm-hmm.

1085
00:49:33,100 –> 00:49:34,380
Coach Jim Clayton: They didn’t like that either.

1086
00:49:35,000 –> 00:49:38,040
Coach Jim Clayton: But you know, like I said, I I just applaud ’em.

1087
00:49:38,040 –> 00:49:39,000
Coach Jim Clayton: I applaud ’em.

1088
00:49:39,320 –> 00:49:43,160
Coach Jim Clayton: And uh, you know, it’s it’s what you learn after you think you know it all to count.

1089
00:49:43,160 –> 00:49:46,280
Randy Black: You know, it’s it’s it’s having that strength and and the ability to

1090
00:49:46,340 –> 00:49:51,860
Randy Black: to to to persevere through it and and and to be tough, which kind of leads us here to our last quote.

1091
00:49:51,860 –> 00:49:52,660
Randy Black: Robert H.

1092
00:49:52,660 –> 00:49:55,700
Randy Black: Schuler, who was an American Christian televangelist

1093
00:49:55,680 –> 00:49:57,360
Randy Black: And he was a motivational speaker.

1094
00:49:57,360 –> 00:50:03,840
Randy Black: He was known for founding the what was known as the Crystal Cathedral, and he hosted a TV show called The Hour of Power.

1095
00:50:03,940 –> 00:50:13,220
Randy Black: And he has a from his book and his sermons, he popular popularized, that’s a hard word to say, this line as a message of hope.

1096
00:50:12,960 –> 00:50:15,520
Randy Black: And a perseverance that’s rooted in faith.

1097
00:50:15,520 –> 00:50:17,760
Randy Black: And I’ve heard you say this one myself.

1098
00:50:17,760 –> 00:50:20,240
Randy Black: That’s why I put it at the end here.

1099
00:50:20,240 –> 00:50:24,720
Randy Black: And Schuler’s quote here is that tough times never last.

1100
00:50:24,720 –> 00:50:27,839
Randy Black: But tough people do.

1101
00:50:27,839 –> 00:50:31,760
Randy Black: It’s the idea that, you know, you know, what does it mean to be tough?

1102
00:50:31,760 –> 00:50:33,200
Randy Black: Is it is it a meaningful thing?

1103
00:50:33,200 –> 00:50:34,480
Randy Black: Is it a superficial thing?

1104
00:50:34,480 –> 00:50:34,799
Randy Black: Why?

1105
00:50:34,799 –> 00:50:36,079
Randy Black: You know, how is it?

1106
00:50:36,160 –> 00:50:38,000
Randy Black: You know, what how do we look at that?

1107
00:50:38,000 –> 00:50:41,840
Randy Black: And, you know, I look at it and I’m talking about it as it’s about staying grounded.

1108
00:50:41,840 –> 00:50:44,880
Randy Black: It’s about not pretending that everything’s okay.

1109
00:50:45,440 –> 00:50:52,080
Randy Black: Sometimes you have to go through the tough situation to come out on the other side in a better place.

1110
00:50:52,080 –> 00:50:53,360
Coach Jim Clayton: Oh, there’s no question.

1111
00:50:53,360 –> 00:50:55,840
Coach Jim Clayton: I remember, you know, I say it all the time.

1112
00:50:55,940 –> 00:50:56,579
Coach Jim Clayton: Tough times.

1113
00:50:56,660 –> 00:50:58,020
Coach Jim Clayton: You gotta have thick skin.

1114
00:50:58,740 –> 00:50:59,540
Coach Jim Clayton: Okay?

1115
00:50:59,540 –> 00:51:01,540
Coach Jim Clayton: So here’s the thing about tough times.

1116
00:51:02,420 –> 00:51:08,579
Coach Jim Clayton: If there is no enemy within, the enemy outside can do you no harm.

1117
00:51:08,579 –> 00:51:09,060
Coach Jim Clayton: Right

1118
00:51:09,160 –> 00:51:15,800
Coach Jim Clayton: So it’s kinda like the old guys that used to ride the horses with the sticks and they try to poke you I don’t know what that was called jousting.

1119
00:51:15,800 –> 00:51:20,040
Coach Jim Clayton: Well they all had those metal uh those plates on plates on.

1120
00:51:20,360 –> 00:51:20,760
Coach Jim Clayton: Okay.

1121
00:51:20,760 –> 00:51:21,800
Coach Jim Clayton: Well guess what?

1122
00:51:21,800 –> 00:51:23,880
Coach Jim Clayton: You got ’em on too.

1123
00:51:23,700 –> 00:51:28,180
Coach Jim Clayton: When people start telling you this, you just let it bounce off like bing, bing, bing, bing, bing.

1124
00:51:28,180 –> 00:51:30,100
Coach Jim Clayton: Hey, that ain’t gonna get me.

1125
00:51:30,180 –> 00:51:31,380
Coach Jim Clayton: Not gonna get me.

1126
00:51:31,380 –> 00:51:32,740
Coach Jim Clayton: It’s just not gonna get me.

1127
00:51:32,740 –> 00:51:35,060
Coach Jim Clayton: So I’ll give you a quick story on that one

1128
00:51:35,480 –> 00:51:40,280
Coach Jim Clayton: Right before my basketball coach in high school, he’s passed away.

1129
00:51:40,280 –> 00:51:43,800
Coach Jim Clayton: And he said, well, if you don’t go see him

1130
00:51:44,780 –> 00:51:47,020
Coach Jim Clayton: You’re not gonna get a chance to sing.

1131
00:51:47,020 –> 00:51:48,380
Coach Jim Clayton: So I called his wife.

1132
00:51:48,380 –> 00:51:49,820
Coach Jim Clayton: I said, can I come see him?

1133
00:51:49,820 –> 00:51:51,420
Coach Jim Clayton: She said, Oh, he loved sea.

1134
00:51:51,420 –> 00:51:53,180
Coach Jim Clayton: So I’m not sure about that

1135
00:51:53,420 –> 00:51:55,020
Coach Jim Clayton: But I went over there.

1136
00:51:55,020 –> 00:51:55,660
Coach Jim Clayton: He’s laying there.

1137
00:51:55,660 –> 00:52:04,380
Coach Jim Clayton: As soon as I walked in, he couldn’t hardly say much to the he looked at me, he saw me come in, he kind of said isolated, kind of raised up and I said, Hey coach, how you doing?

1138
00:52:04,140 –> 00:52:06,700
Coach Jim Clayton: You know, and I said we got to talk about stuff.

1139
00:52:06,779 –> 00:52:10,059
Coach Jim Clayton: I said, I gotta ask you a question.

1140
00:52:10,059 –> 00:52:11,900
Coach Jim Clayton: I’ve always wanted to know this

1141
00:52:12,220 –> 00:52:17,180
Coach Jim Clayton: My senior year in high school, I broke my foot and I had it in a cast for eight weeks.

1142
00:52:17,180 –> 00:52:18,299
Coach Jim Clayton: Not a boot.

1143
00:52:18,940 –> 00:52:20,380
Coach Jim Clayton: They didn’t have those then.

1144
00:52:20,380 –> 00:52:20,859
Coach Jim Clayton: No.

1145
00:52:20,859 –> 00:52:24,619
Coach Jim Clayton: White cast with a rubber thing on the back called a walker.

1146
00:52:25,520 –> 00:52:29,440
Coach Jim Clayton: And I hadn’t run, haven’t done anything for eight weeks.

1147
00:52:29,440 –> 00:52:31,440
Coach Jim Clayton: They take me out of that cast.

1148
00:52:31,920 –> 00:52:33,839
Coach Jim Clayton: Foot’s healed, feels good

1149
00:52:34,680 –> 00:52:37,560
Coach Jim Clayton: And we’re going to go down to play Logan.

1150
00:52:37,560 –> 00:52:38,520
Coach Jim Clayton: At Logan.

1151
00:52:38,520 –> 00:52:39,480
Coach Jim Clayton: Big rival.

1152
00:52:39,880 –> 00:52:41,240
Coach Jim Clayton: Huge rival.

1153
00:52:41,240 –> 00:52:42,520
Coach Jim Clayton: He says, I’m going to put you in.

1154
00:52:42,520 –> 00:52:43,480
Coach Jim Clayton: I’m going to start you

1155
00:52:44,120 –> 00:52:46,840
Coach Jim Clayton: He says, because they just play better when you’re on the floor.

1156
00:52:46,840 –> 00:52:49,240
Coach Jim Clayton: I said, no doubt about that.

1157
00:52:49,240 –> 00:52:51,160
Coach Jim Clayton: He said, but then I’ll take you out.

1158
00:52:51,160 –> 00:52:52,920
Coach Jim Clayton: I said, okay, coach.

1159
00:52:52,380 –> 00:52:53,580
Coach Jim Clayton: I mean I was limping.

1160
00:52:53,580 –> 00:52:54,540
Coach Jim Clayton: I couldn’t hardly run.

1161
00:52:54,540 –> 00:52:56,060
Coach Jim Clayton: You know, it wasn’t my foot hurt.

1162
00:52:56,540 –> 00:52:57,420
Coach Jim Clayton: It was just stiff.

1163
00:52:57,420 –> 00:52:58,380
Randy Black: Because you hadn’t used it.

1164
00:52:58,380 –> 00:53:01,500
Coach Jim Clayton: And my calf was like dinky compared to my other one.

1165
00:53:01,900 –> 00:53:03,820
Coach Jim Clayton: So all of a sudden we’re playing

1166
00:53:04,040 –> 00:53:07,240
Coach Jim Clayton: And I grab my shirt and I tuck at it.

1167
00:53:07,240 –> 00:53:12,120
Coach Jim Clayton: Coach, he goes, he shakes his head east-west.

1168
00:53:12,120 –> 00:53:13,000
Coach Jim Clayton: No.

1169
00:53:13,000 –> 00:53:15,560
Coach Jim Clayton: I’m going, what am I going to do?

1170
00:53:15,560 –> 00:53:17,560
Coach Jim Clayton: Am I just going to run off the court?

1171
00:53:18,200 –> 00:53:20,200
Coach Jim Clayton: Just played the whole game.

1172
00:53:21,240 –> 00:53:23,400
Coach Jim Clayton: We got down to the end, had a chance to win.

1173
00:53:23,480 –> 00:53:25,240
Coach Jim Clayton: They called a foul with no time on the clock.

1174
00:53:25,240 –> 00:53:26,440
Coach Jim Clayton: Imagine that and Logan.

1175
00:53:26,440 –> 00:53:27,880
Coach Jim Clayton: And the guy makes two foul shots.

1176
00:53:27,880 –> 00:53:28,840
Coach Jim Clayton: We lose by two.

1177
00:53:28,840 –> 00:53:31,400
Coach Jim Clayton: So I said, coach, I gotta ask you a question

1178
00:53:31,340 –> 00:53:33,420
Coach Jim Clayton: Remember when I did this?

1179
00:53:33,420 –> 00:53:37,980
Coach Jim Clayton: I said, why didn’t you take me out?

1180
00:53:39,420 –> 00:53:42,940
Coach Jim Clayton: He looked at me and says, because you’re tough as hell.

1181
00:53:44,060 –> 00:53:45,580
Coach Jim Clayton: It gives me cold chills.

1182
00:53:45,900 –> 00:53:50,700
Coach Jim Clayton: I mean, w when I say that, because I haven’t said that to very many people.

1183
00:53:51,579 –> 00:53:55,740
Coach Jim Clayton: But with him saying that to me, he was a tough guy too.

1184
00:53:56,940 –> 00:54:01,020
Coach Jim Clayton: Coming from him on the last couple days of his life

1185
00:54:01,860 –> 00:54:03,060
Coach Jim Clayton: Now I know.

1186
00:54:03,060 –> 00:54:03,620
Randy Black: Right.

1187
00:54:03,620 –> 00:54:04,500
Coach Jim Clayton: Now I know.

1188
00:54:04,500 –> 00:54:05,140
Randy Black: Yep.

1189
00:54:05,140 –> 00:54:07,300
Coach Jim Clayton: Did it hurt like heck?

1190
00:54:07,300 –> 00:54:08,580
Coach Jim Clayton: Heck yeah, dude.

1191
00:54:09,060 –> 00:54:10,660
Coach Jim Clayton: Did I get on through it?

1192
00:54:10,660 –> 00:54:12,020
Coach Jim Clayton: Heck yeah, dude.

1193
00:54:12,020 –> 00:54:12,660
Coach Jim Clayton: Yep

1194
00:54:12,740 –> 00:54:13,220
Coach Jim Clayton: Okay?

1195
00:54:13,220 –> 00:54:14,580
Coach Jim Clayton: So again it doesn’t matter.

1196
00:54:14,580 –> 00:54:16,420
Coach Jim Clayton: Tough times don’t last.

1197
00:54:16,420 –> 00:54:17,540
Coach Jim Clayton: Tough people do.

1198
00:54:17,540 –> 00:54:18,420
Coach Jim Clayton: Mm-hmm.

1199
00:54:18,420 –> 00:54:21,940
Coach Jim Clayton: But see, sometimes we just give up too easy.

1200
00:54:21,940 –> 00:54:27,060
Randy Black: Yeah, it it even with even with the idea of being tough of uh with this is that

1201
00:54:27,260 –> 00:54:31,500
Randy Black: You know, at times, you have to be vulnerable too, though.

1202
00:54:31,500 –> 00:54:32,060
Randy Black: Oh yeah.

1203
00:54:32,060 –> 00:54:37,260
Randy Black: You have to, because if you’re open, you can actually become more resilient.

1204
00:54:37,260 –> 00:54:41,740
Randy Black: If you’re open to allowing that vulnerability to to show itself and show that

1205
00:54:41,660 –> 00:54:46,860
Randy Black: Yeah, I’m tough and I can make it through this, but sometimes, sometimes there’s a crack in the armor.

1206
00:54:46,860 –> 00:54:49,500
Randy Black: Sometimes I’m I’m not as strong as it as it looks.

1207
00:54:49,500 –> 00:54:53,100
Randy Black: And it’s not that you’re denying your toughness.

1208
00:54:53,140 –> 00:54:54,900
Randy Black: You’re showing your perseverance.

1209
00:54:54,900 –> 00:54:56,579
Randy Black: You’re showing your ability to move through it.

1210
00:54:56,740 –> 00:54:58,020
Randy Black: You know what I call that?

1211
00:54:58,020 –> 00:54:58,980
Coach Jim Clayton: A lesson.

1212
00:54:58,980 –> 00:54:59,700
Randy Black: Mm-hmm.

1213
00:54:59,700 –> 00:55:01,940
Coach Jim Clayton: That’s a lesson in life.

1214
00:55:01,940 –> 00:55:03,140
Coach Jim Clayton: And lessons.

1215
00:55:04,080 –> 00:55:06,880
Coach Jim Clayton: Like that in life are blessings.

1216
00:55:06,880 –> 00:55:07,520
Randy Black: Yes.

1217
00:55:07,520 –> 00:55:08,720
Coach Jim Clayton: They are blessings.

1218
00:55:08,720 –> 00:55:09,280
Randy Black: Definitely.

1219
00:55:09,280 –> 00:55:11,040
Coach Jim Clayton: And some people don’t look at it like that.

1220
00:55:11,520 –> 00:55:13,120
Coach Jim Clayton: And I’m not sure I ever did either too.

1221
00:55:13,120 –> 00:55:15,680
Coach Jim Clayton: I got older and started reading and and doing things I

1222
00:55:15,580 –> 00:55:20,220
Coach Jim Clayton: I ne I wish I’d have done but see that stuff wasn’t available because we didn’t have that stuff available.

1223
00:55:20,220 –> 00:55:23,500
Coach Jim Clayton: That stuff that I’m talking about wasn’t in an encyclopedia.

1224
00:55:23,500 –> 00:55:23,740
Coach Jim Clayton: Yeah.

1225
00:55:23,740 –> 00:55:27,580
Randy Black: We didn’t you you didn’t we didn’t I mean even up until I was a teenager

1226
00:55:27,400 –> 00:55:30,119
Randy Black: We didn’t have that instant access to information that we have.

1227
00:55:30,359 –> 00:55:30,839
Randy Black: No.

1228
00:55:30,839 –> 00:55:33,400
Coach Jim Clayton: And that’s man, that is phenomenal.

1229
00:55:34,119 –> 00:55:36,599
Coach Jim Clayton: And kids today know how to get it.

1230
00:55:36,980 –> 00:55:41,540
Coach Jim Clayton: And so, you know, I spend my l in my lane where that’s what I do.

1231
00:55:41,540 –> 00:55:44,580
Coach Jim Clayton: I’m not going outside my lane over here, not anymore.

1232
00:55:45,860 –> 00:55:47,140
Coach Jim Clayton: I know my path.

1233
00:55:47,140 –> 00:55:48,100
Randy Black: Yes.

1234
00:55:48,280 –> 00:55:52,680
Coach Jim Clayton: And now it’s got a lot of curves in it, ’cause I got a lot of weight with things to cook.

1235
00:55:52,680 –> 00:55:55,320
Coach Jim Clayton: But, you know, I don’t care

1236
00:55:55,559 –> 00:55:56,760
Coach Jim Clayton: You know, I don’t care.

1237
00:55:56,760 –> 00:55:58,920
Coach Jim Clayton: It’s just, can you stick with something?

1238
00:55:58,920 –> 00:56:01,240
Coach Jim Clayton: See, everybody has that give up mentality.

1239
00:56:01,480 –> 00:56:02,920
Coach Jim Clayton: It’s too easy to quit.

1240
00:56:02,920 –> 00:56:03,400
Randy Black: It is.

1241
00:56:03,400 –> 00:56:05,079
Coach Jim Clayton: And if you quit once

1242
00:56:04,960 –> 00:56:06,560
Coach Jim Clayton: It makes it easier the second time.

1243
00:56:06,960 –> 00:56:08,720
Coach Jim Clayton: Then that makes it easier the third time.

1244
00:56:08,880 –> 00:56:10,640
Coach Jim Clayton: And then you just keep on the game.

1245
00:56:10,800 –> 00:56:12,240
Randy Black: And then you’re just putting everything.

1246
00:56:12,240 –> 00:56:18,320
Coach Jim Clayton: When they go on against fan, oh bad, when the crap hits the fan, some people run and some people stun.

1247
00:56:18,320 –> 00:56:19,280
Randy Black: Yeah.

1248
00:56:19,140 –> 00:56:19,700
Coach Jim Clayton: Okay.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I don’t know if you’ve ever seen that movie with Al Pacino called Synth of a Woman, where they tried to frame that little guy, Charlie.

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Randy Black: Yep.

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00:56:27,059 –> 00:56:29,299
Coach Jim Clayton: And he went to battle for him.

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00:56:29,740 –> 00:56:34,620
Coach Jim Clayton: Oh, he got an Oscar for that for that stage speech.

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Coach Jim Clayton: It was awesome.

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00:56:35,740 –> 00:56:38,940
Coach Jim Clayton: Oh, what kind of are you producing here?

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00:56:38,940 –> 00:56:42,540
Coach Jim Clayton: You know, I I mean I had the whole thing down to a science.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Yeah.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And uh

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00:56:43,660 –> 00:56:46,940
Coach Jim Clayton: You know, that boy right here is gonna make you proud one day.

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00:56:46,940 –> 00:56:47,980
Coach Jim Clayton: But what are you doing?

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00:56:47,980 –> 00:56:57,340
Coach Jim Clayton: Oh, you selling him out to hang out with this guy who’s a liar, a thief, a cheat, you know, and you’re sell you’re you’re oh man, I I just get fired up when I see this.

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Coach Jim Clayton: So you know, I like I said I I that that quote is one of my favorite ones of all time.

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Randy Black: Yes.

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Randy Black: That’s why that’s why I it was originally number nine on the list, and I moved it to ten, so because I wanted to close out that one.

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Randy Black: But

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Randy Black: You know, we’ve taken the time, we’ve looked at these great quotes here on these last two episodes, but now we’ve reached that point in the show where our own Coach Clayton is going to share his wisdom of the week.

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Cheesy Announcer Guy: Now it’s time for Jimmy’s Wisdom of the Week.

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Cheesy Announcer Guy: This is where Jimmy shares one of his famous genius to inspire the listener.

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Randy Black: Okay, Jim, so you gave me a piece of paper down.

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Randy Black: stairs before we came up here.

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Randy Black: And it had a quote on it you wanted to use for the wisdom of the week.

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Randy Black: And it says that sometimes when you’re in a dark place, you think you’ve been buried, but actually you’ve been planted.

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Randy Black: Break that down for us.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Okay, so sometimes when you’re in the dark, you think, man, it’s closing in on me.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Okay, you see coming in.

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00:57:56,300 –> 00:57:57,339
Coach Jim Clayton: Well guess what

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00:57:57,640 –> 00:57:59,880
Coach Jim Clayton: Go we’re gonna go outside this door right now?

1277
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Coach Jim Clayton: Guess what it is?

1278
00:58:01,799 –> 00:58:02,760
Coach Jim Clayton: It’s dark.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Yep.

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00:58:03,559 –> 00:58:06,200
Coach Jim Clayton: Well guess what’s gonna happen about seven o’clock tomorrow morning?

1281
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Coach Jim Clayton: It’s gonna get light.

1282
00:58:07,160 –> 00:58:08,680
Coach Jim Clayton: It’s gonna get light

1283
00:58:08,400 –> 00:58:10,640
Coach Jim Clayton: But you see, we’re not thinking about that.

1284
00:58:11,039 –> 00:58:12,480
Coach Jim Clayton: We’re stuck in the rut.

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00:58:12,480 –> 00:58:12,960
Randy Black: Yeah.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Okay?

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Coach Jim Clayton: Well what a lot of people don’t realize is it’s like parachute.

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00:58:18,420 –> 00:58:22,820
Coach Jim Clayton: When you jump, you know when your parachute comes out, you haven’t watched you go up.

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00:58:22,820 –> 00:58:23,700
Randy Black: Yep.

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00:58:23,700 –> 00:58:26,260
Coach Jim Clayton: But when you actually jump out of the plane

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00:58:26,540 –> 00:58:29,180
Coach Jim Clayton: Before the parachute comes up, you don’t go up.

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00:58:29,180 –> 00:58:29,580
Randy Black: No.

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00:58:29,580 –> 00:58:30,460
Coach Jim Clayton: You go up?

1294
00:58:30,460 –> 00:58:31,900
Coach Jim Clayton: You’re going down.

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00:58:31,900 –> 00:58:32,540
Coach Jim Clayton: Okay.

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00:58:32,540 –> 00:58:35,260
Coach Jim Clayton: Well, that’s the same thing with when you’re planting.

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Coach Jim Clayton: When you plant a seed in the ground

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Coach Jim Clayton: All the action, the foundation of that plan begins where nobody can see it.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And then all of a sudden, boop, something little pops down to earth.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Ow, sunlight.

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00:58:52,760 –> 00:58:54,280
Coach Jim Clayton: And then that thing what?

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00:58:54,280 –> 00:58:55,240
Randy Black: Starts to grow.

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00:58:55,240 –> 00:58:56,120
Coach Jim Clayton: Oh my gosh.

1304
00:58:56,520 –> 00:58:58,520
Coach Jim Clayton: And you can use an example of a tree.

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00:58:58,520 –> 00:58:59,240
Coach Jim Clayton: Mm-hmm.

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00:58:59,240 –> 00:59:01,560
Coach Jim Clayton: Look at where they get planted.

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00:59:01,160 –> 00:59:03,640
Coach Jim Clayton: And then look at them twenty or thirty years later.

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00:59:03,640 –> 00:59:05,080
Randy Black: Oh my gosh.

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00:59:05,080 –> 00:59:05,880
Randy Black: Mm-hmm.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Okay.

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00:59:06,600 –> 00:59:08,040
Coach Jim Clayton: So it’s a mindset.

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00:59:08,040 –> 00:59:08,520
Randy Black: Yep.

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00:59:08,520 –> 00:59:10,760
Coach Jim Clayton: You can feel like it’s everything’s closing in on you.

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00:59:11,000 –> 00:59:11,640
Coach Jim Clayton: Well, did it only

1315
00:59:12,300 –> 00:59:14,380
Coach Jim Clayton: What are you going to do about it?

1316
00:59:14,700 –> 00:59:15,740
Coach Jim Clayton: Let it?

1317
00:59:15,740 –> 00:59:16,620
Randy Black: Exactly.

1318
00:59:16,620 –> 00:59:19,500
Coach Jim Clayton: Or are you going to come with a different mindset attitude?

1319
00:59:19,500 –> 00:59:23,660
Coach Jim Clayton: So again, just don’t think about when things are going tough.

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00:59:23,820 –> 00:59:25,500
Coach Jim Clayton: There’s always hope.

1321
00:59:25,500 –> 00:59:26,380
Coach Jim Clayton: Hope.

1322
00:59:26,380 –> 00:59:27,260
Coach Jim Clayton: Optimism.

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00:59:27,260 –> 00:59:27,500
Randy Black: Yes.

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00:59:27,660 –> 00:59:28,620
Coach Jim Clayton: Not negativity.

1325
00:59:29,660 –> 00:59:30,700
Coach Jim Clayton: You know.

1326
00:59:30,700 –> 00:59:32,620
Coach Jim Clayton: Hope’s not a strategy.

1327
00:59:32,820 –> 00:59:36,420
Coach Jim Clayton: But let you know that there could be a good side.

1328
00:59:36,420 –> 00:59:36,980
Randy Black: Exactly.

1329
00:59:36,980 –> 00:59:38,660
Coach Jim Clayton: Now it’s up to you to make that happen.

1330
00:59:38,660 –> 00:59:39,940
Randy Black: Yes it is.

1331
00:59:39,940 –> 00:59:43,940
Coach Jim Clayton: So you can feel like, oh man, throwing the dirt in on me.

1332
00:59:43,940 –> 00:59:46,100
Coach Jim Clayton: Oh yeah, but I ain’t ready to go

1333
00:59:46,720 –> 00:59:48,240
Coach Jim Clayton: Hold on.

1334
00:59:48,240 –> 00:59:51,920
Coach Jim Clayton: You’re kicking that out there and you come flying out there like, oh my gosh.

1335
00:59:51,920 –> 00:59:52,480
Coach Jim Clayton: Yeah.

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00:59:52,480 –> 00:59:54,800
Coach Jim Clayton: See, and that that that that’s what that means to me.

1337
00:59:54,800 –> 00:59:56,560
Coach Jim Clayton: I mean it’s just like I said.

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00:59:56,400 –> 00:59:58,880
Coach Jim Clayton: A plant to grow takes time.

1339
00:59:59,520 –> 01:00:00,560
Coach Jim Clayton: And guess what?

1340
01:00:00,560 –> 01:00:01,760
Coach Jim Clayton: So do you.

1341
01:00:01,760 –> 01:00:02,720
Randy Black: Yes.

1342
01:00:02,720 –> 01:00:03,680
Coach Jim Clayton: So do you.

1343
01:00:04,240 –> 01:00:04,720
Randy Black: Take time.

1344
01:00:04,880 –> 01:00:07,040
Randy Black: And the and you have to also look at it as

1345
01:00:07,340 –> 01:00:10,620
Randy Black: If you’re the same person you were a decade ago, you ain’t grown.

1346
01:00:10,620 –> 01:00:11,660
Randy Black: You haven’t grown at all.

1347
01:00:11,660 –> 01:00:12,780
Randy Black: You’re stagnant.

1348
01:00:13,020 –> 01:00:13,820
Randy Black: You haven’t grown.

1349
01:00:13,820 –> 01:00:20,220
Randy Black: You’re you’re that tree that got to be seven feet tall and never moved above it.

1350
01:00:20,240 –> 01:00:26,720
Randy Black: And you may not even be leap putting out leaves that are are good at this time because you stopped growing.

1351
01:00:26,720 –> 01:00:33,760
Coach Jim Clayton: And a lot of that is where we have learned what we learn to put limitations on ourselves.

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01:00:33,760 –> 01:00:34,720
Randy Black: Mm-hmm.

1353
01:00:34,640 –> 01:00:36,640
Coach Jim Clayton: We’re our own worst enemy.

1354
01:00:36,640 –> 01:00:37,760
Randy Black: Yes, we are.

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01:00:37,760 –> 01:00:38,319
Coach Jim Clayton: Definitely.

1356
01:00:38,480 –> 01:00:43,599
Coach Jim Clayton: I always tell people all the time this no one’s more qualified to be you than you.

1357
01:00:43,599 –> 01:00:44,480
Coach Jim Clayton: Mm-hmm.

1358
01:00:44,480 –> 01:00:45,920
Coach Jim Clayton: So be you.

1359
01:00:45,920 –> 01:00:46,720
Randy Black: Awesome.

1360
01:00:46,720 –> 01:00:47,599
Coach Jim Clayton: Step out

1361
01:00:48,020 –> 01:00:49,619
Coach Jim Clayton: You were born to step out.

1362
01:00:49,619 –> 01:00:52,740
Coach Jim Clayton: You were not born to blend in unless you’re hunting.

1363
01:00:53,780 –> 01:00:54,820
Coach Jim Clayton: I’ll let you.

1364
01:00:55,060 –> 01:00:59,540
Coach Jim Clayton: But you see, the world doesn’t need any more copies.

1365
01:00:59,700 –> 01:01:01,940
Coach Jim Clayton: They need originals.

1366
01:01:02,100 –> 01:01:03,140
Randy Black: Exactly.

1367
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Randy Black: So thank you, Jim.

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Randy Black: Another inspiring nugget in our Wisdom of the Week segment.

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Randy Black: If there’s one thing that these last five quotes we looked at tonight make clear, it’s this.

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Randy Black: Resilience isn’t always loud.

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Randy Black: Sometimes it’s quiet.

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01:01:18,059 –> 01:01:20,460
Randy Black: It’s the decision to stand back.

1373
01:01:20,620 –> 01:01:27,980
Randy Black: Uh up on your feet to push forward or to find meaning even when the world feels like it’s closing in on you.

1374
01:01:27,980 –> 01:01:30,860
Randy Black: Whether it’s a paw proverb about persistence

1375
01:01:30,900 –> 01:01:39,299
Randy Black: uh Marley’s call to find strength and necessity, or Frankl’s insight on changing ourselves, each of these quotes invites us to reflect

1376
01:01:39,559 –> 01:01:43,880
Randy Black: and maybe even reframe how we see our own struggles.

1377
01:01:43,880 –> 01:01:46,760
Randy Black: These aren’t just lessons from history.

1378
01:01:46,760 –> 01:01:49,799
Randy Black: They are fuel for today.

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Randy Black: So here’s your challenge, listeners.

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01:01:52,000 –> 01:01:55,120
Randy Black: Think about where you’re being stretched right now.

1381
01:01:55,120 –> 01:01:58,880
Randy Black: Is it in your work, your relationship, your faith?

1382
01:01:58,880 –> 01:02:04,480
Randy Black: What’s one quote from today’s episode that spoke directly into your situation?

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01:02:04,220 –> 01:02:05,500
Randy Black: We want to hear about it.

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Randy Black: So head over to shooting itstraightpodcast.

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Randy Black: com slash zero zero seven, the page for this episode, and leave us a comment or drop us a message using the contact form there and tell us how you are finding strength.

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Randy Black: to keep going how you’re bouncing back.

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Randy Black: So one last thing and just a quick heads up.

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Randy Black: Shooting it straight now has a Discord community.

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Randy Black: It’s free to join.

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01:02:41,020 –> 01:02:42,140
Randy Black: It’s super easy.

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01:02:42,140 –> 01:02:44,300
Randy Black: Just head over to shootingitstraightpodcast.

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01:02:44,300 –> 01:02:46,300
Randy Black: com slash Discord to get started.

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01:02:46,300 –> 01:02:48,140
Randy Black: It’ll take you to the invite page.

1395
01:02:48,140 –> 01:02:52,780
Randy Black: There is one question there you need to answer, and that’s why do you want to join

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01:02:52,460 –> 01:02:53,740
Randy Black: And then it’ll come through.

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01:02:53,740 –> 01:02:55,740
Randy Black: We’ll get you approved and get you in the community.

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Randy Black: There’s uh already some one person I invited, a gentleman I know out in Indiana who has joined the community already.

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Randy Black: So we’re we’re starting it.

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Randy Black: Not a lot there right now, still in the process of building it

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01:03:06,340 –> 01:03:14,500
Randy Black: uh and and and making a place there for people to come together and connect and we would love to see you there in our discord community

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Randy Black: We’ll be back next week with another episode of Shooting It Straight.

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Randy Black: In that episode, we’ll be taking some scriptures from the Bible

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01:03:22,840 –> 01:03:25,720
Randy Black: that relate back to the idea of resilience.

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Randy Black: We’re going to break them down and we’re going to we’re going to see what we can learn from the word of God.

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Randy Black: on the topic of resilience.

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Randy Black: Until next time, I’m Randy Black.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I’m Coach Jim Clayton.

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Randy Black: And we hope that you have an amazing week and come back and join us on the next episode.

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Randy Black: That’s where you’ll find every episode, updates, and more.

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Coach Jim Clayton: The great ones don’t just start strong.

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Coach Jim Clayton: finish strong.

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Coach Jim Clayton: So matter where you are in your game, stay locked in, stay faithful, and remember, keep shooting it straight.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Bam son