The Bounce Back Mentality (Part 1)

Coach Jim Clayton: Bam son, this is Shoot It Straight, the podcast where life blessings don't come sugar-coated and excuses get bitched.

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Pam son in public.

Coach Jim Clayton: Well we're working on that, Randy.

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Bam, son

Welcome to Shooting It Straight, Episode Two.

I'm Randy Black here with my co host, Jim Clayton.

Jim, it is great to be with you again today, and I'm I'm glad you came back for episode number two.

Oh I love hey, you're not gonna get rid of me that quick.

Ha ha.

That's that's the goal to not get rid of Jim that quick.

Uh today we're diving into what it really means to bounce back.

You know, life, just like in sports, will throw punches, it'll deliver losses, and it'll test your limits.

But it's not the fall that defines you.

It's how you rise up

So in this episode, we're talking about resilience.

It's a powerful mindset that helps you push through the pain to stay in the fight and to come out stronger on the other side.

We're calling this the bounce back mentality.

So Jim chose this topic of resilience for a very

specific reason.

And before we get in and start defining it, Jim, kinda kinda share what is that reasoning for picking this.

Coach Jim Clayton: Well a lot of people don't know this, but this September will be three years.

Coach Jim Clayton: But I was diagnosed with cancer, colon cancer, stage four.

Coach Jim Clayton: Most people look at that when you see stage four, that's a death sentence

Coach Jim Clayton: So I use my coaching mentality along with some of my coaching friends, specifically a coach that we all know named Greg White.

Coach Jim Clayton: Greg is a former coach of Marshall University, University of Charleston, motivational speaker all over the country, runs basketball camps.

Coach Jim Clayton: So I told him that I had cancer.

Coach Jim Clayton: I didn't know he had cancer.

Coach Jim Clayton: And he says, well, here's what we gotta do.

Coach Jim Clayton: We got to get the game plan.

Coach Jim Clayton: We got to get the facts.

Coach Jim Clayton: We got to determine how we're going to do it, and we got to execute the plan, just like a basketball game.

Coach Jim Clayton: So it took me a couple weeks to get all the facts in.

Coach Jim Clayton: You know, got a plan.

Coach Jim Clayton: I went to Cleveland Clinic, got a second opinion, put a plan together, and made it work.

Coach Jim Clayton: Now, I didn't know all the things that were going to happen along this journey

Coach Jim Clayton: But he kind of prepared me because he'd been down that journey himself.

Coach Jim Clayton: Right.

Coach Jim Clayton: So that was like gold.

Coach Jim Clayton: You know what I mean?

Coach Jim Clayton: I'm listening to it.

Coach Jim Clayton: So funny because everything he told me was exactly what happened.

Coach Jim Clayton: And, you know, cancer treatments do different things to different people.

Coach Jim Clayton: Okay?

Coach Jim Clayton: So for me, you know, it was it it's not really been, I would say, all that bad.

Coach Jim Clayton: My body's been able to accept it.

Coach Jim Clayton: But there were times where man I hit some low points.

Right.

Coach Jim Clayton: I mean I just hit some low points.

Coach Jim Clayton: I lost 50, 60 pounds.

Coach Jim Clayton: I never was overweight, but I went from, you know, 185 down to 140

Coach Jim Clayton: And I look just, it just looked like I look like a skeleton.

Coach Jim Clayton: You know, and at that time, you know, it's easy to it's easy to feel sorry for yourself.

Coach Jim Clayton: But I couldn't do that.

Right.

Coach Jim Clayton: Because the bottom line was I wasn't going to let it get me.

Coach Jim Clayton: And I was going to keep on, keeping on doing what I'm doing.

Coach Jim Clayton: Don't stop.

Coach Jim Clayton: Not going to stop

Coach Jim Clayton: And I've been working ever since.

Coach Jim Clayton: I come to the gym.

Coach Jim Clayton: I just got off a chemo treatment today.

Coach Jim Clayton: I'm in the gym.

Coach Jim Clayton: We're right here.

Coach Jim Clayton: We're busting this out

Coach Jim Clayton: You know, so you know, I see the people over in this hospital.

Coach Jim Clayton: I see it.

Coach Jim Clayton: If you ever want a 30-second come back to life real quick, don't feel sorry for yourself, just stop down at Cabal Huntington on the second floor of the cancer center and just walk in there.

Yeah.

Coach Jim Clayton: Odds are you're probably gonna find somebody you might know that you didn't even know was suffering from this.

Coach Jim Clayton: Because people don't really go public with this a lot

Coach Jim Clayton: Only reason I went public was because I wanted to share with people, you know, tough times don't last, tough people do.

Coach Jim Clayton: And you can't be pitiful and powerful at the same time.

Coach Jim Clayton: So you can't feel sorry for yourself.

Coach Jim Clayton: And we all have those little pity parts.

Coach Jim Clayton: So when I have a little pity party, I'll go, okay, you got 30 seconds or 10 seconds or 5 seconds.

Coach Jim Clayton: I reach up there with my index finger and I flick it off.

Coach Jim Clayton: You're done.

Coach Jim Clayton: Gone

Coach Jim Clayton: Now it's time to turn on the on the And that's how I attack it.

Coach Jim Clayton: It's a mental thing.

Coach Jim Clayton: We talked about the mindset.

Coach Jim Clayton: You know, that's achieving the right mindset.

Coach Jim Clayton: That's the A in the word, bam.

Coach Jim Clayton: Okay?

Coach Jim Clayton: That's what that's like.

Coach Jim Clayton: So

Coach Jim Clayton: You know, I've had to bounce, I've had to adjust, I have my days where I feel like I feel good today.

Coach Jim Clayton: Tomorrow's Friday.

Coach Jim Clayton: Well, I know that's when I get a little tired.

Yeah.

Coach Jim Clayton: I can tell you what's going to happen for that, but I can't let that happen.

Right.

Coach Jim Clayton: Even though I'm that's the way I feel, I gotta keep pressing.

Coach Jim Clayton: I gotta keep pressing.

Coach Jim Clayton: Sometimes I have to sit down and take it easy.

Coach Jim Clayton: That's hard for me to do

Coach Jim Clayton: Oh yeah.

Coach Jim Clayton: That's a hard pill for me to swallow.

Coach Jim Clayton: Sitting down, because I'm up, down, over, under, and through.

Coach Jim Clayton: And that's just the way I roll.

Coach Jim Clayton: And this wasn't going to stop me.

Coach Jim Clayton: And you know what?

Coach Jim Clayton: It had to stop me.

Good.

Coach Jim Clayton: And so when I go over there and I see these people that are there, I talk to them, then I get them fired up

Coach Jim Clayton: You know, I get them feeling good about themselves because some of them they just sit there and you can tell they've kind of put in the white flag, they surrender.

Coach Jim Clayton: And you can't do that.

No, no.

Coach Jim Clayton: You just can't do that.

Coach Jim Clayton: You know, I saw a story, and I'll end on this one, that my daughter sent to me of a gentleman that had stage four pancreatic cancer.

Coach Jim Clayton: That's about the worst.

Coach Jim Clayton: Yeah.

Coach Jim Clayton: You don't survive from that.

Coach Jim Clayton: The guy says, doctor says, we can't do anything more for you.

Coach Jim Clayton: He says, you need to go home, but you've got about two years.

Coach Jim Clayton: Enjoy the best you can.

Coach Jim Clayton: He said, mm-hmm.

Coach Jim Clayton: So he started looking at some alternative things and he started walking.

Coach Jim Clayton: Couldn't walk down the end of the driveway without Started walking.

Coach Jim Clayton: Then that walk turned into a little run

Coach Jim Clayton: And that run turned into a little faster run.

Coach Jim Clayton: Well, let's fast forward 33 years later.

Coach Jim Clayton: He now runs marathons, triathlons, Iron Man competition.

Coach Jim Clayton: was stage four pancreatic cancer.

Coach Jim Clayton: Now if he didn't listen to those guys says pack your bags, give up, you know, okay.

He wouldn't be here.

Coach Jim Clayton: He wouldn't be here.

Coach Jim Clayton: But he didn't listen to them.

Coach Jim Clayton: You know the old saying, Jim Valvano?

Coach Jim Clayton: Never give up.

Coach Jim Clayton: Never stop.

Coach Jim Clayton: Never give up.

Coach Jim Clayton: You got to keep believing in yourself.

Coach Jim Clayton: That's the first word of the letter.

Coach Jim Clayton: Bam.

Coach Jim Clayton: Believe in yourself.

Coach Jim Clayton: So all these principles

Coach Jim Clayton: In this cancer journey I'm on, you know, and I'm whipping it.

Coach Jim Clayton: You know, the doctors told me, since we can't get 100% of it today

Coach Jim Clayton: But we can get 99.

Coach Jim Clayton: 9%.

Coach Jim Clayton: So I thought about that for about one second.

Coach Jim Clayton: I said, well, what in life is guaranteed 100% of the time anyway?

Coach Jim Clayton: Nothing.

Coach Jim Clayton: I said, I'll take 99.

Coach Jim Clayton: 9 anytime you want to go.

Coach Jim Clayton: That's why I'm on that 99-point journey.

Coach Jim Clayton: I've got it about 99.

Coach Jim Clayton: 9, and that's the way I'm going to keep it.

Coach Jim Clayton: If that's the way it is

Coach Jim Clayton: I can still truck on and on and on for a lot of years and go.

Coach Jim Clayton: Yeah.

Coach Jim Clayton: You know, but you know, again, that really that resiliency of that, when you get that call, you've heard that commercial on the TV.

Coach Jim Clayton: You know, you got cancer.

Coach Jim Clayton: Yeah.

Coach Jim Clayton: And you just pause for a second.

Coach Jim Clayton: Did I really hear what did that guy just really say that?

Coach Jim Clayton: Yeah.

Coach Jim Clayton: It's a moment that nobody wants to get.

Coach Jim Clayton: Yeah.

Coach Jim Clayton: Well, I always believe, and we talked about this on our first episode, things happen for a reason

Coach Jim Clayton: We don't always know what they are, and it's not really our our our judgment to you know to to to try to well why is this happening to me?

Coach Jim Clayton: How come it's not happening to somebody else?

Coach Jim Clayton: There's a reason

Coach Jim Clayton: And I know what the reason is now.

Coach Jim Clayton: I didn't know when I first started.

Coach Jim Clayton: But God's got a plan for me to share this, you know, and uplift others

Coach Jim Clayton: And it comes back to that teaching, that mentor, that mentality, that positive attitude, that you can take people out of deep, dark depression with the right tone and the right atmosphere.

Coach Jim Clayton: And bring 'em right up out of that.

Mm-hmm.

Coach Jim Clayton: And that's what I'm gonna try to do.

Coach Jim Clayton: That's what I'm trying to do with this.

I got I you know, I could you know the what you just said there hits home with me.

You know, my dad, we found out

You know, last last fall that he had uh prostate cancer.

And his first reaction was to give up

It hit him hard.

He's like, that's it.

He's like, I'm gonna close the business.

I'm gonna sell everything.

I'm just, you know, there and it it took, I don't want to say it was a it was a uh a metaphorical slap in the face

from my mom to say, there is no reason for this.

There's no reason to react this way.

This is something that can be treated.

And it will take time.

But we will get there.

So he, you know, it hit him hard.

And he realized very quickly

He had to bounce back from the bad news and start doing his start doing things differently.

And he dove right in.

He got going.

They started his treatment plan.

He did his radiation.

He went.

And they got it.

His his test came back and he has no trace of the cancer at all.

It's awesome.

Because he didn't give up.

There's the word.

So I I completely, completely understand exactly where you're coming from.

Coach Jim Clayton: And the crazy part about it is, is everybody who's listening to this.

Coach Jim Clayton: Has somebody in their family who has had this, currently has it, just being diagnosed, or is going to get it later in life, just don't know it.

Right.

Coach Jim Clayton: Now it's not something you worry about, but when it hits you,

Coach Jim Clayton: Bottom line is, what are you gonna do about it?

Exactly.

Coach Jim Clayton: That's what it comes down to.

Coach Jim Clayton: What are you going to do about it?

I had to go in in December and have colonoscopy done because I was losing blood and they weren't sure where.

And, you know, they go in and do the procedure and I'm not

I'm not a I mean I'm not young, but I'm not old either.

I'm I'm forty-four now.

I was forty-three at the time they're spraying forty-three at the time they did the procedure and

They found seven polyps in there.

And the doctor was really like, that's a lot.

He's like, for your age, that's a lot.

He's like, we we're sh we're 99.

9% sure we've got them all.

But we're gonna go back in in three years and check everything again.

And it hit me hard.

Like I was really, really concerned.

And I t when I called my wife to give her the news.

Her response to me was, we just need to pray.

Absolutely, 100%.

And it it was that, you know, like I said, it's that metaphorical slap in the face.

It woke me up to say, okay, well then I'm gonna have to do whatever I have to do to make sure that

We take care of this, that we take this bad news and we work our way through it.

Um, you know, seven polyps taken out.

Four of them were precancerous.

So I know that there's the possibility sitting there that it it could happen.

But you know, I'm not gonna let it hold me back.

I'm not gonna let it beat me down.

I'm going to keep fighting to, you know, if it if the if it ends up being that that's what develops, I I I'm going to bounce right off of it and keep working.

Coach Jim Clayton: And they've made so many strides in this stuff now and different things.

Coach Jim Clayton: You know, I went to Texas, MD Anderson.

Coach Jim Clayton: I've been to three different ones.

Coach Jim Clayton: I got three of the best doctors in the world.

Coach Jim Clayton: And they can come up with a plan.

Coach Jim Clayton: They've got it

Coach Jim Clayton: You know, but again, well the doctors told me the biggest things while you're healthy, why you're handling this, is because you never stop moving.

Coach Jim Clayton: I walk 8,000 to 10,000 steps a day.

Coach Jim Clayton: That's almost five miles.

Oh, yeah.

Coach Jim Clayton: Okay?

Coach Jim Clayton: Not straight like just walking up, down, left, down.

Coach Jim Clayton: Yeah, you're all over the place.

Coach Jim Clayton: I'm all over the place.

Coach Jim Clayton: I'm bouncing everywhere sway but loose.

Coach Jim Clayton: And he says, that right there

Coach Jim Clayton: Helps your body recover more than anything else.

Coach Jim Clayton: Well, you ain't got to worry about that, Doc, because I got that part covered.

Coach Jim Clayton: I'm never gonna stop and walking and moving.

Coach Jim Clayton: And that's just kind of how I do it.

Coach Jim Clayton: And uh

Coach Jim Clayton: You know, like I said, I I would pass that on to anybody.

Coach Jim Clayton: But, you know, like I said, it doesn't matter what happens to you, whether it's how you're gonna handle it.

Coach Jim Clayton: Tough times don't last, tough people do.

Coach Jim Clayton: And I'll tell you one last thing and we'll move on

Coach Jim Clayton: That you said something about prayer.

Coach Jim Clayton: I'm going to tell you something.

Coach Jim Clayton: You know, all the prayers that I get from all my friends, those are the ones that hit harder than anything.

Coach Jim Clayton: I mean, I can talk to certain people, but somebody will send me something, and man, it just goes through me like my heart button just pow.

Coach Jim Clayton: And man, I'm sitting there, tears coming down.

Coach Jim Clayton: I'm not sad tears, they're happy tears.

Coach Jim Clayton: I'm just feeling it.

Coach Jim Clayton: I'm absorbing it.

Coach Jim Clayton: And sometimes people just don't know the power of them just saying one or two little positive things

Coach Jim Clayton: That might just come right at the perfect time.

Coach Jim Clayton: And it's like, I just needed to hear that today.

Coach Jim Clayton: You know, and that's what I try to send out to people

Coach Jim Clayton: So I pass it on, you know, and when you do that, I'm telling you, you'll feel better, you'll have a better day, not feel sorry for yourself, you know, you just say, okay, let's go.

Coach Jim Clayton: And I don't care, and I said this earlier, and I'll say it again, I'll say it multiple times.

Coach Jim Clayton: Don't care what kind of day you had today.

Coach Jim Clayton: I hope it was a great one.

Coach Jim Clayton: But if a day wasn't your best day ever, it ends at 12.

Coach Jim Clayton: 01.

Coach Jim Clayton: And it starts a new one.

Coach Jim Clayton: And you ain't gonna let tomorrow control the next day.

Exactly.

Coach Jim Clayton: And that's what too many people do.

Exactly.

Coach Jim Clayton: And you just gotta learn how to do it.

Coach Jim Clayton: And that's something you learn

Coach Jim Clayton: That ain't something you're born with.

Coach Jim Clayton: You learn it or you don't learn it.

Coach Jim Clayton: And if you don't learn it, life's gonna be hard.

So resilience.

Let's let's take a minute, let's define what resilience is.

And you wrote a definition out for me.

What what what did you write out there, Jim, that is your definition of resilience?

Coach Jim Clayton: I said my definition of res of resilience.

Coach Jim Clayton: Is the ability to recover or adjust to change some type of misfortune

Coach Jim Clayton: Or some extreme difficulty in your life.

Coach Jim Clayton: That's what it is.

Coach Jim Clayton: That's bounce back.

Coach Jim Clayton: Yeah.

Coach Jim Clayton: That's the key to everything.

Coach Jim Clayton: Not avoiding bad times, because bad times are going to happen.

Oh yeah.

Coach Jim Clayton: I don't care what you do, it ain't always gonna be perfect.

Coach Jim Clayton: But the question is, how do you deal with it?

Coach Jim Clayton: Right.

Coach Jim Clayton: How do you cope with it

Coach Jim Clayton: Are you feeling sorry for yourself or you smack it head on and say I'm coming right at you?

Coach Jim Clayton: If you're waiting on me, you're backing up because I'm coming at you.

Coach Jim Clayton: And you know, the those setbacks, I look at setbacks a different way than most people.

Coach Jim Clayton: Setbacks are just the greatest chance to make the greatest comeback ever in your life.

Coach Jim Clayton: So a setback can set up the comeback.

Coach Jim Clayton: With the right attitude, you know, all those things.

Coach Jim Clayton: And that's that's my definition of resilience.

Coach Jim Clayton: It's like a crazy ball.

Coach Jim Clayton: When you throw it out, bounces off the ball.

Coach Jim Clayton: That's how you gotta bounce back.

Coach Jim Clayton: Mm-hmm

Coach Jim Clayton: Okay, there's an old saying says in boxing.

Coach Jim Clayton: If you get knocked down, if you can look up, you can get up.

Coach Jim Clayton: When you're face down, you're usually not getting up.

Exactly.

Exactly.

Coach Jim Clayton: And that's kind of how I look at it.

Coach Jim Clayton: Every day, I look at it every day.

Coach Jim Clayton: Every day.

Coach Jim Clayton: So tomorrow, when I know I'm going to be a little tired, because I just tell you I've been through this for three years, I know.

Mm-hmm.

Coach Jim Clayton: I ain't gonna let it happen.

Coach Jim Clayton: I'm bouncing out of that bed and let's go.

Coach Jim Clayton: It's 4th of July.

Coach Jim Clayton: Fireworks are gonna go off.

Coach Jim Clayton: You know what I mean?

Coach Jim Clayton: Hey, great things are happening.

Coach Jim Clayton: I'm just gonna celebrate life

Coach Jim Clayton: And that's how I'm going to take tomorrow.

Coach Jim Clayton: Those 24 hours, I'm going to bust it out, hang out with my friends, eat some good food, swim.

Coach Jim Clayton: It's going to be beautiful weather

Yeah.

That's my attitude.

You know, one of the one of the one of the key things that I got out of looking at some of the notes and stuff that you had sent me was that it's the idea that what matters

Is your ability to cope with the challenges.

It's not what the challenge is.

Nope.

It's how you respond.

It's how you bounce back.

Coach Jim Clayton: That's it.

Coach Jim Clayton: Respond.

Coach Jim Clayton: Response and you can watch people and see their response just by looking at them.

Coach Jim Clayton: They just go like a wilted fly.

Coach Jim Clayton: Or they go, them eyes light up and say, What I gotta do, let's do it.

Yep

Coach Jim Clayton: Well, see, some people just they don't they're not around those type of people.

Coach Jim Clayton: And it's it's a culture.

Coach Jim Clayton: You know, it just spreads, okay, or it sinks like a rock.

Oh yeah.

Coach Jim Clayton: And you know, that's why I see when I go over, I've learned in my teaching career, my coaching career, you know, my speaking career.

Coach Jim Clayton: You know, if you ever watch his speaking, the speaker usually means most of eye contact with the people in the first, second, or third row.

Coach Jim Clayton: Mm-hmm.

Coach Jim Clayton: Because they're the ones that are paying the closest attention.

Coach Jim Clayton: They can't see them way in the back.

Coach Jim Clayton: So if you watch them, they'll study that crowd.

Coach Jim Clayton: And they'll pick out two or three that their heads are bouncing right with them.

Right.

Coach Jim Clayton: And man, they'll focus in on them.

Coach Jim Clayton: And that just uplifts them.

Coach Jim Clayton: A lot of people don't know that stuff when you watch them.

Coach Jim Clayton: But you might see that the next time.

Coach Jim Clayton: But you know, I I I'm just telling you, man, just bounce back, come back.

Coach Jim Clayton: Attitude, you know, it's all about all those things.

Coach Jim Clayton: And it's never going to change.

Coach Jim Clayton: Yeah.

Coach Jim Clayton: Never going to change

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You know, one of the other things that I really found to be

really interesting with with what you outlined out and then sent over to me as we prepared for this and I read through and read some things my own was you had this concept of the seven

C's of resiliency.

Let me run through those real quick and then we'll start breaking them down.

So you got competence, you've got confidence, connection.

character, contribution, coping, and control.

Those are this what you call the seven C's of resilience.

Now, if you came up with those, that's genius.

If you found them somewhere else, that person's a genius too.

Coach Jim Clayton: Combination of both.

Awesome.

So let's so let's look at them and kind of break them down.

So that first one and those seven C's of resilience, competence.

I probably should have put two at one

Coach Jim Clayton: Okay.

Coach Jim Clayton: So let's start with two.

Coach Jim Clayton: So let's go with confidence first.

Coach Jim Clayton: Okay.

Coach Jim Clayton: Confidence.

Coach Jim Clayton: Confidence is believing you can do it.

Coach Jim Clayton: Okay.

Coach Jim Clayton: And confidence is very important.

Coach Jim Clayton: Oh man, you gotta have, my coach told me one time, you gotta have a lot of confidence and no conscience.

Coach Jim Clayton: Let it go.

Coach Jim Clayton: It's gone.

Coach Jim Clayton: Just let the go.

Coach Jim Clayton: So confidence is believing

Coach Jim Clayton: Competence is getting it done.

Coach Jim Clayton: See, some people believe they can do things, but competent people actually get it done

Coach Jim Clayton: And I had a little girl one time in my health class, and we were doing a subject, and she says, I was talking about a video.

Coach Jim Clayton: I was gonna go rent this video.

Coach Jim Clayton: And she says, I got that at home, coach.

Coach Jim Clayton: Now this young lady, I'm not going to mention her name, but she's ultra, ultra successful young lady.

Coach Jim Clayton: Okay

Coach Jim Clayton: The next day I'm ready for it, getting everything, got everything ready to go, and guess what?

Coach Jim Clayton: I'm waiting for it to come in.

Coach Jim Clayton: I'll have it on your desk by 7.

Coach Jim Clayton: 30

Coach Jim Clayton: 7.

Coach Jim Clayton: 30 came.

Coach Jim Clayton: 7.

Coach Jim Clayton: 45 came.

Coach Jim Clayton: 8 o'clock came.

Coach Jim Clayton: Uh she was nowhere to be found.

Coach Jim Clayton: The tape was nowhere to be seen.

Coach Jim Clayton: But I was ready.

Coach Jim Clayton: I had a backup plan.

Coach Jim Clayton: Next day, here she comes.

Coach Jim Clayton: I said, mm-hmm

Coach Jim Clayton: I thought you told me you was going to have that.

Coach Jim Clayton: Well, I wasn't, I wasn't feeling.

Coach Jim Clayton: I said, now let me tell you something.

Coach Jim Clayton: That's competence.

Coach Jim Clayton: See, you you didn't get it done

Coach Jim Clayton: And not only did he get it done, you didn't contact me to let you know it wasn't going to get done.

Right.

Coach Jim Clayton: So from that point on, every time she sent me something

Coach Jim Clayton: I say, okay, Miss Competence.

Coach Jim Clayton: And she'd laugh.

Coach Jim Clayton: She goes, oh, you're never going to forget that.

Coach Jim Clayton: I said, I'm never going to let you.

Coach Jim Clayton: I said, I want you to use that as a lesson.

Coach Jim Clayton: Because you're going to be

Coach Jim Clayton: A leader in this country.

Coach Jim Clayton: And she is.

Coach Jim Clayton: She's running, she's one of the top dogs in this company.

Coach Jim Clayton: She's leading, you know, and I said, you're going to experience this from the other side.

Coach Jim Clayton: So when somebody tells you they're going to do something

Coach Jim Clayton: And they do it till that's confidence and competence working together.

Yeah.

Coach Jim Clayton: And I'll take confidence over competence because competence is getting it done.

Coach Jim Clayton: Yes.

Coach Jim Clayton: Okay?

Coach Jim Clayton: And that's the big thing right there.

Coach Jim Clayton: Now, you got connection.

Coach Jim Clayton: Connection is about one thing, and that's really critical to everything.

Coach Jim Clayton: In coaching, in teaching.

Coach Jim Clayton: In business, it's all about relationships with people.

Coach Jim Clayton: They can be great, they can be good, and they can be ugly.

Coach Jim Clayton: And when they're not good, that's not going to be good.

Coach Jim Clayton: So it's kind of like if I'm the boss man, right, or however you want to say that, the guy in charge.

Coach Jim Clayton: You don't work for me, so you work with me.

Coach Jim Clayton: So there's a difference in those two things.

Coach Jim Clayton: I'm not talking down to you.

Coach Jim Clayton: Your success is gonna make my what?

Coach Jim Clayton: Success.

Coach Jim Clayton: So it's a two-way street here.

Coach Jim Clayton: And you know, that's the connection being strong relationships.

Coach Jim Clayton: Those take time to get

Yes.

Coach Jim Clayton: Because, you know, again, it comes into the next one, which is character, integrity, value.

Coach Jim Clayton: You can talk about character all you want.

Coach Jim Clayton: But if you're not living that every day, you're just living a false lie.

Coach Jim Clayton: Okay?

Coach Jim Clayton: You're just faking people out.

Coach Jim Clayton: And people are smart enough to know when you're an original or a fake.

Coach Jim Clayton: Okay?

Coach Jim Clayton: God made you an original.

Coach Jim Clayton: Don't die a copy.

Coach Jim Clayton: Okay?

Coach Jim Clayton: That's what most people do.

Coach Jim Clayton: They die copies.

Coach Jim Clayton: And then the fifth one is big.

Coach Jim Clayton: It's huge.

Coach Jim Clayton: I wrote about this today to a friend.

Coach Jim Clayton: Purpose beyond yourself.

Coach Jim Clayton: It's not about me.

Coach Jim Clayton: It's not about you.

Coach Jim Clayton: It's really about what you can do to help others.

Coach Jim Clayton: What are you doing to make somebody's life better today?

Coach Jim Clayton: It is the simplest things.

Coach Jim Clayton: The simplest things.

Coach Jim Clayton: Like you heard me down there talking to those two players.

Coach Jim Clayton: Yep.

Coach Jim Clayton: Okay, I was going over what they did.

Coach Jim Clayton: And I always tell them the good, here's what I liked.

Coach Jim Clayton: Most people start with the bad.

Coach Jim Clayton: And that just sinks to ship before you start.

Oh yeah.

Oh yeah, definitely.

Coach Jim Clayton: That's negative, negative, negative.

Coach Jim Clayton: Okay?

Coach Jim Clayton: You know why?

Coach Jim Clayton: Because they're negative.

Coach Jim Clayton: And negative breeds negative.

Coach Jim Clayton: So much, let me tell you what I liked.

Coach Jim Clayton: Let me tell you what I liked.

Coach Jim Clayton: Okay?

Coach Jim Clayton: When we make these adjustments, we're gonna have a lot more like.

Coach Jim Clayton: Okay, that's that's beyond yourself.

Coach Jim Clayton: Okay.

Coach Jim Clayton: The next one, okay, with that, you can't have, it ain't always gonna be perfect.

Coach Jim Clayton: So you gotta learn how to manage stress and emotions effectively.

Yeah, coping, coping with coping with that.

Coach Jim Clayton: Okay.

Coach Jim Clayton: So your reaction

Coach Jim Clayton: Sometimes you gotta be like a like a goldfish.

Coach Jim Clayton: Heard that saying?

Coach Jim Clayton: They got about a 10 seconds.

Coach Jim Clayton: They can remember something for about 10 seconds.

That's a theory.

Yeah.

Coach Jim Clayton: Let it go.

Coach Jim Clayton: I don't know if that's I've heard that.

Coach Jim Clayton: I like that

Coach Jim Clayton: Okay, so you can't respond.

Coach Jim Clayton: Sometimes you gotta just, it's a word in here, and I see it pop up more and more and more on things I read every day.

Coach Jim Clayton: It's called patience.

Coach Jim Clayton: Now I'm struggling with that from time to time.

Coach Jim Clayton: Yeah.

Coach Jim Clayton: Just a little bit.

Coach Jim Clayton: So I'm working on it.

Coach Jim Clayton: I'm working on it.

Coach Jim Clayton: Patience.

Coach Jim Clayton: Patience.

Coach Jim Clayton: Patience.

Coach Jim Clayton: Okay, take a couple seconds before you bite.

Coach Jim Clayton: You know what I mean like that?

Coach Jim Clayton: Take a couple seconds

Coach Jim Clayton: And then when you do that, you get to number seven.

Coach Jim Clayton: That's where you're in control.

Coach Jim Clayton: And you own your decisions, and you're going in the direction you want to go.

Coach Jim Clayton: Not what everybody else wants.

Coach Jim Clayton: Because you're you.

Coach Jim Clayton: God only made one of you.

Coach Jim Clayton: And he knew when he made you, what was going to happen.

Coach Jim Clayton: He knew how things were gonna happen.

Coach Jim Clayton: And you know, as we go on and on into this thing deeper and deeper

Coach Jim Clayton: You're gonna see how resilient she's gonna come out in other phases of my life, other phases of my coaching, other phases of my business

Coach Jim Clayton: Other phases of my my motivational speaking, my mentorship.

Coach Jim Clayton: You'll see it come out.

Coach Jim Clayton: All in different pieces.

Coach Jim Clayton: And it didn't all come out at once.

Coach Jim Clayton: These have been years in between and sometimes decades.

Coach Jim Clayton: Why did it wait so long to come out?

Coach Jim Clayton: I can't answer that question.

Coach Jim Clayton: And not in my hands.

Coach Jim Clayton: So when you look at those things, those seas, that confidence.

Coach Jim Clayton: competence, the connection, the relationships, the character, the intrigue.

Coach Jim Clayton: John Wooten said this.

Coach Jim Clayton: Be more concerned with your character than your reputation.

Coach Jim Clayton: Because your character is who you really are.

Coach Jim Clayton: While your reputation is merely what other people think you are.

Coach Jim Clayton: And as long as you know and they think you're always one step ahead of them.

Coach Jim Clayton: Mm-hmm.

Coach Jim Clayton: Which means they never gonna catch.

Coach Jim Clayton: Yeah.

Coach Jim Clayton: And contribution, be a bigger purpose than yourself.

Coach Jim Clayton: Coping, how you handle that stress and emotions effectively.

Coach Jim Clayton: and control your decisions and the direction you want it to take.

Coach Jim Clayton: Positive, sideways

Coach Jim Clayton: Or negative.

Coach Jim Clayton: It's all on you.

Coach Jim Clayton: It will always be on you.

Coach Jim Clayton: It's never your mom, your coach, your teacher.

Coach Jim Clayton: It's on you to make it happen.

Coach Jim Clayton: So if it doesn't happen

Coach Jim Clayton: The person you brush your teeth with tonight and you look in that mirror, that would be the problem.

There's your answer right there.

You didn't prepare

No preparation.

No preparation.

So would out of those seven, is there is there anyone there that you might

You might emphasize more with, you know, like some of these young kids you work with here at SportsCity U um over over the over another one.

Um or or is it just a whole, you know, look at it as a holistic approach that, you know, these are all equally as important.

Coach Jim Clayton: Well, uh if I was gonna say one, they're all equally important.

Okay.

Coach Jim Clayton: But one is the competence.

Coach Jim Clayton: Okay.

Coach Jim Clayton: Because here's what happens.

Coach Jim Clayton: The keyword there is done

Coach Jim Clayton: Get things done.

Coach Jim Clayton: So many people are so close to getting it done.

Coach Jim Clayton: And they quit.

Yeah

Coach Jim Clayton: They quit.

Coach Jim Clayton: And I'm thinking, oh my gosh, you were right there at the finish line.

Coach Jim Clayton: Why would you run 27 miles

Coach Jim Clayton: And get 12 inches from the finish line and not cross.

Yeah.

Coach Jim Clayton: That blows my mind.

Coach Jim Clayton: Okay?

Coach Jim Clayton: And, you know, it's just like, gosh, how do you do?

Coach Jim Clayton: Because here's the thing I've learned.

Coach Jim Clayton: If they do that at a young age, it's going to keep multiplying.

Coach Jim Clayton: Yeah.

Coach Jim Clayton: And they're going to do it at at their, you know, at the high school.

Coach Jim Clayton: This is going to turn to college

Coach Jim Clayton: If you look at kids today, the average 35, 40-year-old, they've had 30 jobs.

Oh yeah.

Coach Jim Clayton: Okay, so what's that tell you?

Coach Jim Clayton: You know, I had one job.

Coach Jim Clayton: I wanted to be a teacher and a coach.

Coach Jim Clayton: They were both the same.

Coach Jim Clayton: Okay, boom.

Coach Jim Clayton: Then I said, well, I want to turn this into another job.

Coach Jim Clayton: I want to start this business.

Coach Jim Clayton: When I started it, what'd they tell me?

Coach Jim Clayton: It's not gonna work.

Coach Jim Clayton: Now again, if I believed those people, it would have never worked.

Right

Coach Jim Clayton: But I don't believe them.

Coach Jim Clayton: 30-some years later, three decades, I'm still standing here.

Coach Jim Clayton: I don't see those other people.

Coach Jim Clayton: You see, so you can't listen to those things.

Coach Jim Clayton: But

Coach Jim Clayton: You know, I mean it just comes down to these points.

Coach Jim Clayton: You can't just keep going.

Coach Jim Clayton: So I'm going to say it's like this.

Coach Jim Clayton: A coach is like a hand in the back.

Coach Jim Clayton: I'm going to keep pushing.

Coach Jim Clayton: It comes a point in time where that hand ain't there.

Coach Jim Clayton: You gotta push yourself.

Coach Jim Clayton: And that's when they hit, I'll get that tomorrow.

Coach Jim Clayton: Well last time I checked, tomorrow's not a date.

Coach Jim Clayton: And you know, the longer you put something off, the less likely it's ever gonna happen.

Exactly.

Coach Jim Clayton: And usually it won't.

Coach Jim Clayton: So you can't put it off.

Coach Jim Clayton: Gotta make it.

Coach Jim Clayton: Let's go.

Coach Jim Clayton: Gotta start tomorrow.

Coach Jim Clayton: Well, I'm not ready.

Coach Jim Clayton: Who cares?

Coach Jim Clayton: Let's start anyway

Coach Jim Clayton: Well, I'm not prepared.

Coach Jim Clayton: Who cares?

Coach Jim Clayton: Let's start anyway.

Coach Jim Clayton: You'll figure these things out along the way.

Right.

Coach Jim Clayton: But if you don't start, you'll never finish.

Coach Jim Clayton: You'll never finish.

Awesome.

Coach Jim Clayton: And that's how you gotta look at.

Coach Jim Clayton: That's how I look at those several cities right there.

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So another thing that we we I saw on your notes and I thought this is just awesome is this idea that there are these four pillars

of resilience.

Can you kind of tell us what those are, Jim, and break them down a little bit from from the way you see things?

Sure, sure.

Coach Jim Clayton: First thing is I think everything starts with the mental.

Coach Jim Clayton: Okay.

Coach Jim Clayton: The mind.

Coach Jim Clayton: Thinking is a skill.

Coach Jim Clayton: Mental side of things.

Coach Jim Clayton: Okay.

Coach Jim Clayton: We talked about skills, but we never talk about thinking.

Okay.

Coach Jim Clayton: So the mental side of things, positive thinking

Coach Jim Clayton: The grit when things get a little tough.

Coach Jim Clayton: You know what I mean?

Coach Jim Clayton: Are you gonna throw in a towel, you're gonna suck it up and get through it.

Coach Jim Clayton: Right.

Coach Jim Clayton: And the growth mindset.

Coach Jim Clayton: So it's all about growth.

Coach Jim Clayton: What are you doing today to make yourself better?

Coach Jim Clayton: Because really that's all you're competing against.

Coach Jim Clayton: All I want to do today is have a better day than I did yesterday.

Coach Jim Clayton: All I want to do tomorrow is have a better day than I did today

Coach Jim Clayton: So not compete with the world.

Coach Jim Clayton: I compete with myself.

Coach Jim Clayton: And you all know to say it.

Coach Jim Clayton: Who is your worst enemy?

Coach Jim Clayton: Yourself.

Coach Jim Clayton: Yeah.

Well still.

It's it's it's it's looking at it in and you with with mental is having that discipline.

Yes.

Having that that even having the clarity

to see what that to to to develop that growth mindset, to build that discipline, to be able to go through and do these things.

Coach Jim Clayton: Absolutely, 100%.

And most people don't have the discipline.

Coach Jim Clayton: Mm-hmm.

Coach Jim Clayton: Okay, that's why they might need to whistle.

Right.

Coach Jim Clayton: Okay.

Coach Jim Clayton: They don't have the mindset.

Coach Jim Clayton: Uh-huh.

Coach Jim Clayton: So you're already 0 for two.

Coach Jim Clayton: Yeah.

Not good.

Coach Jim Clayton: Not good start.

Coach Jim Clayton: Okay.

Coach Jim Clayton: Then you get to physical.

Coach Jim Clayton: Right.

Coach Jim Clayton: Okay.

Coach Jim Clayton: Your health

Coach Jim Clayton: I taught health.

Coach Jim Clayton: All you said is, if you if if you ain't healthy, you ain't happy.

Right.

Coach Jim Clayton: I don't care what you got in life.

Coach Jim Clayton: It all comes down to your health.

Oh, trust me.

Trust me.

Oh, we know.

Let me tell you, let me tell you, I have lost

Since September.

I'm down about 30 pounds.

That's awesome.

And I feel I just feel so much better.

You're going to because I'm trying to get myself in a better place

with my health.

You know, I got the type two diabetic diabetes diagnosis and I've got some the high blood pressure and some cholesterol stuff and I'm trying to combat it.

And that will that can be fixed.

Coach Jim Clayton: That can be fixed.

Coach Jim Clayton: Exactly.

Coach Jim Clayton: But it didn't happen overnight, and it's not going to be fixed overnight.

Coach Jim Clayton: Right.

Coach Jim Clayton: And see, that's the thing about today's world.

Coach Jim Clayton: Everybody wants a quick fix.

Coach Jim Clayton: Instant gratification.

Coach Jim Clayton: It's about instant gratification.

Coach Jim Clayton: We ain't got

That's the social media world we have.

I hate that word.

Coach Jim Clayton: I hate that.

Coach Jim Clayton: I hate that.

Coach Jim Clayton: So health, physical.

Coach Jim Clayton: When you have good health, you have energy.

Yes.

Coach Jim Clayton: Okay?

Coach Jim Clayton: But you gotta rest.

Coach Jim Clayton: When it's time to lay it down, you gotta lay it down.

Coach Jim Clayton: See these kids won't turn their brain off.

Coach Jim Clayton: Oh they're laying in the bed with the phone.

Turn it off.

Before before we came up here and recorded, I was I was downstairs and I was speaking with your wife

Great lady.

Love talking to her every time when I'm over here.

And we were talking and one of the things we talked about was, you know, I have sleep apnea

So I have a sleep disorder and I have a CPAP machine and I wear a mask every night.

And I told her, I said, before I got the treatment I needed.

to help with that situation, said I would drive home from work.

And this is what I was teaching at Cabal Midland.

And I lived in the Westmoreland neighborhood of Huntington.

So I, you know, 25, 30 minute drive.

By the time when I would leave work and then get home, I would not remember my drive most days.

And

It's because I was so tired.

And I told her, I said, I'd get home and I'd walk in the house, I'd set my bag down by the door, put my keys in my wallet there in the little basket by the door.

And before I could set down on the couch, I was asleep.

Because I was never getting the rest I needed.

And this, you know, it's it's it was it was making me a very miserable person.

And I couldn't get things done because I couldn't stay focused.

I couldn't, I didn't have the energy because I wasn't getting the rest.

My health was horrible.

Coach Jim Clayton: Hey, all my friends, they're my age, guess what?

Coach Jim Clayton: They all got C pipe machines.

Coach Jim Clayton: Except me.

Coach Jim Clayton: I've been blessed to where when I put my head down

Coach Jim Clayton: I'm gone.

Coach Jim Clayton: Because you know, when I put my head down, I always have a sense of satisfaction.

Mm-hmm.

Coach Jim Clayton: Because of what I did that day.

Coach Jim Clayton: Added value to people

Coach Jim Clayton: Ain't about me.

Coach Jim Clayton: I'm not thinking about me.

Coach Jim Clayton: Remember we talked about the me versus we mentality?

Coach Jim Clayton: It ain't about us.

Coach Jim Clayton: So, and then that rests, man, that controls your movement

Coach Jim Clayton: Okay, you're here, here, here, you're over here, all that stuff comes down.

Coach Jim Clayton: So you got the mental thinking part, the physical things that go with it, then you got the social.

Coach Jim Clayton: Now that's where people get in trouble.

Coach Jim Clayton: That's the connection with people.

Coach Jim Clayton: Now, most of the time when they get in trouble, they're with non-supportive people.

Right.

Coach Jim Clayton: You gotta connect with people that connect with you.

Coach Jim Clayton: They might not always agree with you.

Coach Jim Clayton: And see, here's the thing.

Coach Jim Clayton: People like me, they drive certain people crazy.

Coach Jim Clayton: See, because I'm an open mindset, they're a closed mindset.

Coach Jim Clayton: Right.

Coach Jim Clayton: And people like them.

Coach Jim Clayton: They drive me even more crazy.

Coach Jim Clayton: Yeah.

Coach Jim Clayton: So, you know, again, you just got to stay with the supportive people.

Coach Jim Clayton: I want to stay around people that are on the same path with me

Coach Jim Clayton: I'm not interested in trying to go over here and save the world.

Coach Jim Clayton: I'm not trying, because you can't.

Coach Jim Clayton: Can't fix people.

Coach Jim Clayton: Only people can fix people

Coach Jim Clayton: I can't change you.

Coach Jim Clayton: Only you can change it.

Coach Jim Clayton: I can give you some subtle tips.

Coach Jim Clayton: But if you don't listen.

Right.

Coach Jim Clayton: Can't learn.

Exactly.

Okay.

Then the last one is it kind of goes back to the mental thing.

You've got to have that open mind.

You've got to be ready to to to

to to listen to those people who have your back because if you don't you're I mean I hate to say it this way but you're screwed.

You're right.

Coach Jim Clayton: 100%.

Coach Jim Clayton: And people do it to themselves.

Coach Jim Clayton: Mm-hmm.

Coach Jim Clayton: And they like your way but some people do it to you.

Coach Jim Clayton: You do it to yourself

Coach Jim Clayton: So, you know, then you get to the last part, which really, you know, I you know, I'm I've never been a big church goer

Coach Jim Clayton: But I'm a spiritual guy.

Coach Jim Clayton: I don't know all the things about all the stuff like some people can rip scriptures out.

Coach Jim Clayton: I I really don't have that for me

Coach Jim Clayton: It's about my personal relationship with God.

Coach Jim Clayton: I talked to him a hundred thousand times today.

Coach Jim Clayton: I talked to him at night before I go to sleep.

Coach Jim Clayton: First thing I say in the morning when I get my two presents every morning

Coach Jim Clayton: My eyeballs open.

Coach Jim Clayton: Those are the two best gifts a person can get in a morning.

Coach Jim Clayton: You know, and but but it's my you know I have a purpose now.

Coach Jim Clayton: I know I'm driven to help people.

Coach Jim Clayton: My faith is stronger probably now than it's ever been.

Coach Jim Clayton: Faith versus fear.

Coach Jim Clayton: Okay, I'd rather have faith than fear.

Coach Jim Clayton: Now we all have certain types of fears.

Coach Jim Clayton: We do.

Coach Jim Clayton: We do.

Coach Jim Clayton: I mean I can't stand snake

Coach Jim Clayton: I don't care what you do.

Coach Jim Clayton: I'm running otherwise.

Coach Jim Clayton: Mice don't bother me.

Coach Jim Clayton: Snakes I'm gone.

Coach Jim Clayton: Okay, so I'm never I'm never gonna go handle snakes.

Coach Jim Clayton: It's not gonna happen

Coach Jim Clayton: But again, that purpose, that faith, that guides you.

Coach Jim Clayton: That steers you.

Coach Jim Clayton: That's like the steering wheel of your life right to the values.

Coach Jim Clayton: And then it comes back to your character and your values, which we've already talked about.

Coach Jim Clayton: You gotta live what you say.

Yeah.

Coach Jim Clayton: And some people say one thing and do the what?

Coach Jim Clayton: Opposite.

Coach Jim Clayton: And they're fake.

Coach Jim Clayton: And really good people can tell a fake a mile away.

Oh yeah.

Coach Jim Clayton: And you can't fake a faker.

Coach Jim Clayton: You know, so I mean, those are the four things, the mental, the physical, the social, the connection with the right people, and staying spiritually strong.

Coach Jim Clayton: You gotta believe.

Right.

Coach Jim Clayton: You gotta believe in the unseen.

Coach Jim Clayton: Just because you don't see it doesn't mean it ain't happening.

Oh yeah.

And that's that is the definition of faith.

It's the belief in things unseen.

Coach Jim Clayton: And I love it.

Coach Jim Clayton: And I, you know, I can see it

Coach Jim Clayton: I can see it in my head.

Coach Jim Clayton: I'm just one of these people.

Coach Jim Clayton: I'm a visionary person.

Coach Jim Clayton: I can see it.

Coach Jim Clayton: It's hard to explain to people.

Right.

Coach Jim Clayton: I mean, we're talking right now.

Coach Jim Clayton: My brain might be a month down the road.

Coach Jim Clayton: That's just how I roll.

Coach Jim Clayton: I'm a bouncer.

Coach Jim Clayton: Now you talk about bouncing?

Coach Jim Clayton: Mm-hmm.

Coach Jim Clayton: Oh yeah.

Coach Jim Clayton: But you know, this is keeping me, you know, right.

Coach Jim Clayton: You know, we're bouncing, but it's all on, it's all we we know what we're doing.

Right.

Coach Jim Clayton: I'm not just throwing stuff out randomly at you.

Coach Jim Clayton: I mean that that's I mean that happens sometimes too.

Coach Jim Clayton: It does.

Coach Jim Clayton: And sometimes in just conversations

Coach Jim Clayton: You know, somebody will say something like this is the wildest stuff.

Coach Jim Clayton: I'll be watching television and I might be watching a Ford truck commercial

Coach Jim Clayton: And they'll say two or three things that went right over most people's heads.

Coach Jim Clayton: And I'll take those two or three things.

Coach Jim Clayton: And I'll flip it to basketball.

Coach Jim Clayton: I'll flip it to life.

Coach Jim Clayton: I'll flip it to this and I get my phone, go to my nose, write her down.

Coach Jim Clayton: Yeah.

Coach Jim Clayton: And that's a topic for another conversation.

Coach Jim Clayton: Mm-hmm.

Coach Jim Clayton: And that's how I learned stuff, man.

Coach Jim Clayton: They said, did you hear what they said?

Coach Jim Clayton: What about the truck?

Coach Jim Clayton: I said, no, did you hear what they said in between?

Coach Jim Clayton: No, I wasn't paying attention.

Coach Jim Clayton: See, that's how my brain works.

Coach Jim Clayton: People say stuff you don't even think is valuable.

Coach Jim Clayton: And I'll pick two or three things out of what you said, put it in my notes.

Coach Jim Clayton: It's always three things.

Coach Jim Clayton: It's never like big long drawn out stuff.

Coach Jim Clayton: Quick hitters, man.

Coach Jim Clayton: Quick hitters.

Coach Jim Clayton: And that's how my brain works, and that's how I come up with all this stuff.

Yeah.

So we're we're kind of in the middle of our con our of what we've looked at and talked about, you know, behind the scenes and the notes and stuff we've had put together.

So we're gonna actually split this idea of resilience up into two episodes

Uh before we finish up though, real quick, I just want to throw this out there.

You know, we do have a website that is available.

It is at uh shooting it straight podcast.

com.

And if you go there and you go to the pet the the post for this episode

You have the ability as an end user to leave a comment there.

So I'm going to throw this out there.

If you have a personal anecdote, maybe some advice, something that

has sparked in your brain as a listener here on the podcast to what we've talked about so far, go up there and post a comment.

Mention something.

You know, put it there.

It might even be, you know.

.

Like, for example, let's look at the question I asked Jim about these seven C's of resilience.

Like, is there one of those that you think is more important than the other?

And why is that?

Share that with us.

Um, and you know, like what

What of these pillars we just talked about, the mental, the physical, the social, the spiritual, which of those do you turn to when times get tough

as as your your way to go.

So kind of go to the website and uh hit up the the the post for this episode.

You'll see it there.

The latest episode is always across the top of the page right there.

You can just click on it, go down to the bottom of the page

Put in your name, your email address, and start typing your comment, post it up there.

Uh, and if if you do that, then we'll we'll bring them back, Nick, on the next episode.

We'll talk about those and what people in the community have had to share.

But as we do each week, we're going to close out our show with my personal

favorite segment that I've ever come up with uh for a podcast just because Jim means that much to me.

He's he's he has these pearls of wisdom.

So let's listen, or let's get ready for Jimmy's.

Wisdom of the week.

Cheesy Announcer Guy: Now it's time for Jimmy's Wisdom of the Week.

Cheesy Announcer Guy: This is where Jimmy shares one of his famous Jimmyisms to inspire the listeners.

So the one you sent me this week, I've got it here on the notes.

I'm going to read it off and then I'm going to let you take off and explain it to us.

You said to me, all adversity leads to opportunity.

Be ready and grab it and take it to a new level.

Coach Jim Clayton: Absolutely, 100%.

Coach Jim Clayton: Okay, so sometimes when you had adversity, the biggest problem is you feel sorry for yourself.

Coach Jim Clayton: Every time something has a setback, remember it

Coach Jim Clayton: is going to possibly be a bigger comeback.

Coach Jim Clayton: It all leads to opportunity.

Coach Jim Clayton: Because you know why?

Coach Jim Clayton: Because you learn from it

Coach Jim Clayton: You learn from it.

Coach Jim Clayton: And when you learn from it, what are you doing?

Coach Jim Clayton: We've already talked about that.

Coach Jim Clayton: You're growing.

Coach Jim Clayton: You're growing.

Coach Jim Clayton: So it's like a plant.

Coach Jim Clayton: You put a seed in the ground, everything grows down

Coach Jim Clayton: Before that little seed pops through the earth.

Coach Jim Clayton: And when that little seed pops through that earth, there's way more going on beyond below it.

Coach Jim Clayton: Then you see kind of like a glacier.

Yeah.

Coach Jim Clayton: You see the little top of it, but it's what's underneath that's building.

Coach Jim Clayton: And okay, that adversity, you know, again, we're gonna have those things every day

Coach Jim Clayton: Some some way of some way means shape or form.

Coach Jim Clayton: Some bigger than others.

Coach Jim Clayton: But again, it doesn't matter what happens to you.

Coach Jim Clayton: It just matters where you're going to do it.

Coach Jim Clayton: Well, what's the opportunity out of it?

Coach Jim Clayton: What didn't I get?

Coach Jim Clayton: See, no people's looking for the opportunity.

Right.

Coach Jim Clayton: They're feeling sorry for themselves because of the adversity.

Coach Jim Clayton: Well, if you just hold on a second, patience, patience, goldfish, patience, okay, you'll see the opportunity.

Coach Jim Clayton: You'll see the opportunity.

Coach Jim Clayton: Okay?

Coach Jim Clayton: And sometimes it comes quick.

Coach Jim Clayton: Sometimes it doesn't come quick.

Coach Jim Clayton: Okay?

Coach Jim Clayton: But when you think of things, you know, I know on my cancer journey.

Coach Jim Clayton: I have learned and grown in areas because of that adversity that I'm suffering suffered from when I first heard it

Coach Jim Clayton: That I never would have grown.

Coach Jim Clayton: I'm a better person.

Coach Jim Clayton: Now, do I wish I didn't have cancer?

Coach Jim Clayton: 100%.

Yeah.

Coach Jim Clayton: But it doesn't matter what happens to you.

Coach Jim Clayton: It just matters what are you gonna do about it.

Coach Jim Clayton: And all the things we talked about tonight.

Coach Jim Clayton: All play into that right there.

Yeah.

Coach Jim Clayton: End of story.

Coach Jim Clayton: End of game.

Coach Jim Clayton: Game over.

Coach Jim Clayton: Victory.

Coach Jim Clayton: You got it?

Coach Jim Clayton: Nice game.

Coach Jim Clayton: Nice game.

Coach Jim Clayton: Nice game.

Coach Jim Clayton: I love the victories.

Coach Jim Clayton: And the last thing I'm going to tell you is, and I don't know if I mentioned this or not, because sometimes my brain bounces.

Coach Jim Clayton: But in the world today, 24 out.

Coach Jim Clayton: Here's what I know, 100%.

Coach Jim Clayton: You're going to have more little victories today than you did today.

Coach Jim Clayton: And if you don't pay attention to the little victories,

Coach Jim Clayton: Don't worry about the big victory.

Yep.

Coach Jim Clayton: Adversity, opportunity.

Coach Jim Clayton: Little victories, big victories.

Coach Jim Clayton: And they all work what?

Coach Jim Clayton: Hand in hand.

Exactly.

Coach Jim Clayton: And they will forever if you know how to handle.

Awesome.

So real quick, let's wrap up what we've talked about t on this episode and uh then we'll uh head in uh for closing it up.

uh and preview a little bit what we might be talking about on the next one.

So real quick, let's talk about it.

Resilience is how you bounce, not whether you fall.

It's how you bounce back from the setback that has happened.

And everybody faces setbacks.

It's what you do next that defines you and sets you on the right path.

100%.

We talked about the seven C's of resilience.

Jimmy went through those.

And we also talked about those four pillars of resilience.

So some great things we've we've covered on this episode here of Shooting It Straight.

Next week we're going to go and look at resilience a bit more.

We're going to talk about the idea of

Can you teach resilience?

Is that something that a person can can can show someone else how to do and what to do?

We're going to talk about things that might get in the way

of an individual being able to be resilient.

And then we're going to kind of close out and talk about what mentally strong people do that's different from others.

So there's a preview of what we're going to talk about on the next episode.

Shooting it straight.

I'm Randy Black, my co-host, Jim Glyden.

And we're going to sign off.

So have a great week, everybody.

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