Preparation Breeds Courage, Part 2: Behind the Scenes of Bravery

People look back at that moment and call it courage.

And it was.

But what they didn't see was the preparation.

The early mornings, the quiet reps, the unseen discipline.

Courage isn't built in the spotlight.

It's built before the spotlight ever turns on.

Today, we're continuing our look at how preparation builds courage as we go behind the scenes of bravery.

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Continue our discussion about preparation, breeding, courage.

Today we continue that with part two by going behind the scenes of bravery.

Because what people often call courage is really the visible result of invisible preparation.

And that invisible part is where most of the real work happens.

Nobody celebrates the early mornings of the repetition, but when the pressure hits, that preparation is what steadies you in the moment.

And most of the time, people only see the pressure in the moment.

They see the decision.

They see the boldness.

What they don't see is the foundation built underneath it.

The years, not just the seconds

So let's start there.

When people look back at that moment and call it courage, what preparation led up to it?

Courage oftentimes looks like it's spontaneous.

And it's from that's when we look at it from the outside looking in.

But

Behind every single brave moment we have is a quiet and consistent moment or moments of preparation.

So when people look at that moment now, they see courage.

But what preparation again led up to it

Courage is very rarely a spontaneous thing.

It's something that doesn't just happen.

What looked like bravery in a moment was actually built privately over time.

The moment was supported by the habits individuals have built, by the discipline that they were able to put together

by the consistency in their practices, by being able to keep themselves focused, to build the skill set they need for when courage is needed

And we have to understand by looking at this is what happened, what was happening in that individual's life in their moments of preparation, long before that moment of courage that everybody remembers came to them.

Well, there's some things that had to be done.

The first thing is they had to have moments of quiet growth.

Time where they spent preparing themselves mentally, preparing themselves physically, preparing themselves emotionally.

in those quiet moments that nobody else saw, that were, quote unquote, invisible to everyone else

They had to have moments of skill development, time where they spent honing their craft, making themselves better, making things

stronger internally and externally for themselves.

So they had the skills to step forward and and achieve those moments of courage

They also had to have character formation.

You cannot have character formation take place without the effort and the time to do so

Not everybody is born with character that is positive, that is built in a way to make their situations better.

Character development then leads to that development of courage because without the courage, without the character behind it, the courage ultimately is meaningless and it doesn't have the same impact

Before that moment hit, we also had those small decisions that had to be made, not just in our lives, but in the in the lives of those around us and how they impacted us.

But those small decisions

are ones that we made, ones that we saw that no one took the time to applaud.

No one took the time

To say, oh man, that was awesome.

You did great building that up.

You had a great choice on that.

And ultimately, courage is cumulative

And I think say that and you're thinking, how how's that possible?

Well, over time you build that courage up

You continue to make it stronger, to continue to grow and have that as a skill that you can use to handle situations when they arise.

The whole idea of cumulative is that it builds over time.

You're not born courageous.

You're not born with the skills to step out and

and do the right thing all the time, to stand up and do what's what's expected or unexpected

That has to be built up over time.

And that's where the idea that courage is cumulative comes from

You know, we have to sit and think about how did how did preparation change how the individual experienced the pressure that was placed upon them.

Well, pressure exposes what preparation built.

When you have that pressure applied, the work you've done will show.

If you're not ready, everybody's gonna see it.

But if you've prepared, if you've done the work, if you've built up everything inside of you for that moment, that pressure is going to pull those things out for everybody to see

Without the preparation, what we see happen is that pressure overwhelms.

The pressure takes control

The pressure becomes the defining moment, not the courageous action that you take.

With preparation

versus pressure versus with or with versus without it, the the the pressure clarifies the situation for you.

When you've been prepared, that pressure simply helps you to pull those things out.

Pull those skills you've developed out

so that you can meet the need of the situation.

You can step up in the moment.

You can do what is the right thing.

to survive, to, to move on, to to help others, whatever it is, preparation.

Helps you to be there and that pressure hits, it clarifies your moves.

It helps you to move your mindset

Without preparation, your mindset is probably going to be along along the lines of, whew, I hope I can survive this.

And that's hard.

That's hard to live your life that way.

To go into these moments and say, Well, I made it through.

Hope I make it through.

Hope I survive this.

Or you come out of it, oh, I didn't.

I didn't do it.

I didn't I didn't survive.

Whereas if you've prepared, it changes your mindset to I've trained for this.

I have this.

I got this.

Everything I've done has built me up to this moment and I am ready to take this on.

I got it.

I can handle it.

This is an easy task.

It's a very different mindset.

I hope I survive this versus I've trained for this.

Extremely, extremely different.

So when you think about it, you have to look at the idea here of this.

Did preparation

Did it give you the peace like we talked about previously on the last episode when things got intense?

Did preparation help you to be at ease in that moment?

Preparation anchors you during moments of intensity.

Being prepared helps you to keep your feet grounded, keep your mind clear.

Keep yourself focused on the task at hand and being able to step up and doing the thing that needs to be done.

When you have prepared, you fall back on that training rather than reacting with emotion

It goes along with the idea that you're being proactive versus reactive.

You're prepared for the situation and you know what steps you need to take.

You know what your next actions are going to be.

Rather than, oh my gosh, I can't believe this is happening.

What do I do?

I've lost control.

I don't know what to do.

Very, very different scenarios

Now, have you ever hit one of those moments in your life where you realized that your preparation had you ready to go?

And you said, I'm ready for this.

Because readiness is often quiet.

You don't realize it's there.

And sometimes it can be as simple as the absence of panic.

The fear's still there.

The fear still exists.

But it doesn't have control.

I've had those situations in life.

We all have when we have truly prepared.

You know, I went into a a job interview.

Not that long ago, a couple years ago.

And I knew I was prepared.

And nothing they threw at me in that interview surprised me

Was I scared and nervous?

Yeah, of course.

But everything they presented to me, every question they asked me, I was ready for.

I was prepared to step out there and answer their questions and give them responses that I felt best met the need of the situation and of the school I was interviewing at.

So we've all had those moments.

I walked in there saying, I'm ready for this.

And I walked out of it and said, I knew I was ready for this.

And I and this went well.

And I got the job.

So we have to look at at those moments in our lives and realize that, you know, sometimes this is just the way it works.

This is the way we handle it.

We prepare for it.

You know, I've I've been a guest on podcasts before where I knew what the topic was.

So but since I knew what we were going to discuss, I could prepare for it.

And I was able to bring out points and make comments and carry on the discussion in a way that showed I was prepared, I was ready, I was courageous enough in what I did

uh in preparing that I easily held that conversation and was able to take part in it.

Now, what we have to then think about is

Um the idea of, you know, did did preparation ultimately help us to stay steady?

in those situations rather than being reactive.

And I just gave you some examples there.

But preparation encourages or not encourages, it increases

our our response and it reduces our reaction.

By knowing the information going in, by having the skill prepared going in, we're not simply reacting and maybe pulling something out that isn't necessarily

What was needed.

Reactive leadership is emotional.

It's rushed

And a lot of times it creates bigger problems.

When you are reacting, you may make the wrong choice because you simply were not prepared.

Sometimes it's okay to be reactive, but it doesn't necessarily always produce a positive outcome

Whereas if you have prepared leadership, you've prepared ahead of time.

Your actions in those situations

Instead of being reactive, they're measured.

They're intentional.

You know exactly what you're coming into and what you're going to do

Preparation gives us options.

It gives us the ability to look through things and go, okay, how do I do this?

What's the next step?

What do I do in this situation based on what I know?

Reaction gives us impulse.

You immediately doing this.

Nope, gotta do this.

Nope.

Gotta do this.

And it's quick, it's fast, and it may not always be.

the right decision.

It may not always be the right way to handle it.

So when you look at at preparation overall to to build courage,

What kind of preparation matters the most?

Mental?

Physical?

Emotional

Maybe even spiritual.

Well, each of those have their own point their own points you have to think about

Mental preparation.

That's understanding the material and understanding the situation.

You're walking in and you know these are the facts.

These are what I have to know.

And this is the situation I'm in.

And that m those facts, that material, then can be applied to the situation to make it be the best.

Physical preparation.

You're building up your stamina.

You're building your consistency.

You're building up a physical skill set

That allows you to step up and do things that are courageous, that are you're prepared for.

Emotional preparation.

That's when you're processing things beforehand, before you ever walk in the door.

You're already thinking through what possibilities could happen.

What can I do if this happens?

What can I do if this happens?

And that's powerful.

Having that skill, that preparation allows you to make decisions that are fully grounded in what's happening in the moment.

What about spiritual preparation?

Well, spiritual preparation is the idea that you're anchoring identity beyond the outcome.

Spiritual can mean different things to different people.

For me, I'm a Christian, and my spiritual preparation comes through prayer, through reading the Bible, through speaking to God

And for other people, that may not be the way they do it.

That's how I do.

But I'm anchoring my identity beyond the outcome.

So no matter what happens spiritually, I know I'm okay because I'm doing these things.

Oftentimes, what we find is the most stabilizing preparation is those that take place internally, those that we use to build up ourselves on the inside where people don't see it.

Preparation is invisible and most of the time no one knows it's even happened

So did the preparation we have here ever feel like think about situations in your own life.

Did the preparation ever feel unnecessary until it wasn't?

Preparation, you know, feels repetitive.

It feels excessive.

We're doing this stuff without seeing the value of the moment.

It rarely feels dramatic in real time.

But when we look back in hindsight

All the work we did, all that preparation that was unnecessary, suddenly is justified.

And we see that we did the right thing in preparing.

The moment reveals the value of unseen work.

It reveals to us what we've done has now had a positive influence, a positive impact.

And that is amazing.

So you then have to think about it.

Think about how preparation, how did preparation affect

Your confidence, not in yourself, but in others.

Hmm.

That's a big one.

Prepared people

by their definition, are reliable.

You've prepared.

You've done the right thing.

You've worked hard.

You're ready to go.

You are reliable because you have those skills

You start to be consistent.

Consistency then builds trust.

When you consistently do something that is the right thing, that helps with things, then you are becoming trust.

A trusted individual, someone that other people look to.

Imagine flipping that now that you see somebody else.

Who's doing that?

Someone else who is doing the right thing, who's consistently being there, consistently doing those uh the right way.

Now trust has been built in them for you.

Preparation as a whole strengthens the entire team, be it in sports, in the work world, in an organization like a church.

Being prepared strengthens everyone to be involved in the situation, and it helps everyone build that confidence.

Courage may be individual in the moment, but preparation ultimately it supports everybody.

And that's probably the most important thing we can look at here in what we've said on this episode today.

You know, we look back and we have to think about it, you know.

Preparation.

One of the biggest things we've seen today is that it doesn't feel dramatic.

It usually feels very ordinary

It's repetitive.

Sometimes it's even unnecessary.

Until the moment comes when it isn't.

Then you realize that what was what you felt was small was actually shaping something very significant.

Courage may just show up in a moment, but it was formed long before that moment ever arrived.

And that, my friends, should change how we think about the days ago in between.

Because those days when preparation is taking place

Those days are building something.

With all that in mind, it's now time.

for my favorite segment we've ever that I've ever created as we look at this week's Wisdom of the Week

Now it's time for our wisdom of the week where we take a quote or phrase or something and use it to share a piece of inspiration with you, our audience here on Shooting the Street.

This week's wisdom of the week is simple, but it cuts very deep.

And it's this character is proven in the moments no one sees

Let that sit for a second.

We live in a world that rewards visibility

Social media, it highlights generosity when it's posted, leadership when it's applauded, and discipline when it produces viable results.

But real character, real integrity, it doesn't usually come with an audience.

Character is who you are when the spotlight is off, when there's no applause, when there's no accountability partner watching, when cutting a corner would be easy.

And no one would ever know.

That's where integrity lives.

Integrity is quiet.

It's choosing to do the right thing when the wrong thing would be faster.

It's giving full effort when nobody is grading you

It's being honest in a conversation that could easily drift off into exaggeration.

It's refusing to compromise your standards even when it costs you something.

The truth is that public moments don't build character.

They reveal it.

What people see on the surface is usually the result of dozens, maybe hundreds, of unseen decisions that are made in private.

An athlete doesn't suddenly become disciplined on game day.

A leader doesn't suddenly become trustworthy when the pressure hits.

A person doesn't suddenly become ethical when the stakes get high.

Those outcomes were shaped long before, in quiet rooms, early mornings, late nights, and ordinary decisions.

And here, here's the powerful part.

Because integrity is quiet, it is also personal

No one else controls it.

No one else can manufacture it for you.

And no one else can take it away from you

You don't build character for the crowd.

You build it for yourself, for your family, for your calling, for the kind of person you've decided to become

So here's the challenge this week.

When no one is watching, who are you?

Because that version of you, that's the real one.

And that's where character is proven.

When we step back and look at it, courage is rarely something that happens in a single moment.

It's the result of the work we do long before anyone sees it.

the quiet preparation, the daily habits, the repetition that no one notices at all.

And the takeaway for our listeners is simple.

If you want courage when it matters,

Commit to the preparation when it doesn't.

Because those unseen efforts are what steady you when the pressure comes

So as you go through the week, think about the areas in your life where preparation could make all the difference.

And remember, courage isn't accidental, it's cultivated.

If this episode encourages you, share it with someone who might need a reminder that courage is built long before that spotlight hits.

And if you're in a season where the pressure feels overwhelming or the path seems uncertain, remember, steadiness comes from the preparation you do now.

The work you put in today is what shows up tomorrow.

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