Keep Going: Voices That Remind Us Why We Don’t Quit (Part 1)

In this episode of “Shooting It Straight,” hosts Randy Black and Coach Jim Clayton delve into the theme of resilience, exploring how life lessons from the court translate into real-world success. They discuss the importance of showing up when life gets tough and pushing through adversity. The episode features a deep dive into resilience through powerful quotes from figures like Nelson Mandela, Vince Lombardi, Maya Angelou, JK Rowling, and Elizabeth Edwards. Each quote is unpacked to reveal insights into enduring, adapting, and overcoming challenges.

Randy and Jim emphasize the significance of learning from failures and the necessity of resilience in achieving success. They discuss how resilience is not innate but a skill that must be developed, and they explore the idea of adapting to life’s challenges rather than resisting them. The episode also touches on the importance of forgiveness, the power of imagination, and the role of adaptability in personal growth. Listeners are encouraged to reflect on how resilience has played a role in their own lives and to engage with the podcast community by sharing their experiences.

Transcript

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Coach Jim Clayton: Bam son!

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Coach Jim Clayton: This is Shoot It Straight, the podcast where life blessings don't come sugar-coated and excuses get bitched.

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I'm Randy Black, podcast guy, professional question asker, and apparently the only one here who doesn't yell PAM!

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Coach Jim Clayton: Well we're working on that Randy.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I'm Jim Clayton, coach, mentor, motivator, and the guy who still thinks a whistle may be the best motivational tool known to man.

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Each week we're taking what Jim's learned from the core.

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The drills, the discipline, the drive, and translating it into real-world success.

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Coach Jim Clayton: That's right.

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Coach Jim Clayton: This ain't just about basketball.

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Coach Jim Clayton: It's about showing up when life presses full court.

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Coach Jim Clayton: It's about pushing through when the clock's ticking down.

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If you're looking for

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Wuff.

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Well, you might just want to ride the bench.

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Coach Jim Clayton: We're here to help you believe bigger, achieve louder, and motivate strong.

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Coach Jim Clayton: So buckle up and whatever you do, keep shooting it straight.

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Bam, son

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Welcome back to Shooting It Straight.

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I'm Randy Black, joined by my co-host, Coach Jim Clayton.

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And we're coming to you from the Sports City Studio, City U Studio in Hurricane, West Virginia.

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And today

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We're again taking a deep dive into what it really means to bounce back and taking a deeper look at the topic of resilience.

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What I've done is I've gathered 10 powerful quotes.

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They're from leaders, poets, athletes, people who are survivors

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and each quote offers a different lens on what it means to endure, to adapt, and to rise.

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We're gonna unpack them not just what they say, but we're gonna give you a little bit of the story behind each one of them and how that

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They can help us handle the tough stuff that life tends to throw at us.

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So hang on and enjoy this journey into resilience.

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So let's start out with our first quote here, and I pulled it from a gentleman that anyone who has been alive in the last 50 years and has followed the world history of what's happened should know.

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And that's from Nelson Mandela.

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A little background about Nelson Mandela.

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He was the South African uh anti-apartheid uh revolutionary, he was a political leader, he eventually became a philanthropist.

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And he became South Africa's first black president and became a global icon for peace and for justice.

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That happened after he spent 27 years imprisoned under the apartheid system that was in South Africa.

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And despite all the harsh treatment he had to deal with there.

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He emerged committed to reconciliation and led South Africa through a peaceful transition period.

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And his resilience wasn't just in surviving, but it was in choosing forgiveness.

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and unity over bitterness.

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And the quote from Nelson Mandela is, Do not judge me by my success.

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Judge me by how many times I fell down and got back up.

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So what does this say about

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How we define success, Jim, what do you think?

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Coach Jim Clayton: Well, you know, success is not something that's an end result.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Okay, success is those little victories that you take along the way.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Excuse me.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And twenty-seven years in prison.

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Coach Jim Clayton: For most people, the average human, oh, they've already given up.

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Oh yeah.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Oh, they packed their bags.

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Coach Jim Clayton: They're never going to make it back out of the prison.

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Coach Jim Clayton: But for some people

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Coach Jim Clayton: You know, that that time, hey, that's just a learning lesson.

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Coach Jim Clayton: So when he got out, he was so ready when he got out to lead, okay?

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Coach Jim Clayton: And you know, I always tell people bad things are gonna happen in life, and but you can't be defined by that.

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Right.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Uh, you know, you got to think about, you know, when you start stuff, it's not always gonna end up the way you start it.

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Coach Jim Clayton: You're gonna make mistakes, you're gonna learn along the way, you know, and my suggestion my my theory on it is is this.

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Coach Jim Clayton: When you make a mistake one time it's a mistake.

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Yeah.

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Coach Jim Clayton: When you make the same mistake over, it's a choice.

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Yeah.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And you see there's a difference in a mistake and a choice

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Coach Jim Clayton: If I can change it and I don't, then I don't really need to whine about it, okay?

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Coach Jim Clayton: But it ain't going to define me.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Now, everybody who is successful today, I don't care who y'all are, I don't care what you do

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Coach Jim Clayton: There has been learning along those mistakes.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Yeah.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And everybody's made them.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And you could call them growing pains.

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Coach Jim Clayton: You can call them whatever you want.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Okay.

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Coach Jim Clayton: But they kept going

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Coach Jim Clayton: Because they kept going.

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Coach Jim Clayton: They didn't give up.

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Coach Jim Clayton: They weren't looking backwards.

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Coach Jim Clayton: They were looking forward.

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Coach Jim Clayton: They believed they could do it.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And then they set their mind and their attitude and went and got it done

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Coach Jim Clayton: And that's not something that happens like automatically every day.

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Right.

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Coach Jim Clayton: That's something you got to make up your mind to do.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And then you got to go do it.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And it's not always going to be like picture perfect.

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Coach Jim Clayton: It's not always going to be like going out to a restaurant for your favorite dinner.

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Coach Jim Clayton: It's not always going to be like going to the beach.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Okay, sometimes this is tough.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Yes.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And it's not fun

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Coach Jim Clayton: Okay, it's not fun.

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Coach Jim Clayton: But you know what happens is, you know, he talked about leading a peaceful transition.

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Coach Jim Clayton: When you first get started, everybody tells you you can't do it

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Coach Jim Clayton: And what that means to me is when they say can't, you can't do this, that means they can't do it.

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Yeah.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And if they can't do it,

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Coach Jim Clayton: You know how society is today, they don't want you to do it either.

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So that way you stay right on their level.

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It's it's more of a statement of reflection upon themselves, not upon you.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Oh hundred percent

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Coach Jim Clayton: Okay, so you know that's that that's just a big thing.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And for him, bad things happen.

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Coach Jim Clayton: He didn't give up

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Coach Jim Clayton: They didn't define him, and look what happened at the end.

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Exactly.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Now, 20, 20 some years in prison, nobody could really predict that was going to happen

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Coach Jim Clayton: But then when you look back at it, they go, oh, I knew you could do it.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Say, what's your name?

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Coach Jim Clayton: You know, they don't know your name when they first meet you when you're not successful.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Then they go, oh, I know him.

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Coach Jim Clayton: You say, uh yeah, because that's just the way society is, that's the way people are.

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Coach Jim Clayton: They always want to be associated with

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Coach Jim Clayton: Success.

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Yes.

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Coach Jim Clayton: But you also know the most overcrowded place in America is the bottom.

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Coach Jim Clayton: The bottom.

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Coach Jim Clayton: It doesn't take much effort to be on the bottom.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I told my camp today

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Coach Jim Clayton: I said, how easy is it to make straight Fs?

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Coach Jim Clayton: So that's easy, coach.

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Coach Jim Clayton: We don't have to do anything.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I said that's exactly right.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Show up.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Nothing from nothing leaves nothing.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I told him that I said that was a hit song by Billy Preston in the 70s.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And he goes is that on the radio now?

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Coach Jim Clayton: I said, yes, on my channel it is, because it's the oldie goldies.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Yeah.

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Coach Jim Clayton: But you know, I mean that's just you you know, you just gotta think about things like that.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And

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Coach Jim Clayton: The thing about it is, is that like in school, we're both educators.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I'm a former educator.

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Coach Jim Clayton: You're still in the business.

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Coach Jim Clayton: They don't teach that stuff in school.

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No.

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Coach Jim Clayton: They expect you to get it.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Yeah

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And the majority of people It's it but it it it's kind of like it's the same mindset that so many educators have about technology.

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All these kids grew up with it, they know what to do, and they don't.

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You just think they do.

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You think they do.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Oh, I gotcha.

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This is no different.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I gotcha.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And so, you know, I'm not just using technology because I want to use it.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I'm using it to expand and expose or to broaden and build you know people's mindsets, their thoughts, their actions, you know, all those things

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Coach Jim Clayton: That they might not have ever thought about.

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It's a it's a tool, not an outcome.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Oh you couldn't say it any better.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Exactly.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Oh yeah

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Coach Jim Clayton: Yeah.

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So I mean that that's a that that's with with what with what we have here from what Nelson Mandela said, like I guess my big question is, can resilience exist?

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without forgiveness.

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Well yeah I mean I mean that's it's it it's gotta be hard to to bounce back and move on without forgiving.

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I don't I just don't see how that's possible.

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Coach Jim Clayton: You gotta forgive.

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Coach Jim Clayton: You just gotta, you know, hey, people do things that, you know, I heard a statement the other day by somebody.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Think before you say something.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Think before you talk.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Once it comes out, woo!

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Coach Jim Clayton: You can't take it back.

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Coach Jim Clayton: It's hard to get it back.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And so, you know, people do crazy things.

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Coach Jim Clayton: They do weird things in their light, you know, that they're not going to do later in life

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Coach Jim Clayton: And you can't let that burden you because if you carry that with you and you don't forgive them, then those people still have control over you.

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Yes.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And I'm not giving anybody control over me

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Coach Jim Clayton: You know what I mean?

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Coach Jim Clayton: Except the Lord.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I'll give him control of it.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I see it.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I mean you control yourself.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And like I tell people, no one's more qualified to be you than you.

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Yeah

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Coach Jim Clayton: So you can't let somebody else control you.

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Coach Jim Clayton: You got to be in the 10 and 2 on the steering wheel and you got to drive that car right down that road.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And you know if you fall off or rent you gotta get back home.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Yes.

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Coach Jim Clayton: That's how it's gotta work.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Yeah.

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Coach Jim Clayton: You know what I mean?

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Which, you know, kind of kinda leads us into this next quote we've got on our list here from

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A gentleman that if you're a if you're a professional football fan, you sh hopefully you know who Vince Lombardi was.

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You know, the legendary coach for the Green Bay Packers led them to multiple NFL championships.

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And a lot of people forget he coached the Redskins after that.

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For a couple of years.

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A lot of people forget that.

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I couldn't remember that either.

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Yeah.

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But he his name is now synonymous with excellence and leadership in sports.

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And he wrote a book called Run the Daylight.

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And this quote comes from that book and it reflects some of his coaching philosophy that character is proven not in victory, but in the response to failure.

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And the quote is, it's not whether you get knocked down, it's whether you get up.

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That's a huge mindset.

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And it's a huge mindset not just in sports, but in everything you do in your life.

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Would you agree?

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Because guess what?

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Coach Jim Clayton: 100%.

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Coach Jim Clayton: You're gonna get knocked down.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Somewhere in your life, somebody's gonna knock you down.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Maybe not physically, but in football, they did knock you down.

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Oh yeah.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Okay, back in those days.

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Coach Jim Clayton: There were no penalties for roughing the pastor.

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Oh no.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Okay.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Not like it is now.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Those guys played back then.

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Coach Jim Clayton: They'd never made any money because they'd been fined every time they hit somebody.

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Coach Jim Clayton: But yeah, the thing about it is, is

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Coach Jim Clayton: I always say this, an old boxing quote.

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Coach Jim Clayton: If you can look up, you can get up.

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Yes.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And again, that's the thing.

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Coach Jim Clayton: You gotta get up.

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Coach Jim Clayton: What did you learn from this situation?

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Coach Jim Clayton: Okay?

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Coach Jim Clayton: And you know, his book is the title says it all.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Run to daylight.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Don't run to dark.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Can't see nothing in the dark.

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Nope.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Oh the future is so bright when that sun's shining, okay?

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Coach Jim Clayton: Mm-hmm.

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Coach Jim Clayton: That's why everybody wears sunglasses

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Coach Jim Clayton: Because our future's so bright.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Yep.

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Coach Jim Clayton: They got to shadow.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I mean, you know, they don't want that glare.

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Coach Jim Clayton: But, you know, you gotta get up.

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Coach Jim Clayton: There's so many stories

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Coach Jim Clayton: You know, when something don't happen for you.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I'll give you a classic example.

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Coach Jim Clayton: That's been a while.

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Coach Jim Clayton: A little bit.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Been a few.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And I always thought, well, you know, I'm just a young guy starting out.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I don't have much.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I can't re I need somebody else to help me.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Well these guys helped me.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And they got a little bit involved in some things.

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Coach Jim Clayton: You know, they got bit off too much more than they could chew

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Coach Jim Clayton: And they had to decide which one they wanted to do.

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Coach Jim Clayton: So they filed bankruptcy on a couple businesses.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And I remember I was sitting at the desk and they come in and put put a box down on my desk.

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Coach Jim Clayton: With all the financials.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And I'm looking at them.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Because I did the court stuff.

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Coach Jim Clayton: They took care of that stuff.

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Right.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Says, it's all you now, big boy.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I said, uh, uh, uh, what what do you mean?

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Coach Jim Clayton: Uh we're out.

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Wow.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I said, okay, what are you gonna do?

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Coach Jim Clayton: He says, we're found bankruptcy on this.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Now you got a choice.

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Coach Jim Clayton: You can file too.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Okay?

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Coach Jim Clayton: Or you can just take it all over.

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Coach Jim Clayton: So they walked out

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Coach Jim Clayton: I sat there for about a day and looked at that box.

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Mm-hmm.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Hmm.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Look just staring at that box.

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Coach Jim Clayton: What am I gonna do?

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Coach Jim Clayton: What am I gonna do?

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Coach Jim Clayton: I said, by God, giving up is the easy way out.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I said, so I got walked over the next day, Twain Street Bank.

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Coach Jim Clayton: One of the guys who I coached in high school was a really great player, John McGuinness.

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Coach Jim Clayton: His dad was the press.

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Yeah

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Coach Jim Clayton: I said, Mr.

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Coach Jim Clayton: McGuinness, looks like your starting lineup just fouled out.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Your A-team.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I said, I ain't giving up.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I can make this happen.

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Coach Jim Clayton: But we got to restructure some stuff.

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Coach Jim Clayton: He said, that's not a problem.

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Coach Jim Clayton: So we did.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And years later I walked in there with that final check.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And I said, Mr.

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Coach Jim Clayton: McGuinness, I told you I was going to take care of this, and here it is.

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Coach Jim Clayton: He shook my hand and he said, wow.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I said, I got one question for you now.

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Coach Jim Clayton: If I came back tomorrow and wanted to start another business and needed a loan, would you give it to me?

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Coach Jim Clayton: He said, yes, sir.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I could have done the other thing.

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Coach Jim Clayton: We would not be sitting there having this conversation.

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We would not.

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Coach Jim Clayton: None of the awesome things that have happened in my life would have ever happened.

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Right.

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Coach Jim Clayton: So it took something like that

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Coach Jim Clayton: You know, I'm thinking like, man, I'm out here on the limb all by myself.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Well, that's tough, big boy.

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Coach Jim Clayton: That's what you're just going to suck it up and get it done.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And guess what?

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Coach Jim Clayton: That's what I did.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And somehow, some way, some means, it got done

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Coach Jim Clayton: And I could have given up.

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Coach Jim Clayton: You know what I mean?

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Coach Jim Clayton: But you can't be a whiner and a winner.

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Right.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I wasn't going to whine around and go, oh, these guys threw me under the bus, you know, da-da-da-da-da-da.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Uh-uh.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I ain't going under that bus.

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No.

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Coach Jim Clayton: It ain't gonna ever be the Jim Clayton you know.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I ain't giving up for nothing.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I mean the things might not always be going exactly the way you want it, but

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Coach Jim Clayton: Again, that can't define you.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And you don't give up.

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Coach Jim Clayton: You just keep looking forward.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Everything's marching forward, not backward.

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So, you know

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You have that mindset.

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I have that mindset.

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But today, the generation we have today, are we are we doing enough to really teach them this kind of resilience, this ability to bounce back?

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Coach Jim Clayton: No.

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Coach Jim Clayton: 100% no, no, no, no, no.

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Coach Jim Clayton: We're teaching a bunch of kids how to be soft.

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Coach Jim Clayton: How to be big woo-woo.

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Take let me give you an example.

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Okay, and this has been the last 10 plus years in education, okay

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Kid fails a class.

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In the past, student failed a class.

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What did they have to do?

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Retake the class.

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Yep.

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We don't do that anymore.

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Your kid.

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They don't retake the class.

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They go to summer school, they do a online version of the class, or

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You know, I know in Cabell County, they have actual people employed, full-time teachers, who are working with the kids in a class, doing these online classes to recover their credits that they lost.

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Instead of retaking the class.

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That's unbelievable.

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We're we're giving them the opportunity and damn a lot of people say, well, these these online ones are a lot harder

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I don't think they are.

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I've, you know, I spent a school year when I was teaching full time at Cabell Midland, and I had two periods a day where I did this credit recovery.

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And I stayed on those kids and I made them work and I didn't let them get by with anything.

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But I looked at the classes they were working on and I thought.

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Man, this is a lot easier than the actual class.

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So we we've kind of softened it down because they know if I failed the first time, I'm just gonna sit in this room and work on the computer and do this and get and be able to get done in no time.

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And that's that's what we're doing now, especially with that.

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There's other way I mean, but in other ways, like look at what we've done now with

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Athletics.

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You know, kids transferring.

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Oh, I couldn't play I couldn't get a playing time at this school.

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So I'm gonna go over here to the smaller school where

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I'm the big fish in the little pond, and then I get to play instead of learning from the situation of bouncing back from the adversity they face, they just run from it, go somewhere else.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Oh there's no such thing as loyalty today.

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Right.

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Coach Jim Clayton: It's just what can you do for me?

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Coach Jim Clayton: Me, me, me, me, me.

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Oh college at college athletics.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Oh it's oh yeah.

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They're gonna be able to pay the players now.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I mean th there's no there's no way to prepare them.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I heard this one yesterday

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Coach Jim Clayton: God says, let's say you're getting paid from uh Ohio State University.

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Coach Jim Clayton: They're paying the player.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Does that make you an employee of Ohio State?

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Coach Jim Clayton: Well you would think, because Ohio State's paying their professors.

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Coach Jim Clayton: They are employees, so they're paying their athletes.

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Coach Jim Clayton: They're now employees.

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Coach Jim Clayton: So now here comes the TAX

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Coach Jim Clayton: That they ain't thinking about.

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Mm-hmm.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Oh, yes, it's a whole nother thing.

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Coach Jim Clayton: But I remember back on that one subject, I failed a class in high school.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Geometry.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Oh, I hated that class

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Coach Jim Clayton: Hated it.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Couldn't understand why I needed it.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Had to take it in summer school.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Oh Lord

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Coach Jim Clayton: had Miss McClanahan Shirley McClanahan.

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Coach Jim Clayton: She was five foot nothing, had his face between her teeth, and she said, Hey, you're gonna take this class.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And I said, I don't even like this class.

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Coach Jim Clayton: She goes, I don't care if you like it.

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Coach Jim Clayton: She goes, you're gonna get it

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Coach Jim Clayton: I said, I just want to let you know.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I don't like her.

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Coach Jim Clayton: She says, well, I ain't worried about that.

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Coach Jim Clayton: She's tough.

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Yeah.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Now, I took the summer school class, which I wasn't real excited about going to summer school

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Coach Jim Clayton: And I passed the class.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Now I hated that classe.

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Coach Jim Clayton: But she's my favorite teacher ever.

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Yeah.

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Coach Jim Clayton: So you look at that and go, well, how are you going?

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Coach Jim Clayton: You told her you didn't like it.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Now she's your favorite town.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I said, you know why?

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Coach Jim Clayton: Because she didn't give up on it.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And I'll never forget one time after the class was over

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Coach Jim Clayton: She was at our basketball game at the fieldhouse.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And she was so teeny, she couldn't hardly see over the rails and the police room.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And I could see her little head up there because I knew where she sat, right at the end of the right before you go in the locker rooms at the old field house

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Coach Jim Clayton: She came in there one time and she says, you know, you remember that geometry class you took from me?

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Coach Jim Clayton: I said, yes, ma'am, I do.

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Coach Jim Clayton: She goes, you know, I watched you drive into that basket.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And you were using those angles and hitting those balls off that glass and hitting those baskets.

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Coach Jim Clayton: She goes, that was this in geometry

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Coach Jim Clayton: And she told me.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And I said, oh, I understand it now.

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Yeah.

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Coach Jim Clayton: See, she broke it down for me, because you know nobody learns the same way.

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Coach Jim Clayton: So you might have to teach something ten different times to get it across to the whole classroom.

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Right.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Well, some people don't do today.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And I'm looking back at that and I go.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Miss McLean, you're my favorite teacher ever.

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Coach Jim Clayton: But I still hate geometry.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Yeah.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I d still do not like it, but I mean what I mean, what she pushed me through.

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You I mean and part of it has to be that no one had given you a practical application of it.

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Coach Jim Clayton: No, nobody ever told me anything.

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Right, but then after the fact when she did the light bulb.

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Coach Jim Clayton: It was that light ball, that proverbial light bulb.

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Coach Jim Clayton: She put me in a story.

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Yes.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And I was thinking like

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Coach Jim Clayton: Well golly, why didn't you just tell me that the first time?

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Yeah.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I would have got it.

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Coach Jim Clayton: But see, there's some kids in there that got that like this.

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Coach Jim Clayton: They just got it like nothing.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I wasn't one of them.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Right

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Coach Jim Clayton: And everybody in my whole family's a math witch.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Engineers.

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Coach Jim Clayton: True.

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Coach Jim Clayton: My dad said, you're gonna be engineered.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I said, uh no, I'm not.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Not working for me.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Well guess what?

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Coach Jim Clayton: As you can see, I was

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Coach Jim Clayton: Not an engineer.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Yeah, you could call me a basketball engineer.

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Coach Jim Clayton: A lot of things you could call me, but working for the uh Corps of Engineers, something like that, or

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Coach Jim Clayton: That's not me.

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Coach Jim Clayton: But I know it's an important thing.

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Right.

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The whole idea really that when we look at this of are we preparing these kids and this future generation is that, you know, in the past

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We allowed people to make mistakes, but we helped guide them to fix it.

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I don't think we do that as much today

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We're not we're not really we're not really giving them the like, hey, this happened.

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Let's take this, let's learn from it, and let's move back to fix the situation.

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I don't think we do that as much.

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Coach Jim Clayton: No, I'm gonna give you a great quote.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And I got this off one of my friends, Danny Young.

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Coach Jim Clayton: He's a administrator at up in uh Cleveland at Shake at you know at at Shaker Heights.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And um he's a basketball coach there.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And on his thing, he said, and I'll never forget this, and I use this when he told me this, I said, oh my gosh.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Right on what you're saying.

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Coach Jim Clayton: What we permit, we promote.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And we are allowing these kids to what?

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Coach Jim Clayton: Dictate to us what they want, we're allowing it to happen.

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Yes.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Then we're going, hey.

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Coach Jim Clayton: You guys are all soft.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Hold on.

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Coach Jim Clayton: You're allowing them to be that way.

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Yes.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Okay?

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Coach Jim Clayton: You're allowing them.

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Coach Jim Clayton: If you allow your kids to tell you, tell, tell you what they want for dinner

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Coach Jim Clayton: They're gonna have McDonald's, Wendy's, cheeseburgers, pizza.

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Coach Jim Clayton: That's not healthy food.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Uh-uh.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Who's in charge here?

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Coach Jim Clayton: That's my question.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Who is in charge here?

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Coach Jim Clayton: Yes.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Okay?

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Coach Jim Clayton: Back in the day, it used to be a game we played called Follow the Leader.

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Coach Jim Clayton: They threw that game away.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Now it's called follow the follower.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Because there's no leaders.

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Yeah.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Nobody who's willing to.

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We're not we're not building a generation of leaders.

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Coach Jim Clayton: No!

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Coach Jim Clayton: Somebody's gonna stand knee deep in the crap, in the trenches.

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Like I I I hate to get political, but you know, when when I see certain people out there, you know, like certain members of Congress who are considered leaders

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And and the younger ones and we just it's it's just not there.

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And we're we're in trouble if these people become our national leaders.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Now you know when I look at that and I'm not polit

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Coach Jim Clayton: political thing, but when I look at people that are entering the political realm and they were like former Navy SEALs.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I'm liking that person right out again.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Yeah.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Because I know he knows discipline.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Now my definition of discipline is so simple.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Do what you're supposed to do when you're supposed to do.

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Yep.

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Coach Jim Clayton: End of conversation.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Not five minutes.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I need that right now.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I'll get that in about five minutes.

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Coach Jim Clayton: It's not working for me.

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Coach Jim Clayton: So when these people are in there, I know they're mission oriented.

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Coach Jim Clayton: So they we don't know what those missions are because nobody ever tells you.

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Right.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Because they're top secret

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Coach Jim Clayton: Okay?

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Coach Jim Clayton: But when those guys can go on a mission, train for that mission for months, go in, execute, get in, get out, never even hear about it.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Wow.

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Coach Jim Clayton: They know how to get stuff done.

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Right.

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Coach Jim Clayton: That's what gets my attention.

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Coach Jim Clayton: They're not going in there like, whatever, whatever, whatever.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Okay?

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Coach Jim Clayton: And most of them that are like that, the young ones are off the charts, and the old ones have been there too long.

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Yeah

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Coach Jim Clayton: Time to move on, let somebody else get in there.

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Coach Jim Clayton: But again, teaching people how to do the right thing.

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Coach Jim Clayton: You do the right thing.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Even when everybody else is doing the wrong thing.

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Right.

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Coach Jim Clayton: That's called character.

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Doing the right thing doesn't always mean that everyone thinks you're right.

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Coach Jim Clayton: That's exactly right.

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Coach Jim Clayton: 100%

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Coach Jim Clayton: Okay?

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Coach Jim Clayton: But wrong plus wrong is wrong even if everybody's doing it.

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Exactly.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And right plus right is right even if nobody's doing it.

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Coach Jim Clayton: So again, leaders have the ability to stand out.

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Coach Jim Clayton: They have not the ability to blend in.

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Coach Jim Clayton: They're not trying to be your friend every day.

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Coach Jim Clayton: They're telling you and hoping and working with you on what you need to hear, not what you want to hear.

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Yeah

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Coach Jim Clayton: But they do it in a professional way.

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Coach Jim Clayton: They're not beating you down.

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Not at all.

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Coach Jim Clayton: No, you don't work for me, bud.

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Coach Jim Clayton: You work with me.

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Yes.

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Coach Jim Clayton: That's a big difference in those two statements.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And sometimes in education, that's the only profession I know that you can go get a master's degree and be put at the top.

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Coach Jim Clayton: You don't work your way to the top based off experience.

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Yeah.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Okay, you get a degree in finance, you're not becoming the bank president overnight.

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Coach Jim Clayton: No, you've got to work your way from the bottom.

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It's a long road.

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Yes

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I well, I mean, I I I know of individuals who became school administrators and, you know, directors at

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central office level who never taught in a classroom.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And they couldn't lead to anybody.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Yeah.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Now me personally, that wasn't for me because I like to be in the trenches with the troops.

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Yeah.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Oh yeah.

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Coach Jim Clayton: That's where I want to be.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I want to be right in the thick of it.

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Yes.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Leading, growing, expanding.

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Coach Jim Clayton: You know what I mean?

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Coach Jim Clayton: All these people in directions in a positive way they never thought even possible they could do.

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Coach Jim Clayton: That's what true leaders do.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And they want no, they don't want anybody to say, oh man, you were great.

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Coach Jim Clayton: They don't need any of those, you know, uh, those superlatives.

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Coach Jim Clayton: The best I don't need none of that.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Don't need any of that.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Right.

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Coach Jim Clayton: That's just good for a trophy case or, you know what I mean, good taste, whatever

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Coach Jim Clayton: That doesn't really mean it.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And I ain't worried about that.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Right.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Already feel good

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Coach Jim Clayton: I don't need nobody make me feel better when I say this.

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So our first two quotes there, you know, Nelson Nelson uh Mandela and Vince Lombardi, we've kind of built up

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you know, that foundation for resilience, that foundation for grit.

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So let's kind of move and change directions a little bit with more about what it's like to to really weather those storms in life.

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So let's let's start out with uh a quote here from Maya Angelou

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Uh she's an American poet, uh memorist.

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Uh she was a civil rights activist.

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Uh she had numerous works.

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Probably her best-known one was I Know Why the Cage Bird Sings

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Uh she was a a very powerful voice for dignity, for equality, and for truth in America, coming off of the civil rights era here in the United States.

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In Letter to My Daughter, she wrote reflections on the traumatic past and the transformation she had into becoming a leading voice

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for dignity and for justice.

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And she acknowledges the the impact in life that it had while asserting the power to preserve self-worth.

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And her quote here says

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I can be changed by what happens to me, but I refuse to be reduced by it.

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W what what do you think that or what a how when when you hear that, what do you see as being that difference between being changed and being reduced?

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Coach Jim Clayton: See I'm not gonna let that

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Coach Jim Clayton: Push me down.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Reduce means I'm going what smaller.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Okay.

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Coach Jim Clayton: So change though is inevitable.

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Coach Jim Clayton: It's going to happen.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Oh, no change, no change.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Now everybody wants to change their circumstances, but the funny thing is nobody wants to change themselves.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Right.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And change is that pill woo nobody wants.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Because you know why?

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Coach Jim Clayton: They're stuck

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Coach Jim Clayton: in their 12 by 12 inch comfort zone.

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Right.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Not much room to grow there.

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Coach Jim Clayton: You're not going to grow in that in it because there's nowhere to go.

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Coach Jim Clayton: You boxed yourself in.

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Coach Jim Clayton: So with her, for example, things happen.

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Coach Jim Clayton: They're going to change you.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Hopefully for the not the bigger.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Because you see, that's what most people do.

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Coach Jim Clayton: They don't change.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Hey, just get mad.

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Coach Jim Clayton: That ain't gonna fix anything.

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Coach Jim Clayton: The world doesn't care because you're mad.

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Coach Jim Clayton: It's moving on with you or without you.

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Coach Jim Clayton: So why are you mad?

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Coach Jim Clayton: Why?

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Coach Jim Clayton: You know why?

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Coach Jim Clayton: Because you know what you wanted.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Exactly.

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Coach Jim Clayton: There it comes back to that what?

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Coach Jim Clayton: Soft.

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You get what you want.

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Coach Jim Clayton: So what are you gonna do?

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Coach Jim Clayton: You're gonna whine, you gonna cry, you gonna hiss, you're gonna moan

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Coach Jim Clayton: You're gonna bitch.

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Coach Jim Clayton: You're gonna do everything you can do, excuse my friends, but you're gonna do everything you can do except fix the problem.

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Right.

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It's it's it's kind of the idea that you're

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You're resisting letting that trauma in your life, letting that event, letting that change define you.

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You're using that

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To move yourself forward.

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Coach Jim Clayton: There's no question.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And sometimes as you're as you're moving yourself forward when you think, oh man, this is it, you know, mate, you can't see the good things that are right in front of you that are about to happen.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Can't see them.

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Coach Jim Clayton: You know why?

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Coach Jim Clayton: They're there every day for everybody in the world.

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Coach Jim Clayton: But we ain't looking for them.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And if you're not looking, you can't see

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Coach Jim Clayton: And it's there for everybody.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Okay, I use the example of that when I when I see that one.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Okay, my health is shit.

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Coach Jim Clayton: So when I got diagnosed with the big C,

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Coach Jim Clayton: I let I uh uh uh uh uh you ain't pushing me down.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I'm not gonna define me.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Not gonna happen.

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Coach Jim Clayton: But you know what?

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Coach Jim Clayton: You said this word how many times?

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Coach Jim Clayton: Mindset, mindset, mindset.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And then when we had

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Coach Jim Clayton: Our buddy on there the other day about cancer and comedy.

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Yeah.

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Coach Jim Clayton: You know, the stuff he said about it.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Woo!

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Yeah.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Can't let that happen.

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Yeah, Dr.

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Brad meant.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Dr.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Brad, man.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Oh yeah.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I was listening at last night.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And I was going, man.

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Coach Jim Clayton: It was better to I mean I mean I wrote four pages of notes on that.

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Yes.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And I was listening to it.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I could see myself writing those notes.

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Coach Jim Clayton: But I was like, I knew those things, but I didn't know why I was feeling those things.

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Coach Jim Clayton: But now I know.

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Coach Jim Clayton: But I still wasn't gonna let that happen.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I'm not gonna let that knock me down.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I'm not gonna be reduced by it.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I'm gonna be what?

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Coach Jim Clayton: What's the opposite of reduced?

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Coach Jim Clayton: Expand.

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Yes.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I'm going to be expanding.

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You're going to grow.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I'm going to grow from and some of the greatest things are happening now

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Coach Jim Clayton: For for me that I never would have ever seen happen.

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Yeah.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Right along the lines, that is me

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Coach Jim Clayton: It's not maybe that guy over there, but it's me.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And I'm good in my own skin.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Okay?

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Coach Jim Clayton: You know, whatever happens, I can't control all the time what happens.

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Right.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I could just control what I'm gonna do about it.

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You know, and when when I when I read that quote, you know, I kinda think of, you know

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You have to think about how can you maintain your identity, maintain your integrity while you're under this pressure of this change that's happening and not letting it

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Beat you down.

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And you know what it throws me back to?

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Throws me back to your four pillars of resilience.

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It throws me back to Brad's Axe Pact and Axe Plan and all that.

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It's about the way you handle it.

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Be positive.

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Have the energy to keep yourself up and going to keep your health going.

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Make the connection you need to people.

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Have a deeper purpose.

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Have faith.

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Have a connection rooted in a high in that higher power that you see in life.

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And it's all about making your way right through it

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And, you know, it's it's not the easiest thing to do.

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It's not as we talked about at the very beginning, talking about resilience, it's not an innate skill.

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It has to be learned.

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You have to develop that ability on your own.

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And being able to do that helps you to achieve, helps you to move on, helps you to, as we've said, bounce back.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Absolutely.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And see, I think that's something that should be taught in school.

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Coach Jim Clayton: So I'd talk in school.

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Coach Jim Clayton: All we teach is what we're gonna test.

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Yes.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Well I'm gonna tell you something about that.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Okay

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Coach Jim Clayton: You look at some of the most successful people.

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Coach Jim Clayton: They didn't test well.

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Coach Jim Clayton: No.

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Coach Jim Clayton: But you know what?

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Coach Jim Clayton: Every job I've ever gone to, anything I've ever done, I never ask you about what grade they what what grades you make on your SAT

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Coach Jim Clayton: What grade did you make on your ACT?

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Coach Jim Clayton: Never comes up.

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Right.

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Coach Jim Clayton: All it all it allows you to do is maybe get into a school, okay, where you you don't have to take bonehead classes.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Okay, so why should you even have to take those anyway?

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Coach Jim Clayton: Because you know what it's all about.

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Mm-hmm.

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It's about the money.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Money.

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Coach Jim Clayton: The root of all evils

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Coach Jim Clayton: Money.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Money.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Money.

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Coach Jim Clayton: What are they teaching kids?

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Coach Jim Clayton: Go work for somebody.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Why don't you teach somebody how to work for yourself?

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Coach Jim Clayton: How to start your own business?

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Coach Jim Clayton: How to be an entrepreneur?

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Coach Jim Clayton: I saw a good thing today on TV.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Had a 14, this kid was 14 years old.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Mom and dad are health professionals.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Okay?

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Coach Jim Clayton: This guy decides when he's 14 in his garage

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Coach Jim Clayton: He's going I don't know what what what his deal was, how his gift was, but he could make flower arrangements, which I cannot.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I look at one and go, that's beautiful.

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Coach Jim Clayton: My mind ain't working that well.

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Right.

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Coach Jim Clayton: So his first year he did it online.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Put it online and sold it himself.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Nobody told him how to do it.

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Coach Jim Clayton: He just did it.

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Coach Jim Clayton: So that's the first year, 14 years old, he had 100,000 books in the bank.

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Nice.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Not very many 14-year-olds are rolled around with 100,000 in your bank account.

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Not really.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And he made it all himself.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Mom and dad give him give him nothing in his garage.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Now he's said, I'm not going to college.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I'm going to be an entrepreneur.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I don't need college.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Now I think he's a freshman or sophomore at floor at uh Arizona State

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Coach Jim Clayton: His mom and dad said, I want you to go to college.

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Coach Jim Clayton: He didn't want to go to college.

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Coach Jim Clayton: They said, okay, you don't have to go to college.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Now guess what?

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Coach Jim Clayton: He wanted to go to college.

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Coach Jim Clayton: He's loving.

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Coach Jim Clayton: He said, I need to live in a dorm.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I need to live with guys and hang out, young man, do the deal.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Now he started his own business.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Now he's 21.

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Coach Jim Clayton: He owns his restaurant, has a restaurant now.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Okay, still sells the flowers.

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Diversifying.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Now he has his own little latte shop where he has all this stuff.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Now he's worth a million dollars.

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Coach Jim Clayton: 21, 14, 21.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Now he's in college, but he's already a millionaire.

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Coach Jim Clayton: He didn't go to college and be $800 million in debt.

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Right.

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Coach Jim Clayton: He already had a plan.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And that's going to make him even more.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And I'm looking at it.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And so the guy says to me, well, how many people are really wired like that?

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Not a lot.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And that's exactly what they said.

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Coach Jim Clayton: But you could be

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Coach Jim Clayton: Because we don't promote that.

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Coach Jim Clayton: We just promote that go get education, go work for somebody else.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Well, you ever had a great idea?

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Coach Jim Clayton: Oh yeah.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Have you ever tried to do anything with it?

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Coach Jim Clayton: Oh no.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Why?

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Coach Jim Clayton: I don't know just never thought about it like that.

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Right.

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Coach Jim Clayton: See, because you're not, nobody's lighting that fire in you.

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Yeah.

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Coach Jim Clayton: They're just really quick to what?

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Coach Jim Clayton: They're the fire fire.

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Coach Jim Clayton: What's a firefighter do?

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Coach Jim Clayton: Puts a flame what?

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Coach Jim Clayton: Out.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Now they're extremely important if your house is on fire

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Coach Jim Clayton: But your your game is on fire, your life's on fire because it's really pumping, man.

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Coach Jim Clayton: It's on it's hot.

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Coach Jim Clayton: That's the last person I want.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Somebody put it out.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I need a fire lighter

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Yeah.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And and guess what?

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Coach Jim Clayton: Most people don't have those.

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Well and you know, kind of sliding into our our next quote, you know, it's

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From J.

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Rowling.

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Rowling, the author of the Harry Potter books.

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Um, you know, she she gave a um a speech at Harvard.

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And, you know, in her life, before those books came out, before those Harry Potter books came out, she faced major financial problems in her life.

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She was struggling emotionally.

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Her mental health was not very good.

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But

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She finally hit success because she kept at things.

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And the quote she said here was that rock bottom becomes the solid foundation on which I rebuilt my life

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Sometimes you have to let people, you have to let yourself hit that rock bottom.

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If you don't

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You're never gonna know what real failure is.

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Coach Jim Clayton: See, so when things hit Roc Bomb, man, I'm on the down and out, man.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Okay.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Well guess what?

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Coach Jim Clayton: The flip side of that is, hey, there's nowhere to go but out.

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Exactly.

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Coach Jim Clayton: That's a different mentality, see?

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Coach Jim Clayton: Not like, oh man, I'm I'm so pitiful.

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Coach Jim Clayton: You can't be pitiful and powerful at the same time

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Coach Jim Clayton: Nowhere to go but up.

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Coach Jim Clayton: But you know what funny thing was?

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Coach Jim Clayton: She is also successful.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Movies, books, multi-cazillionaire, right?

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Coach Jim Clayton: But recently she made a she she stepped out of that comfort zone and made a statement, you know what I mean, about some.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I can't remember what it was exactly.

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She made some comments uh that

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Fired up people in the the transgender community.

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Okay.

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Um was what it was.

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And it it alienated a lot of people who had supported her work and stuff and they sought being on her side.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Right.

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Coach Jim Clayton: But you know what?

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Coach Jim Clayton: She said what she had to say

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Coach Jim Clayton: She knew there was gonna be some some blowback on it, right?

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Coach Jim Clayton: Mm-hmm.

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Coach Jim Clayton: But she faced the fire.

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Yep.

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Coach Jim Clayton: She didn't run from it.

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Nope.

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She has held she has held on to what she said.

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She's supported her her decision to do so.

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And

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You know, she's already said if it costs people reading my books or looking at the stuff I worked on, then I, you know, I'm I'm prepared for that.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And you know what?

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Coach Jim Clayton: Those weren't really your true friends anyway.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Yeah.

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Coach Jim Clayton: They were just the bandwagoneers that jumped on when everything was going right.

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Coach Jim Clayton: They were there for the ride.

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Yeah.

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Okay?

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Coach Jim Clayton: They weren't there for the right reasons.

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Coach Jim Clayton: So it's easy for you to jump off.

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Coach Jim Clayton: If you're very for the right reasons, you're not jumping off.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Okay, it's like nope.

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Coach Jim Clayton: See, I I applaud her for that.

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Coach Jim Clayton: She wasn't scared.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Now she could have goes, well, if I say that, then you know what?

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Coach Jim Clayton: I'm gonna have blowback.

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Coach Jim Clayton: It's gonna cost.

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Coach Jim Clayton: No, she knew it.

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Coach Jim Clayton: But she felt like she had to say what she had to say.

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Right.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Now that's her opinion

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Coach Jim Clayton: That's not everybody's opinion.

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Right.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Everybody's got an opinion.

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Coach Jim Clayton: That don't mean I got a blue I don't have to agree with you.

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Right.

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Coach Jim Clayton: That don't mean I don't like you.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I just don't agree with you on that situation.

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Exactly.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And that happens, what, every day in life?

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Every single day.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Every day.

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Coach Jim Clayton: How many times?

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Coach Jim Clayton: Oh my gosh, too many to count.

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Exactly.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Okay, but I mean, there you go.

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Coach Jim Clayton: But again, she stayed with something.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Things didn't go the way they wanted.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Tried, didn't work.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Try didn't work.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Try didn't work.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Just keep sinking.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Sinking.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And bam, you hit the bottom

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And it's you know it's it's the idea that failure is the failure here, this this rock bottom here isn't an end.

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No, it's a beginning.

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It's a beginning.

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It's the starting point.

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Fresh start.

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Exactly.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I always said failure

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Coach Jim Clayton: Is a better way to begin again, more intelligently.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Sometimes you jump into stuff, well, and that's okay.

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Coach Jim Clayton: See, some people go, well, it's just not the right time for me to do this.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Well, guess what?

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Coach Jim Clayton: It's never gonna be the right time with an attitude like that.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Get in there and go.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Example, 33 years later, my sports business.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Am I doing the same thing now that I did 33 years ago

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Coach Jim Clayton: Absolutely not.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I've grown.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I've developed.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I've researched.

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Coach Jim Clayton: You know, I've done all these things.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I've used my imagination.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Three o'clock in the morning.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Wake up.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Whoa!

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Coach Jim Clayton: Imagination is the key to everything.

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Oh yeah.

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So it's it's kind of you know it's in my notes here.

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It says, you know, I've got something written down there.

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It's like the idea of imagination, resilience, reinvention, you know, creativity

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Here's what my notes say.

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Creativity can help people see beyond current circumstances.

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Imagination opens doors.

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That resilience can walk through.

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Oh, I love that.

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And that that is beautiful.

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And I mean her her example her quote here talking about being at rock bottom, J.

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Rowling's career, perfect example of this.

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You know, you technically could have said when they came to you and said, yeah, we're out.

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That was a bat was the bottom.

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I could have said, I'm out too.

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Exactly.

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But you used it to turn things the other direction.

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And used it to keep building and keep growing.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Excuse me.

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Coach Jim Clayton: You know, when imagination

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Coach Jim Clayton: Creativity become the best when things are going your way when you're at rock bottom.

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Because

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All of your illusions have disappeared.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Yep, all of them.

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Coach Jim Clayton: So now you're going, what can I change?

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Coach Jim Clayton: What can I need to do?

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Coach Jim Clayton: Oh man, I got the answer.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Write it down.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Okay.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Then put a plan together

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Coach Jim Clayton: and make it work.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Yes.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Don't ask people for their opinions 'cause the worst thing big minded people can do

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Coach Jim Clayton: And share it with small-minded people.

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Coach Jim Clayton: They're gonna shoot it down.

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Coach Jim Clayton: No, that ain't gonna work.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I've heard that so many times, oh my God.

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Coach Jim Clayton: But now they don't say that.

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Coach Jim Clayton: They go, oh, I knew you could do it

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Coach Jim Clayton: Oh yeah.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I go well thank you very much.

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Coach Jim Clayton: But I know that not what they I I already know the answer to what to deal with.

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Coach Jim Clayton: But I'm I'm gonna say thank you very much.

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I appreciate that.

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Coach Jim Clayton: You know, but you know that again

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Coach Jim Clayton: Creativity that takes you up way above.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Imagination.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Woo!

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Coach Jim Clayton: You gotta imagine stuff.

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Coach Jim Clayton: See, because imagination sometimes can get confused with dreams.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Because dreams are in your subconscious.

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Coach Jim Clayton: So they're not real.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Right.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And they can turn out any way you want.

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Coach Jim Clayton: But see your imagination goes, man, what if?

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Coach Jim Clayton: What if?

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Coach Jim Clayton: What if I did this?

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Coach Jim Clayton: Woo!

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Coach Jim Clayton: It could turn into this.

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Coach Jim Clayton: It could bounce over to here.

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Coach Jim Clayton: What if I did nothing?

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Coach Jim Clayton: Well, nothing from nothing.

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Makes nothing.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Leaves nothing.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Yep.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And then here comes somebody, like you said, that don't give up and bounces back and they go right across the finish line.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Yep

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Coach Jim Clayton: And that's how it works.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And you don't ever know all the time when it's going to work.

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Coach Jim Clayton: You don't know when it's going to be the big day.

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Coach Jim Clayton: But you just keep what?

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Coach Jim Clayton: You keep pushing on.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Yes.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Keep pushing on.

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Coach Jim Clayton: You keep pushing on.

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Well, and that, you know, that helps us lead in to to quote number five here on our list

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Elizabeth Edwards.

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She was an attorney, an author, healthcare activist.

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She was the wife of former U.

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Senator John Edwards.

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And she kinda got pulled to prominence while he was running for the vice presidency of the United States, um, and also was put under some

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Pretty intense public scrutiny scrutiny uh for some decisions and things he had made in his life, his personal life, uh, as well as the illness she was facing.

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So she had a very, very long battle with cancer.

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Uh, and her husband had a very, very public scandal about some infidelity.

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And she, in her own book, talked about it and she reframed resilience.

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as adaptation rather than in r rather than as resistance.

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And her quote says, She stood in the storm, and when the wind did not blow her away, she adjusted her sails.

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So it's all about changing direction rather than pushing through.

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She adapted.

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It's the idea that persistence

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um sometimes can turn into stubbornness, but wisdom is knowing when to see that happening and to adjust to it

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Coach Jim Clayton: 100%.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I always tell people, I tell you this today, it's all a game of adjustment.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Life is really about one thing.

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Coach Jim Clayton: It's like basketball.

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Coach Jim Clayton: What am I going to do next?

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Coach Jim Clayton: Okay, so if they throw you the ball, what are you going to do?

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Coach Jim Clayton: If you grab it and throw it over to here to Johnny, what are you going to do after you throw it to him?

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Coach Jim Clayton: You're gonna stand there, or you're gonna go do something else.

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Coach Jim Clayton: You're gonna make a cut, you're gonna screen away.

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Coach Jim Clayton: What are you gonna do?

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Coach Jim Clayton: Okay?

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Coach Jim Clayton: So you adapt to the situation.

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Coach Jim Clayton: You don't let it drown you.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Or don't let you don't let it sink your boat.

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Mm-hmm.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Okay?

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Coach Jim Clayton: And that's what happens with people that can't adjust.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Oh man.

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Coach Jim Clayton: 100,000%.

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It allows you to adapt.

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It allows you to survive.

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It allows you to make progress.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Absolutely.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And you know, in the sports industry.

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Coach Jim Clayton: People that are more flexible, when they get a minor injury, they recover way quicker.

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They do.

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Coach Jim Clayton: So you could take that same analogy and put it right into everybody's daily life.

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Coach Jim Clayton: When somebody something don't go your way, when life throws you that little curvebone, what are you gonna do?

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Coach Jim Clayton: Run out of the box

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Coach Jim Clayton: No, you're gonna stand there and wait on it when it breaks in, you're gonna knock it out of the park.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Yeah.

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Coach Jim Clayton: That's what the best hitters do.

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Coach Jim Clayton: You see, but again, flexibility.

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Coach Jim Clayton: What'd you keep word there?

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Coach Jim Clayton: Power.

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Coach Jim Clayton: We have the fi see, we all have that survival mode in us.

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Coach Jim Clayton: But I like what she said.

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Coach Jim Clayton: About resilience, okay, then resistance.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Some people resist change.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Yes.

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Coach Jim Clayton: They're fighting.

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Coach Jim Clayton: It's like going against the current.

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Mm-hmm.

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Coach Jim Clayton: You're not gonna win.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Gravity's gonna win.

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Coach Jim Clayton: It's gonna win.

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Coach Jim Clayton: It's better that you go with it instead of against it.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Okay?

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Coach Jim Clayton: But she adapts, has the ability to adapt instead of resist

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Coach Jim Clayton: There's the there's the kicker to the deal.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Can you adapt to the situation, not go, well I've done it this way every day.

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Coach Jim Clayton: You know what I mean?

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Coach Jim Clayton: It's my way or the highway, the old General Patton mentality.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I'm not changing I'm not gonna do any new thing.

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Coach Jim Clayton: That reminds me a lot of of like when we used to go to those teacher meetings and they'd have somebody uh teach us some new strategies.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Mm-hmm.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Well, hey, I'm game

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Coach Jim Clayton: Some of them's teach been teaching for 30 years back, I ain't doing that shit, man.

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Coach Jim Clayton: That's a waste of time.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I'm doing it about what

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Coach Jim Clayton: And you know what they are a lot of times?

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Coach Jim Clayton: Boring.

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Coach Jim Clayton: They're just talk and you write.

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Coach Jim Clayton: That ain't how everybody learns.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Right.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Okay.

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Coach Jim Clayton: So I'm on interesting.

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Coach Jim Clayton: So I'll try some new things.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I didn't like some.

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Coach Jim Clayton: But then there were some I liked

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Coach Jim Clayton: I used them, but I'd have never used that if somebody hadn't taught me that and shared that with me.

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Coach Jim Clayton: But I had an open mindset

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Coach Jim Clayton: And I taught for a lot over three decades.

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Yes.

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Coach Jim Clayton: That's a long time.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And, you know, but again, that when you have the ability to adapt, you can become powerful

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Coach Jim Clayton: Little things that would knock people off their feet don't knock you down, baby, because you're standing sturdy as a rock.

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Yes.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And you see, everybody has the ability to do that.

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Coach Jim Clayton: It don't make how big you are.

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Right.

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Coach Jim Clayton: It ain't how big yards how big you pluck.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Mm-hmm.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Okay, so I don't care if you're five foot one

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Coach Jim Clayton: Or six foot one.

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Coach Jim Clayton: If the six foot one plays aggressively, I'll take the five foot over the six foot anytime you want to go around.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Holmes, perfect example

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Muggsy Bugs.

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Classic example.

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What was he?

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5'4?

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Oh, shortest player in the history of the NBA.

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But he was good.

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He was talented.

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And he had the heart to be out there and do his best.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Oh, yeah.

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And he had a great career.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Yes, he did.

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Coach Jim Clayton: But a lot of people wrote him off.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Mm-hmm.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And they do that in basketball now with smaller players

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Coach Jim Clayton: And I I know some smaller players that just can take it to everybody.

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Coach Jim Clayton: But they already get what?

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Coach Jim Clayton: Identified by somebody

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Coach Jim Clayton: Who is that somebody?

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Coach Jim Clayton: Where did you get a degree in expertity of this deal?

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Coach Jim Clayton: There ain't no degree in expert.

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Yeah.

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Coach Jim Clayton: You know, it's like somebody said, well, I got a PhD.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Call me doctor.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Well, you know what?

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Coach Jim Clayton: I got a PhD too.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I got the real PhD.

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Coach Jim Clayton: You know what that means?

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Coach Jim Clayton: Passion, heart, and desire.

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Yes.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Okay.

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Coach Jim Clayton: That's the pat that's the PhD I want.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I don't want some sheet of paper that says, oh, I took some classes.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Anybody can do that.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Mm-hmm.

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Coach Jim Clayton: But how many people who have that piece of paper have that passion, that heart, and that desire?

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Exactly.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Not a lot.

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Not a lot.

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Coach Jim Clayton: But call me doctor.

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Coach Jim Clayton: You call me the shop doctor.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Okay?

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Coach Jim Clayton: I didn't go to med school for that.

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Right.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Okay?

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Coach Jim Clayton: I learned it.

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Coach Jim Clayton: You know, right out here.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Doing it, adjusting it, adapting.

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Coach Jim Clayton: imagining new things, putting them in play, setting a plan, going to get them.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And anybody can do it.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I mean, I I I always I always say, if I can do it, oh my God

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Coach Jim Clayton: Anybody can do it.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Yes.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Okay, I'm not the sharpest knife in the drawer when it comes to certain things.

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Coach Jim Clayton: But there are certain things I do know a little bit about.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Right.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Oh we we all we all do.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And that's my lane, and guess what?

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Coach Jim Clayton: I'm staying in it.

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Okay, Jim, we've made it through five of these ten quotes that I picked out, and we're at almost an hour, so I think we're gonna split this episode

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into two.

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So, you know, we've kind of taken the time here to talk about, you know, that foundation of resilience with those first two quotes.

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We've talked about

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you know, weathering the storm here with those next three.

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Um so before we, you know, head into our next set and we'll do those on the next episode, we do have

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one of those times where we get one of those great quotes that get shared here on the show and everybody knows that that segment is

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Jimmy's Wisdom of the Week.

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Cheesy Announcer Guy: Now it's time for Jimmy's Wisdom of the Week.

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Cheesy Announcer Guy: This is where Jimmy shares one of his famous Jimmy isms to inspire the listener.

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Okay, Jim, so

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Today's wisdom of the week, this is the quote you gave me.

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It says, easy times make soft people.

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What in the world does that mean?

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Coach Jim Clayton: Oh man, when we when we're easy on ourselves, then when things get bad, we crumble.

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Coach Jim Clayton: We're soft.

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Coach Jim Clayton: We give up.

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Coach Jim Clayton: It's kind of like pushing uh a marshmallow up

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Coach Jim Clayton: You push it in, ooh, see here it goes in real soft.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Ain't no hardness.

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Coach Jim Clayton: They don't have that those abs of steel right there, see?

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Coach Jim Clayton: Because they didn't work to get them.

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Right.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And so when you're easy, when things come easy

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Coach Jim Clayton: Everybody's good.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Everybody's good when everything's easy.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Right.

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Coach Jim Clayton: But what happens when the crap hits the fan?

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Coach Jim Clayton: Oh, yeah.

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Coach Jim Clayton: That separates the pretenders from the contenders.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Mm-hmm.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And that's exactly what that means to me.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I'm not interested in soft people.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Now that doesn't mean you don't have a heart.

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Coach Jim Clayton: That don't mean you have an attitude of gratitude.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Okay?

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Coach Jim Clayton: Because I don't care who you are and what you did.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Somebody helped you get there.

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Right.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Some idea.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And those are blessings in your life.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Mm-hmm.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I believe that

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Coach Jim Clayton: When somebody calls you on the phone when they don't need to call you to check on you, that's a blessing.

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Yes.

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Coach Jim Clayton: When somebody shows up your house and brings you some food

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Coach Jim Clayton: That's a blessing.

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Yes.

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Coach Jim Clayton: So there's all kinds of things.

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Coach Jim Clayton: But the problem is soft people, guess what?

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Coach Jim Clayton: They always see their problems instead of their blessings.

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Right

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Coach Jim Clayton: And you're never gonna learn those things when everything's going perfect for you.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Mm-hmm.

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Coach Jim Clayton: You're just gonna stay right where you are.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Yeah.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Okay.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And when things get a little tough

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Coach Jim Clayton: The tough get going.

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Coach Jim Clayton: They don't get soft.

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Coach Jim Clayton: They get tougher.

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Right.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And you know, I mean it it's it's just like, yeah, I was watching the thing, I'll give you a classic example

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Coach Jim Clayton: Okay.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Woo.

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Coach Jim Clayton: World champs.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Good team.

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Coach Jim Clayton: That's the only time in Super Bowl history.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Where two coaches got carried off the field at the same time.

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Coach Jim Clayton: The head coach and the defensive coach.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And they're talking about these guys.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And I watched these guys.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Four or five of them are in the Hall of Fame.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Steve McMichael's.

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Coach Jim Clayton: He just passed away from but he was actually talking in this.

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Yeah.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And uh

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Coach Jim Clayton: They said to they said on the show, man, if we played in today's game, we would never make no money

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Coach Jim Clayton: So Mike Dick would tell Buddy Ryan, Buddy, we're all on the same team here.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Your defense is killing us in practice.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Because that's when they used to hit.

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Yes.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Now they just walk through the motions.

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Coach Jim Clayton: They only hit on Sunday.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Okay?

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Coach Jim Clayton: That was back in the day.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And I'm watching that and I'm going, man.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And they said these guys said, if we would have only stuck together.

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Mm-hmm.

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Coach Jim Clayton: We could have won three or four in a row.

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Yes.

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Coach Jim Clayton: But see, you used the key word right there.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Ego.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Okay?

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Coach Jim Clayton: Things were going great for him.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Everything was good.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Until that guy from the Greenberry Packers picked up McMahon and threw him down and slammed him and he tore his shoulder up.

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Yes.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And that was the end of the deal.

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Coach Jim Clayton: But

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Coach Jim Clayton: You know, those aren't easy times.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Those guys went out and did all kinds of stuff.

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Coach Jim Clayton: But their deal was you better bring it the next day on the field.

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Yes.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And they did every day.

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They were tremendous teams.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Oh my God.

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Coach Jim Clayton: You watch them on TV hitting people.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I was watching them.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I was cringing on the count.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I was going, oh, how does anybody get up from that?

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Coach Jim Clayton: They're pal driving you into the concrete with a little bit of astroturf on it.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Wham

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Coach Jim Clayton: And the pads and things they had back then.

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Nothing like waiting.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Oh no, no, no.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Those aren't soft times.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Those are hard times.

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Yes.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And, you know, sometimes it takes that in life for you to really see your full potential.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Because you don't see it when everything's going to great, because you just have a tendency to the same old, same old.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And, you know, there's an old saying that says, if you want to keep on getting what you're getting, just keep on doing what you're doing.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Things don't happen by chance.

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Coach Jim Clayton: They happen by the big C word, change.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And you know what everybody's doing?

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Coach Jim Clayton: They're running from the truth monster.

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Coach Jim Clayton: The truth monster is chasing you down the road.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Here's a bitch, hands up, here they come.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Ah!

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Coach Jim Clayton: And you're running because you can't face the fire.

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Coach Jim Clayton: That's soft people.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Easy times, softness.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Tough times, topic.

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Coach Jim Clayton: That's when I think about those things right.

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Coach Jim Clayton: That's why it really scares me.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Of what we're doing to our young people today.

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Yeah.

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Coach Jim Clayton: We're teaching them how to be marshmallows instead of iron.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I always tell people, you know what?

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Coach Jim Clayton: When you got good faith,

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Coach Jim Clayton: And you got everything right, your character's good, and everybody's throwing crap at you.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Just imagine you're standing there with the things on the gladiators used to have, those big days when they'd run down through

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Coach Jim Clayton: And everything's just bouncing off you.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Hit me with your best shot, baby.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Bang, bang, bang, just bouncing off because you can't touch this.

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Coach Jim Clayton: You can't touch this.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Okay?

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Coach Jim Clayton: Because I'm stronger on the inside than I am on the outside of.

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Coach Jim Clayton: That comes from what?

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Coach Jim Clayton: Tough times.

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Yeah.

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Coach Jim Clayton: When things ain't always going your way.

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Not not allowing yourself to be soft.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Yeah, and see, easy times are success times.

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Coach Jim Clayton: You gotta pay attention to that.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Because that's a trap.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Okay?

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Coach Jim Clayton: Because success is a complacency disease.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Yes.

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Coach Jim Clayton: It's a trap.

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Coach Jim Clayton: It's baiting you into think that

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Coach Jim Clayton: Oh yeah, you got this.

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Coach Jim Clayton: It's always going to be like this.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Da-da-da-da-da-da-da.

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Coach Jim Clayton: No, it's not.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Things are going to change, and you better learn to adapt to them just like all the things we talked about today.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Or you're gonna stay right where you are and you're gonna hit that little thing.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And up you're gonna take that little marshmallow and go, Woo, woo, woo.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Yep.

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Coach Jim Clayton: You know, that's awful soft in there now.

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Coach Jim Clayton: That's when I look at that quote

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Coach Jim Clayton: That's exactly what that means to me.

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So we're finishing up.

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We're gonna we're gonna close out here.

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We'll be back next week with

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the other the next five quotes of these ten to talk about them, discuss them, dealing with uh resilience.

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We've been on resilience for a little while and

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I'm I've I've learned so much.

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We learned so much from what Jim brought to the table.

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We learned a ton from what Brad Miller brought to the table with us in that discussion.

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And we're going to look at these quotes and continue to learn on the next episode.

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But before we leave, I want to make sure that I challenge you, challenge our listeners to think about the five quotes that we've had today.

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And if something there has struck a chord with you, did one of them just hit home, hit you hard?

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And I know it did.

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Yes.

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Did it speak to you?

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Did it get right up in your grill, right up in your face, and challenge you in some way?

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Well, if it did, head over to our website, shootingitstraightpodcast.

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com.

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That way we can see how these quotes

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Have had an impact on you.

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Let us know that it hit a nerve.

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Let us know why it did.

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We'd love to hear how resilience is showing up or has shown up in your own life.

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Coach Jim Clayton: 100%.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Because I I learned from you.

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Coach Jim Clayton: So I want we're teach we're teaching you some stuff maybe tonight, but your response back to us is going to give us feedback that we're going to use in other shows

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Coach Jim Clayton: And we'll give you credit for it.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I mean, I there's no wrong answers, like I told my camp today.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Tell me what you think.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Tell me how this affected you.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Tell me a story.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Tell me something.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I love to hear those things.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I love to hear those stories stories.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Feedback is amazing.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Oh, I love it.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I love feedback.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Okay.

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Coach Jim Clayton: You can't hurt my feelings.

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Coach Jim Clayton: No, not at all.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Believe me, you're not gonna hurt my feelings.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I am who I am.

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Coach Jim Clayton: This is what I do, this is how I sound.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I know I got a weird voice.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I know I got a raspy voice.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I know my grammar's not like I Angelo.

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She had the Oh yeah.

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Coach Jim Clayton: She had the most

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Coach Jim Clayton: Perfect vocabulary, how she could come up with that is beyond me.

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Coach Jim Clayton: But my brain is working faster than hers.

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Coach Jim Clayton: That's just how I roll.

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Yeah.

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Okay?

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Coach Jim Clayton: But that's who I am.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Not trying to be anybody else and I'm not a pretender, I'm a contender.

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Exactly.

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Coach Jim Clayton: All right.

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Coach Jim Clayton: So we would love to hear from you.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Really?

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Coach Jim Clayton: Please, please, please tell us what you think, who you are.

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Coach Jim Clayton: You know, and and we'll go from there.

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Yep.

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So until next time, I'm Randy Black.

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I'm Coach Jim Clayton.

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Have a great week, and we'll be back next week looking at uh the rest of these quotes dealing with resilience.

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That's where you'll find every episode, updates, and more.

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Coach Jim Clayton: You can't always control the bounce, but you can't control the control.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Control your hustle.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Life's about effort, attitude, and execution.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And remember, keep shooting it straight.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Bam, son!

Keep Going: Voices That Remind Us Why We Don’t Quit (Part 1)

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