Year-End Reflection: Straight Talk on Planning Your Best Year Yet

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Randy Black: Welcome back to Shooting It Straight.

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Randy Black: I’m Randy Black.

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Elizabeth Clayton: And I’m Elizabeth Clayton.

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Elizabeth Clayton: As the year winds down, we want to hit pause and take stock of what went well

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Elizabeth Clayton: what didn’t, and how we’re going to show up differently next year.

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Randy Black: Today we’re diving into a reflection exercise inspired by Mel Robbins.

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Randy Black: We’ll walk through seven questions to help you reflect on the past year and take clear steps into the next one.

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Coach Jim Clayton: You know, believe in yourself.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Or nobody else will.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Set the bar high, achieve greatness, and stay motivated through the process.

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Coach Jim Clayton: You know what that spells?

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Coach Jim Clayton: BAM, son!

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Randy Black: This is Shooting It Straight, the podcast where life lessons don’t come sugar-coated and excuses get checked at the door.

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Randy Black: Randy Black, podcast guy, educator, and resident technique.

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Randy Black: And apparently, still the only one here who doesn’t yell bam, son, in public.

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Elizabeth Clayton: And I’m Elizabeth Clayton, stepping into some big shoes, ready to ask the tough questions, call it like it is, and

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Elizabeth Clayton: Maybe even challenge Randy a little along the way.

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Randy Black: Each week, we’re taking what life teaches us.

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Randy Black: The discipline, the drive, the lessons you can’t just read in a book, and translating it into real-world success.

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Elizabeth Clayton: That’s right.

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Elizabeth Clayton: This is about showing.

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Elizabeth Clayton: up when life gets messy, pushing through when the pressure’s on, and figuring out how to get better, no matter what.

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Randy Black: And if you’re looking for fluff, this probably isn’t your show.

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Elizabeth Clayton: We’re here to help you believe bigger, achieve louder, and motivate stronger.

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Elizabeth Clayton: So buckle up and whatever

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Elizabeth Clayton: you do keep shooting it straight.

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Randy Black: Bam son.

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Randy Black: So Liz, you shared a a clip with me actually through Facebook.

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Randy Black: I went back and had to find it.

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Randy Black: And it was from the Today Show, and it had Mel Robbins on as a guest.

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Randy Black: So I pulled a clip out of that real quick that I want to play, and then I want I want to let you have the chance to kind of talk about it.

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Randy Black: So let me play that real fast for us.

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Brooke Shields: So speaking of new years and you’re saying all of this chaos and it’s gonna start, how do we set ourselves up for success within the next year?

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Brooke Shields: Like how do we fix that ourselves?

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Mel Robbins: So

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Mel Robbins: My husband and I have been doing a particular process since 2004, where at the end of every year we ask ourselves these six questions.

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Mel Robbins: that help us get clear about where we’re at right now because here’s an interesting thing about goals.

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Mel Robbins: Most of us are so ready to complete the dumpster fire that has been this year.

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Mel Robbins: We just want to jump into next year, right?

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Mel Robbins: I don’t want you to do that.

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Mel Robbins: I want you to take a beat and really understand where are you right now?

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Mel Robbins: Because it’s impossible to give somebody a set of directions without two things.

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Mel Robbins: You got to know where you are.

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Mel Robbins: And where you want to go.

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Mel Robbins: Most people just look ahead and say, I want to go there, but you don’t understand where you’re starting from it.

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Randy Black: So Liz, what was it that jumped out at you when you s when you saw this with Mel Roberts on the Day Show?

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Elizabeth Clayton: Um, well, you know, I’d never really gone back and looked at the pictures in my phone.

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Elizabeth Clayton: You know, we we look at pictures on our phone, okay, all the time.

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Elizabeth Clayton: It’s just a habit.

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Elizabeth Clayton: I mean, we all take pictures on our phone, but I’d never t like actu

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Elizabeth Clayton: Taking a step to go back and look at the entire year.

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Elizabeth Clayton: And um it really that stood out to me.

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Elizabeth Clayton: So I actually did that

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Elizabeth Clayton: Uh, after I listened to that clip and I was surprised at what I learned when I looked through my, you know, photo album of things I forgot.

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Elizabeth Clayton: Um, you know, and some of the good things that happened and things that were not so great, but regardless, um, you know, uh everybody wants to jump to the next year.

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Elizabeth Clayton: pretty much, you know, when we get to the new year.

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Elizabeth Clayton: New Year, New Year.

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Elizabeth Clayton: You know, you hear that all the time.

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Elizabeth Clayton: Oh yes.

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Elizabeth Clayton: But we just for we just kind of forget about the year before.

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Elizabeth Clayton: Yeah.

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Elizabeth Clayton: And um, you know, what she said in there uh was, you know, you gotta know where you are

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Elizabeth Clayton: Uh, you know, and um, you know, that’s that’s kind of reflecting back on on things that have happened in our life in the you know the previous year, but um to know where you want to go.

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Randy Black: Yeah.

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Elizabeth Clayton: You know, and um

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Elizabeth Clayton: It’s uh it fascinated me and it really um you know, I listen to her all the time, but that that clip just really stuck with me and then I shared it with you about maybe doing an uh you know an episode about it

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Randy Black: Yeah.

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Randy Black: And it like it it really hit me when when when I s when I listened to it and I was like, you know, that’s some some really great stuff.

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Randy Black: And and what I found is that

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Randy Black: you know, with with these questions, it actually I mean it it really puts you in that mindset to know this is where I’m at

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Randy Black: This is where I want to be.

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Randy Black: Now how do I get there?

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Randy Black: And it’s it’s it’s a tremendous exercise.

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Randy Black: And I’ve got something special prepared for our listeners that we’ll talk about later so that they can go through this same exercise themselves.

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Randy Black: But let’s go ahead and let’s jump in.

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Randy Black: Let’s start working through the questions today on the show.

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Randy Black: So what I did is I went out and I looked for the specific questions that Mel had.

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Randy Black: And they’re out there in two separate episodes of her podcast.

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Randy Black: One of them was recent.

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Randy Black: It was uh just recently, 2025, going into 2026, and it had six questions.

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Randy Black: But

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Randy Black: At the end of 2024, going into 2025, there were seven questions in her list.

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Randy Black: So that’s why when Mel in that clip said six questions.

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Randy Black: We’ve said seven because I I like those seven questions.

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Randy Black: It’s the same idea.

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Randy Black: There’s just one more question added in.

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Randy Black: So what I did, I was able to clip each of those questions and use that as our jumping off point

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Randy Black: to work our way through and talk about it so we can reflect on our own year.

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Randy Black: So here’s question number one from Mel Robbins.

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Randy Black: Question number one.

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Mel Robbins: Describe the highlights from the past year of your life.

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Mel Robbins: What were the highlights?

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Randy Black: So the idea is you gotta look at the moments of joy that you had, the accomplishments you had, what happened that was positive in your relationships, what growth did you have, what experiences mattered the most.

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Randy Black: And it’s one of those things when you think about it, it’s it’s hard.

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Randy Black: It’s really hard to do.

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Randy Black: And you pointed out something that she suggested to do

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Randy Black: Just now when you talked, and you talked about looking through the photos on your phone.

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Randy Black: So when you did that, Liz, what were some of the things that jumped out as highlights for you?

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Elizabeth Clayton: Um, you know, well, um, it’s funny.

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Elizabeth Clayton: Um one of the things that I really focused on from the start of the the new year 2025 was um

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Elizabeth Clayton: I’m very as we’ve talked about before, I’m very nostalgic and sentimental, especially about, you know, um

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Elizabeth Clayton: my family and um you know I really made it a focus to connect with um some family members and also

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Elizabeth Clayton: connect with family members that I had never met before.

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Elizabeth Clayton: Um so, you know, looking back starting around February, March ish, you know, I I’ve made a few trips.

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Elizabeth Clayton: up to Indianapolis.

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Elizabeth Clayton: My cousin lives up there and we spent a couple of times together and just really talked and um

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Elizabeth Clayton: You know, one of the other times I have a family member, she’s 80 years old, um, from my dad’s side of the family that we connected um through ancestry.

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Elizabeth Clayton: com however many years ago.

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Elizabeth Clayton: Yeah, and we um started mess she had a photo on there of family members um and um I had never seen before.

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Elizabeth Clayton: And the house had been it that it was the house was actually in Gaendot, you know, w where this picture was taken.

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Elizabeth Clayton: And I had never seen what the house looked like.

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Elizabeth Clayton: She actually had a picture of the house.

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Elizabeth Clayton: So we I got her phone number, we started texting and um

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Elizabeth Clayton: You know, I’d always always said I wanted to come up and visit her.

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Elizabeth Clayton: Well, I made it a point.

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Elizabeth Clayton: Um, I said, I’m doing it.

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Elizabeth Clayton: So I drove up there and I spent the whole afternoon with her and her husband and her daughter was there and she had

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Elizabeth Clayton: 25, 30 plus years of doing, you know, the family, um, the the the genealogy work of going back and just just ha all this information I had never seen before.

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Elizabeth Clayton: Wow.

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Elizabeth Clayton: I knew a lot of it

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Elizabeth Clayton: But it was so eye opening to sit there with her and just talk about all of this stuff.

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Elizabeth Clayton: And um, you know, I had another experience where um

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Elizabeth Clayton: on my dad’s side of the family, his dad um was from Collinsville, Illinois.

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Elizabeth Clayton: And I had I’ve never been there.

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Elizabeth Clayton: Well, um

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Elizabeth Clayton: My great grandparents are buried there.

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Elizabeth Clayton: Um, and I apparently still have family there I never knew existed.

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Elizabeth Clayton: Well, I n I I probably knew there was some people there, but I just didn’t know who they were.

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Elizabeth Clayton: Well, years ago my grandmother, you know, opened up to me about some things and

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Elizabeth Clayton: I started digging away and I found some phone numbers and started contacting people.

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Elizabeth Clayton: Well, you know, now in the age of social media, um, I’ve been able to stay in contact with some of these people and

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Elizabeth Clayton: Right before the Kentucky Derby, um, one of my long lost cousins, let’s just say that, said her brother was gonna be in town for for the derby, and she gave me his number.

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Elizabeth Clayton: We connected.

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Elizabeth Clayton: And we met at a restaurant on the Friday before dirt.

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Elizabeth Clayton: And we sat and another family that family member was there with us.

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Elizabeth Clayton: And we just had the the best time.

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Elizabeth Clayton: And I was able to connect him with my dad.

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Randy Black: Nice.

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Elizabeth Clayton: I was they they FaceTimed and got to meet each other and talk and I got to tell my dad about it, which was really cool.

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Elizabeth Clayton: Um and I’d hope to maybe take my dad.

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Elizabeth Clayton: I’ve never been

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Elizabeth Clayton: to Collinsville.

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Elizabeth Clayton: And it’s a goal of mine.

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Elizabeth Clayton: And I really wanted my dad to go with me.

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Elizabeth Clayton: But of course, you know, that’s not going to happen now.

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Elizabeth Clayton: But I’m going to go.

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Elizabeth Clayton: So um that was really a big highlight for me

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Elizabeth Clayton: Especially looking back through my pictures and seeing that, you know, over the last few weeks, it really um you know, made me happy to see that and um know that I made those connections.

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Randy Black: You know, I l I I look back at things and I, you know, this year has been an interesting one, you know, for me in that, you know, my son who is a senior in high school

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Randy Black: has not played in the band since he was in seventh grade.

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Randy Black: And I was a band guy.

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Randy Black: I played in the band in high school, marched, loved it.

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Randy Black: Uh, but this year I got to see him

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Randy Black: step up and join the marching band as a senior and go back to playing saxophone that he hasn’t played in a number of years and pick it right up and do great and take a leadership role

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Randy Black: in their band.

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Randy Black: You know, he he would step up anytime that something needs done, he was like, Mr.

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Randy Black: B, that’s their band directory.

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Randy Black: I got it.

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Randy Black: I’ll take care of it.

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Randy Black: And just watching him and the growth he’s had in the past year so far from that.

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Randy Black: uh not even a year, six months really that we’ve seen that.

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Randy Black: Um it’s been an amazing experience to watch.

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Randy Black: You know, I’ve had a lot of a lot of little wins along the way because you know we have to we have to make sure we

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Randy Black: we see those and pick those up as well and include ’em.

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Randy Black: Um, just little things like figuring out and this is gonna go total total tech geek on everybody right now.

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Randy Black: Uh little things with with PowerShell scripts and stuff at work, like being able to

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Randy Black: create scripts to rename computers when somebody deploys it wrong and gives it the wrong name.

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Randy Black: Just easy system to make it work and make it easy.

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Randy Black: Uh stuff with that.

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Randy Black: uh make make my process in in in podcasting and production and and things a whole lot easier.

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Randy Black: Like right now, we’re we’re using a a program through Rode who makes the hardware we’re using.

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Randy Black: that we’re, you know, I’m sitting in Milton, West Virginia, you’re sitting in Louisville, Kentucky, and it’s pretty clear.

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Randy Black: Sounds great, solid sound quality, and it’s all a voice over IP connection and it’s really solid.

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Randy Black: I consider that a win because without it, it would be hard to

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Randy Black: to get this kind of quality sound uh through through a remote connection uh without some other some other expenses.

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Randy Black: So it’s not it’s it’s been a good year in that I’ve been able to launch podcasts this year.

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Randy Black: you know, this podcast right here and uh last year, July first was the first episode that came out with me and your dad.

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Randy Black: And it’s been some of the most fun I’ve had in podcasting um over the last almost decade I’ve been in the space.

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Randy Black: I see a lot of a lot of big things from the past year, but a lot of the little things matter too.

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Randy Black: And those little things are the ones that we often forget.

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Randy Black: So it you know, that’s that’s kind of the idea, sometimes something small may happen.

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Randy Black: We may not have it in our camera roll.

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Randy Black: We may not have it in our photos to look back on.

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Randy Black: But if we just jot that down somewhere, write it down so we have a a log of what’s happened.

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Randy Black: And, you know, my wife is the best at this.

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Randy Black: Every day she writes down what happened that day.

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Randy Black: What did she do that day?

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Randy Black: What was she involved in in that day?

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Randy Black: And it’s one of those things I look at and I’m like, man, that’s that’s powerful.

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Randy Black: And I know that’s that’s that’s a hard one of the hardest parts you’ve had this year.

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Elizabeth Clayton: You know, that was just a little over six months ago that that this all started and you all started talking about it before then, of course, putting it all together.

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Elizabeth Clayton: And it just really illuminated my life so much watching him

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Randy Black: They they really are there to encourage us and to to make us stronger.

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Randy Black: You know, it goes back to what we talked about on the previous episode, grief, that grief and and handling isn’t it uh handling it isn’t about moving on.

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Randy Black: The whole idea is what, you know, with with those hardships, it it takes us in to the the third question in that series.

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Randy Black: And let’s let’s hear what Mel said that is.

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Randy Black: I have the ability, and it’s going to sound so cheesy when I say this, because it’s going to go right back to episode two and episode three and four and five and six and seven.

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Randy Black: I have I’m I’m actually resilient in in recovering from things and and and moving forward

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Randy Black: And I didn’t realize that until I had the chance to sit down and and focus on those ideas and discuss them and talk about them.

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Randy Black: Um, in the past, with stuff that’s work-related, I would just get angry and and and shut down and just try to forget about it.

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Randy Black: And if we have all those things figured out or at least acknowledged, then personal growth can happen

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Randy Black: And I’ve learned that I can be resilient, that I can bounce back, that I can move forward, not move on, but move forward

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Randy Black: Is there anything else there, Liz?

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Elizabeth Clayton: Well, I feel like I can uh totally relate to what you just said.

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Elizabeth Clayton: I uh if I could just copy that and paste it

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Elizabeth Clayton: Bam.

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Elizabeth Clayton: You know, um I feel exactly.

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Elizabeth Clayton: What was that?

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Elizabeth Clayton: Bam, son.

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Elizabeth Clayton: Well, you know, a friend of mine made a comment to me the other day and it really stuck with me.

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Elizabeth Clayton: I I don’t even remember what we were talking about, but she looked at me and she goes, You’re a survivor.

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Elizabeth Clayton: I said, What?

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Elizabeth Clayton: She goes, you just keep on going.

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Elizabeth Clayton: No matter what hits you, no matter what comes at you, you you just keep on going.

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Elizabeth Clayton: The word resiliency for probably the last year has that word has just stuck with me in everything that I’ve ever done, if there’s anything my dad ever taught me

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Elizabeth Clayton: He he you know, he would say figure it out.

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Elizabeth Clayton: My dad never really what do you say what do you call the word coddled me like like as his baby girl or you know he i if there was something that I needed to do

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Elizabeth Clayton: He didn’t just and now there were things he would do for me.

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Elizabeth Clayton: I’m not saying he didn’t do anything for me, but um what I’m saying is it like just just life lessons.

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Elizabeth Clayton: He would say figure it out, you know, and um

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Elizabeth Clayton: I don’t care whether it was from cleaning the house to cleaning my car, getting my oil changed on my car, um, whatever it was.

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Elizabeth Clayton: Um, you know, I’m thankful that when I moved to Louisville 15 years ago, I don’t have any family here

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Elizabeth Clayton: You know, I figured it out pretty much.

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Elizabeth Clayton: And if I didn’t know the answer, I’d call my dad and say, What do I do?

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Elizabeth Clayton: You know, um it’s uh you know facing adversity.

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Elizabeth Clayton: You hear that word all the time.

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Elizabeth Clayton: Um my dad talked a lot about it.

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Elizabeth Clayton: I never really looked at that word.

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Elizabeth Clayton: And, you know, finding

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Elizabeth Clayton: the the positivity in life, finding the joy in life.

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Elizabeth Clayton: There’s always gonna be negativity.

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Elizabeth Clayton: There’s always gonna be bad things around us, but

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Elizabeth Clayton: You know, our loved ones that pass, for instance, they don’t want us to focus on all of that.

396
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Elizabeth Clayton: You know, what’s the point?

397
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Elizabeth Clayton: Um I’m gonna there are moments where it’s gonna, you know, hit me.

398
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Elizabeth Clayton: My dad’s not here.

399
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Elizabeth Clayton: I mean, it happens all the time

400
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Elizabeth Clayton: But at the end of the day, like when you started the podcast, when you started talking today, I just started smiling.

401
00:24:55,000 –> 00:24:59,640
Elizabeth Clayton: And then when you started playing that clip, like the intro clip, and then I heard my dad

402
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Elizabeth Clayton: All I could do was just take my hand and just put it in the air and say, yeah, that’s that’s that’s what he would I know that’s what he would want me to do right now.

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Elizabeth Clayton: And um, you know, that uh that’s what I’m gonna keep doing

404
00:25:13,260 –> 00:25:21,980
Elizabeth Clayton: So um, you know, I uh I’m just thankful that I had some I had the best life coach for 40 years of my life.

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00:25:21,980 –> 00:25:22,380
Randy Black: Yeah.

406
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Elizabeth Clayton: Let me tell you.

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00:25:23,420 –> 00:25:23,980
Randy Black: Oh yeah.

408
00:25:25,920 –> 00:25:35,440
Randy Black: So part of you know part of part of the whole idea of you know reflecting back at the year and looking at it so we can move forward is we have to know

409
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Randy Black: as as we we heard in the clip, we have to know where we’re at.

410
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Randy Black: And I think we’ve we’ve established pretty well we know

411
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Randy Black: where we’re at.

412
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Randy Black: We’re at a point where we’ve we figured out we here’s where we’re at, here’s where we’ve gotten to, and now we’ve got to look forward and we’ve got to set goals under where we want to be.

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Randy Black: And the next three questions that that Mel proposes kind of kind of do that and and and help to find that way forward.

414
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Randy Black: Like what is it, you know, what what are how do you create your goals?

415
00:26:07,179 –> 00:26:08,860
Randy Black: How do you set them up?

416
00:26:08,519 –> 00:26:12,120
Randy Black: So that next question is this.

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Randy Black: Question number four.

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00:26:13,399 –> 00:26:16,039
Randy Black: What are you going to stop doing in the next year?

419
00:26:16,039 –> 00:26:17,240
Randy Black: So the idea is

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Randy Black: What behaviors, what habits, what commitments, what what mindsets do we currently have that no longer serve us, that no longer help us to move forward?

421
00:26:30,680 –> 00:26:31,000
Randy Black: And

422
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Randy Black: That’s a tough one for so many people.

423
00:26:34,380 –> 00:26:38,300
Randy Black: And that it’s it was tough for me to set and and to think about it.

424
00:26:38,300 –> 00:26:41,500
Randy Black: Um I did have one that just jumped right out at me.

425
00:26:41,500 –> 00:26:45,180
Randy Black: Uh because we all have that one quirk that that we know

426
00:26:45,840 –> 00:26:47,200
Randy Black: We just need to stop.

427
00:26:47,200 –> 00:26:48,400
Randy Black: We just don’t.

428
00:26:48,400 –> 00:26:54,880
Randy Black: And for me, it was the use of sarcasm

429
00:26:55,600 –> 00:26:57,840
Randy Black: I’m the king of sarcasm.

430
00:26:57,840 –> 00:27:03,600
Randy Black: Um some people would even, you know, even take it as far as to say that I gaslight people.

431
00:27:03,600 –> 00:27:07,040
Randy Black: And I I all the time I will I will

432
00:27:07,980 –> 00:27:13,260
Randy Black: Make a comment to something that my wife says and she goes, You’re doing it.

433
00:27:13,260 –> 00:27:15,420
Randy Black: And I know what she means

434
00:27:15,560 –> 00:27:17,560
Randy Black: And I know that I need to stop.

435
00:27:17,560 –> 00:27:25,480
Randy Black: You know, that’s that’s a big one for me in in my relationships with people and how I talk to them and how I I handle things.

436
00:27:25,640 –> 00:27:27,720
Randy Black: And I’ve been that way for my whole life.

437
00:27:27,720 –> 00:27:36,600
Randy Black: So it’s not an easy thing to just stop doing, but I have to make sure that I’m aware of it and that I can, I can, I can stop doing those things.

438
00:27:36,400 –> 00:27:37,520
Randy Black: You know, same thing at work.

439
00:27:37,520 –> 00:27:45,040
Randy Black: There are times at work that I procrastinate because I just don’t want to fix certain things because it takes too long and it’s annoying and I don’t want to do it.

440
00:27:45,040 –> 00:27:47,440
Randy Black: And I can’t continue to be that way

441
00:27:47,820 –> 00:27:55,900
Randy Black: So I have to, you know, professionally move forward in that I’ve got to have a little more motivation.

442
00:27:55,760 –> 00:27:56,799
Randy Black: in in what I do.

443
00:27:56,799 –> 00:28:05,679
Randy Black: I’ve got to stop the procrastination with with some of the things I take care of in in my daily work, uh working for the school system in the technology department.

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00:28:05,640 –> 00:28:13,000
Randy Black: Um, what are some things that, you know, you’ve you’ve seen and I’d been able to identify, Liz, that you’ve got to stop doing in this next year?

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00:28:13,640 –> 00:28:15,160
Elizabeth Clayton: Um, you know

446
00:28:16,840 –> 00:28:19,240
Elizabeth Clayton: Well, you just hit procrastination.

447
00:28:20,519 –> 00:28:24,679
Elizabeth Clayton: That’s for sure something that I struggle with on a day-to-day basis.

448
00:28:24,679 –> 00:28:26,519
Elizabeth Clayton: Um, I’ll get things done

449
00:28:26,620 –> 00:28:32,220
Elizabeth Clayton: But um, you know, like right now I I keep going home and I’m like, okay, I’m gonna steam my floors.

450
00:28:32,220 –> 00:28:34,060
Elizabeth Clayton: And I’m like, eh, I’ll do it tomorrow.

451
00:28:34,540 –> 00:28:37,340
Elizabeth Clayton: You know, it’s just little things like that.

452
00:28:37,340 –> 00:28:37,660
Elizabeth Clayton: Um

453
00:28:38,040 –> 00:28:40,680
Elizabeth Clayton: You know, uh, just to make my life easier.

454
00:28:40,680 –> 00:28:43,720
Elizabeth Clayton: It’s always makes you feel better when you walk in and you’re like, Oh, my floor’s clean.

455
00:28:43,720 –> 00:28:45,960
Elizabeth Clayton: My floor is not dirty, dirty, but

456
00:28:45,940 –> 00:28:51,940
Elizabeth Clayton: Um, you know, it’s just uh taking the time to actually do the project that you need to do.

457
00:28:51,940 –> 00:28:53,220
Elizabeth Clayton: I need to go through

458
00:28:53,300 –> 00:28:54,820
Elizabeth Clayton: you know, clean my closet out.

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00:28:54,820 –> 00:28:58,660
Elizabeth Clayton: Um, you know, that’s just just the procrastination and all of that.

460
00:28:58,660 –> 00:29:01,860
Elizabeth Clayton: Um, it’s not a big deal, but it drives me crazy.

461
00:29:02,340 –> 00:29:08,260
Elizabeth Clayton: And um, you know, one of the things that I’ve noticed, especially over the last few years,

462
00:29:08,419 –> 00:29:15,380
Elizabeth Clayton: Um I don’t know if it’s you know why we’re on social media a lot and you see

463
00:29:15,940 –> 00:29:25,860
Elizabeth Clayton: you know, all these content creators on there and different people doing different things and everybody’s posting their entire lives on there and um, you know, you just start to kind of um

464
00:29:27,080 –> 00:29:32,760
Elizabeth Clayton: I don’t want to say well you know you whether you compare yourself to others, you doubt yourself, whatever the case is.

465
00:29:32,760 –> 00:29:35,240
Elizabeth Clayton: This this coming year I have no fear.

466
00:29:34,800 –> 00:29:36,160
Elizabeth Clayton: I want to tell you that right now.

467
00:29:36,160 –> 00:29:38,160
Elizabeth Clayton: The fear has been wiped away.

468
00:29:38,160 –> 00:29:40,160
Elizabeth Clayton: You know, I am ready to go.

469
00:29:40,160 –> 00:29:40,960
Elizabeth Clayton: I don’t care.

470
00:29:40,960 –> 00:29:43,360
Elizabeth Clayton: I don’t know where this year’s gonna lead.

471
00:29:43,060 –> 00:29:47,460
Elizabeth Clayton: You know, we’re doing s I’ve I’ve I’m trying new things I’ve never done before.

472
00:29:47,460 –> 00:29:50,820
Elizabeth Clayton: So, um, you know, that limited mindset

473
00:29:51,140 –> 00:29:53,940
Elizabeth Clayton: of I can’t do that, or I’m not good enough to do that.

474
00:29:53,940 –> 00:29:54,980
Elizabeth Clayton: Like it’s gone.

475
00:29:54,980 –> 00:29:55,620
Elizabeth Clayton: I’m done.

476
00:29:55,620 –> 00:29:56,740
Elizabeth Clayton: I don’t care what it is.

477
00:29:56,740 –> 00:29:59,380
Elizabeth Clayton: If I want to do it, I’m gonna figure out a way to do it.

478
00:30:00,840 –> 00:30:05,480
Elizabeth Clayton: So um I hope that made sense.

479
00:30:05,720 –> 00:30:06,200
Randy Black: No, it did.

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00:30:06,200 –> 00:30:07,480
Randy Black: Yeah, it completely does.

481
00:30:07,480 –> 00:30:09,000
Randy Black: I was sorry, I was distracted for a second.

482
00:30:09,000 –> 00:30:12,040
Randy Black: I had a Facebook message I was looking at, sorry.

483
00:30:12,040 –> 00:30:12,920
Randy Black: Um so

484
00:30:14,059 –> 00:30:15,900
Randy Black: Another thing to stop doing.

485
00:30:15,980 –> 00:30:17,340
Randy Black: Pay more attention.

486
00:30:17,340 –> 00:30:19,500
Randy Black: Stay focused on the task at hands.

487
00:30:19,500 –> 00:30:21,020
Randy Black: Multitasking is a myth.

488
00:30:21,020 –> 00:30:23,100
Randy Black: I have a whole episode written out for that one.

489
00:30:23,100 –> 00:30:23,980
Randy Black: I actually did one.

490
00:30:23,980 –> 00:30:26,299
Randy Black: Multitasking is a myth.

491
00:30:25,580 –> 00:30:27,340
Randy Black: So you know, stop trying to multitask.

492
00:30:27,340 –> 00:30:31,580
Randy Black: I need to s that’s that’s another thing I can add to my list.

493
00:30:31,580 –> 00:30:35,820
Randy Black: But that takes that takes us forward though into into the next question.

494
00:30:36,280 –> 00:30:41,320
Randy Black: that uh was was pushed out there uh from male and it’s this.

495
00:30:41,320 –> 00:30:42,280
Randy Black: Question number five.

496
00:30:42,280 –> 00:30:43,960
Randy Black: What do you guys start doing

497
00:30:43,700 –> 00:30:45,539
Randy Black: So what are you going to start doing?

498
00:30:45,539 –> 00:30:52,100
Randy Black: The idea is what new habits, what new practices, what new actions are going to help

499
00:30:52,419 –> 00:30:53,700
Randy Black: in moving forward.

500
00:30:53,700 –> 00:30:58,419
Randy Black: And not just moving forward for the sake of moving forward, moving forward with a purpose.

501
00:30:58,419 –> 00:30:59,700
Randy Black: Why in the world do we do this?

502
00:30:59,700 –> 00:31:01,059
Randy Black: We have to have a reason for it.

503
00:31:01,160 –> 00:31:06,040
Randy Black: You know, for me, I’ve got to start to be more reflective.

504
00:31:06,040 –> 00:31:08,680
Randy Black: I’ve got to look at things and look back at things.

505
00:31:08,680 –> 00:31:11,800
Randy Black: I’ve got to, you know, not just say, oh, this is great.

506
00:31:11,740 –> 00:31:13,500
Randy Black: Why was it great?

507
00:31:13,500 –> 00:31:20,300
Randy Black: Why did this whatever, this project we did at work, what was the positive thing that came out of it?

508
00:31:20,300 –> 00:31:20,940
Randy Black: What did we do?

509
00:31:20,940 –> 00:31:22,300
Randy Black: What did we accomplish with it?

510
00:31:22,300 –> 00:31:24,220
Randy Black: Not just, hey, we got it done.

511
00:31:24,220 –> 00:31:24,540
Randy Black: Um

512
00:31:24,800 –> 00:31:26,480
Randy Black: Same thing with podcasting.

513
00:31:26,480 –> 00:31:29,600
Randy Black: You know, what’s what’s the point of what’s the point of what we’re doing?

514
00:31:29,600 –> 00:31:31,360
Randy Black: What is the point of this episode?

515
00:31:31,360 –> 00:31:33,840
Randy Black: Did we accomplish what we set out to do?

516
00:31:33,500 –> 00:31:35,580
Randy Black: Did we help people to think?

517
00:31:35,580 –> 00:31:39,820
Randy Black: Did we change someone in some way for the better?

518
00:31:39,820 –> 00:31:43,020
Randy Black: Those are the kind of things I’ve got to be more reflective about.

519
00:31:42,860 –> 00:31:47,899
Randy Black: I’ve also got to make more time for certain people in my life.

520
00:31:47,899 –> 00:31:51,340
Randy Black: And I know that I haven’t, and I’ve got to do a better job of it.

521
00:31:52,419 –> 00:32:01,700
Randy Black: My wife is a very patient lady, and I love her dearly, but I know there’s times she’s thinking I need more time with him.

522
00:32:01,660 –> 00:32:03,580
Randy Black: And I’ve got to start doing that.

523
00:32:03,580 –> 00:32:10,540
Randy Black: And I don’t know if she’ll listen to this and hear it, but I’m I’m making the public statement that I’m going to do that.

524
00:32:10,360 –> 00:32:11,639
Randy Black: That I have to do.

525
00:32:11,639 –> 00:32:13,639
Randy Black: And I have to do the same thing for my son.

526
00:32:13,639 –> 00:32:15,159
Randy Black: You know, my son doesn’t live with us.

527
00:32:15,159 –> 00:32:17,960
Randy Black: He lives with his mother and he’s, you know

528
00:32:18,240 –> 00:32:23,280
Randy Black: twenty I think it’s like twenty-seven miles away or whatever it is, um, down in Huntington.

529
00:32:23,280 –> 00:32:27,520
Randy Black: And I need to make sure that my time with him is

530
00:32:28,740 –> 00:32:31,140
Randy Black: More valuable, more meaningful.

531
00:32:31,140 –> 00:32:38,980
Randy Black: Things I have to start doing because though, you know, my time with him is is limited dramatically right now because of the way the situation is.

532
00:32:38,980 –> 00:32:41,299
Randy Black: He lives down there, I live up here.

533
00:32:41,040 –> 00:32:45,040
Randy Black: Um, he’s graduating high school in May, the end of May.

534
00:32:45,040 –> 00:32:50,800
Randy Black: And he’s he in June turns eighteen and he’s an adult and he’s gonna be

535
00:32:51,140 –> 00:32:56,580
Randy Black: you know, starting out in the world in in ways that I don’t know if he’s prepared for it or not.

536
00:32:56,580 –> 00:32:57,380
Randy Black: I hope he is.

537
00:32:57,380 –> 00:32:58,900
Randy Black: He’s got a good head on his shoulders.

538
00:32:58,900 –> 00:33:01,140
Randy Black: He does great in everything he does.

539
00:33:01,140 –> 00:33:01,460
Randy Black: But

540
00:33:02,440 –> 00:33:09,240
Randy Black: I have to I have to make sure that I’m I’m available for him in in those things and the things I have to start doing.

541
00:33:09,240 –> 00:33:12,920
Randy Black: At work, the same, you know, the same thing is I have to be

542
00:33:13,419 –> 00:33:16,620
Randy Black: I have to be available and ready at any time.

543
00:33:16,620 –> 00:33:22,059
Randy Black: Um, because you just never know it’s in technology, you just never know when something’s gonna go crazy.

544
00:33:21,860 –> 00:33:26,500
Randy Black: You never know when somebody’s gonna break something and someone will always break something.

545
00:33:26,500 –> 00:33:32,419
Randy Black: Um and you have to I have to be ready to to drop what I’m doing and go fix it and go or or go work on it.

546
00:33:32,419 –> 00:33:36,659
Randy Black: Maybe not fix it, but at least figure out what the problem is so we can find a way to fix it.

547
00:33:36,540 –> 00:33:38,780
Randy Black: Um, those are things I look at.

548
00:33:38,780 –> 00:33:44,700
Randy Black: Um, you know, and the b the big one is in the next year, I have to

549
00:33:45,419 –> 00:33:50,140
Randy Black: buckle down and change the way I’ve done things for the past several years.

550
00:33:50,140 –> 00:33:55,179
Randy Black: You know, my wife and I have lived with with my father-in-law for since we got married.

551
00:33:55,179 –> 00:33:57,740
Randy Black: Um and with his passing, we now have to

552
00:33:57,960 –> 00:34:00,280
Randy Black: We have to change the way we do things.

553
00:34:00,280 –> 00:34:07,240
Randy Black: Um, we have to change the way that certain things are taken care of and and done, and we’re we are in that process.

554
00:34:07,220 –> 00:34:10,980
Randy Black: Um but I know it’s gotta be a big change that we have to do.

555
00:34:10,980 –> 00:34:14,659
Randy Black: Um, that we have to we have to make these things happen.

556
00:34:14,659 –> 00:34:17,540
Randy Black: So what is it that that you’re going to start doing?

557
00:34:17,540 –> 00:34:21,860
Randy Black: I know you you mentioned a little bit there a second ago, but what what kind of things are you gonna start doing?

558
00:34:21,559 –> 00:34:23,159
Randy Black: for this next year, Liz?

559
00:34:23,879 –> 00:34:33,159
Elizabeth Clayton: Um one of the things that I thought of, of course I printed off your sheet here and kind of went through it mentally and wrote a few things down um just so I had my notes.

560
00:34:32,960 –> 00:34:45,040
Elizabeth Clayton: in front of me, but you know, one of the things that um I don’t know if you find yourself doing this, but just going through the motions um in life, we we kind of get stuck in ruts, but one of the things that

561
00:34:45,240 –> 00:34:49,639
Elizabeth Clayton: I really want to focus on is being more present in my everyday life.

562
00:34:49,639 –> 00:34:53,159
Elizabeth Clayton: You know, and um you know, today is all we have.

563
00:34:53,320 –> 00:34:56,440
Elizabeth Clayton: Um, you know, it’s a gift, that’s why they call it the present.

564
00:34:56,600 –> 00:34:58,440
Elizabeth Clayton: My dad’s favorite line.

565
00:34:58,440 –> 00:34:58,760
Elizabeth Clayton: Um

566
00:34:59,420 –> 00:35:11,260
Elizabeth Clayton: You know, uh one of the things I noticed um going back through my pictures um, you know, in that exercise we were talking about um from Mel Robbins, um

567
00:35:11,820 –> 00:35:19,580
Elizabeth Clayton: Is I, you know, the first few months I really didn’t there wasn’t many pictures of me and uh realized I’m like I was kind of numb

568
00:35:19,920 –> 00:35:27,840
Elizabeth Clayton: to things uh at the beginning of the year last year because I was dealing with some um I don’t want to say health issues, but um I had some

569
00:35:27,859 –> 00:35:31,220
Elizabeth Clayton: kind of mystery symptoms that I was trying to figure out and I didn’t feel real well.

570
00:35:31,220 –> 00:35:33,060
Elizabeth Clayton: I go through phases from like what’s wrong.

571
00:35:33,060 –> 00:35:35,780
Elizabeth Clayton: I had these heartburn issues that just kind of kind of

572
00:35:35,859 –> 00:35:43,060
Elizabeth Clayton: happened and I really think it was more from the stress of it happened um after I took my dad to MD Anderson.

573
00:35:43,380 –> 00:35:43,700
Elizabeth Clayton: Um

574
00:35:43,900 –> 00:35:53,900
Elizabeth Clayton: And I came back and we started kind of going through some lawsuit stuff dealing with his health issues and I just got really angry because I realized, you know

575
00:35:54,240 –> 00:35:59,280
Elizabeth Clayton: Hey, like my dad should not he should have never gotten stage four colon cancer number one.

576
00:35:59,280 –> 00:36:06,640
Elizabeth Clayton: But anyway, um, you know, uh it kind of cultivated and I think the symptoms that I was having was from the anger I was dealing with

577
00:36:06,540 –> 00:36:08,060
Elizabeth Clayton: And the stress of it all.

578
00:36:08,060 –> 00:36:14,380
Elizabeth Clayton: And I went through months of just um you know, going I did multiple tests of trying to figure out what was

579
00:36:14,640 –> 00:36:26,319
Elizabeth Clayton: going on my doctor thought it might be my gallbladder so um it went through like six months of of testing and came back nothing okay which made me feel good but I’m like what is causing this I’m still having the symptoms but

580
00:36:26,340 –> 00:36:30,660
Elizabeth Clayton: Going through those pictures, I really was kind of numb to a lot during that time period.

581
00:36:30,660 –> 00:36:33,780
Elizabeth Clayton: I wasn’t really focusing on, you know uh

582
00:36:33,940 –> 00:36:35,300
Elizabeth Clayton: being present in my life.

583
00:36:35,300 –> 00:36:40,660
Elizabeth Clayton: You know, I can tell when I look through my photos, like where I started being more present, I looked more happy.

584
00:36:40,660 –> 00:36:42,579
Elizabeth Clayton: I started taking more pictures.

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00:36:42,100 –> 00:36:48,660
Elizabeth Clayton: You know, I had pictures with other people, um, you know, going to see my nieces, um, being around them.

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00:36:48,660 –> 00:36:50,980
Elizabeth Clayton: Um, you know, so uh

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00:36:52,000 –> 00:36:54,000
Elizabeth Clayton: It I don’t know.

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00:36:54,000 –> 00:37:01,840
Elizabeth Clayton: I just definitely, like I said, I just thought I’d be more present and uh pay attention to the things that matter the most and um

589
00:37:02,640 –> 00:37:03,039
Elizabeth Clayton: you know.

590
00:37:03,760 –> 00:37:06,160
Randy Black: You don’t you don’t want to feel like life passed you by.

591
00:37:06,559 –> 00:37:08,240
Randy Black: You want to feel like you were a part of it.

592
00:37:08,240 –> 00:37:08,640
Elizabeth Clayton: Yeah.

593
00:37:08,960 –> 00:37:10,400
Randy Black: Total totally understand that.

594
00:37:10,400 –> 00:37:11,760
Randy Black: Because I I’ve I’ve been there.

595
00:37:11,760 –> 00:37:15,520
Randy Black: I’ve I’ve I’ve I’ve had that same that same exact

596
00:37:15,640 –> 00:37:17,880
Randy Black: you know, that feeling about things.

597
00:37:17,880 –> 00:37:25,400
Randy Black: Um it’s you know, part of the reason my life changed dramatically several years ago and I went through a divorce and everything is I guess I

598
00:37:25,960 –> 00:37:26,840
Randy Black: I checked out.

599
00:37:26,840 –> 00:37:28,120
Randy Black: I wasn’t present.

600
00:37:28,120 –> 00:37:29,800
Randy Black: And and I know that.

601
00:37:29,800 –> 00:37:36,680
Randy Black: And um I completely can understand, you know, your your thoughts on that and wanting to start making sure

602
00:37:36,859 –> 00:37:38,220
Randy Black: you’re being present.

603
00:37:38,220 –> 00:37:45,900
Randy Black: Because if we don’t pay attention to the things around us, we will miss those as I talked about them earlier, those little small wins.

604
00:37:45,900 –> 00:37:51,500
Randy Black: We’ll just miss them because we don’t we’re not we’re not in the moment to know they’ve happened.

605
00:37:51,059 –> 00:37:52,900
Randy Black: And that’s one way we will make sure we have ’em.

606
00:37:53,220 –> 00:37:54,420
Elizabeth Clayton: You know, it’s funny.

607
00:37:54,420 –> 00:37:58,260
Elizabeth Clayton: Um one of the things that really helps me the most uh with

608
00:37:58,740 –> 00:38:05,460
Elizabeth Clayton: topics like this is um I actually go to a l a lady here in Louisville for Reiki, which is like energy work.

609
00:38:05,460 –> 00:38:06,500
Elizabeth Clayton: I don’t know if you’ve ever

610
00:38:06,740 –> 00:38:14,740
Elizabeth Clayton: heard of that or um a lot of if you go to a massage therapist or m like some sometimes they practice Reiki, but you’ll have to look it up and read about it.

611
00:38:14,740 –> 00:38:17,380
Elizabeth Clayton: It’s really it’s just kind of interesting to explain.

612
00:38:17,380 –> 00:38:20,580
Elizabeth Clayton: Um but um she showed me this book

613
00:38:20,440 –> 00:38:21,640
Elizabeth Clayton: It’s by a woman.

614
00:38:21,640 –> 00:38:23,640
Elizabeth Clayton: Um, her name’s Louise Hay.

615
00:38:23,640 –> 00:38:29,000
Elizabeth Clayton: And of course she has since passed away, but um it’s an intern international bestseller.

616
00:38:29,000 –> 00:38:31,560
Elizabeth Clayton: Um it’s called You Can Heal Your Life.

617
00:38:31,700 –> 00:38:42,020
Elizabeth Clayton: And one of the things, um, it’s it’s a really just phenomenal tool to use because she has all these affirmations in the book.

618
00:38:42,020 –> 00:38:44,660
Elizabeth Clayton: And it’s so funny when I was going through like

619
00:38:45,020 –> 00:38:47,820
Elizabeth Clayton: the um heartburn issues last year.

620
00:38:47,820 –> 00:38:52,140
Elizabeth Clayton: Um, you know, there’s an affirmate whatever your physical symptom is

621
00:38:52,820 –> 00:39:02,260
Elizabeth Clayton: Um, pretty much like it all comes down to um, you know, it really you you don’t w we we ha a lot of times when we we have these symptoms

622
00:39:02,440 –> 00:39:05,240
Elizabeth Clayton: You know, there’s a reason why they manifest in our body.

623
00:39:05,240 –> 00:39:13,640
Elizabeth Clayton: And a lot of times, you know, our thought we start thinking of something, we you know, uh an emotion is created and then a symptom comes off of that.

624
00:39:13,640 –> 00:39:17,079
Elizabeth Clayton: So for instance, like she has these affirmations that you can read

625
00:39:17,080 –> 00:39:25,560
Elizabeth Clayton: Say you’re having heartburn issues, there’s an affirmation in that book that you can continue to read that it helps you start thinking differently and kind of retrains your thoughts.

626
00:39:25,560 –> 00:39:27,880
Elizabeth Clayton: And um, you know, whatever kind of

627
00:39:28,420 –> 00:39:30,340
Elizabeth Clayton: You know, sh it’s the longest list ever.

628
00:39:30,340 –> 00:39:35,780
Elizabeth Clayton: I’ve gone through it so many times, and it’s fascinating because it really helps.

629
00:39:35,780 –> 00:39:39,700
Elizabeth Clayton: And um, you know, I had never seen anything like that before.

630
00:39:39,700 –> 00:39:41,860
Elizabeth Clayton: I’ve seen affirmations, but um

631
00:39:42,700 –> 00:39:49,660
Elizabeth Clayton: You know, that’s been a really great tool for me in um just being bringing me back to the present state.

632
00:39:51,040 –> 00:39:56,640
Elizabeth Clayton: you know, working through some of the uh fun things we have to deal with on a day-to-day basis that aren’t so great.

633
00:39:57,840 –> 00:40:03,760
Randy Black: So we have two questions left and this next one goes right along with those last two we’ve had

634
00:40:03,500 –> 00:40:05,020
Randy Black: What are we going to stop doing?

635
00:40:05,020 –> 00:40:06,460
Randy Black: What are we going to start doing?

636
00:40:06,460 –> 00:40:09,900
Randy Black: And this was the question that followed those up from Mel Robbins.

637
00:40:09,900 –> 00:40:10,940
Mel Robbins: Number six.

638
00:40:10,940 –> 00:40:13,900
Mel Robbins: What are you going to continue doing in the next year?

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00:40:14,200 –> 00:40:21,640
Randy Black: So it makes you think, what you know, what what have I been doing that actually works and I want to keep doing?

640
00:40:21,640 –> 00:40:25,480
Randy Black: I want to keep trying to to make sure that these things have

641
00:40:26,080 –> 00:40:29,120
Randy Black: have helped my life move forward and everything.

642
00:40:29,120 –> 00:40:35,520
Randy Black: And for me, now, like I, you know, you just talked about how that you’re going to start being in the present.

643
00:40:35,440 –> 00:40:37,760
Randy Black: And for me, that’s what I’m going to keep doing.

644
00:40:37,760 –> 00:40:45,680
Randy Black: I’m going to try to be in the present as I have for the last year, trying to make sure that I’m I’m grounded into what’s happening around me, that I’m connected.

645
00:40:45,559 –> 00:40:47,160
Randy Black: to those people who are around me.

646
00:40:47,160 –> 00:40:52,520
Randy Black: And like I said, I gotta start doing that more, but I’ve been doing that to an extent.

647
00:40:52,520 –> 00:40:54,279
Randy Black: So I want to keep that going.

648
00:40:54,460 –> 00:40:56,060
Randy Black: I want to keep working.

649
00:40:56,060 –> 00:40:57,660
Randy Black: I want to keep doing my job.

650
00:40:57,660 –> 00:41:02,540
Randy Black: You know, a lot of people look at what I’m doing um outside of work with

651
00:41:02,760 –> 00:41:04,040
Randy Black: with the podcasting I do.

652
00:41:04,120 –> 00:41:06,360
Randy Black: I do three podcasts a week right now.

653
00:41:06,360 –> 00:41:10,040
Randy Black: So I’m I’m a busy I’m I’m busy with that in a lot of ways.

654
00:41:10,600 –> 00:41:10,840
Randy Black: But

655
00:41:11,240 –> 00:41:14,600
Randy Black: I don’t look at it as this is an exit strategy.

656
00:41:14,600 –> 00:41:18,840
Randy Black: I don’t look at it as this is what I’m doing to move myself away from that.

657
00:41:18,840 –> 00:41:21,080
Randy Black: I’m going to keep working because I like my job.

658
00:41:21,080 –> 00:41:22,760
Randy Black: I love what I do.

659
00:41:22,559 –> 00:41:24,400
Randy Black: I love working in technology.

660
00:41:24,400 –> 00:41:25,920
Randy Black: I love working in the schools.

661
00:41:25,920 –> 00:41:27,920
Randy Black: I miss teaching kids every day.

662
00:41:27,920 –> 00:41:30,960
Randy Black: And people hear me say that and they’re shocked.

663
00:41:30,359 –> 00:41:32,599
Randy Black: But I miss the interaction with the kids.

664
00:41:32,599 –> 00:41:43,240
Randy Black: I wish I had that more, but I still get it by being present in the school, by being there and physically working on things and interacting with them when I’m doing so

665
00:41:43,000 –> 00:41:47,320
Randy Black: If you just ignore them and act like they’re not there, it doesn’t serve a purpose.

666
00:41:47,480 –> 00:41:51,000
Randy Black: You know, we got a lot of kids who are interested in in trying to find out, well, what is it you’re doing?

667
00:41:51,000 –> 00:41:52,360
Randy Black: What do you have to do to fix that?

668
00:41:52,360 –> 00:41:56,920
Randy Black: And I’ll talk to them about it and and walk them through the process of what it is I have to do

669
00:41:56,760 –> 00:42:05,320
Randy Black: So being present in situations is one thing that I’m going to keep doing because it’s worked for me in the situations where I’ve done it.

670
00:42:06,440 –> 00:42:08,520
Randy Black: Outside of that, I really don’t

671
00:42:09,280 –> 00:42:11,120
Randy Black: That thing jumped out at me.

672
00:42:11,120 –> 00:42:13,360
Randy Black: Um, I mean, I’m gonna keep podcasting.

673
00:42:13,360 –> 00:42:15,440
Randy Black: I can include that if I really wanted to.

674
00:42:15,440 –> 00:42:18,000
Randy Black: Um, because it’s it’s it’s my hobby.

675
00:42:18,000 –> 00:42:21,440
Randy Black: It’s my I don’t want to say escape, but it’s my way of

676
00:42:21,620 –> 00:42:30,020
Randy Black: of getting ideas and things out there and and sharing knowledge and sharing thoughts uh in a way that helps me in moving forward and

677
00:42:30,340 –> 00:42:36,820
Randy Black: and and and building up my own influence and my identity and the things online.

678
00:42:36,820 –> 00:42:41,300
Randy Black: So what is it what is it you’re gonna keep doing that you’ve been doing already, Liz?

679
00:42:41,960 –> 00:42:45,880
Elizabeth Clayton: Um, one of the things, well, two th well, yeah.

680
00:42:45,880 –> 00:42:50,520
Elizabeth Clayton: Um you know, I my mindset is and of course my dad was like this as well.

681
00:42:50,520 –> 00:42:53,960
Elizabeth Clayton: He was always continuously learning and trying to grow as a human being.

682
00:42:53,960 –> 00:42:56,359
Elizabeth Clayton: And that is that’s just how I am.

683
00:42:56,359 –> 00:42:58,520
Elizabeth Clayton: as well and that’s why we got along so well.

684
00:42:58,520 –> 00:43:06,440
Elizabeth Clayton: We would call each other and just bounce ideas off and talk about things and I’d see something that called I’d say, Dad, you need to check this out.

685
00:43:06,080 –> 00:43:14,960
Elizabeth Clayton: be like, okay, order it for me, whatever it is, you know, or he called me in the same thing and um, you know, we were always just we just had that same mindset.

686
00:43:15,040 –> 00:43:20,480
Elizabeth Clayton: Um but um, you know, one of the things I wanna keep keep is learning and growing as a human being.

687
00:43:20,480 –> 00:43:20,800
Elizabeth Clayton: Um

688
00:43:20,900 –> 00:43:30,020
Elizabeth Clayton: You know, I just turned forty in July and I think one of the other reasons we were talking about some of the mundane things of this past year.

689
00:43:30,020 –> 00:43:30,339
Elizabeth Clayton: Um

690
00:43:30,960 –> 00:43:34,880
Elizabeth Clayton: The months leading up to July, I was kind of not looking forward to turning forty.

691
00:43:34,880 –> 00:43:38,080
Elizabeth Clayton: And I think that happens to a lot of people, especially women.

692
00:43:38,080 –> 00:43:38,400
Elizabeth Clayton: Um

693
00:43:38,940 –> 00:43:47,820
Elizabeth Clayton: But one of the things I’ve realized, you know, um since I turned forty and especially, you know, since my dad’s passing, is

694
00:43:48,420 –> 00:43:51,940
Elizabeth Clayton: 40, the 40s are gonna be my best decade yet.

695
00:43:51,940 –> 00:43:59,700
Elizabeth Clayton: I’m not stopping, I’m gonna keep on going, and I am going to sp keep, you know, like I said, I’m gonna spread my dad’s messages.

696
00:43:59,700 –> 00:44:02,020
Elizabeth Clayton: I’m gonna add value to people’s lives

697
00:44:02,120 –> 00:44:04,600
Elizabeth Clayton: And um, you know, that is my goal.

698
00:44:04,600 –> 00:44:08,280
Elizabeth Clayton: And whatever I gotta do to do that, you know, that’s what we’re gonna do here.

699
00:44:08,440 –> 00:44:11,480
Elizabeth Clayton: And all the things that I’m learning from you, um I

700
00:44:12,340 –> 00:44:14,580
Elizabeth Clayton: I like I said, there’s still a lot to learn.

701
00:44:14,580 –> 00:44:21,780
Elizabeth Clayton: Uh you’re definitely the expert on all of these things, but I know um and let me tell you something else that’s funny.

702
00:44:21,780 –> 00:44:26,100
Elizabeth Clayton: I actually down I didn’t realize that on my iPhone that when I said Siri

703
00:44:26,700 –> 00:44:30,700
Elizabeth Clayton: Um uh use chat GPT.

704
00:44:30,700 –> 00:44:37,340
Elizabeth Clayton: Like something came up the other day and I was able to use ChatGPT that way, and I said, holy cow, I didn’t even know I could use it that way.

705
00:44:37,340 –> 00:44:39,100
Elizabeth Clayton: So then I downloaded the app

706
00:44:39,620 –> 00:44:47,140
Elizabeth Clayton: on my phone yesterday, the day before, and I’ve been typing things in when I want to know how to put something together or do something a certain way.

707
00:44:47,140 –> 00:44:47,780
Elizabeth Clayton: I’m like

708
00:44:47,940 –> 00:44:50,020
Elizabeth Clayton: Oh my god, I’m obsessed with this.

709
00:44:50,260 –> 00:44:51,300
Elizabeth Clayton: It’s a powerful tool.

710
00:44:51,619 –> 00:44:56,339
Elizabeth Clayton: It is just I I can’t even I I don’t I what?

711
00:44:56,339 –> 00:44:59,060
Elizabeth Clayton: Because when you s like some of the things that you do

712
00:44:59,260 –> 00:45:01,500
Elizabeth Clayton: And you send to me, it blows me away.

713
00:45:01,500 –> 00:45:02,860
Elizabeth Clayton: I’m like, what in the world?

714
00:45:02,860 –> 00:45:07,900
Randy Black: Oh, like um what you know, what with with what we’re heading toward next here on the show.

715
00:45:07,900 –> 00:45:10,860
Randy Black: You know, you sent me a a single one page

716
00:45:10,859 –> 00:45:13,020
Randy Black: of notes your dad had written.

717
00:45:13,020 –> 00:45:19,820
Randy Black: And I took those notes and I took the picture of it and I s stuck it on ChatGPT and said, hey, transcribe this for me

718
00:45:19,600 –> 00:45:25,120
Randy Black: These are notes that were written by Coach Jim Clayton, gave it some info, background info, and it transcribed them.

719
00:45:25,120 –> 00:45:27,760
Randy Black: So I had them in text rather than just the image

720
00:45:27,740 –> 00:45:35,980
Randy Black: And from there, I could go, based on these, what kind of ideas can we come up with for potential podcast episodes?

721
00:45:36,500 –> 00:45:39,300
Randy Black: And it gives me ideas and it lays them out.

722
00:45:39,300 –> 00:45:45,940
Randy Black: And from there, I can then start looking elsewhere and finding resources and bring that back in and and expand those ideas.

723
00:45:45,940 –> 00:45:47,700
Randy Black: Like, oh, well, let’s add this.

724
00:45:47,940 –> 00:45:49,940
Randy Black: and and build some stuff off of this.

725
00:45:49,940 –> 00:45:55,460
Randy Black: And it makes it, you know, it’s such a powerful thing that a lot of people are afraid of for some reason.

726
00:45:55,460 –> 00:45:56,900
Randy Black: I don’t I don’t really get.

727
00:45:56,900 –> 00:45:58,099
Randy Black: You know, this is not

728
00:45:58,160 –> 00:46:03,840
Randy Black: This is not the uprising with the everybody with the computers taking over like in Terminator.

729
00:46:03,840 –> 00:46:05,120
Randy Black: That’s not what’s happening.

730
00:46:05,120 –> 00:46:08,160
Randy Black: But there are people that are afraid that’s what’s happening.

731
00:46:08,400 –> 00:46:10,640
Elizabeth Clayton: Um, I do have to say one more thing.

732
00:46:10,640 –> 00:46:12,960
Elizabeth Clayton: Um, this just kinda dawned on me.

733
00:46:12,960 –> 00:46:16,240
Elizabeth Clayton: Um, you know, when it comes to

734
00:46:16,460 –> 00:46:20,460
Elizabeth Clayton: When you try some new things, sometimes you don’t really know how it’s gonna go.

735
00:46:20,620 –> 00:46:29,580
Elizabeth Clayton: And, you know, I’ve had um you know, I’ve watched my dad on social media um for all these years, you know, creating content and

736
00:46:29,680 –> 00:46:36,320
Elizabeth Clayton: You know, every time I would see him, he’d be on his phone, you know, doing something new on there, you know, posting something new, a new message.

737
00:46:36,320 –> 00:46:37,040
Elizabeth Clayton: And um

738
00:46:37,640 –> 00:46:45,640
Elizabeth Clayton: You know, one of the things I was blown away with after he passed away was everybody that came up to me or messaged me or or however I talked to them.

739
00:46:45,400 –> 00:46:49,319
Elizabeth Clayton: They all had a positive thing to say about my dad and how he impacted their life.

740
00:46:49,319 –> 00:46:49,720
Elizabeth Clayton: Yeah.

741
00:46:49,720 –> 00:46:51,799
Elizabeth Clayton: And there was always a story behind it.

742
00:46:51,799 –> 00:46:53,640
Elizabeth Clayton: And so, you know, um

743
00:46:53,960 –> 00:47:02,600
Elizabeth Clayton: when I was motivated to kind of start that Monday post that I’ve been doing, Believe, Achieve, Motivate Monday, I was a little I was like, uh it just kind of came to me.

744
00:47:02,600 –> 00:47:06,200
Elizabeth Clayton: No one really I I I uh you know, I I no one really said anything.

745
00:47:06,200 –> 00:47:08,200
Elizabeth Clayton: Hey you should do that, whatever, but

746
00:47:08,160 –> 00:47:13,360
Elizabeth Clayton: I just started going through my dad’s phone and um I’m like, wow, there’s a lot of stuff here.

747
00:47:13,360 –> 00:47:15,760
Elizabeth Clayton: Like he has a lot of stuff to say.

748
00:47:15,760 –> 00:47:19,920
Elizabeth Clayton: And um, you know, I as I’ve been doing that and um

749
00:47:20,720 –> 00:47:31,119
Elizabeth Clayton: You know, one of the things I’ve all the encouragement that I’ve gotten from so many people through the the comments on the posts, uh them sending me direct messages or however.

750
00:47:31,040 –> 00:47:36,640
Elizabeth Clayton: It’s really uplifted me and made me realize that I gotta keep doing this.

751
00:47:36,640 –> 00:47:41,760
Elizabeth Clayton: And um, you know, it it has given me a level of confidence

752
00:47:42,080 –> 00:47:46,080
Elizabeth Clayton: It’s not about me, but it’s about adding value to other people.

753
00:47:46,080 –> 00:47:47,680
Elizabeth Clayton: And um like we talked about and

754
00:47:49,460 –> 00:47:58,340
Elizabeth Clayton: It is the goal and but it has just done something to me when I like I I’m sh I know you saw this, but um when I I did a video, was it last week?

755
00:47:58,340 –> 00:48:01,620
Elizabeth Clayton: I was out in the middle of the court at Sports City and um

756
00:48:02,020 –> 00:48:06,820
Elizabeth Clayton: You know, I I I watched my dad talk a million times from that spot.

757
00:48:06,820 –> 00:48:12,020
Elizabeth Clayton: And I just went out in his little stool and I just sat there and I talked one time into that camera.

758
00:48:12,020 –> 00:48:12,900
Elizabeth Clayton: And um

759
00:48:13,799 –> 00:48:18,359
Elizabeth Clayton: It I did the video and I watched it and I thought, I gotta post this.

760
00:48:18,359 –> 00:48:24,520
Elizabeth Clayton: Like I think it it and I’ve had so many people come up to me in my personal life and say, that really impacted me.

761
00:48:25,340 –> 00:48:33,820
Elizabeth Clayton: And that’s done it it’s not about me, like I said, but it’s people want authenticity and they want real

762
00:48:34,420 –> 00:48:42,180
Elizabeth Clayton: realness that, you know, and i there’s so much fake people put stuff on social media and there’s so much it’s like a um

763
00:48:42,540 –> 00:48:47,820
Elizabeth Clayton: facade, you know, uh their their life is a facade, but they they make it look so perfect.

764
00:48:47,820 –> 00:48:49,260
Elizabeth Clayton: But people want realness.

765
00:48:49,260 –> 00:48:50,780
Elizabeth Clayton: They want to see real things.

766
00:48:51,100 –> 00:48:51,740
Elizabeth Clayton: And um

767
00:48:52,160 –> 00:48:56,480
Elizabeth Clayton: You know, that’s what I’m gonna try to keep doing and uh I feel like that’s what we’re doing here.

768
00:48:56,480 –> 00:49:06,640
Elizabeth Clayton: We’re being authentic and we’re just talking and I really hope that people will stick with us and continue to uh Oh yeah, we we have we have notes, but they are not very detailed notes.

769
00:49:06,640 –> 00:49:06,880
Elizabeth Clayton: No.

770
00:49:07,059 –> 00:49:07,700
Elizabeth Clayton: No, no.

771
00:49:08,099 –> 00:49:08,740
Randy Black: Here’s the question.

772
00:49:08,740 –> 00:49:09,779
Randy Black: Let’s talk about it.

773
00:49:09,779 –> 00:49:12,260
Randy Black: So it’s and it’s gone well.

774
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Elizabeth Clayton: You know, I’m not gonna lie.

775
00:49:13,940 –> 00:49:16,819
Elizabeth Clayton: Uh, you know how you would just let my dad fly off the handle?

776
00:49:16,819 –> 00:49:17,299
Randy Black: Uh-huh.

777
00:49:17,900 –> 00:49:23,740
Elizabeth Clayton: I don’t know if we caught fly off the handle, but you really didn’t have you you would just say what what were your notes?

778
00:49:28,160 –> 00:49:29,200
Randy Black: That’s all that’s that was it.

779
00:49:30,720 –> 00:49:34,560
Elizabeth Clayton: It’s so funny when I’m reading your notes here and I’m like, I don’t really know what I want to say there.

780
00:49:34,560 –> 00:49:36,800
Elizabeth Clayton: I’m like, you know what, I’m just gonna let it fly.

781
00:49:36,480 –> 00:49:37,359
Elizabeth Clayton: I’m gonna be like my dad.

782
00:49:37,359 –> 00:49:39,839
Elizabeth Clayton: I’m just gonna let it fly and let it come out the way it’s supposed to.

783
00:49:39,839 –> 00:49:45,440
Elizabeth Clayton: And there are times I you know I write things down and do stuff, but um I’m like I’m just channeling my inner

784
00:49:45,559 –> 00:49:47,960
Elizabeth Clayton: you know, Jimmy Clayton here on some of these.

785
00:49:47,960 –> 00:49:50,599
Elizabeth Clayton: And I I know something good’s gonna come out regardless.

786
00:49:50,599 –> 00:49:52,279
Elizabeth Clayton: So anyway, um

787
00:49:53,260 –> 00:49:54,380
Elizabeth Clayton: We went off on a tangental.

788
00:50:04,540 –> 00:50:07,180
Mel Robbins: Question number seven.

789
00:50:07,180 –> 00:50:13,420
Mel Robbins: What can you do today to take that first step now that you have a set of directions?

790
00:50:13,420 –> 00:50:15,660
Randy Black: So the idea is to that

791
00:50:16,200 –> 00:50:27,560
Randy Black: Focus on something that’s practical, something that’s achievable, something you can do right now that you can take and make that step forward.

792
00:50:28,460 –> 00:50:32,220
Randy Black: And I you know, I talked about, you know, being more reflective.

793
00:50:32,220 –> 00:50:36,460
Randy Black: I talked about that and, you know, a a an easy step I can take is

794
00:50:36,820 –> 00:50:41,460
Randy Black: On, I don’t know if anybody’s ever noticed or not, but on the iPhone, there’s an actual journal app.

795
00:50:41,780 –> 00:50:44,180
Randy Black: You may have to, I think it’s installed by default.

796
00:50:44,180 –> 00:50:48,260
Randy Black: You may have to go get it from the App Store, but Apple has a journal app.

797
00:50:48,099 –> 00:50:55,780
Randy Black: And throughout your day as the phone is tracking what you’ve done, like where you’ve been, your location and stuff like that with different services

798
00:50:55,740 –> 00:51:02,380
Randy Black: At the end of the day, you’ll get a message that pops up, a notification, and it says, Hey, you had dinner here.

799
00:51:02,380 –> 00:51:03,580
Randy Black: How was that?

800
00:51:04,220 –> 00:51:07,340
Randy Black: And it wants you to write, you know, just write something about it.

801
00:51:07,340 –> 00:51:08,700
Randy Black: I need to start

802
00:51:09,400 –> 00:51:11,880
Randy Black: being more reflective and actually doing it.

803
00:51:11,880 –> 00:51:12,760
Randy Black: Taking the time.

804
00:51:12,760 –> 00:51:14,040
Randy Black: I can start that tonight.

805
00:51:14,040 –> 00:51:16,840
Randy Black: I can sit down and I can open that up and I can go.

806
00:51:17,480 –> 00:51:19,560
Randy Black: Today, how was today?

807
00:51:19,560 –> 00:51:21,480
Randy Black: We had a great church service this morning.

808
00:51:21,480 –> 00:51:22,600
Randy Black: It was amazing.

809
00:51:22,600 –> 00:51:25,160
Randy Black: Um, great lesson from our teacher.

810
00:51:25,359 –> 00:51:26,160
Randy Black: Talk about that.

811
00:51:26,160 –> 00:51:32,640
Randy Black: Had a great conversation with Liz for the podcast, recorded it, have it, you know, just need to sit down and edit it and get it ready to go.

812
00:51:32,640 –> 00:51:34,800
Randy Black: Just reflect on the day.

813
00:51:34,740 –> 00:51:37,300
Randy Black: So I have a record of what did I do?

814
00:51:37,300 –> 00:51:43,460
Randy Black: My wife is the best at this, and I am not, but I know that it can make a change.

815
00:51:43,460 –> 00:51:46,100
Randy Black: I know that it can help me to move forward.

816
00:51:46,260 –> 00:51:47,540
Randy Black: You know, other little things.

817
00:51:47,540 –> 00:52:01,060
Randy Black: I’m, you know, I it I I’m open about, you know, my my my personal beliefs, my religion, my cr I’m a Christian, and that, you know, I’m I do a b a Bible podcast every week and I study for that.

818
00:52:01,000 –> 00:52:05,960
Randy Black: And I study the lessons and stuff we have at church, but I don’t do a lot outside of that.

819
00:52:05,960 –> 00:52:07,560
Randy Black: And I’ve got to do a better job.

820
00:52:07,560 –> 00:52:08,920
Randy Black: And I’m going to start doing that.

821
00:52:08,920 –> 00:52:10,200
Randy Black: And I’ve already started doing that.

822
00:52:10,200 –> 00:52:14,040
Randy Black: I, you know, for Christmas, I I had a list of potential

823
00:52:13,960 –> 00:52:23,640
Randy Black: you know, gift ideas that I shared with family members and I got two different you know devotional books and I’ve got a cut or a couple other ones, things that I can look at daily to help me

824
00:52:24,020 –> 00:52:29,859
Randy Black: to focus myself with that to move forward and to build my relationship I have with God.

825
00:52:29,859 –> 00:52:37,140
Randy Black: Um, and which in turn would then help me with my other goals and building my relationships and doing a better job with other people as well

826
00:52:37,000 –> 00:52:44,840
Randy Black: So those are things I can steps I can take today, things I can do right now that I can help move forward for the year.

827
00:52:44,840 –> 00:52:46,120
Randy Black: What about you, Liz?

828
00:52:46,940 –> 00:52:54,860
Elizabeth Clayton: Well, you know, one of um my goals, of course, and I hope, you know, you and I can work together on this, um

829
00:52:55,520 –> 00:53:04,560
Elizabeth Clayton: you know, with with starting this podcast, um, you know, I really want to learn more about that and take steps to, you know, grow this and get, you know

830
00:53:04,940 –> 00:53:09,900
Elizabeth Clayton: better at this and I know you said you’re not much of a video guy but my goal is to get you on video.

831
00:53:09,900 –> 00:53:11,180
Elizabeth Clayton: We’re gonna work on that.

832
00:53:11,180 –> 00:53:11,980
Elizabeth Clayton: Come on.

833
00:53:11,980 –> 00:53:14,859
Elizabeth Clayton: Hey, I did you st I I’m not gonna lie

834
00:53:14,900 –> 00:53:25,299
Elizabeth Clayton: You know, one of the things I’ve noticed, um, I know I’ve told you this, you know, when it comes to, you know, um seeing things on social media, when you put yourself out there, people pay attention.

835
00:53:25,299 –> 00:53:26,020
Randy Black: They do

836
00:53:25,960 –> 00:53:27,000
Elizabeth Clayton: They do pay attention.

837
00:53:27,000 –> 00:53:30,600
Elizabeth Clayton: I uh hey, you know, um, but I just want to try that.

838
00:53:30,600 –> 00:53:31,960
Elizabeth Clayton: I want to see what it’s like.

839
00:53:31,960 –> 00:53:36,520
Elizabeth Clayton: Um but really growing this podcast and seeing what we can do with it.

840
00:53:36,520 –> 00:53:40,520
Elizabeth Clayton: You know, that was my dad’s goal, and I know you guys talked about it.

841
00:53:40,400 –> 00:53:47,840
Elizabeth Clayton: um and you know taking steps to to learn more about the things that you, you know, do and and put together for this.

842
00:53:47,840 –> 00:53:48,160
Elizabeth Clayton: Um

843
00:53:48,720 –> 00:53:51,920
Elizabeth Clayton: Um, because I’m still I’m still like an infant here.

844
00:53:51,920 –> 00:53:53,200
Elizabeth Clayton: I don’t I don’t know.

845
00:53:53,200 –> 00:54:00,000
Elizabeth Clayton: I can talk, but and you set up this equipment for me, but um, you know, I’ve got a lot to learn.

846
00:54:00,480 –> 00:54:03,440
Elizabeth Clayton: So, um, you know, I have goals in that.

847
00:54:03,440 –> 00:54:09,280
Elizabeth Clayton: And um, you know, just just uh I’m kind of learning a little bit about social media right now.

848
00:54:09,280 –> 00:54:12,880
Elizabeth Clayton: Uh there’s some different things I’m gonna do to just learn more about that.

849
00:54:12,880 –> 00:54:13,680
Elizabeth Clayton: And um

850
00:54:13,700 –> 00:54:16,500
Elizabeth Clayton: It’s fascinating because I was listening to a girl the other day.

851
00:54:16,500 –> 00:54:25,700
Elizabeth Clayton: She was talking about content, content creators and just the the blow up of that and how, you know, it’s all we do every day is scroll, scroll, scroll.

852
00:54:25,340 –> 00:54:29,260
Elizabeth Clayton: And you know, we’re constantly influenced by, you know, content creation.

853
00:54:29,260 –> 00:54:32,060
Elizabeth Clayton: And so, you know, I’m gonna kind of look into that.

854
00:54:32,060 –> 00:54:34,780
Elizabeth Clayton: And my dad was already doing it, to be honest with you.

855
00:54:35,240 –> 00:54:43,000
Elizabeth Clayton: And so, you know, I just want to add value to people’s lives in any way that I can and share some of the fun things and the cool things that I

856
00:54:43,059 –> 00:54:44,579
Elizabeth Clayton: you know, do or know about.

857
00:54:44,579 –> 00:54:50,260
Elizabeth Clayton: Um, one of the things that um I’m very passionate about is having healthy habits in my life.

858
00:54:50,260 –> 00:54:50,900
Elizabeth Clayton: And um

859
00:54:51,340 –> 00:54:54,620
Elizabeth Clayton: You know, uh I’ve just I started sharing those things recently.

860
00:54:54,620 –> 00:54:55,980
Elizabeth Clayton: I just started posting them on my story.

861
00:54:55,980 –> 00:55:02,460
Elizabeth Clayton: I’m like if I have something here that might help somebody or you know, it’s something I’m using or whatever the case is, I’m gonna I’m gonna put it on there

862
00:55:02,359 –> 00:55:03,240
Elizabeth Clayton: And show people.

863
00:55:03,720 –> 00:55:06,359
Elizabeth Clayton: Um, you know, uh maybe it can help them.

864
00:55:06,359 –> 00:55:07,560
Elizabeth Clayton: Maybe they might have questions.

865
00:55:07,560 –> 00:55:09,800
Elizabeth Clayton: If I don’t know the answer, I know somebody who does.

866
00:55:09,800 –> 00:55:10,200
Randy Black: Right.

867
00:55:10,200 –> 00:55:12,280
Elizabeth Clayton: Um or we can find someone who does.

868
00:55:12,280 –> 00:55:14,119
Elizabeth Clayton: We can find somebody who, yeah, who does.

869
00:55:14,119 –> 00:55:15,480
Elizabeth Clayton: That’s exactly right.

870
00:55:15,480 –> 00:55:15,800
Elizabeth Clayton: Um

871
00:55:16,660 –> 00:55:25,940
Elizabeth Clayton: But uh but yeah, um I mean just having the mindset to grow in general, you know, that’s huge because people get so stagnant in their life.

872
00:55:25,940 –> 00:55:28,580
Elizabeth Clayton: And um that’s I’m so thankful

873
00:55:28,720 –> 00:55:33,440
Elizabeth Clayton: that if there’s anything I got for my dad, it’s that a growth mindset.

874
00:55:33,440 –> 00:55:35,520
Elizabeth Clayton: And we all have stagnant periods in our life.

875
00:55:35,520 –> 00:55:38,559
Elizabeth Clayton: And this past year was kind of stagnant for me, I’m not gonna lie

876
00:55:38,559 –> 00:55:47,119
Elizabeth Clayton: until the last three months, since my dad’s passing, you know, and listening to you guys in the podcast, that that instilled something in me and um, you know

877
00:55:47,660 –> 00:55:51,100
Elizabeth Clayton: Uh my inspiration is my dad from this point on in my life.

878
00:55:51,100 –> 00:55:53,740
Elizabeth Clayton: And I’m everything I do, I’m gonna do for him.

879
00:55:53,740 –> 00:55:56,300
Elizabeth Clayton: And that’s it can only be good.

880
00:55:56,300 –> 00:55:58,140
Elizabeth Clayton: That’s all I can say.

881
00:55:58,140 –> 00:56:01,260
Elizabeth Clayton: Um, so you know, um

882
00:56:01,920 –> 00:56:03,120
Elizabeth Clayton: I hope that helps.

883
00:56:03,120 –> 00:56:03,680
Randy Black: Yeah.

884
00:56:03,680 –> 00:56:10,160
Randy Black: So as as we finish up these questions, I want to I want to take the time to encourage anybody who’s listening.

885
00:56:09,820 –> 00:56:14,300
Randy Black: to go through these seven questions, reflect on these things yourselves.

886
00:56:14,300 –> 00:56:23,100
Randy Black: And to make that easier for you, we have a printable worksheet that has those questions as well as a closing reflection question at the end for you.

887
00:56:22,740 –> 00:56:28,100
Randy Black: You can get that very easily by heading over to our website, shootingitstraightpodcast.

888
00:56:28,100 –> 00:56:31,620
Randy Black: com slash zero one eight.

889
00:56:31,359 –> 00:56:34,320
Randy Black: That will take you directly to the page for this episode.

890
00:56:34,320 –> 00:56:38,960
Randy Black: And on that page, embedded in the page, you will see this worksheet that you can download.

891
00:56:38,960 –> 00:56:41,280
Randy Black: I encourage you, please walk through this process.

892
00:56:41,280 –> 00:56:42,960
Randy Black: Think about these things.

893
00:56:42,840 –> 00:56:47,400
Randy Black: And and try to have the best year you’ve ever had moving forward.

894
00:56:47,400 –> 00:56:49,480
Randy Black: That’s the goal and what we’re doing.

895
00:56:49,800 –> 00:56:52,440
Randy Black: And we’ve made that available to you for free.

896
00:56:52,440 –> 00:56:54,280
Randy Black: I took the time to create that.

897
00:56:54,059 –> 00:56:57,260
Randy Black: and put it together and it’s posted and ready to go for you.

898
00:56:57,260 –> 00:56:59,099
Randy Black: So please check that out.

899
00:56:59,099 –> 00:57:06,460
Randy Black: And if you if you if you feel it out and you come across some things, you you have some thoughts on it, you have some breakthroughs from it.

900
00:57:06,340 –> 00:57:07,860
Randy Black: Head over there on the website.

901
00:57:07,860 –> 00:57:11,940
Randy Black: There’s a contact form there where you can quickly send us an email.

902
00:57:11,940 –> 00:57:13,540
Randy Black: There’s also a voicemail option there.

903
00:57:13,540 –> 00:57:15,700
Randy Black: You can record a message and send it to us.

904
00:57:15,400 –> 00:57:23,559
Randy Black: And you can even post in the comments section on the post for this episode so that people can see that on the website and share it.

905
00:57:23,559 –> 00:57:25,799
Randy Black: But that brings us up now to

906
00:57:26,620 –> 00:57:32,380
Randy Black: as I call it, my favorite, favorite segment I ever created for a podcast.

907
00:57:32,380 –> 00:57:35,100
Randy Black: And we’re going to pull something out of the archives here with this one.

908
00:57:35,100 –> 00:57:36,460
Randy Black: But this is now time.

909
00:57:36,660 –> 00:57:40,740
Randy Black: For our wisdom of the week.

910
00:57:40,740 –> 00:57:51,460
Randy Black: Now it’s time for our wisdom of the week, where we pull some type of quote, some statement, and use it as a way to help you move forward with what you’re doing.

911
00:57:51,660 –> 00:57:55,180
Randy Black: in your daily life.

912
00:57:55,180 –> 00:58:00,780
Randy Black: And this week, our wisdom of the week, Liz, you sent to me, and this is a clip.

913
00:58:00,440 –> 00:58:01,240
Randy Black: of your dad.

914
00:58:01,560 –> 00:58:07,320
Randy Black: The whole point of this segment was originally to share just your dad’s Jimmyisms, as I called them.

915
00:58:07,320 –> 00:58:12,119
Randy Black: So here’s here’s here’s the clip of your dad and then we’ll we’ll start talking about it.

916
00:58:12,059 –> 00:58:13,900
Coach Jim Clayton: I don’t look at you the way you are.

917
00:58:13,900 –> 00:58:15,819
Coach Jim Clayton: I look at you the way you could be.

918
00:58:15,819 –> 00:58:16,779
Coach Jim Clayton: I’m watching you.

919
00:58:16,779 –> 00:58:19,339
Coach Jim Clayton: I’m thinking, man, if she could do this

920
00:58:19,740 –> 00:58:21,340
Coach Jim Clayton: She could be so much better.

921
00:58:21,340 –> 00:58:23,020
Coach Jim Clayton: Today we have opportunity.

922
00:58:23,020 –> 00:58:27,980
Coach Jim Clayton: Tomorrow we have opportunity to take those things I saw and turn them into reality.

923
00:58:27,760 –> 00:58:29,920
Coach Jim Clayton: When people miss opportunities, they miss out.

924
00:58:29,920 –> 00:58:31,440
Coach Jim Clayton: You can’t make up opportunity.

925
00:58:31,440 –> 00:58:33,680
Coach Jim Clayton: And the window of opportunity doesn’t open itself.

926
00:58:33,680 –> 00:58:34,560
Coach Jim Clayton: You have to open it.

927
00:58:34,560 –> 00:58:36,160
Coach Jim Clayton: We’re not interested in activity.

928
00:58:36,160 –> 00:58:37,840
Coach Jim Clayton: We’re interested in productivity.

929
00:58:37,840 –> 00:58:40,640
Coach Jim Clayton: What are we going to do to make you a better player

930
00:58:40,559 –> 00:58:43,440
Coach Jim Clayton: And you a better player and you a better player.

931
00:58:43,440 –> 00:58:47,440
Coach Jim Clayton: Because the best way to improve your team is to improve your player.

932
00:58:47,440 –> 00:58:52,319
Coach Jim Clayton: If your players don’t get any better news flash, neither does your team

933
00:58:52,420 –> 00:58:59,140
Randy Black: So that the clip here with your dad reminds us that improvement actually starts with vision.

934
00:58:59,140 –> 00:59:01,540
Randy Black: It’s not just about seeing people.

935
00:59:01,380 –> 00:59:08,980
Randy Black: or seeing ourselves uh as we are, but we have to see people and ourselves as what we could be.

936
00:59:08,980 –> 00:59:14,820
Randy Black: And it’s exactly what these seven reflection questions that we’ve gone through are meant to do

937
00:59:15,040 –> 00:59:21,760
Randy Black: They’re not about replaying the past year for nostalgia or or for reasons of regret.

938
00:59:21,760 –> 00:59:29,520
Randy Black: They’re about taking an honest look at where you’ve been and deciding how you want to show up next.

939
00:59:28,740 –> 00:59:30,500
Randy Black: And that’s powerful.

940
00:59:30,500 –> 00:59:38,980
Randy Black: And one of the central ideas in this clip from Coach Clayton is that lasting improvement doesn’t begin with the systems.

941
00:59:38,980 –> 00:59:41,060
Randy Black: It doesn’t begin with the teams.

942
00:59:40,900 –> 00:59:43,380
Randy Black: And it doesn’t begin with the circumstances.

943
00:59:43,380 –> 00:59:46,420
Randy Black: It begins with individuals.

944
00:59:46,420 –> 00:59:54,260
Randy Black: If you want better outcomes in your relationships, in your work, in your leadership, in your influence,

945
00:59:54,440 –> 00:59:58,119
Randy Black: The starting point is always the same.

946
00:59:58,119 –> 01:00:00,119
Randy Black: It’s about personal growth.

947
01:00:00,119 –> 01:00:06,920
Randy Black: That’s why it matters to reflect on your highlights, on your struggles, and on the lessons that you’ve learned.

948
01:00:07,120 –> 01:00:13,760
Randy Black: Not to beat yourself up, but to gain clarity about what needs to change.

949
01:00:13,760 –> 01:00:16,800
Randy Black: But insight alone, it isn’t enough

950
01:00:17,120 –> 01:00:20,000
Randy Black: Opportunity, as he said, doesn’t open itself.

951
01:00:20,000 –> 01:00:21,920
Randy Black: You have to open it.

952
01:00:21,920 –> 01:00:24,880
Randy Black: Reflection creates awareness for you.

953
01:00:25,020 –> 01:00:29,099
Randy Black: But improvement, it requires a decision on your part.

954
01:00:29,099 –> 01:00:38,140
Randy Black: Choosing what you’re going to stop doing, what you’re going to start doing, and what you’re going to continue doing is how reflection turns into real progress.

955
01:00:38,320 –> 01:00:43,840
Randy Black: Otherwise, it’s easy to stay busy without actually moving forward.

956
01:00:43,840 –> 01:00:46,640
Randy Black: And here’s the truth we sometimes avoid.

957
01:00:46,840 –> 01:00:51,480
Randy Black: If you don’t grow, the things connected to you, they don’t grow either.

958
01:00:51,480 –> 01:00:58,200
Randy Black: Your relationships, your work, your leadership, your influence, they all rise or fall with your willingness to improve

959
01:00:58,820 –> 01:01:01,460
Randy Black: Don’t rush through these questions.

960
01:01:01,460 –> 01:01:05,620
Randy Black: Treat them like a personal development plan.

961
01:01:05,620 –> 01:01:06,980
Randy Black: Shoot it straight with yourself.

962
01:01:06,980 –> 01:01:09,140
Randy Black: Yeah, see, I got the show name in there.

963
01:01:09,140 –> 01:01:11,780
Randy Black: Take action on what you see.

964
01:01:12,099 –> 01:01:20,260
Randy Black: And watch how intentional growth begins to shape everything and sometimes everyone that is around you

965
01:01:21,700 –> 01:01:23,619
Randy Black: What do you think, Liz?

966
01:01:24,420 –> 01:01:25,539
Elizabeth Clayton: Oh gosh.

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Elizabeth Clayton: I just love that um I’ve heard him say that many times.

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Elizabeth Clayton: Um and um

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Elizabeth Clayton: You know, one of the things I loved about my dad so much was, you know, no matter of all the people he knew and he dealt with through the years, there were some people that

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Elizabeth Clayton: Maybe didn’t make the best decisions or, you know, didn’t come from the best home life or whatever the case was.

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Elizabeth Clayton: You know, he was the most least judgmental person I’ve ever met.

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Elizabeth Clayton: And I don’t care what anybody said, did this, that, and the other, my dad would always turn around and shake your hand or he would try to do something to help you.

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Elizabeth Clayton: And um

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Elizabeth Clayton: you know, a lot of the people over the years that I um, you know, n knew through my dad and through it through Sports City, um

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Elizabeth Clayton: you know, some of those people, you know, it’s easy for other people to judge them and say they’re this, that, and the other.

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Elizabeth Clayton: But my dad, this was always something and I feel like he kind of talked about this maybe a little bit in that podcast you all did back in 2018.

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Elizabeth Clayton: Um

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Elizabeth Clayton: You know, uh, like I said, when he says this quote, like it just hits me every time.

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Elizabeth Clayton: You know, if everybody looked at the world this way

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Elizabeth Clayton: What you know, what kind of world would that be?

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Elizabeth Clayton: Yeah.

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Elizabeth Clayton: You know, it would be such a a better place.

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Elizabeth Clayton: Um, you know, we focus so much on the negative side of things and you know, we look at people so negatively and

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Elizabeth Clayton: You know, for the most part, we judge people, this, that, and the other.

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Elizabeth Clayton: You know, um, if we could look at it from this perspective, you know, how much better will we all be as a society and as a, you know, as people?

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Elizabeth Clayton: Um

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Elizabeth Clayton: And there’s opportunities everywhere, you know?

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Elizabeth Clayton: And um that’s one of the things that I’ve kind of struggled with and, you know, especially in the last year, is just feeling stagnant and um

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Elizabeth Clayton: You know, that’s that’s definitely gonna change this year.

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Elizabeth Clayton: I’ve got things to do and um you know uh my dad has fueled that fire, that’s for sure.

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Randy Black: Nice.

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Elizabeth Clayton: And he’s gonna continue to fuel that fire and I know he he you know, you feel the same way in that regard a little bit.

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Elizabeth Clayton: it um so um anyway uh when i hear that that video it just does something to me every single time and i i hope to you know continue

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Elizabeth Clayton: you know, that outlook in life and dealing with people and um, you know, spreading that positivity and that joy, especially when people need it.

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Elizabeth Clayton: You know, you don’t know what people are dealing with and struggling with daily.

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Elizabeth Clayton: Exactly.

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Elizabeth Clayton: And it’s not our it’s not our job to judge them.

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Elizabeth Clayton: It’s our job to help them if we can.

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Elizabeth Clayton: Exactly.

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Elizabeth Clayton: And um, you know, that’s my goal.

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Elizabeth Clayton: And um, you know, I hope we can spread hope in what we’re doing here too.

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Elizabeth Clayton: So um anyway, I just I just love that quote when he says it.

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Randy Black: Yeah.

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Elizabeth Clayton: Gives me chills

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Randy Black: We’re going to close things up here on this episode.

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Randy Black: And the thing to remember to look at and remember is reflection is one of the most underrated tools we have for growth.

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Randy Black: So take a few minutes this week to answer these questions honestly.

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Randy Black: And I’m I’m I’m 100% sure that you’ll thank yourself later for it.

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Elizabeth Clayton: Shooting it straight.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Bam son.